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It’s Time to Stop Letting the Fear of Failure Derail Your Success

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If you’re going to create success in your life, you have to realize that nothing is stopping you from accomplishing all of your significant goals and living a life of freedom. You can live a life you’ve always dreamed of. We live in an incredible time that’s full of opportunities to grow. We have access to information, education, software, and tools in a way that makes what was once out of reach, possible for any willing to put in the work.

We have complete and mostly free access to the Internet, social media, podcasts, books, videos, blogs, virtual training, and other forms of inspiration. The knowledge we have access to takes the guesswork out of learning how to create success. We have access to resources and the ability to get help. These resources eliminate the old school gatekeepers that stopped success-seekers in the past.

However, with all of these opportunities and abilities, too many people settle for life. This life could best be described as merely existing through each day. People aren’t setting big enough goals and have bought into the false belief that this kind of life is impossible. One of the main reasons too many don’t pursue a life of growth is because a fear of failure keeps them from believing it’s possible and then taking action on that belief. 

Each of us struggles with a fear of failure in some form or fashion. The fear of failure keeps us from starting and pursuing the best version of ourselves. Here’s what the fear of failure does and how to overcome it. 

“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” – Tony Robbins

The fear fuels your self-limiting beliefs

As humans, we have limiting beliefs we have to overcome to achieve success and accomplish our goals. These limiting beliefs tend to be rooted in what we perceive are the obstacles that hold us back. The fear of failure intensifies what we struggle with and convinces us our beliefs are a reality.

Here’s the thing, they don’t have to be. You can overcome a fear of failure and beat any limiting beliefs by taking action despite how you feel. Growth starts when you believe anything is possible in your life. It can become a reality when you do the hard work and take consistent action. 

You win the battle against your fear by consistently doing the work of becoming the best version of yourself. Consistency and a strong desire to accomplish more will lead to the success you’re seeking. 

The fear keeps you stuck in the past

The fear of failure has an interesting way of making every situation seem like it’s not working out no matter what we try. It creates this disturbing feeling that where you are in life is all that you’ll be able to accomplish. It drudges up all your past failures and poor decisions. The fear tries to convince you that staying stuck will help you avoid being put back in the same place. 

When you experience setbacks, close your eyes, breathe, and find your happy place. Use those moments to understand life isn’t over, and you can overcome momentary setbacks. You are powerful. 

You can continue your path to success despite whatever happened in the past. Your current reality doesn’t have to be a permanent place. If you decide to move past your fear of failure, you can leave the past in the past where it belongs as you focus on a future full of success. 

“Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.” – Zig Ziglar

The fear convinces you that halfway is good enough

It’s not easy to make changes that lead to a successful life, better relationships, more money, and creating all the things that success means to you. There are going to be more than a few times when settling feels like an option. 

The fear of failure will make you rationalize all that you said you wanted to accomplish as you experience resistance. Working on becoming the best version of yourself will probably be one of the most challenging paths you can pursue. You will experience failure, it may be public, and it has the potential to leave scars.

However, the life and rewards you are waiting for are more significant than settling for a life of regret. It’s time to stop letting the fear of failure keep you from doing the work and overcoming difficult circumstances. 

Fear is a natural human emotion, but it can be an asset you use instead of something that keeps you stuck. Fear can keep you alert and help you make sure you maintain a solid plan of growth. 

Any major goal won’t come easy, and that’s good. Through struggle, you learn gratitude for what you worked harder to accomplish. You’ll never get rid of the fear of failure completely, but you can take action despite it. It’s time to step into your power and claim a life with no regrets. It’s time to become the best version of yourself in every area of your life. It’s time to embrace the success path.

Tor Constantino is a former journalist, consultant and current corporate comms executive with an MBA degree and 30+ years of experience. His writing has appeared across the web on Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fortune and Yahoo!. Tor's views are his own and do not reflect those of his current employer. Join him at torconstantino.com/.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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