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Potential Vs. Mediocrity…How to Win the Battle

Life is a series of opportunities where you are presented with a choice to either sit on the sidelines of life or choose to live.

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Life can seem autonomous at times. It can feel like you are a robot, and your behaviors are so unconscious that it doesn’t even feel like you are truly living. Some would call this “just going through the motions.”

That’s precisely what is happening. When we get caught up in the demands, distractions, and comfort that this generation has afforded us – it becomes seamless to just exist and not truly live. Truly living is a conscious choice each day.

There have been quite a few times when I reflected in my bed when my day was over on how I could have done more, been more, and stepped outside my comfort zone. It’s such a tight feeling in your chest to know that you are capable of doing more, but you give in to comfort and settle into mediocrity.

In the moment it might feel safe and comfortable, but after a while, you feel like you are not really living. You feel stuck even though you feel comfortable. How paradoxical is that? Life becomes a series of mundane tasks, and when new opportunities arise, it’s as if you find every reason to avoid anything different.

A life of comfort breeds a life of stuckness and displeasure. It’s like Neale Donald Walsch said, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

Life = opportunities

Life is a series of opportunities where you are presented with a choice to either sit on the sidelines of life or choose to live. These choices are very subtle, but they happen throughout the day more than we sometimes are willing to admit.

And the worst part is we think these decisions are small and don’t influence other aspects of our life. But, in reality, these small decisions are insidious and, over time, have lasting impacts in other areas of our life. Not to mention our overall sense of self.

Our sense of self is the core of you that is constantly being built through every decision and action we make or don’t make. It rarely changes but certainly can either through unconscious behaviors or conscious effort.

Whether it be speaking up for yourself in a disagreement, preparing a little harder for an upcoming presentation, confidently expressing your new idea at work, or choosing to be more present and attentive with your significant other.

Decisions like these are small but play a huge role in the core of who we are and how we ultimately feel internally about ourselves.

Why don’t we want to admit that these seemingly small decisions happen multiple times a day? Because this puts the responsibility on us to uncover them and change. And change is hard. It’s taxing.

Many of us would rather pretend there is something external from us that is causing us to continue to suffer and not realize our potential. The story sounds good to us, and it’s comforting. And the more times we tell it to ourselves, the more we think we will believe it at an unconscious level.

Over a period of time, the story or lie we tell ourselves begins to crumble, and we start to see through it. Finally, it’s reached a tipping point, and we realize this story is not yielding us the quality of life we desire. As we begin seeing through it, confusion disappears, and clarity rises to the surface of our minds.

“Don’t squander your potential living a life that amounts to far less than the one you are capable of living.” Zero Dean

We are now able to see clearer than we ever were before. The story clouded our perception, and now we are taking baby steps toward what our soul truly desires.

As your perception continues to widen, you now see opportunities where before, all you saw were blockages. As a result, you begin to slowly and consciously take advantage of the opportunities presented in front of you.

Your new thoughts breed new actions that allow you to experience what you’ve always desired: freedom of your soul’s potential expressed through you in your relationships, career, and hobbies – making your day-to-day life richer and more satisfying than ever before.

You’re now stepping out of your comfort zone and experiencing what life has to offer. And it’s a glorious feeling, but you just wish you’d done it sooner.

When we finally realize the story we’ve been telling ourselves each day isn’t the one that is going to yield us the life we desire, that’s when we flip the script and write a new one.

It just begins with one new thought followed by a series of subtle actions that give rise to a life of living outside of your comfort zone and rightfully stepping into the person you always knew you could be.

Chazz Scott is a keynote speaker and mindset expert. He trains entrepreneurs, leaders, and professionals to achieve their potential personally and professionally. Chazz is also the Executive Director & Chief Creative Optimist of Positively Caviar, Inc., a grassroots 501(c)(3) nonprofit, focused on using optimism and positive thinking to build mental resilience and disrupt mental health stigmas in underserved communities. For more info, check out his weekly blog at: www.chazzscott.com or download his latest workbook designed to help you build good habits and break bad ones to achieve your goals faster: download here.

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Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

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1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

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