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The Self Help Guru’s Are Selling You Crap.

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You don’t have to save the world to be fulfilled in life.

I’m living proof. I love inspiring people, but I didn’t donate a million dollars to any charity or take a selfie with Oprah while feeding children in Africa.

Making a million dollars…

And having millions of followers…

And doing pilates, yoga or the gym…

And watching every motivational video…

And reading every New York Times Best Selling Book…

…is not the secret to life.

The Self Help Guru’s are lying to you.

But why would they do this Mr. Tim? Simple…they want your money and your attention. Their grand plan is to make themselves feel better and have something cool to say at their dinner party on Saturday night, amongst mega influencers on social media requires them to have these attributes mentioned above.

You can have all the money, followers and knowledge in the world – this will not guarantee you of jack.

“The Self Help Guru’s also lie to you because what they do is a business. It’s not about helping people at all; it’s about them and their ego”

That photo they have of them at some mansion in LA is not their place – they rented it for a day. The Ferrari in the video they posted on YouTube is not there’s – it’s rented. Why do they fake all of these things? Their answer is it attracts millennial’s who are driven by money. What a load of BS.

Let me give you the good news.

You don’t need any Self Help Guru to change your life. What you need is the following:

– A meaning for your life
– A cause that allows you to serve others
– A healthy dose of love that you give out freely
– A kind heart
– An ego that is under control
– A tribe of people that understand your cause. The size doesn’t matter, only the depth
– An infectious personality that comes from being compassionate and kind

Everything I just mentioned can be cultivated on your own. You can’t buy these things off a shelf or fake them. There’s no magic set of keys other than the one’s you are already holding. Work on your self. Go beyond yourself.

Here’s what worked for me. It’s simple, to the point and easy to copy.

I’m lazy as hell when it comes to changing. Unless I hit a rock bottom point in my life I end up doing nothing. I love to consume content and often forget about creating my own (that can kill your success).

I love a good hype session but then I often forget to take the action. Sometimes I feel like I’m not good enough to do what I do.

There are times I look in the mirror and go “Geez I wish I could go to the gym 3 times a day.” When I meditate I’m often distracted as hell. All these things I just mentioned are normal.

“Every Self Help Guru that’s selling you this BS version of a “Successful Life” has the same challenges as you. You don’t need the help of a guru”

What you need is this.

You need to learn to be disciplined. You must practice improving yourself every day. You need to be honest (like I just was) about the things that you struggle with in life rather than seeking perfection. You need to be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best job you can with what you have so go easy on yourself.

It’s time to get real.

You don’t need a $5k mastermind group or a success course in Hawaii to transform your life. You don’t need any guru to help you find your life’s purpose.

Find your purpose yourself by trying different things.

Get to work.

Back yourself and smile more.

Don’t try and achieve everything in 6 months because it will never happen quickly.

The Self Help Guru’s have been lying to you the whole time. They don’t have all the answers and they’re probably less successful than you are. Happiness comes from within and no guru can show you the secret.

If you want to increase your productivity and learn some more valuable life hacks, then join my private mailing list on timdenning.net

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Timo

    Sep 14, 2017 at 7:41 am

    Good read but I doubt that those who fall for the gurus will ever see the light unless they actually start spending money on them and then fail. My experience is that people only learn through pain and in this case the pain would come from the lack of success and the money they wasted. Still a good article and hopefully this shows at least some people the light! Cheers!

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