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6 Reasons To Chase Your Dream Not The Money

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So we have all been there (including myself), where we get stuck in a rut trying to make as much money as possible. Now, don’t get me wrong money is a fantastic resource but I am seeing a lot of people still fall into the money trap rather than what will help them be fulfilled.

Having been lucky enough to experience both wealth and poverty, I have learnt a few lessons along the way. If you can grasp the concept of making your dream come true rather than always chasing money, you will reach new levels of success.

Now this topic has been covered lots before but I want to add some points to it that you may not have considered before. If you’re at that point in your life where you feel stuck and are unfulfilled, then your beliefs about money are absolutely contributing to your unhappiness!

It’s easy to walk down the street and see so many people eating nice food, driving fancy cars, and dressing well, but what you can’t see is what they are like when they get home. Unfortunately, platforms like Instagram can easily give you the impression that everyone is living an amazing life – I hate to break it to you, but they’re not, in fact, most of us are chronically unhappy.

This is a great problem to have, though because it’s easy to work on and the solutions are straightforward. The solutions will only work though if you have an open mind and have personally developed your brain over time (fed it with quality ideas and content).

So, below are six reasons to stop chasing money and start chasing your dream.

 

1. Reaching your dream can give you money automatically

This first one is my favourite because it’s poorly understood. When you care about something a lot (like a dream), and you give it everything you have, you will eventually succeed. And guess what? When you succeed, you create value for other people, and that value can easily become money.

The fastest way to have money is to forget about making it, and think about how you can create it. Creating money requires a big dream (something you’re passionate about) and a set of beliefs that makes you think you can achieve it.

The skills to achieve the dream can be acquired, so they are not a necessity to begin with. Now, if you are thinking I am making it sound too simplistic, it’s because I am. I have always said success is simple but you have to start somewhere, and you must work on your mind every day.

 

2. Money can go as quick as it comes

Now I probably shouldn’t say this but one thing I love about money is that it shows who people really are. If you lack the beliefs and mindsets to add value, then even if you win the lottery tomorrow, you will almost certainly lose everything.

That’s because once you have made money by achieving a dream (the real way), even if you lose everything the next day, you can rebuild it by following your passion. Rebuilding from nothing is not as hard because you know what it takes to do it, and all you have to do is do what you love again to build your wealth back.

It’s a strange feeling when you see someone who is rich and then the next day they have no money. It can happen so quickly, which is why you should always focus on your dream and everything else will fall into place.

 

3. Achieving a goal feels much better

The sad thing is that having lots of money actually doesn’t feel that good, in fact, there is no such thing as enough money – this is why dreams are more important. Working towards a dream feels amazing, and as you hit each milestone, it makes you fulfilled beyond your wildest dreams.

All of a sudden, you are achieving success at something that has the possibility to be your life’s work. When your dream becomes your life work, it gives you a sense of meaning that no amount of money can give you.

Now, have you ever seen someone who is angry, has lots of money and became happy, spent it, and the next week they are angry again? We all have, and that’s what money can do to you if you let it. I am not saying you should forget about money and waste it, just don’t let it be your focus.

“Let money be the sign from the universe that you are creating value for other people, not the measuring stick of your success or status in society”

 

4. Money doesn’t necessarily give you unforgettable experiences

Having a lot of money can make you feel great in the short term, but it will never give you unforgettable experiences. Yes, you can buy holidays or experiences but what you will quickly realise is that the people you are with are far more important than the experience itself.female_traveller

You can do something as simple as a dinner party, and it can be the best night of your life not because of how much it costs to host, but because of the great people and stories you share. Also, when you have experiences that are paid for, there is no sense of purpose.

“When you have an experience as part of a dream you are chasing, it becomes a critical building block to the story and meaning of your life. Suddenly, every experience has its place, and you learn to love the negative experiences at the same time” – Tim Denning

Money can’t do this and will buy you experiences that on the surface seem perfect until you realise at the end that it wasn’t that great after all, and you have done something similar before.

 

5. When one area thrives, other areas can die

A critical law of nature is that not all areas of your life can thrive at 100% all the time. As you watch the person walk down the street with big muscles, remember that it’s because they focused all of their time and energy into one area of their life while other areas didn’t progress,

What you can’t see is that they may have no intimate relationship, they might have no savings, they could be very unhealthy, their career might be going nowhere, their car could be broken down – there are things that you can’t see, but I can guarantee they have had to give up something.

What are you prepared to give up for your own dream?

So, when you go after a dream just remember that there may be sacrifices and areas of your life that won’t grow, and you have to be prepared to make those sacrifices.

The reason I tell you all of this is because money is just like the person with the big muscles, it’s one area of a persons life that can be going well, but that is meaningless if all other areas are failing miserably.

Focus on your dream, stimulate the areas of your life that matter, and the “money thing” can tie all of this together when you eventually achieve your goal – assuming your goal will make you money.

 

6. Your money status is meaningless

Don’t forget that your money status is meaningless and people don’t care about how much money you have made. When Richard Branson walks into the room people are impressed by how many dreams he has accomplished, not by his money.

It’s the impossible tasks he has done, the person he has become and the way he gives back that make him successful. The more you fulfil your purpose, the more you achieve the impossible, the more you become obsessed with creating value, the higher your social status will be.

Walk into a bar and shout out to everyone that you have a million dollars in your bank account – no one will turn around. Walk into the same bar and tell people you just walked on the moon, and people will stand on their chairs and cheer you for the rest of your life.

If you have your own stories of money to tell then, please do so in the comments section below or send them to me via timdenning.net

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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27 Comments

  1. Benjamin Ehinger

    Aug 24, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    Money should ALWAYS be the by-product not the goal. If you chase money, you’ll end up lonely, desperate, broke, empty and simply not joyful. Money cannot buy happiness or joy. It’s a tool to be used, but not something to shoot for.

    It’s always best to chase your calling/passion/purpose and work for joy and happiness. If you do this, the money will be there, whether it’s enough to be rich or just enough to pay the bills. Regardless, when you love your work, the money part of things just has a way of working out.

  2. Emily

    Dec 1, 2016 at 12:50 am

    I know I’m late to the comment party in this article, but this was an eye-opening piece that I needed to read right now. I’ve recently set out on an entrepreneurial path and this article has helped me realize that my priorities need a bit of an adjustment. Also, I’ve been seeing quite a few articles lately that emphasize the need to provide value for people, and that’s something else I should focus on. (Rather than thinking, “Ugh, I’m smart and talented, why isn’t the universe throwing money at me??”)

  3. Kweku Addy

    Jun 8, 2016 at 2:29 am

    Having been on either side of the spectrum- rich and poor, you know what you’re talking about. Lovely article. In my opinion, people would best grasp this concept of having a passion over money during their post traumatic growth phase; after experiencing absolute wealth only then would they understand it. Experience is the best teacher.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 8, 2016 at 8:42 pm

      Kweku thanks for being so open and sharing your advice. The few sentences you wrote really connected with me. I know the most traumatic part of my life was definitely the best teacher.

  4. shaheen

    Apr 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    Our identity is our Passion,Have courage to follow your heart.the two things which i learnt from your article.thanks mr.tim denning for updating such a wonderful article.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 16, 2016 at 5:31 am

      No problem Shaheen and I’m glad you were able to pull two valuable lessons that you can use in your own life.

  5. Ransom

    Dec 19, 2015 at 6:50 pm

    I do agree with this topic. Many people follow money and at the end, they miss all.
    We have to follow our dreams, the money will always be there. Energy is conserved.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 8:40 am

      Cheers Ransom. You are spot on; money can always be obtained if it is truly your primary goal but it will never make you fulfilled.

  6. Charlene Rhinehart

    Dec 19, 2015 at 4:36 am

    Thanks for sharing! I have an Accounting and Finance background so money is often a hot topic in conversations with colleagues. I realized that in order to be my best self and maximize my value, I had to do what I love. Following your dreams may be the unpopular path initially because there is a false appearance of having more uncertainties as an entrepreneur versus an employee, but I would never want to live with the uncertainty of asking myself, “What would have happened if I focused on impact versus instant income”. I’m giving my dreams all of me and ready to enjoy the journey. Thank you, Tim!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 8:38 am

      Charlene, I love your point of you and thanks for putting is so eloquently for all of us. Being an entrepreneur is not for everyone but I think people need to try both to figure out which one works for them. The good thing is that the rise of intrapreneurs is filling the gap and creating a hybrid opportunity for those who may not want to be an entrepreneur.

      Thank you again Charlene.

  7. Aleksandra

    Nov 23, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    I must say that being in my 20s, I appreciate the fact that this article will show you which path you should choose in life. It’s also a great motivation and reminder to chase your dreams and goals no matter what!!
    Coming from a poor family, I used to think that If I want to have a successful and happy life I need to chase the money, not my dreams… And I did that 2 years ago, but those were the most unhappy years of my life! From that experience I can say that we young people need to learn that money isn’t everything in life. If we want to achieve wealth, we need to make our dreams come true because money will follow after you chase your dream and your passion!
    Right now, I’m giving my best to reach all my goals and I know that sooner or later the money will come!
    Thanks Tim Denning for this great article that motivates and encourages me to chase my dreams day by day!!

    Best Regards
    Aleksandra

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 24, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Aleksandra, I know exactly where you are coming from and I fell into the same track. It often takes age to get the wisdom to understand how money works and my goal is to share that with the young adults so they can realise what you and I have realised much earlier. Thanks for reading!

  8. Doug Sullivan

    Nov 21, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    really good article Tim! Interestingly, the point that landed on me the most was not one of your 6, but something you said in the opening… “Having been lucky enough to experience both wealth and poverty”. This statement speaks volumes about your mindset and also carries a great lesson itself! We must embrace ALL of life’s experiences and learn from them… even the most painful. For in those painful times comes to opportunity to build the foundation of wisdom upon which we grow… our money, our life. Thanks for the good writing!

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 22, 2015 at 5:26 am

      Thanks Doug for the kind words. You are spot on, having been on both sides it gives you a really great perspective and you can see the benefits of money in a different light.

  9. Jacqueline Gillam Fairchild

    Nov 20, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    I loved this article and posted it and passed it on. Your words are always an inspiration. Thank you. And true. Like a diet or a recipe, if you keep putting in the right ingredients, you will have great results.

  10. Abraham

    Nov 20, 2015 at 5:50 pm

    Thanks Tim,
    I have always had this thought that money is just an effect of a cause. And that cause is passion to live your dream. I am now complete in mind and spirit about my own thoughts. I thank God for your wisdom. God give u more

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you so much Abraham for being so kind and I hope you find success in whatever you are doing.

  11. Paul Braddock

    Nov 19, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    Thanks for the article Tim and also for Peter’s comment. I know people who are passionate about God and serving others, but unfortunately have not figured out how to monetize it…me included. I look forward to the day when these two paths meet. Always open to learning.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 8:57 pm

      Paul, maybe you already have something that people will pay money for but you have a limiting belief about asking people to pay you. If you can get over that then you can monetise your work. Keep an open mind and find out what others in your space are doing to make a living from their work. Best of luck Paul.

  12. Abiodun

    Nov 19, 2015 at 9:00 am

    These are awesome bullets. They really need to penetrate into the blood of our youths so that they can realize money comes after following your passion. Great bullets there.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 2:45 am

      Abiodun, I totally agree. Often we don’t realise this until we are much older. It would be great if it was a concept we were given in our youth. Thanks for your comment.

  13. Nick Scuderi

    Nov 19, 2015 at 3:30 am

    I learned that spending money on experiences rather than things can create happiness. Things may make us happy in the beginning, but like money, you can only enjoy it so much. The more you have does not mean the happier you are.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 19, 2015 at 4:30 am

      Spot on Nick and you got the message of the article perfectly!

  14. Peter Banerjea

    Nov 18, 2015 at 1:14 am

    Hi Tim,
    Great points! It’s surprising why a lot of people people don’t realize point number 1. Success comes from offering immense value to people and if people value your offering, then revenue will follow.
    Great companies have always been built primarily on passion.
    Thanks for sharing!
    Peter

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 19, 2015 at 1:50 am

      Agreed and thanks for reading Peter.

  15. Sushma

    Nov 17, 2015 at 11:50 pm

    Awesome article. I really loved it. This article should be required to help every youngster achieve his dream and to understand how money works.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 18, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Sushma, glad you like the advice and I also agree that these principles are the foundation of knowing how to manage and create money in your life. Thanks for reading.

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5 B.S. Facts About High Performers Everyone Thinks Is True

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High performers are often seen in the world as people who set their mind on something and make it happen regardless of what it takes to get it accomplished. Much of the time that may be true. However, the way high performers are seen in the world is often in direct conflict with the way they behave when people aren’t watching. Even though they are seen as amazing experts and masters to others, they often see themselves as in need of improvement and can feel dissatisfied with the results they have achieved.

Despite how they appear, they are not much different than you or me with one exception. High performers are totally committed to what it is that they are doing. They function within the uncertainty of daily life just as you do but they conquer their limitations differently. Whether the odds are stacked with them or against them, a high performer will be totally committed to reaching their goals.

You may even be a high performer yourself and don’t realize it because some of your habits would not be considered high level ones. It is common for individuals to compare their accomplishments to others based on what we observe as their results.

“Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.” – Nelson Mandela

In fact, you may have lowered your personal bar of excellence because you thought you didn’t measure up to those that always seem to land at the top no matter what. I think you’d be surprised to learn that many very successful high performers don’t function the way you think they do.

Here are 5 B.S. facts about high performers that everyone thinks is true:

B.S. Fact #1 – Perfection is the way they play their game

You would think that in order to appear perfect you would probably need to do everything perfectly. It’s so not true! High performers actually pursue excellence as a goal and not perfection. It allows them to get more done with a higher level of consistency and sets them up for success rather than failure.

B.S. Fact #2 – Organization is their secret weapon

Just take a look at the desk of a genius. You probably wouldn’t be able to see the surface beneath the stacks of books, papers and whatever else may be on top of it. High performers typically have a formula as to where they put things and why. To the observer, it’s usually just a big mess with no identifiable system. However, I assure you, a high performer will still know where everything is regardless of the chaos that surrounds their personal space and schedule.

B.S. Fact #3 – They’ve all walked Ivy League hallways

Though it is true that many well educated people reach great success, statistically, some of the most influential success stories are about people who lacked resources and education. High performers will always seek out whatever or whoever is available so that they can learn what they need to and create their vision despite whatever odds happen to be stacked against them.

B.S. Fact #4 – They don’t have squirrel brain

Focus. It seems like this would be the number one rule to follow on the road to results.  However, there are many high performers who get distracted by people and ideas that totally derail them from what they were doing. Often times, it is not their focus but their agenda that keeps them on track. They know what they need to do even if it doesn’t always get accomplished in the way they thought they would get it done. However, it always gets done.

“High achievers spot rich opportunities swiftly, make big decisions quickly and move into action immediately. Follow these principles and you can make your dreams come true.” – Robert H. Schuller

B.S. Fact #5 – They see themselves as the king of the jungle

Confidence seems to pour out of those who always seem to succeed. When, in reality, so many high performers struggle with it. Questioning whether or not they’re doing the right things or whether what they’re doing is good enough can be a constant personal dialogue. Fear of being negatively judged is the biggest reason why most people don’t take chances or take action on their big dreams but high performers move forward anyway. Their insecurity doesn’t stop them from what they want.

So, why should it matter to you what is fact or fiction about high performers? The answer; because you will compare yourself to others at times and it would be a tragedy if you stopped yourself from achieving big goals due to a belief that you’re not as good as someone else.

High performers achieve results. They know what they want, they plan it and they achieve it. Just because you have a few habits that won’t get applauded if people actually knew about them doesn’t mean that you can’t be one of the experts or podium finishers too.

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Do You Want to Become a Leader? Read This First

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How do you become an adult in a society that doesn’t ask for sacrifice? How do you become a man in a world that doesn’t require courage? The test of leadership isn’t done on the couch, discussing things with internet trolls and commentators. Leadership, like philosophy, is action-based and can’t be separated from that into a purely theoretical field.

To become a leader, it isn’t enough to read about it, you need to live through it. That leads us to the first point.

1. Experience trumps theory

Theory and practice are the same in theory, but they are not the same in practice. For you to become a leader, you need to put yourself in situations which demand leadership. If you are at home trying really hard to think about situations where leadership is required and can’t find a place where that can happen, you are not thinking about the problems in your life and community.

Leadership is about going through uncertainty while showing people a better way. So any area of life where there is uncertainty is an area where there is a possibility for leadership to emerge.

You don’t have to lead a company of 10,000 employees to experience leadership, you can do it in a local community of 5 people or as I did in a leadership organization with 200 people. But leadership doesn’t start with leading other people, it starts with leading yourself.

“Leadership is practice not so much in words as in attitude and in actions.” – Harold S. Geneen

2. To lead others, you must learn to lead yourself

Telling other people what they need to do is “easy.” Showing the way yourself is a hundred times harder. Because what you do speaks so loud that people can’t hear what you’re saying. In other words, leadership is about having personal integrity and practicing what you preach. You would never follow the advice of a fat personal trainer, a broke accountant, or a real estate agent who doesn’t even own a dog house.

You either lead by example or you don’t lead at all. But the thing is that this is easier said than done. I remember when we had a crisis in our team back in 2013. Every single person from the team quit, leaving the president and me alone to fight the battle. My integrity of not quitting didn’t let me walk away and we kept pushing together.

That’s what leadership is about – you need to walk the talk. Because to lead yourself and to lead others, you need to make decisions which follow up your integrity. That leads us to the third point.

3. Leadership is about making the right, painful decisions

If you choose easy decisions, your life will be hard. If you choose hard decisions, your life will be easy. And there are numerous decisions which leaders did in the past which have been hard at the moment. But when you’re a leader, you don’t make decisions on a scale of easy-hard, you make them on a scale of right-wrong.

Firing the VP of sales is always hard. But doing it because he violated the principles of the company makes it right. It’s a trade-off 90% of people are not willing to make and I see it day in, day out. As soon as a decision becomes hard, people start doubting their values, morals, and integrity. They let the fear of uncertainty cloud their judgments and they make an easy call.

They let the VP stay because it’s the easy thing to do and with that, they seal their fate. Leadership is painful and it always was. I remember when I had to let 20 people go or fire two of my VPs. Was it hard? Of course it was. But it was the right thing to do. This doesn’t make the decision any easier, but it makes it bearable.

You know where you need to lead people and even though there is massive uncertainty, you need to be certain that you will figure out any problem that comes in front of you. Which brings us to the last point.

“Leaders think and talk about the solutions. Followers think and talk about the problems.” – Brian Tracy

4. You need to have unyielding faith that you will prevail in the end

You don’t need to know every step of the way, but you need to know how you will react to problems. You need to be sure, absolutely, that you will deal, manage, and handle every single problem that comes your way and that your team and people who you lead are unstoppable on their way to achieving the vision.

This is unquestionable. You have no idea what will attack you, but you are certain that you will handle it. This is how you lead people through everything in life. This is how Shackleton led his expedition for 2 years on the Antarctic and how every single one of his people survived the hardships that attacked them.

Because people turn to the leader in face of trouble and that’s when you show your true face. Do you show your weak side, flounder, and run? Or do you stand strong like a supporting rock on which people can lean on?

When you deal with fire, you will learn how to defeat it without having your people get burned. You will sacrifice yourself and gain scars which don’t serve as a sign of victimhood but as a proof of courage. Are you gonna be courageous or are you gonna run away? There is only one way to find out.

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This Is Why Most People Give Up On Their Dreams — I Plead With You Not To Become One Of Them.

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We all have a dream even if we haven’t realized it yet. It could be something as simple as raising a family, or it might be more extreme like winning an Olympic gold medal.

No matter the dream, most people give up on their dream.

I’m pleading with you not to be one of those people. You can achieve your dream when you understand why people give up in the first place.

Here’s why most people give up on their dreams:


They failed once before.

Many people try something once and when they fail, they give up. That’s because nobody tells you that achieving your dream doesn’t happen the first time around.

You have to try and try again until you reach your goal.
The problem is it’s easy to try once, fail, and then say “I already tried and I didn’t win.”

We give in so easily because the upside is a life of excuses.

We give in because we can live through the heroes of our favorite Netflix show.

We give in because in some ways there is a reward. Giving up gives you permission to sit on the couch, eat junk food, be angry at the world on social media and sleep in your nice warm bed

The problem is that this life sucks. You’ll get tired of it. One day you’ll want to chase your dream again, but you might be old, frail and full of regrets.

I’m pleading with you not to choose this option.


They got told no.

You don’t need permission — remember that. You are going to get told no hundreds of times in your life. With every dream you have, there’s going to be some fat, lazy slob that’s going to be standing in your way.”

Push through these people — flubber and all. Don’t let someone else’s laziness or issues with your dream stop you.

Ignore the no and get right back to it. Ask them again. Ask someone else.

Ideally, don’t ask them at all. I never asked to be a blogger I just did it. Certain publications turned me down and I kept writing.

Not everyone understands your gifts or potential and that’s fine. The main point here is that you understand.

I’m pleading with you to not give up because of a no. Make the no your motivation instead.


They don’t see failure for what it is.

Failure is nothing more than the inevitable education that any person who achieves their dream goes through.

Failure is so important that I personally like to pay money for it. I wish there was a shop or course I could do that would guarantee me failure instead of success. I want you to want the failure because that’s where all the answers are.

Once you know what doesn’t work, you’ll have a path forward. Change the word failure into education.

I’m pleading with you to fall in love with failure and not to give up on your dream.


Boredom strikes like thunder.

Everyone gets bored. I watched a documentary where Usain Bolt was training for the Olympics and even he admitted that he got bored after he won a few gold medals.

Boredom is normal, but it’s why a lot of people give up on their dreams.

It’s in the moments of boredom that you give your mind a chance to rest. Doing nothing and being lazy for a few hours can often bring a spark of creativity. No one is motivated 100% of the time — not even me.

It’s up to you to add some variety into your day, so you don’t get stuck in boredom forever.

Boredom can also be a good sign as well. It can be a sign that you need to change your approach or do things in a new way.

I’m pleading with you not to be afraid of boredom. Use boredom to your advantage.


They stop believing in themselves.

Your dreams are not easy (obviously). The rejection, failure and setbacks you’ll achieve can bring you down. What messes people’s dreams up is they stop believing in themselves.

Everything starts to fall over when you don’t believe in yourselfYou have to believe you can do it before anyone else will buy into that idea. The challenge is that you’re going to need help to achieve your dreams. You can’t do it alone.

You’ll never get that help unless you can get people to believe what you believe.

I’m pleading with you to believe in yourself no matter what. You have this dream for a reason and you can do it.


They are stuck on one strategy.

Many people live their entire life based on one strategy or one arbitrage. They refuse to change and so eventually the environment around them changes which affects their ability to reach their dream.

If you’re set in your ways and won’t change your approach, you’ll probably fail. We all imagine how our dream should look yet sometimes the reality is different.

You have to be open to change. In my experience, my original dream looked much different and I’m glad it’s changed. Changes to your dream are for the better.

I’m pleading with you to be open-minded.


They are surrounded by an army of morons.

If everyone around you is telling you you’re an idiot and they don’t respect your dream for what it is, this will have a negative impact on you whether you like it or not.

Run away from the dream killers who are making up for their own broken dreams and surround yourself with people who support you

The best people are the ones that support you but don’t always agree with you. Even better are the ones that support you and challenge your thinking. 
I’m pleading with you to reassess the people around you.


They want security.

No dream comes with an insurance policy or a set path. People are afraid to take risks and want reassurances when they pursue their dream.

There are none. Dreams are made off the back of taking calculated and clever risks most of the time. If you want someone to guarantee your dream, then it ain’t going to happen.

It’s the unpredictability that makes dreams addictive, delicious and worth the effort. Not knowing is what our mind craves — we just don’t know it. If we knew how our dream turned out, we wouldn’t be as excited.

I’m pleading with you to take a risk or two.


They refuse to be disciplined.

Nothing worth achieving can be done without discipline. There’s work involved and that has to be scheduled and executed upon.

I’ve written every single week since 2014. That takes bloody discipline.

My discipline reflects my results in the blogging world. The same applies to your own dream.

Block out chunks of your calendar and get to work. If you’re not doing at least one small thing towards your dream every day, then you’re heading in the wrong direction.

I’m pleading you to put in regular work towards your dream.


The greener grass syndrome.

Another reason we give up is not because we’re lazy necessarily but because we failed and there is a better option. That’s what our mind tells us.

I didn’t fail; I just found something better,” you say to yourself.

Well, that’s the sad truth.

“Changing your idea of success consistently is not the answer. At some point, you need to decide to chase one dream and quit the ADHD dream chasing the average person chases. You’re better than that”

Worrying about what everybody else is doing and then chasing their dreams is ridiculous.

I’m pleading with you not to fall for this lie. The grass is not greener it just requires more work than you anticipated.


Final thought.

Please, please, please don’t give up on your dream. You’re closer than you think. You just need to stand back and think about a few of the points I’ve mentioned.

Broken dreams have birthed so many broken people.

It doesn’t have to be that way. See your dream for what it is: Something special that you can achieve if you put your mind to it, focus and be excited by the possibilities.

Don’t give up on your dream.

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The Number One Question All Leaders Should Be Asking

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Questions are the greatest way to express curiosity, and to actually get to know somebody. As an educator, a father, neurolinguistic programmer, and media specialist, I know how powerful communication can be.

Communications power is the ability to get to know someone. To build rapport and to work out if we are in the same tribe, speaking the same language. We only understand 7% of verbal communication. 38% is our voice and tone. 55% is body language. So when we message or email someone, we are barely communicating. If we are not careful face to face communication can be just as ineffective.

In our work and everyday life we will often be called upon to conduct an interview. This might be in a formal way, such as a manager with a potential new employee, or informally as a parent meeting a son or daughter’s new partner. Sometimes this might be free style, to see where the conversation takes us, and other times we might use our organisations set list of questions.

“The art of communication is the language of leadership.” – James Humes

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The problem is, the questions are often boring, ineffective, or not relevant. Or they have been asked so many times before, the interviewee reels off a pre-prepared answer, which blurs in the mind of the interviewer with every other candidate she/he has spoken to that day.

Questions like: What is your greatest weakness? Where do you see yourself in five years? Or perhaps the worst of all, “tell me about yourself?” Why is that last one so toxic? Well what do you think they will answer?

Not only will they be reciting a familiar response, but it will also be a mix of what they think you want to hear, and their own made up story of themselves. It is natural to do this, as it is our own perception of ourselves, and mind-reading of what others think of us. Left to our own devices we can be influenced by ego, humility, self-limiting beliefs, and imposter syndrome.

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If we want to really uncover more about the person we are speaking to, we should try this: “Tell me about the world?”Why is that so powerful? Well, to quote the Marvel film Dr Strange, “you’re a man looking at the world, through a keyhole.”

How we view the world is a reflection of ourselves. It may include what we perceive as opportunities and threats, perhaps biases and our overall outlook on life. Is the person we are speaking to open-minded, have an insight on where the world is heading, are they success-minded optimists, or negative and ignorant, with a tendency to blame others?

Are they literal, “it’s a planet orbiting the sun”, or romantic, “it’s a wonderful place full of inspirational people with the capacity to create amazing things, but too often negativity and hate clouds our potential.” Did they focus on the country they live in? A particular subject? Their own family?

“Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity.” – Nat Turner

It is a much more interesting question, and one that few people are asked. They may request clarity, because it is so open and you may be guiding them in to uncharted waters. Every person will answer in a different way, and it will usually provide a much deeper insight as to who they really are.

Not only is this great for interviews, but it can also be a way to break out of small talk. When two people meet it can be visualized as a Venn diagram. Sure, we will probably have some overlap whether that is sports, where we work, parents, gaming, or religion. And the tendency will be to stick to those topics.

But isn’t the real fun in the areas we don’t overlap on? The problem is we often don’t know what questions to ask about it, because we don’t know what you don’t know. This question is a great way of exploring new territory. So, tell me about the world?

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35 Quotes to Inspire You to Live a Life of Contribution

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  1. Benjamin Ehinger

    Aug 24, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    Money should ALWAYS be the by-product not the goal. If you chase money, you’ll end up lonely, desperate, broke, empty and simply not joyful. Money cannot buy happiness or joy. It’s a tool to be used, but not something to shoot for.

    It’s always best to chase your calling/passion/purpose and work for joy and happiness. If you do this, the money will be there, whether it’s enough to be rich or just enough to pay the bills. Regardless, when you love your work, the money part of things just has a way of working out.

  2. Emily

    Dec 1, 2016 at 12:50 am

    I know I’m late to the comment party in this article, but this was an eye-opening piece that I needed to read right now. I’ve recently set out on an entrepreneurial path and this article has helped me realize that my priorities need a bit of an adjustment. Also, I’ve been seeing quite a few articles lately that emphasize the need to provide value for people, and that’s something else I should focus on. (Rather than thinking, “Ugh, I’m smart and talented, why isn’t the universe throwing money at me??”)

  3. Kweku Addy

    Jun 8, 2016 at 2:29 am

    Having been on either side of the spectrum- rich and poor, you know what you’re talking about. Lovely article. In my opinion, people would best grasp this concept of having a passion over money during their post traumatic growth phase; after experiencing absolute wealth only then would they understand it. Experience is the best teacher.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 8, 2016 at 8:42 pm

      Kweku thanks for being so open and sharing your advice. The few sentences you wrote really connected with me. I know the most traumatic part of my life was definitely the best teacher.

  4. shaheen

    Apr 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    Our identity is our Passion,Have courage to follow your heart.the two things which i learnt from your article.thanks mr.tim denning for updating such a wonderful article.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 16, 2016 at 5:31 am

      No problem Shaheen and I’m glad you were able to pull two valuable lessons that you can use in your own life.

  5. Ransom

    Dec 19, 2015 at 6:50 pm

    I do agree with this topic. Many people follow money and at the end, they miss all.
    We have to follow our dreams, the money will always be there. Energy is conserved.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 8:40 am

      Cheers Ransom. You are spot on; money can always be obtained if it is truly your primary goal but it will never make you fulfilled.

  6. Charlene Rhinehart

    Dec 19, 2015 at 4:36 am

    Thanks for sharing! I have an Accounting and Finance background so money is often a hot topic in conversations with colleagues. I realized that in order to be my best self and maximize my value, I had to do what I love. Following your dreams may be the unpopular path initially because there is a false appearance of having more uncertainties as an entrepreneur versus an employee, but I would never want to live with the uncertainty of asking myself, “What would have happened if I focused on impact versus instant income”. I’m giving my dreams all of me and ready to enjoy the journey. Thank you, Tim!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 8:38 am

      Charlene, I love your point of you and thanks for putting is so eloquently for all of us. Being an entrepreneur is not for everyone but I think people need to try both to figure out which one works for them. The good thing is that the rise of intrapreneurs is filling the gap and creating a hybrid opportunity for those who may not want to be an entrepreneur.

      Thank you again Charlene.

  7. Aleksandra

    Nov 23, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    I must say that being in my 20s, I appreciate the fact that this article will show you which path you should choose in life. It’s also a great motivation and reminder to chase your dreams and goals no matter what!!
    Coming from a poor family, I used to think that If I want to have a successful and happy life I need to chase the money, not my dreams… And I did that 2 years ago, but those were the most unhappy years of my life! From that experience I can say that we young people need to learn that money isn’t everything in life. If we want to achieve wealth, we need to make our dreams come true because money will follow after you chase your dream and your passion!
    Right now, I’m giving my best to reach all my goals and I know that sooner or later the money will come!
    Thanks Tim Denning for this great article that motivates and encourages me to chase my dreams day by day!!

    Best Regards
    Aleksandra

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 24, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Aleksandra, I know exactly where you are coming from and I fell into the same track. It often takes age to get the wisdom to understand how money works and my goal is to share that with the young adults so they can realise what you and I have realised much earlier. Thanks for reading!

  8. Doug Sullivan

    Nov 21, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    really good article Tim! Interestingly, the point that landed on me the most was not one of your 6, but something you said in the opening… “Having been lucky enough to experience both wealth and poverty”. This statement speaks volumes about your mindset and also carries a great lesson itself! We must embrace ALL of life’s experiences and learn from them… even the most painful. For in those painful times comes to opportunity to build the foundation of wisdom upon which we grow… our money, our life. Thanks for the good writing!

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 22, 2015 at 5:26 am

      Thanks Doug for the kind words. You are spot on, having been on both sides it gives you a really great perspective and you can see the benefits of money in a different light.

  9. Jacqueline Gillam Fairchild

    Nov 20, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    I loved this article and posted it and passed it on. Your words are always an inspiration. Thank you. And true. Like a diet or a recipe, if you keep putting in the right ingredients, you will have great results.

  10. Abraham

    Nov 20, 2015 at 5:50 pm

    Thanks Tim,
    I have always had this thought that money is just an effect of a cause. And that cause is passion to live your dream. I am now complete in mind and spirit about my own thoughts. I thank God for your wisdom. God give u more

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you so much Abraham for being so kind and I hope you find success in whatever you are doing.

  11. Paul Braddock

    Nov 19, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    Thanks for the article Tim and also for Peter’s comment. I know people who are passionate about God and serving others, but unfortunately have not figured out how to monetize it…me included. I look forward to the day when these two paths meet. Always open to learning.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 8:57 pm

      Paul, maybe you already have something that people will pay money for but you have a limiting belief about asking people to pay you. If you can get over that then you can monetise your work. Keep an open mind and find out what others in your space are doing to make a living from their work. Best of luck Paul.

  12. Abiodun

    Nov 19, 2015 at 9:00 am

    These are awesome bullets. They really need to penetrate into the blood of our youths so that they can realize money comes after following your passion. Great bullets there.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 20, 2015 at 2:45 am

      Abiodun, I totally agree. Often we don’t realise this until we are much older. It would be great if it was a concept we were given in our youth. Thanks for your comment.

  13. Nick Scuderi

    Nov 19, 2015 at 3:30 am

    I learned that spending money on experiences rather than things can create happiness. Things may make us happy in the beginning, but like money, you can only enjoy it so much. The more you have does not mean the happier you are.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 19, 2015 at 4:30 am

      Spot on Nick and you got the message of the article perfectly!

  14. Peter Banerjea

    Nov 18, 2015 at 1:14 am

    Hi Tim,
    Great points! It’s surprising why a lot of people people don’t realize point number 1. Success comes from offering immense value to people and if people value your offering, then revenue will follow.
    Great companies have always been built primarily on passion.
    Thanks for sharing!
    Peter

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 19, 2015 at 1:50 am

      Agreed and thanks for reading Peter.

  15. Sushma

    Nov 17, 2015 at 11:50 pm

    Awesome article. I really loved it. This article should be required to help every youngster achieve his dream and to understand how money works.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 18, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Sushma, glad you like the advice and I also agree that these principles are the foundation of knowing how to manage and create money in your life. Thanks for reading.

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5 B.S. Facts About High Performers Everyone Thinks Is True

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High performers are often seen in the world as people who set their mind on something and make it happen regardless of what it takes to get it accomplished. Much of the time that may be true. However, the way high performers are seen in the world is often in direct conflict with the way they behave when people aren’t watching. Even though they are seen as amazing experts and masters to others, they often see themselves as in need of improvement and can feel dissatisfied with the results they have achieved.

Despite how they appear, they are not much different than you or me with one exception. High performers are totally committed to what it is that they are doing. They function within the uncertainty of daily life just as you do but they conquer their limitations differently. Whether the odds are stacked with them or against them, a high performer will be totally committed to reaching their goals.

You may even be a high performer yourself and don’t realize it because some of your habits would not be considered high level ones. It is common for individuals to compare their accomplishments to others based on what we observe as their results.

“Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.” – Nelson Mandela

In fact, you may have lowered your personal bar of excellence because you thought you didn’t measure up to those that always seem to land at the top no matter what. I think you’d be surprised to learn that many very successful high performers don’t function the way you think they do.

Here are 5 B.S. facts about high performers that everyone thinks is true:

B.S. Fact #1 – Perfection is the way they play their game

You would think that in order to appear perfect you would probably need to do everything perfectly. It’s so not true! High performers actually pursue excellence as a goal and not perfection. It allows them to get more done with a higher level of consistency and sets them up for success rather than failure.

B.S. Fact #2 – Organization is their secret weapon

Just take a look at the desk of a genius. You probably wouldn’t be able to see the surface beneath the stacks of books, papers and whatever else may be on top of it. High performers typically have a formula as to where they put things and why. To the observer, it’s usually just a big mess with no identifiable system. However, I assure you, a high performer will still know where everything is regardless of the chaos that surrounds their personal space and schedule.

B.S. Fact #3 – They’ve all walked Ivy League hallways

Though it is true that many well educated people reach great success, statistically, some of the most influential success stories are about people who lacked resources and education. High performers will always seek out whatever or whoever is available so that they can learn what they need to and create their vision despite whatever odds happen to be stacked against them.

B.S. Fact #4 – They don’t have squirrel brain

Focus. It seems like this would be the number one rule to follow on the road to results.  However, there are many high performers who get distracted by people and ideas that totally derail them from what they were doing. Often times, it is not their focus but their agenda that keeps them on track. They know what they need to do even if it doesn’t always get accomplished in the way they thought they would get it done. However, it always gets done.

“High achievers spot rich opportunities swiftly, make big decisions quickly and move into action immediately. Follow these principles and you can make your dreams come true.” – Robert H. Schuller

B.S. Fact #5 – They see themselves as the king of the jungle

Confidence seems to pour out of those who always seem to succeed. When, in reality, so many high performers struggle with it. Questioning whether or not they’re doing the right things or whether what they’re doing is good enough can be a constant personal dialogue. Fear of being negatively judged is the biggest reason why most people don’t take chances or take action on their big dreams but high performers move forward anyway. Their insecurity doesn’t stop them from what they want.

So, why should it matter to you what is fact or fiction about high performers? The answer; because you will compare yourself to others at times and it would be a tragedy if you stopped yourself from achieving big goals due to a belief that you’re not as good as someone else.

High performers achieve results. They know what they want, they plan it and they achieve it. Just because you have a few habits that won’t get applauded if people actually knew about them doesn’t mean that you can’t be one of the experts or podium finishers too.

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Do You Want to Become a Leader? Read This First

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How do you become an adult in a society that doesn’t ask for sacrifice? How do you become a man in a world that doesn’t require courage? The test of leadership isn’t done on the couch, discussing things with internet trolls and commentators. Leadership, like philosophy, is action-based and can’t be separated from that into a purely theoretical field.

To become a leader, it isn’t enough to read about it, you need to live through it. That leads us to the first point.

1. Experience trumps theory

Theory and practice are the same in theory, but they are not the same in practice. For you to become a leader, you need to put yourself in situations which demand leadership. If you are at home trying really hard to think about situations where leadership is required and can’t find a place where that can happen, you are not thinking about the problems in your life and community.

Leadership is about going through uncertainty while showing people a better way. So any area of life where there is uncertainty is an area where there is a possibility for leadership to emerge.

You don’t have to lead a company of 10,000 employees to experience leadership, you can do it in a local community of 5 people or as I did in a leadership organization with 200 people. But leadership doesn’t start with leading other people, it starts with leading yourself.

“Leadership is practice not so much in words as in attitude and in actions.” – Harold S. Geneen

2. To lead others, you must learn to lead yourself

Telling other people what they need to do is “easy.” Showing the way yourself is a hundred times harder. Because what you do speaks so loud that people can’t hear what you’re saying. In other words, leadership is about having personal integrity and practicing what you preach. You would never follow the advice of a fat personal trainer, a broke accountant, or a real estate agent who doesn’t even own a dog house.

You either lead by example or you don’t lead at all. But the thing is that this is easier said than done. I remember when we had a crisis in our team back in 2013. Every single person from the team quit, leaving the president and me alone to fight the battle. My integrity of not quitting didn’t let me walk away and we kept pushing together.

That’s what leadership is about – you need to walk the talk. Because to lead yourself and to lead others, you need to make decisions which follow up your integrity. That leads us to the third point.

3. Leadership is about making the right, painful decisions

If you choose easy decisions, your life will be hard. If you choose hard decisions, your life will be easy. And there are numerous decisions which leaders did in the past which have been hard at the moment. But when you’re a leader, you don’t make decisions on a scale of easy-hard, you make them on a scale of right-wrong.

Firing the VP of sales is always hard. But doing it because he violated the principles of the company makes it right. It’s a trade-off 90% of people are not willing to make and I see it day in, day out. As soon as a decision becomes hard, people start doubting their values, morals, and integrity. They let the fear of uncertainty cloud their judgments and they make an easy call.

They let the VP stay because it’s the easy thing to do and with that, they seal their fate. Leadership is painful and it always was. I remember when I had to let 20 people go or fire two of my VPs. Was it hard? Of course it was. But it was the right thing to do. This doesn’t make the decision any easier, but it makes it bearable.

You know where you need to lead people and even though there is massive uncertainty, you need to be certain that you will figure out any problem that comes in front of you. Which brings us to the last point.

“Leaders think and talk about the solutions. Followers think and talk about the problems.” – Brian Tracy

4. You need to have unyielding faith that you will prevail in the end

You don’t need to know every step of the way, but you need to know how you will react to problems. You need to be sure, absolutely, that you will deal, manage, and handle every single problem that comes your way and that your team and people who you lead are unstoppable on their way to achieving the vision.

This is unquestionable. You have no idea what will attack you, but you are certain that you will handle it. This is how you lead people through everything in life. This is how Shackleton led his expedition for 2 years on the Antarctic and how every single one of his people survived the hardships that attacked them.

Because people turn to the leader in face of trouble and that’s when you show your true face. Do you show your weak side, flounder, and run? Or do you stand strong like a supporting rock on which people can lean on?

When you deal with fire, you will learn how to defeat it without having your people get burned. You will sacrifice yourself and gain scars which don’t serve as a sign of victimhood but as a proof of courage. Are you gonna be courageous or are you gonna run away? There is only one way to find out.

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This Is Why Most People Give Up On Their Dreams — I Plead With You Not To Become One Of Them.

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We all have a dream even if we haven’t realized it yet. It could be something as simple as raising a family, or it might be more extreme like winning an Olympic gold medal.

No matter the dream, most people give up on their dream.

I’m pleading with you not to be one of those people. You can achieve your dream when you understand why people give up in the first place.

Here’s why most people give up on their dreams:


They failed once before.

Many people try something once and when they fail, they give up. That’s because nobody tells you that achieving your dream doesn’t happen the first time around.

You have to try and try again until you reach your goal.
The problem is it’s easy to try once, fail, and then say “I already tried and I didn’t win.”

We give in so easily because the upside is a life of excuses.

We give in because we can live through the heroes of our favorite Netflix show.

We give in because in some ways there is a reward. Giving up gives you permission to sit on the couch, eat junk food, be angry at the world on social media and sleep in your nice warm bed

The problem is that this life sucks. You’ll get tired of it. One day you’ll want to chase your dream again, but you might be old, frail and full of regrets.

I’m pleading with you not to choose this option.


They got told no.

You don’t need permission — remember that. You are going to get told no hundreds of times in your life. With every dream you have, there’s going to be some fat, lazy slob that’s going to be standing in your way.”

Push through these people — flubber and all. Don’t let someone else’s laziness or issues with your dream stop you.

Ignore the no and get right back to it. Ask them again. Ask someone else.

Ideally, don’t ask them at all. I never asked to be a blogger I just did it. Certain publications turned me down and I kept writing.

Not everyone understands your gifts or potential and that’s fine. The main point here is that you understand.

I’m pleading with you to not give up because of a no. Make the no your motivation instead.


They don’t see failure for what it is.

Failure is nothing more than the inevitable education that any person who achieves their dream goes through.

Failure is so important that I personally like to pay money for it. I wish there was a shop or course I could do that would guarantee me failure instead of success. I want you to want the failure because that’s where all the answers are.

Once you know what doesn’t work, you’ll have a path forward. Change the word failure into education.

I’m pleading with you to fall in love with failure and not to give up on your dream.


Boredom strikes like thunder.

Everyone gets bored. I watched a documentary where Usain Bolt was training for the Olympics and even he admitted that he got bored after he won a few gold medals.

Boredom is normal, but it’s why a lot of people give up on their dreams.

It’s in the moments of boredom that you give your mind a chance to rest. Doing nothing and being lazy for a few hours can often bring a spark of creativity. No one is motivated 100% of the time — not even me.

It’s up to you to add some variety into your day, so you don’t get stuck in boredom forever.

Boredom can also be a good sign as well. It can be a sign that you need to change your approach or do things in a new way.

I’m pleading with you not to be afraid of boredom. Use boredom to your advantage.


They stop believing in themselves.

Your dreams are not easy (obviously). The rejection, failure and setbacks you’ll achieve can bring you down. What messes people’s dreams up is they stop believing in themselves.

Everything starts to fall over when you don’t believe in yourselfYou have to believe you can do it before anyone else will buy into that idea. The challenge is that you’re going to need help to achieve your dreams. You can’t do it alone.

You’ll never get that help unless you can get people to believe what you believe.

I’m pleading with you to believe in yourself no matter what. You have this dream for a reason and you can do it.


They are stuck on one strategy.

Many people live their entire life based on one strategy or one arbitrage. They refuse to change and so eventually the environment around them changes which affects their ability to reach their dream.

If you’re set in your ways and won’t change your approach, you’ll probably fail. We all imagine how our dream should look yet sometimes the reality is different.

You have to be open to change. In my experience, my original dream looked much different and I’m glad it’s changed. Changes to your dream are for the better.

I’m pleading with you to be open-minded.


They are surrounded by an army of morons.

If everyone around you is telling you you’re an idiot and they don’t respect your dream for what it is, this will have a negative impact on you whether you like it or not.

Run away from the dream killers who are making up for their own broken dreams and surround yourself with people who support you

The best people are the ones that support you but don’t always agree with you. Even better are the ones that support you and challenge your thinking. 
I’m pleading with you to reassess the people around you.


They want security.

No dream comes with an insurance policy or a set path. People are afraid to take risks and want reassurances when they pursue their dream.

There are none. Dreams are made off the back of taking calculated and clever risks most of the time. If you want someone to guarantee your dream, then it ain’t going to happen.

It’s the unpredictability that makes dreams addictive, delicious and worth the effort. Not knowing is what our mind craves — we just don’t know it. If we knew how our dream turned out, we wouldn’t be as excited.

I’m pleading with you to take a risk or two.


They refuse to be disciplined.

Nothing worth achieving can be done without discipline. There’s work involved and that has to be scheduled and executed upon.

I’ve written every single week since 2014. That takes bloody discipline.

My discipline reflects my results in the blogging world. The same applies to your own dream.

Block out chunks of your calendar and get to work. If you’re not doing at least one small thing towards your dream every day, then you’re heading in the wrong direction.

I’m pleading you to put in regular work towards your dream.


The greener grass syndrome.

Another reason we give up is not because we’re lazy necessarily but because we failed and there is a better option. That’s what our mind tells us.

I didn’t fail; I just found something better,” you say to yourself.

Well, that’s the sad truth.

“Changing your idea of success consistently is not the answer. At some point, you need to decide to chase one dream and quit the ADHD dream chasing the average person chases. You’re better than that”

Worrying about what everybody else is doing and then chasing their dreams is ridiculous.

I’m pleading with you not to fall for this lie. The grass is not greener it just requires more work than you anticipated.


Final thought.

Please, please, please don’t give up on your dream. You’re closer than you think. You just need to stand back and think about a few of the points I’ve mentioned.

Broken dreams have birthed so many broken people.

It doesn’t have to be that way. See your dream for what it is: Something special that you can achieve if you put your mind to it, focus and be excited by the possibilities.

Don’t give up on your dream.

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The Number One Question All Leaders Should Be Asking

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Questions are the greatest way to express curiosity, and to actually get to know somebody. As an educator, a father, neurolinguistic programmer, and media specialist, I know how powerful communication can be.

Communications power is the ability to get to know someone. To build rapport and to work out if we are in the same tribe, speaking the same language. We only understand 7% of verbal communication. 38% is our voice and tone. 55% is body language. So when we message or email someone, we are barely communicating. If we are not careful face to face communication can be just as ineffective.

In our work and everyday life we will often be called upon to conduct an interview. This might be in a formal way, such as a manager with a potential new employee, or informally as a parent meeting a son or daughter’s new partner. Sometimes this might be free style, to see where the conversation takes us, and other times we might use our organisations set list of questions.

“The art of communication is the language of leadership.” – James Humes

Ineffective communication and questioning

The problem is, the questions are often boring, ineffective, or not relevant. Or they have been asked so many times before, the interviewee reels off a pre-prepared answer, which blurs in the mind of the interviewer with every other candidate she/he has spoken to that day.

Questions like: What is your greatest weakness? Where do you see yourself in five years? Or perhaps the worst of all, “tell me about yourself?” Why is that last one so toxic? Well what do you think they will answer?

Not only will they be reciting a familiar response, but it will also be a mix of what they think you want to hear, and their own made up story of themselves. It is natural to do this, as it is our own perception of ourselves, and mind-reading of what others think of us. Left to our own devices we can be influenced by ego, humility, self-limiting beliefs, and imposter syndrome.

Effective communication and questioning

If we want to really uncover more about the person we are speaking to, we should try this: “Tell me about the world?”Why is that so powerful? Well, to quote the Marvel film Dr Strange, “you’re a man looking at the world, through a keyhole.”

How we view the world is a reflection of ourselves. It may include what we perceive as opportunities and threats, perhaps biases and our overall outlook on life. Is the person we are speaking to open-minded, have an insight on where the world is heading, are they success-minded optimists, or negative and ignorant, with a tendency to blame others?

Are they literal, “it’s a planet orbiting the sun”, or romantic, “it’s a wonderful place full of inspirational people with the capacity to create amazing things, but too often negativity and hate clouds our potential.” Did they focus on the country they live in? A particular subject? Their own family?

“Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity.” – Nat Turner

It is a much more interesting question, and one that few people are asked. They may request clarity, because it is so open and you may be guiding them in to uncharted waters. Every person will answer in a different way, and it will usually provide a much deeper insight as to who they really are.

Not only is this great for interviews, but it can also be a way to break out of small talk. When two people meet it can be visualized as a Venn diagram. Sure, we will probably have some overlap whether that is sports, where we work, parents, gaming, or religion. And the tendency will be to stick to those topics.

But isn’t the real fun in the areas we don’t overlap on? The problem is we often don’t know what questions to ask about it, because we don’t know what you don’t know. This question is a great way of exploring new territory. So, tell me about the world?

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