You’re Getting In The Way Of Your Own Success – Here’s How You Can Fix It

By on July 27, 2013
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Get Out Of Your Own Way For Success - Smash Down Walls

I truly believe we can only reach our fullest potential when we’re challenged.

Challenges are often described as barriers or brick walls that get in our way. I say, those blockades are your greatest opportunities.

As I sit in a leadership conference in Arizona, my thoughts are confirmed and perhaps better articulated as the speaker references the late Randy Pausch, a professor and author of “The Last lecture.” Pausch said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.”

If you’re like me, your brick wall is what you see when you look in the mirror—You get in the way of your own progress. You are your greatest barrier.

Just like all challenges, you have an opportunity for growth when you face the barrier, or the mirror, stare it down and shatter it.

 

I find most business leaders have difficulty admitting that their leadership style may be their biggest barrier, and even more difficulty tearing it down for two reasons:

  1. Leaders are accustomed to identifying and remediating external challenges like profit margins and HR matters, they often fail to reverse the focus on internal reflection.
  2. Leaders don’t want to identify themselves as the brick walls because that’s akin with identifying a weakness, and leaders can’t be weak, right?

 

This second reason brings me back to my original point—Tackling a growth opportunity does not make you weak, it makes you strong. Stop limiting yourself and start becoming the best version of yourself you can be.

 

Here’s how to shatter that mirror:

Ask - Pose to your team members this question: What do I need to do to be a better leader? Set “Vegas-style” rules, what you say here stays here, so you create a safe zone where truth can flourish.

Yes, asking the question is simple, but the answer, especially if it’s truthful, may sting. Actually, if it doesn’t sting, ask again.

ListenWhen you feel the pain of the truth, don’t react. Don’t make excuses, tighten your fists or clench your jaw. Instead, let it sink in. Once absorbed, ensure the messenger that you appreciate his or her candor.

 

Motivation Picture Quote For SuccessRandy Pausch also said, “Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care. Worry when you do something badly and nobody bothers to tell you.

In this process you’re soliciting criticism, so it’s a bit different, but the message is the same. When a member of your team is honest with you and gives you constructive advice, take it as a compliment. It’s those team members who don’t offer valuable feedback that may not feel invested in the future of your team or company.

Act—Actually take the advice of your team members and act on it. Dramatic change to your leadership style may be needed. This is the actionable step that will fulfill your ultimate goal of tearing down the brick wall or shattering your mirror to achieve personal and company growth.

Pausch continued his statement on brick walls by saying, “The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.

Many aren’t strong enough to shatter their mirror, BUT YOU ARE!, which is why you’re going to take your business and you’re leadership abilities to the next level and your competitor will not.

 

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About The Author: Andy Bailey

Andy Bailey built and sold a multi-million dollar business and is now lead entrepreneur coach with business coaching firm, Petra, and president of Nashville’s EO chapter. Reach him at [email protected]

5 Comments

  1. Maxwell Ivey

    July 27, 2013 at 8:10 am

    Hello; this sounds like what i just went through without knowing it. A client failed to pay the commission after i made a sale. i consulted my cosest friends about what to do go to court, use social media, or what. a good friend who has a radio show suggested let’s call him on the air and see if that works. Yesterday, we did just thatt. It hasn’t yielded results yet, but at least it was a different option than I had been considering. And the host posed it in a way that was non threatening to the client and in the spirit of gaining a resolution. thanks for the great post, max

  2. M Chander Shekhar (@realtywiser)

    July 27, 2013 at 9:46 am

    Challenges are disguised opportunities. The fog gets clear when you start taking over challenges. Challenges are growth catalysts, we must strive to go after them.

  3. Ettasek

    September 13, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    Can anyone ever say ‘too many’ challenges? How much is too much? I get to a point where obstacles are all up in my path.

  4. Kenton Williams

    December 1, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    Awesome post! To be great Leaders and Teachers we must always be open and willing to learn from others.

  5. pamkelso

    April 7, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    I’ve been stung enough. I’ve survived the groups that have no concept of where a sting is helpful or not. I don’t thrive under those conditions and they have prevented me from doing my best. Vegas is not my cuppa.

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