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The Secret to Your Success Is Found in Asking Yourself Powerful Questions

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Benjamin Franklin is distinguished not only by the fact that his face was printed on $100 bills, but also by starting and ending his days by asking himself powerful questions. Benjamin would get up early at sunrise every morning, and his day would start with the question: “What good can I do today?”

Then, after answering to this question, after a short breakfast, he would go to work, study, write, think, and at the end of the day, before going to bed, he would ask himself another question: “What good have I done today?”

Moreover, no matter what day of the week, whether it be the weekend, winter, or summertime, this part of his daily schedule never changed. Benjamin’s daily schedule was really tight. He would question his morning’s direction, daytime work, and then second-question himself to evaluate his work. He would then sleep, and his next day’s activities would be a repeat of the previous day’s activities.

Benjamin Franklin is still respected. His daily schedule helped him achieve goals, dreams, shape his personality. Therefore, if you were to ask him how he achieved his goals or changed his mindset, he would smile and respond: “Dear, the best way to shift your mindset is to ask yourself questions.

We rarely meet people in life who tell us how important it is to ask ourselves questions, as Benjamin did. We do not see any benefits in these activities, so we do not practice them. There are reasons for this.

“Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.” – Benjamin Franklin

Why people don’t like talking to themselves

For many, talking to yourself seems like a boring activity. Watching TV is so much more pleasant. It is believed that talking to yourself does not add much value. But studies have shown that answers have a big impact on changing personality. The ability to do so is an innate gift without which we could not improve. That’s why questions are used by all prominent psychologists who work with patients. Look around, questions are used in each office, each family and even in our personal lives. Therefore, successful people spend a lot of time answering the most important questions for themselves. After all, a person cannot change if he asks himself the same questions and answers them in the same way as before.

What are the benefits of answering questions:

1. Questions shape your personality and mindset

Questions create new, more flexible models in the brain that use a wider range of information. The more patterns and templates are created, the easier it is to find better and greater solutions. When problems arise, the brain chooses the most optimal option among several possible options, rather than sticking to an old and possibly no longer working pattern. Through questions and answers, children learn cause and effect and, most importantly, understand the meaning of words.

2. Questions help you open your mind, and rise above the standard mindset

The more flexible your brain is, the more varied information it can absorb, allowing you to see different perspectives and, most importantly, become less biased and limited.

3. Frequent answers to questions make us faster

Have you met someone who is slow moving? Often, such people are quite slow to answer questions. It’s all related. The more you ask the same questions, the faster you answer them. When you are capable of answering the question “what can I do today for my dream?” in a second, your daily plans become very clear, and you no longer stop in the middle of the intersection, which gives you the strength to move faster. It changes your character and affects your temperament.

4. By asking the right questions, we create true happiness and peace

We know what a sense of peace and harmony is, but not everyone takes the time to understand what causes these feelings. As we begin to ask deeper and more profound questions about these important topics, we begin to understand more how we feel these feelings. Believe me, if you answer your happiness-related questions every day, you will automatically want to smile. Because as you work on your character, you’ll know that you are taking time for yourself. You will be proud of yourself.

5. You develop creativity and learn to change perspectives

Do you know how important it is to look at questions from a different perspective? By undertaking this task, you develop your imagination and learn to look at life from different perspectives—“What if I do it differently than before?”

“The greatest tragedy for any human being is going through their entire lives believing the only perspective that matters is their own.” – Doug Baldwin

6. You can come to terms with inner critics and learn to properly accept external criticism

The online survey of more than 2,000 U.S. adults, conducted in October, found 31 percent of Americans have been bullied as an adult. Unfortunately, it has to be admitted that sometimes internal critics get involved in bullying—yourself, your thoughts, your beliefs. Some internal critics blame themselves for external appearance. Others blame themselves for bad life results. Therefore, you need to communicate with your inner critic and learn to properly accept external criticism. 

Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself Regularly

We just discussed the pros, benefits and advantages of asking questions, so now it’s only logical to talk about the strongest points that have the greatest impact on self-development.

There are many such questions. Some of the questions you ask sound simple enough, but they are actually profound. For example: “What does happiness mean to you?”, “Can you feel good even when you have everyday problems?”, “Is there something you do every day to achieve your dreams?”

Recalling the questions asked by Benjamin Franklin, which we discussed above, is also worthwhile.

Other questions are more complex: “What is the most important thing in your life?”

For example, my good friend Daniel likes to answer questions too. I will share his thoughts:

Every morning when the alarm clock rings at 7:00 am, saying “good morning, sunshine,” I ask myself: what kind of life do I want to live? This question makes me get up in the morning with the greatest energy because I know what I have to do to make my day amazing. I know that if I don’t move, if I stay in bed pressing the snooze button, I will miss out on amazing moments. This kind of thinking tosses me out of bed! Other questions that I ask myself throughout the day:

In the morning:

  • What is most important, and what should I do today?

Throughout the day:

  • Why do I feel like I do?
  • Can I feel better no matter what happens or what I do?

In the evening:

  • What was good about my day?
  • What have I learned?
  • What needs to be improved?
  • What’s holding me back?
  • How will I improve it?

Alex Monaco is a life provocateur, blogger, and digital marketer. He is the creator of the Grenade Method and 3W System of Change. Alex is a founder of a spectacular marketing agency, s-o-c-i-a-l.com, and the online coaching system known as Onbotraining. He helps people to be successful in business, using the most effective ways to achieve their goals (Grenade method, 3W System of Change, and Onbo).

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10 Tips to Deal With Negativity While Starting a Business

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There are ups and downs in business but fearing failures can stop you from taking your first step towards excellence. With pandemic on tow, aspiring entrepreneurs feel a little stuck when ideating a business prospect. Here, we give you some actionable tips to deal with negativity while starting a business, even during situations like a pandemic. We also took the liberty to throw in some amazing book recommendations that’ll help you enjoy the process of being positive and achieving your business goals.

10 Tips to deal with negativity while starting a business in a pandemic

1. Get a mentor

The first thing to do as a new business owner is to find the right kind of mentor. That person could be someone in your industry or in general who you look up to. The guidance must be apt for your business, and it should be a mutual responsibility of sharing knowledge. 

2. Two big R’s – Routine and Refresh

Made a mess of something? Try to reboot the situation and make it work. Take a break once in a while and refresh yourself if you feel stuck or your ideas feel mundane. Plan a routine and stick to them – both personal and professional. Having a routine can increase productivity and engage in more activities apart from your pre-planned schedule. 

3. Inculcate problem-solving mentality

Do not panic once you are thrown a problem. Arrange a meeting with the respective party, listen to both sides of the stories, and make a decision that is more realistic and feasible. 

4. Hire half and half

Whenever you hire someone for your business. Make sure that half of the people contradict your ideas, and the other half have the same mindset as yours. The people who contradict can bring in more valuable points and their perspective might take the discussion to a whole new level.  Don’t take too much time finding the perfect one. Hire an apt person who can have the right attitude. 

5. Network, Network, and Network

Find like-minded people and mingle with them. Be more sportive in the learning process. Listen more and talk less – if you are a beginner. You can only be a constructive person who gives input to someone if you have listened to everyone’s point of view. If you feel down, your network might have something to uplift your mood and change your perspective on something. 

“Negativity, in general, is one of the things that holds people back, and you have to see what’s holding you back to get away from it.” – Lucy Dacus

6. Tech-savvy personnel

Learn a thing or two about the latest technology that you implement in your organization. Since the world revolves around technology, make sure your administrative authority knows as well.  

7. Don’t schedule a meeting, that could have been an email

Yes! I said it. Having unnecessary meetings will weaken the purpose of having a constructive discussion. Having back-to-back meetings drains the team members and yourself too. Always have a 10 to 15 minutes break between each meeting to feel refreshed and give your 100%. 

8. Have a pros and cons list

Always, I mean always have a pros and cons list. Let’s say one of your team members pitch an idea to improve the marketing strategies starting next month. Jot down the pros and cons before approving or rejecting it point-blank. It’s a systematic way of making a decision. 

9. Track your finances

Even if you have a team of accountants and auditors, make sure that you are present (both mentally and physically) – learn if you are not aware of it. Trusting your employees is a must, but not overseeing the records is a mistake that should be avoided. 

10. Remember your “why?”

At some point in your hectic schedule or not having ME time can get to you. During those tough times – ask yourself – “Why am I doing this?”. If you can answer this question with a valid explanation, you’ll feel energized. Because “A purpose drives you”. 

5 Best books to read to be more positive as an entrepreneur

Reading always puts me into perspective. Therefore, I took some liberty to give a sample of positivity and determination through words. 

These are the 5 books that’ll guide you to be a more positive and successful entrepreneur. 

  1. Attitude is everything by Jeff Keller – The decisions you make, the routine you set for yourself, and the affirmations you say to yourself every day are going to make a huge difference. If you feel tired, hopeless, and quitting – then this book is for you to boost you up!
  2. Mindset: The new psychology of success by Carol Dweck – You do what you think. In this book, the author talks about two mindsets: The growth mindset and the fixed mindset and what they’ll do to you respectively. She helps you recognize your mindset and change it for the better. 
  3. Innovator’s Dilemma by Clayton Christensen – This book is about technology uprisings all over the world and businesses that adopted and implemented technology in their firm. The author teaches you that just because your competitors and others are adopting something into their businesses doesn’t mean that you have to as well. Make an informed decision. 
  4. As A Man Thinketh by James Allen – This book specifically is about the power of thought and how it shapes your life into a more meaningful and fulfilling one.
  5. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – The author talks about how people always keep thinking about what the future holds but then forget to live and enjoy the present. And also helps us understand how to make decisions more efficiently based on the present. 

Working towards inner balance requires consistency and perseverance. So does hard and smart work. Being negative is a part of our lives. It’s important to channel it appropriately and make things happen despite the roller coaster ride that is our lives. Hope you overcome your fears and negativity to shine bigger and brighter. Cheers! 

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