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Say Yes! Say Yes! Sayyyyyyyyy Yes! This is just one of the famous lines you will hear at a world renowned Tony Robbins event. When I first saw him in 2013, he helped me so much with his learning’s and completely turn my life around.

Since that day, I have been to other events where he has been present and consumed his content religiously to compound my results further. Last week, I was lucky enough to catch Tony at an event in Melbourne, Australia where he delivered a truly unique experience that I wasn’t expecting.

The event was supposed to be two hours of Tony but as always, he over-delivered with value, and it quickly became four hours. With me at the event was a good friend of mine who I never knew had also had his life change by Tony.

Amongst high achievers, Tony’s work (or similar work from figures such as Les, Brown, Brian Tracey, and Eric Thomas) is very common. My friend made a critical decision many years ago to leave his country and go to the Western World, but I never knew why.

On this day, at Tony’s event, he told me that it was because of some Tony Robbins cd’s he listened to at the time that sparked a change in him and led him on a new path.

By reading this post, I want you to get the same spark of inspiration and change in your life. I want to be a small catalyst for you to change something in your life that’s important to you.

Tony Robbins helped me, and turned my life around, by teaching me the following fourteen lessons:

 

1. Positive thinking is BS

Many people mistake Tony Robbins as a positive thinking kind of guy that exists to motivate people. This couldn’t be further from the truth. What Tony Robbins taught me is that positive thinking is BS, and when you force yourself only to think positive, all you end up doing is hiding from your fear.

Rather than telling yourself that you always have to be positive, focus on how your negative thoughts are directly related to things that you fear.

 

2. You don’t get a state of mind you do a state of mind

It’s easy to get pissed off at something that happens. I used to experience the same thing until Tony taught me that states of mind like “pissed of” are not things that we pick up from somewhere, they are states of mind that we physically do and act our in our lives.

If you want to get more love, then you have to do love more often. Act out the state of mind you want and you will get more of that state of mind or feeling in return.

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3. Most of us are already financially rich

Gratitude is a lesson that Tony’s work has taught me many times, in lots of different ways. The statistic that Tony gives is that people that are in my country (Australia) who are considered to be poor are richer than 99% of the planet.

When you think you’ve got it bad you don’t. When you think your life is miserable, there is always someone doing it tougher. It’s how you think about what happens to you and how you think about money that determines your reality.

The other lesson worth mentioning is that just as quick as you can make lots of money you can lose it too. The scary fact is that 99% of people lose money in investing over the long term and all financial markets crash at some point.

So the point is to appreciate what you have right now and realise you are already rich both psychologically and financially.

 

4. Suffering is our own fault

Most suffering, according to Tony, is caused because we are obsessed with ourselves. We have this fear that we have less, or have lost something, or that we will never have something. Suffering is most apparent when we have high expectations that are not met.

The reality is everyone will lose a loved one at some point and experience a horrible tragedy. Whether you suffer from these events is 100% your own fault. The more you allow yourself to suffer, the more it will affect other areas of your life such as your health.

The cure for suffering is to begin to see the miracle in things again like you did as a child. We travel on commercial aeroplanes all the time and yet we forget how amazing this is. Be aware of the tragedy that is going to happen but don’t allow yourself to suffer.

 

5. Stress for achievers is fear in disguise

One distinction that Tony makes in his teachings is that achievers are often not fulfilled which is the ultimate failure in life. Achievers act as if they are invincible, and they are some rare breed that has this superhuman confidence.

These same achievers believe that they have no fear and just deal with varying amounts of stress. The reality is that the stress they experience is really just the same fear everyone has in disguise. Next time you experience stress dig a little deeper and see if it’s related to something that you might fear.

There is nothing wrong with fear, but if you want to be successful, you need to let fear be something that helps propel you forward. You need to tackle your fear head on and realise that all progress involves some level of fear conquering.

 

6. Consuming information must be done with emotion

If you have never been to a Tony Robbins event before then you could easily be convinced that it’s some type of cult when you look in from the outside without any context as to what the heck is going on (I promise you it’s not).

Tony Robbins - Consuming Information Must Be Done With EmotionAt Tony’s events, there is a lot of dancing, cheering, moving around the room, acting stuff out, and talking to complete strangers. The reason for all of this is that Tony says you will never learn anything if you consume the information in a static state.

To get new strategies and truly take action you need to be immersed in a set of positive feelings at the same time. Around every 30 minutes at a Tony event, there is a requirement to listen to music and follow what Tony is doing.

These musical moments create anchors for the human mind to change state subconsciously and create new neural pathways. Quite simply, Tony says that motion creates emotion and that emotion is critical for learning.

Emotion causes you to think differently and get out of your comfort zone. Emotion is the lifeblood of what all humans are really seeking – not money or possessions.

 

7. Anyone can achieve the impossible

An element to Tony’s teachings that has always kept me interested in his work and how it can change my life is his belief (and evidence) that all of us can achieve the impossible.

It’s not the circumstances of our childhood or our past experiences; it’s what we believe right now at this moment that determines if we have what it takes to achieve the impossible.

To turn my life around I used these three steps from Tony to achieve the impossible:

Step One – I became obsessed with one thing and was so hungry for it that I wouldn’t let it go.

Step Two – I took massive action without knowing the answers or what would work.

Step Three – I kept changing my approach until I executed on the one thing I was chasing and I immersed myself in it as much as possible.

 

8. Success without fulfilment is the ultimate failure

One of Tony’s messages that is repetitive in all of his work, which helped me, was to understand that just achieving success is not enough. You have to be able to achieve success and feel a sense of fulfilment at the same time.

Unless what you have achieved – by reaching a dream – makes you feel happy and satisfied, you won’t feel fulfilled and that is the ultimate failure. That’s why if you spent time in places like Hollywood you would quickly see that there is lots of money and lots of success, as well as lots of unhappy people.

These high achievers are unhappy because they have what a lot of us think is everything, but deep down these influential people are unfulfilled and numbing the pain of their life with plastic surgery and drugs.

Don’t just create your dreams, stand back and be happy when you’ve achieved them – you deserve it!

 

9. Happiness is a decision

We all want to be happy but what we forget is that happiness is a decision. The only way you will ever be happy is if you decide to be. Deciding is not enough, though: you must choose to be happy right now in this moment otherwise there is a high chance you will never be happy.

Saying to yourself you will be happy when something transpires in the future, or you achieve some fairytale goal, will see you become miserable and unhappy. Tony taught me that there are always going to be things that pop up from time to time that have the potential to rob you of your happiness.

When these events occur, Tony says he “kills the monster while it’s little.” He further adds that he tries not to let any negative event linger in his mind for more than ninety seconds, so the feeling never has the chance to grow into something huge.

In life, there is always something to worry about every day, but you can be happy by making the decision not to let these worries take over. Overcoming this battle requires persistence because Tony taught me that your brain is not designed to make you happy it’s designed to make you survive.

The only way to be happy is to go against your human programming and decide to be happy no matter what external forces occur. This one lesson has been a big part of my transformation, and it can do the same for you if you commit to it.

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10. Life is about we

Entrepreneurs make one critical mistake all day long: they pitch ideas that are all about them instead of making them all about us. Tony’s entire life is an example of why we should make everything about us and not about ourselves.

When you only try and achieve things that help you, life can become very depressing. Have you ever had the feeling of experiencing something phenomenal and then the first thing you did afterwards was tell someone else?

We have all had this feeling and the reason we do this is because life is so much better when we do things together, and we work in an environment where we do things for others. Doing things for others is how we take life to the next level and make ourselves happy at the same time.

 

11. Don’t film it, experience it

Having seen Tony in lots of different environments, I have noticed one thing about him that always seems to be true; you never see him looking at a mobile phone. He taught me at one of his events that the reason he doesn’t have an obsession with electronic devices is because he would rather experience something in the moment than see it second hand through his phone, or worse still, film it to maybe never play it back later on.

If you want to live an amazing life you need to become more present and resist the temptation to film everything with your phone. Filming something will never feel the same as being there in real life, totally focused, and totally present in the experience.

I am going to contradict this point by posting a video below, but that’s only because I want you to see what Tony’s events are like and why he is able to turn my life, and the lives of everyone he touches, in a more positive direction.

 

12. People seek you out because they want what you know

The highest paid professionals in the world all know one truth; people seek you out because they want what you know. If you want to never have to market your services, then Tony teaches that you need to do more for anyone else than your competition.

You need to redefine your category or niche and concentrate on giving as much value as you can. Adding value to people’s lives is the best form of marketing that exists. Tony taught me this by the sheer power of his events.

When you attend any of Tony’s events not only does your life change, but you feel like you got way more value than you expected! When I saw him a few days ago, I expected two hours of value and I got four, plus a whole heap of new strategies that he didn’t mention at the beginning of the event.

 

13. Courage unused declines

All of us have had times in our life where we have felt courageous for extended periods. I was reminded recently by Tony’s teachings that these periods of courage decline if you don’t continue the practice.

Just like a muscle, you constantly have to find times to be courageous; otherwise, the muscle gets smaller over time, and you can’t use it when you really need it.

For me, this is true when I don’t go and pitch something to a stranger for a while. When I leave the skill idle for a while, I find that the courage needed to approach a stranger with a new idea wears off like a magic potion – practice courage daily.

 

14. Peak performance comes from peak states

To live a life at the elite level, you need to be able to operate at your peak consistently, and Tony teaches that this can only occur from a peak state. In the right state of mind, you will take the right action in the moment.Wonder Woman Power Pose - Tim Denning

It’s impossible to take effective action in the wrong state of mind or an angry state. The secret that Tony teaches is to get into a new state, and this can be done in a matter of seconds. This why at his events there is so much movement because he wants to demonstrate just how quickly your state can change.

After you see your state change over and over again throughout the cause of his fifty-hour plus seminars, you would have to be an idiot not to see how easy it is to do. You don’t need an excuse to feel good you just need to change your state.

Changing your state is as easy as changing your body and your focus to create a new state. A simple hack that Tony has been sharing recently is that you can try one of Harvard Universities approved power poses.

The one I like is called “The Wonder Woman Pose.” You essentially stand like Wonder Woman for twenty seconds and then you will quickly witness a new state being created in your body.

What lessons have you learnt from Tony Robbins? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Christine

    Jun 6, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    Hi Tim, Thanks for this great article! I remember Tony said positive thinking is like going to your garden and say there’s no weeds.

  2. Toño

    May 11, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    Every time I open up A2S page I play a little game – guess who’s the author! As I read lots of articles here I slowly become familiar with style many of you make your titles up and needless to say, when I saw Tony Robbins this morning I told myself : “If this is not Tim Denning there has to be something wrong with this world” 🙂

    Writing this while reading your article I can say that friend of yours is a very brave man. It is never easy to leave the country of your origins and travel to different place, I know that quite well. And this decision been based on Tony Robbins’ cd. Amazing!

    Only recently I learned from Tony’s book that we exactly do our state of mind. We think being depressed is easy and just happend to us the other day, however offer this attitude to a very happy and super positive person and you’ll quickly find out it will be quite hard to ‘infect’ him with such poor behaviour. The reason is simple – you’ve put a lot fo work into your depression and now it can be easily achievable for you after years of practice, and now you can do that exact state of mind. It is so simple!

    I also love how Tony embrace responsibility for our own life, for pretty much every single event, it is our fault or our reward. We so tend to blame people, birds, weather, music, gods around that we become slaves of our environment instead of being powerful makers. It is hard pill to swallow sometimes, but it is what it is.

    I have learnt new things as well here: “you will never learn anything if you consume the information in a static state.” And another thing: ‘your brain is not designed to make you happy it’s designed to make you survive.’ Amazing, isn’t it?

    And lastly, my favourite: Happiness is a decision. Few years ago I’ve watched Independent movie ‘The Tree’. I think it was filmed in Australia actually, with beautiful scenery and wonderful actors play. I would say it was more like theatre, slow actions, not everyone would enjoy it. But I did and watched it more than once. The huge message of this movie came from little girl (amazing Morgana Davies): “I choose to be happy” said the little girl after her father’s death. I’ve got chills down my spine. You have to choose to be happy and emrace your present moment!

    Oh, and I adore the Wonder Woman pose 😀 Gotta use it at my job now and then to show who’s the boss haha!

    Beautiful read, Tim, thank you so very much for article! My eternal gratitude, man. Have a wonderful day, stay healthy!

    • Tim Denning

      May 11, 2016 at 6:47 pm

      Toño you have read so much of my stuff now so it’s no wonder you can spot the headlines…lol. What I have found in recent times that seems to be common amongst all successful people is some form of learning from Tony Robbins whether it be a cd or a seminar. His lessons are simple yet truly groundbreaking in the way he delivers them

      I feel Toño that every time you write a comment you helping to educate yourself by reinforcing the lessons you learning which is cool. Thanks again mate for reading 🙂

  3. Nick depaila

    May 10, 2016 at 11:04 pm

    Thank you for article, Tim. Your work is phenomenal, spot-on and a must read for me. Keep it up, I greatly appreciate it!

    • Tim Denning

      May 11, 2016 at 5:09 am

      Wow thanks Nick for the very nice and unexpected feedback! It’s comments like this that make me love what I do so thank you.

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

Which one of these memorizing methods sounds most interesting to you? Share with us below!

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Compassion Is the Cornerstone of Inner and Outer Success

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Tapping into this emotional state of being can make the difference between thriving or surviving in business and life. In today’s journey towards success, people are more apt to respond to a compassionate and caring individual than one too full of themselves.

Just do what I call the “holy scroll of social media” and you will have men and women seeking your attention. They have the magic pill, formula, or mixture that will lead you out of despair and into the promised land of prosperity.

Here’s one way to see if they are legit: Is there a tone of compassion in their written and verbal words? Do they really care about you as a person or simply give off the vibe of “ah, got another sucker to get my stuff?”

If you want to truly know how much a person can deeply care about people, then watch their actions. Many people run around, screaming from the tops of buildings and church steeples that “I am the one to follow.”

Stop chasing those people. They really don’t have their act together and lack compassion. People are drawn to those who are successful, prosperous, and abundant. It’s a natural drawing card. Those people have something that you want, so you follow them and take up their mannerisms like it’s some kind of gospel message.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

You have the ability to be an amazing success in business through using the power of compassion. So, why don’t more people do it? Well, it simply takes time and effort to become compassionate if your whole success model has been toward the profit margin. Anyone who owns or runs a business has to watch their finances, so it’s understandable. Yet, are you going to do so without thinking of others in a heartfelt way? That will come back to haunt you.

Compassion is the one thing that makes truly all-around successful people stand above the noise. People of great financial wealth like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates have come to understand that philanthropy is a way of supporting advancements around the world. Anthony Robbins has taken portions of his own wealth and helped feed other people who don’t have the means to get their own groceries. In turn, look at the many community centers and religious and spiritual institutions that have been established for the sole purpose of being a light of compassion and care for those in their own darkness.

What does this have to do with having an attitude bent towards success? Everything. Right now, you have a powerful wellspring of compassion inside waiting to be shared. It is a way of life that transcends what you know from data and numbers.

Truly successful individuals dial within regularly and get in tune with the times. Compassion might feel like it is a lost art, but it is not. Compassion leaves people not only feeling better but having more of a get-to-it attitude instead of just going along and saying “whatever” to obstacles in their path.

You might be someone who just doesn’t know how to be compassionate. The concept feels and sounds foreign to you because all you have been fed is a bunch of “suck it up, buttercup” mentalities. At times, we all need a good kick in the behind to take action.

If you are a lost sheep who doesn’t even know where to start on the compassionate way of life, then here are three simple suggestions:

1. Be humble

Humility and humiliation are two different things so don’t get them mixed up here. Being humble is a state of being where you remember where you came from and feel a deep sense of gratitude for where you were and where you are now. People in businesses and corporations all over the world know that humility is a game-changing path toward success.

2. Be grateful

If you have two eyes and a heartbeat and are reading this article, then you have three reasons right there to be and feel grateful. One technique that I have found helpful in recent months is to simply say “thank you” upon waking up. Giving thanks for all the things in my life is a way of expressing inner gratitude in an outward way. You can do this in your very own business by saying “thank you” for more clients, more business, more income streams, more freedom, and so on.

“Compassion is an action word with no boundaries.” – Prince

3. Be a good listener

Do you wonder how in the world you can ever hear another person’s heart when they always seem to be talking? Stop talking so much and listen more. Look, a core strength of compassionate people is they tend to listen more and bark less. Success is what you make it up to be in your business and life. Notice, though, the action takers and their ability to truly listen, take in what they need, and let go of the rest. Listening to others with a compassionate and empathetic ear will lead you to the road of success.

Compassion is not just another silly marketing trend. It’s been around as long as humans have had a pulse. The measure of compassion that you give to others will be given back to you. This is seen over and over again in business and other places.

It’s a reciprocal circle of life. Compassion can open doors for you that you’d never thought of walking through at all. Tap into your own compassionate side and make a successful difference in other people’s lives.

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5 Pillars to Creating an Unfair Advantage in Your Business

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All of us want to create unfair advantages in our business that separate us from our competition. Nonetheless, doing this is easier said than done as everyday your competition is innovating and getting better. With today’s technology, overachievers are reaching higher levels of success than ever before. Naturally, if you are here reading Addicted2Success, then this means you too are an overachiever who is addicted to success. (more…)

Rob Fajardo is 23 year old Thought Leader from NJ. He founded a brand called Leave Normal Behind, a content, community, and events hub for purpose driven people. The mission of LNB is to bring together purpose driven people and inspire them to become the best versions of themselves by creating things that matter and encouraging others to do the same. He is also the viral marketing mastermind behind fidget spinners (check @fidget360 on IG) and helped Gerard Adams, Co-Founder of Elite Daily, establish the executive team at Fownders responsible for building the Seed-2-Scale program there. If you want to get connect with Rob you can email him rob@leavenormalbehind.com.

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  1. Christine

    Jun 6, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    Hi Tim, Thanks for this great article! I remember Tony said positive thinking is like going to your garden and say there’s no weeds.

  2. Toño

    May 11, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    Every time I open up A2S page I play a little game – guess who’s the author! As I read lots of articles here I slowly become familiar with style many of you make your titles up and needless to say, when I saw Tony Robbins this morning I told myself : “If this is not Tim Denning there has to be something wrong with this world” 🙂

    Writing this while reading your article I can say that friend of yours is a very brave man. It is never easy to leave the country of your origins and travel to different place, I know that quite well. And this decision been based on Tony Robbins’ cd. Amazing!

    Only recently I learned from Tony’s book that we exactly do our state of mind. We think being depressed is easy and just happend to us the other day, however offer this attitude to a very happy and super positive person and you’ll quickly find out it will be quite hard to ‘infect’ him with such poor behaviour. The reason is simple – you’ve put a lot fo work into your depression and now it can be easily achievable for you after years of practice, and now you can do that exact state of mind. It is so simple!

    I also love how Tony embrace responsibility for our own life, for pretty much every single event, it is our fault or our reward. We so tend to blame people, birds, weather, music, gods around that we become slaves of our environment instead of being powerful makers. It is hard pill to swallow sometimes, but it is what it is.

    I have learnt new things as well here: “you will never learn anything if you consume the information in a static state.” And another thing: ‘your brain is not designed to make you happy it’s designed to make you survive.’ Amazing, isn’t it?

    And lastly, my favourite: Happiness is a decision. Few years ago I’ve watched Independent movie ‘The Tree’. I think it was filmed in Australia actually, with beautiful scenery and wonderful actors play. I would say it was more like theatre, slow actions, not everyone would enjoy it. But I did and watched it more than once. The huge message of this movie came from little girl (amazing Morgana Davies): “I choose to be happy” said the little girl after her father’s death. I’ve got chills down my spine. You have to choose to be happy and emrace your present moment!

    Oh, and I adore the Wonder Woman pose 😀 Gotta use it at my job now and then to show who’s the boss haha!

    Beautiful read, Tim, thank you so very much for article! My eternal gratitude, man. Have a wonderful day, stay healthy!

    • Tim Denning

      May 11, 2016 at 6:47 pm

      Toño you have read so much of my stuff now so it’s no wonder you can spot the headlines…lol. What I have found in recent times that seems to be common amongst all successful people is some form of learning from Tony Robbins whether it be a cd or a seminar. His lessons are simple yet truly groundbreaking in the way he delivers them

      I feel Toño that every time you write a comment you helping to educate yourself by reinforcing the lessons you learning which is cool. Thanks again mate for reading 🙂

  3. Nick depaila

    May 10, 2016 at 11:04 pm

    Thank you for article, Tim. Your work is phenomenal, spot-on and a must read for me. Keep it up, I greatly appreciate it!

    • Tim Denning

      May 11, 2016 at 5:09 am

      Wow thanks Nick for the very nice and unexpected feedback! It’s comments like this that make me love what I do so thank you.

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

Which one of these memorizing methods sounds most interesting to you? Share with us below!

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Compassion Is the Cornerstone of Inner and Outer Success

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Tapping into this emotional state of being can make the difference between thriving or surviving in business and life. In today’s journey towards success, people are more apt to respond to a compassionate and caring individual than one too full of themselves.

Just do what I call the “holy scroll of social media” and you will have men and women seeking your attention. They have the magic pill, formula, or mixture that will lead you out of despair and into the promised land of prosperity.

Here’s one way to see if they are legit: Is there a tone of compassion in their written and verbal words? Do they really care about you as a person or simply give off the vibe of “ah, got another sucker to get my stuff?”

If you want to truly know how much a person can deeply care about people, then watch their actions. Many people run around, screaming from the tops of buildings and church steeples that “I am the one to follow.”

Stop chasing those people. They really don’t have their act together and lack compassion. People are drawn to those who are successful, prosperous, and abundant. It’s a natural drawing card. Those people have something that you want, so you follow them and take up their mannerisms like it’s some kind of gospel message.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

You have the ability to be an amazing success in business through using the power of compassion. So, why don’t more people do it? Well, it simply takes time and effort to become compassionate if your whole success model has been toward the profit margin. Anyone who owns or runs a business has to watch their finances, so it’s understandable. Yet, are you going to do so without thinking of others in a heartfelt way? That will come back to haunt you.

Compassion is the one thing that makes truly all-around successful people stand above the noise. People of great financial wealth like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates have come to understand that philanthropy is a way of supporting advancements around the world. Anthony Robbins has taken portions of his own wealth and helped feed other people who don’t have the means to get their own groceries. In turn, look at the many community centers and religious and spiritual institutions that have been established for the sole purpose of being a light of compassion and care for those in their own darkness.

What does this have to do with having an attitude bent towards success? Everything. Right now, you have a powerful wellspring of compassion inside waiting to be shared. It is a way of life that transcends what you know from data and numbers.

Truly successful individuals dial within regularly and get in tune with the times. Compassion might feel like it is a lost art, but it is not. Compassion leaves people not only feeling better but having more of a get-to-it attitude instead of just going along and saying “whatever” to obstacles in their path.

You might be someone who just doesn’t know how to be compassionate. The concept feels and sounds foreign to you because all you have been fed is a bunch of “suck it up, buttercup” mentalities. At times, we all need a good kick in the behind to take action.

If you are a lost sheep who doesn’t even know where to start on the compassionate way of life, then here are three simple suggestions:

1. Be humble

Humility and humiliation are two different things so don’t get them mixed up here. Being humble is a state of being where you remember where you came from and feel a deep sense of gratitude for where you were and where you are now. People in businesses and corporations all over the world know that humility is a game-changing path toward success.

2. Be grateful

If you have two eyes and a heartbeat and are reading this article, then you have three reasons right there to be and feel grateful. One technique that I have found helpful in recent months is to simply say “thank you” upon waking up. Giving thanks for all the things in my life is a way of expressing inner gratitude in an outward way. You can do this in your very own business by saying “thank you” for more clients, more business, more income streams, more freedom, and so on.

“Compassion is an action word with no boundaries.” – Prince

3. Be a good listener

Do you wonder how in the world you can ever hear another person’s heart when they always seem to be talking? Stop talking so much and listen more. Look, a core strength of compassionate people is they tend to listen more and bark less. Success is what you make it up to be in your business and life. Notice, though, the action takers and their ability to truly listen, take in what they need, and let go of the rest. Listening to others with a compassionate and empathetic ear will lead you to the road of success.

Compassion is not just another silly marketing trend. It’s been around as long as humans have had a pulse. The measure of compassion that you give to others will be given back to you. This is seen over and over again in business and other places.

It’s a reciprocal circle of life. Compassion can open doors for you that you’d never thought of walking through at all. Tap into your own compassionate side and make a successful difference in other people’s lives.

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