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16 Aspirations To Dramatically Improve Your Life



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What do you want to be when you grow up?  Does this seem like a silly question? Are you thinking, what? I am already grown up. What is the purpose of this question? But think about it, every year can bring a new answer as you grow and change. Does it seem like the older you get, it is harder to know what you want to achieve in your life? So, if someone asked you this, would you have to stop and ponder your life?

As a child, you wanted one thing. As a teenager, you wanted something else. Then you reach your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and so on, and every year it changes. So, ask yourself, what do I aspire to be? Kind of like asking the question, “What do I want to be when I grow up?” Read this article out loud to yourself every day. Make any necessary changes to the aspirations and things you aspire to become to fit your needs. By knowing what you want to become, achieving your goals and dreams are within your reach.

  1. I Am Aspiring not to allow judgment from other people to affect how I feel about myself. I also aspire to no longer judge others. I know in my heart people judge me based on their current level of awareness. Because I know this, it is unfair to judge other people. 
  2. I Am Aspiring to believe in myself because I know no matter what happens, I am enough! I will give 100% to all I do. I will focus on past success to remind myself not to give any merit to self-doubt.
  3. I Am Aspiring to control my emotions and not allow negative thoughts to control me. If I catch myself thinking negative thoughts, I will push them away. My goal is to focus only on positive thinking.
  4. I Am Aspiring to be the authentic me. I have the courage and strength to act based on my own beliefs. I also aspire not to judge other people for their beliefs. I know I can stay on the right track by socializing with like-minded people. I am determined to achieve my destiny.
  5. I Am Aspiring not to give anyone the power to ruin my day. When someone says something negative, I will respond with a positive response. Maybe I can help them see things in a different light.If I run into someone who has nothing good to say, I will quickly get away from them. I will close my mind off to people and situations that are not good for my mental health. 

“Within our dreams and aspirations, we find our opportunities.” – Sugar Ray Leonard

  1. I Am Aspiring to live in the moment. Since there is no guarantee of tomorrow, whatever I do, I will give my undivided attention. I will fill my heart with gratitude for every moment I have on earth.
  2. I Am Aspiring to raise my awareness each day. I know I can only do things based on my current level of awareness. For this reason, I know I must focus on being more aware of other people and things around me to learn and grow.
  3. I Am Aspiring to do whatever I need to do to make my dreams come true. I will work harder, faster, and smarter. I will learn whatever I need to get it done. I am willing to learn whatever I must to achieve my goals.
  4. I Am Aspiring to control my thoughts. I know that all my feelings come from my thoughts about any situation. If I see something as good, it is. If I see something as bad, it is. Only I can control how I feel about any situation or circumstance.
  5. I Am Aspiring to live my life without limitations. I believe that as long as I can see something in my mind, I can make it a reality. I will not allow myself to think I am unable to achieve something because of my limitations. I will stand tall and say to myself, “I Have No Limits.”
  6. I Am Aspiring to spend my time doing what I love and bring out the best in myself and others. My goal is to contribute positively to the world. I know I will have more to offer the world if I do what I love. Doing what I love will better serve others and bring out the best in me. I know by doing this, I will bring abundance to my life. When I feel good about myself, I attract love, health, success, and happiness. After all, isn’t that what abundance is all about?
  1. I Am Aspiring to practice patience. If someone gets on my nerves, I will focus my mind on understanding their point of view. If things go wrong, I will take a few deep breaths and be patient until the frustration passes.
  2. I Am Aspiring to stop worrying. If I have the power to change something, “I will.” If I can’t change it, worrying will not change it. So, worrying is just a waste of my time.  As long as I know this, there is no reason to worry about it.
  3. I Am Aspiring to eliminate fear. Let’s take a look at what fear is. Fear is an excuse to procrastinate things I am not sure I can accomplish. When I  have a dream, it can be daunting to work on every day. Sometimes I feel it is impossible. When I face the chance I may fail, I want to stop. I know if I work hard each day and face my fears, I can keep going. I will not allow excuses for why I can’t do it. I will focus on why I can. Just because I may fail is no excuse to stop. I will stand firm and not feel pressured to quit. I will face my fears and achieve my goals.
  1. I Am Aspiring to be grateful. I know I have so many reasons to express gratitude for my life. Each day I will take time to focus on everything good happening all around me. I will take time each day to appreciate everything I have and be grateful for my abundance. 
  2. I Am Aspiring to be forgiving. I know by holding on to anger or bad feelings towards others, I am only hurting myself. Most people don’t even know I am feeling this way. I am only giving my power away if I do not allow myself to get over it. I am ready to embrace my inner peace by letting go of the past.

I will also forgive myself for past mistakes and use them to learn and grow from and let me know what didn’t work. I will then be open to the opportunity to achieve more and do it right the next time. 

I know that no matter how guilty I feel about past mistakes, it will not change them. I am no longer willing to accept guilt for things that are over, done with, and gone. I can only go on from this current moment and make the right decisions this time.

I will read my list every day and achieve what I  aspire to be. I will find my purpose and become the authentic me I see and feel in my heart.

I will become everything I aspire to be. I will let go of the past and live in the present moment. I will focus on enjoying life and the people around me that bring me joy and happiness.

Tracie Johansen is the author of a series of "I Am" quick read inspirational books for kids and adults. She loves to write books to inspire people to be excited to start each day! Her goal with "I Am Happy To Be Me" is to motivate people to live an authentic life so they can find their purpose and live to their full potential.  You can get a free copy of her ebook "I Am Fearless" by visiting her website at:

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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