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The Secret to Hacking Your Thinking Mind For Optimal Success

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The mind is a funny thing. It’s useful, and we need it. But at the same time, it often causes us a lot of strife. Our minds spend an obsessive amount of time in two places, either in the past, or in the future. Both of these are important of course. Reflecting on the past can help us avoid mistakes in the future.

Visions of the future inspire each of us to reach our full potential. But in all of this, especially in the frenzied modern world we live in, we lose touch with the only moment that really matters, the present.

The irony is that all our thinking works in the past and the future, is often a desire to become more present in our lives. We are constantly trying to fix mistakes or to avoid them, so that life will be more pleasurable. But as we have all realised, perfection is an illusion.

As the saying goes, while you are making plans, life happens. And that’s exactly how it is supposed to be. Think about it for a moment: If nothing ever changed, if everything was perfectly predictable, how boring would that be? Nothing would ever grow. Life would lack all contrast and dynamism. Creativity would be frozen in stone.

“In the end some, of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.” – Drew Barrymore

Thinking Isn’t Inherently Bad

It’s not that thinking itself is inherently bad, but rather what we focus on that can be. There are times to reflect, and there is a need to plan. But what we need, is the ability to discern when those moments are.

A simple question we can all ask ourselves is this, “Will focusing on the past or projecting into the future in the current situation help?” In other words will thinking in this way make any difference to the situation we now find ourselves in? The answer to this question If we are really honest, is almost always no!

So the next question is, what can we do about it?

 

Hacking Your Runaway Mind

The great thing about the thinking mind, is that you can use the very same ‘thinking mind’ to change it. Whenever I ask myself the question: “If how I am thinking now is helpful to changing, or improving the situation I find myself in?” and the answer I get back is a resounding “No!”. My next goal is to find thinking that will help. Every situation you find yourself in, will have thinking tasks that will immediately improve the situation you find yourself in.

The word ‘immediately’ here is important. Thinking that engages the present moment, is far more productive to the experience you may find yourself in, than thinking that may be holding onto past mistakes, or trying to plan what should be done to make things right.

Like it or not, often in life’s challenges, one is required to respond in the moment to the unfolding chaos. Finding single key words, a mantra if you will, in these moments, is a way to trick the mind into steading itself. It’s a way to anchor the thinking mind, with its very nature, thinking.

The difference this time is that you are making the thinking process purposeful. Often our minds are on autopilot, fluctuating between past and future thoughts. Any word you then choose to anchor yourself back in the present moment with, needs to be neutral.

I use single words, like breathe, calm, slow, etc. Telling yourself to breath for example does two things. Firstly it changes your thinking stream to something else. Secondly, because ‘breath’ is a single word, and it is not attached to past or future tense, its neutral.

“For the one who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends. But for one who has failed to do so, his very mind will be his greatest enemy.” – Bhagavad Gita

Find The Anchors That Best Work For The Situation

You can come up with all kinds of anchor words. Just think about situations in your life or work that really stress you out. Situations that make your thinking mind go manic. Then ask yourself, what kind of single action words could you use, in the moment you find yourself in those situations again, that would affect the immediate outcome of that experience? Often, you are looking for words that describe the opposite actions that make you upset or stressed out.

I know when I am stressed out, I tend to talk way too fast. The consequence of doing this is I forget my train of thought, or start thinking about what I should say next. Needless to say, it often results in a disaster. What I have learned to do, is to have a glass of water near by.

As soon as I recognise that I am talking too fast, I purposively pause, say to myself, “slow” and then reach slowly for the glass of water. The outcome, by using that anchor word immediately as I become aware of myself talking to fast, helps me come back more centred, and focused.

How do you take control of your mind? What are some things you do? Leave your thoughts below!

Who would've thought you can go from sleeping on a park bench with only $20 in your pocket, to becoming a world renowned modern martial artist, super successful entrepreneur and author? But that's exactly what Rodney did. By focusing on Hacking his Embodied-Interface — he applied the inner game lessons he learned as a martial artist, to take on the martial arts of everyday life more skillfully and win. Take Rodney's FREE video course here: http://www.fullcontactliving.org/free/.

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Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

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1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

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