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If You Believe You Have to Fail to Succeed, You Should Quit Now



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You have probably heard quotes like “ No Pain, No Gain” or “The struggle of life is one of our greatest blessings.” Do you ever pause for a moment and ask yourself if that is true? Where did those beliefs come from? Why is it that early in our lives we are trained to believe that the only pathway to success is through failure first?

Many people have the limiting belief that to accomplish their goals, dreams or desires they must go through some type of challenge or trauma. But isn’t it also true that we can create our lives from emotional states of peace, love, joy or happiness? 

If you start a business you do not have to go through years of stress, worry and anxiety wondering if you are going to survive or pay the bills. If you have a desire to become an actor/actress, you do not have to bomb an audition to make it to Hollywood. If you have a dream of becoming an elite athlete, you do not have to lose games or not make a team to become the next Michael Jordan.

Oftentimes dream chasers are looking for struggles or challenges in the beginning of their journey. We have all heard it before, what you focus on is what you attract and when you are out searching for the next painful moment to appear, you will find painful moments that continue to show up in your experience.

We look for 99 people to say “No” before we get that first “Yes” and make our first sale for our business. Why? Because we have been taught to believe that failure precedes success. This is not to say that we will not experience struggles, stress or challenges within our lives. But we are greatly limiting the amount of success and joy we can experience in our lives.

“Success isn’t permanent and failure isn’t fatal.” – Mike Ditka

Stop looking for failure

What if you began to question this belief today? What if you were able to create a drastic shift within your own life and success? Instead of feeling that you must be stressed in order to be a successful business owner, what if you could create the business and life of your dreams from peace and excitement.

We understand that progress is what makes us happy. Progress is what gets people excited. When you begin your journey towards your dreams, you do not have to accomplish them overnight but it’s that feeling that you’re moving closer that pumps us up.

You have heard the quotes like “One percent better everyday” and that holds true now more than ever when so many people want immediate results. We see it in the fitness and wellness industry drastically. 

You walk into the gym and tell the trainer you want to lose 30 pounds in 30 days. The trainer responds they are going to help you focus on losing one pound per week and you’re immediately turned off. Then they respond by saying losing one pound a week for the next year, you will be 52 pounds lighter and it will actually be sustainable. Now you’re excited.

This is an easy example as to why people feel they have to fail before reaching their goals. Their focus is on the immediate results not the progress along the way that will help them succeed an even greater goal.

You do not have to gain a pound before you lose a pound. But one pound in seven days is extremely realistic, provides success upfront, puts you in a peak state and keeps you committed.

Another reason why people are looking for failure first because you are not chasing after a dream or goal that you believe in. It’s not something that you are hungry for. You are living with imposter syndrome chasing after a goal you are not genuinely passionate about forcing you to search for challenges.

Focus on your driver, not failure

So, we know that progress is an important driver that puts you in a peak state. Now you might be asking yourself, do I have to wait for a small win to get myself into a peak state? And the answer is no! You can develop small habits and rituals to put yourself in a peak state. This peak state will drive those positive emotions to create success from joy, excitement and happiness.

The best part about it is you get to choose what those daily habits are. There is not a list you must follow; it can be anything that brings you excitement. 

Many popular rituals that people use include…

  • Listening or Watching to inspirational podcast/video
  • Reading a book
  • Meditating
  • Writing in a journal
  • Reading or Rewriting goals
  • Saying or listening to affirmations
  • Talking with friend or colleague that share similar goals

“Failure is not an event, not a person. Yesterday ended last night.” – Zig Ziglar

The list is endless. Over time you will find yourself doing a handful of rituals everyday because of the success it brings you. The beauty is you can begin any of these today. They are simple and the most effective pieces towards you obtaining the level of success you desire.

There is no reason you must wait to achieve your goals. Do not buy into the limiting belief that you must experience pain or failure to accomplish your dreams. There are people every day doing in months or years what society says takes years or decades. 

That’s the most wonderful part of life is that we get to create our own destiny. We are the creators of our lives and you do not have to wait for anyone or anything. You get the choice to wake up powerful, empowered, filled with confidence and ready to impact the world.

You deserve all the health, wealth, peace, love, joy, abundance and success. Begin feeling that in your heart now. You are the creator of your reality.

Ryan Romano is the Founder of Extreme Producers, a High Performance and Wellness company. He is a TEDx speaker and consultant with a focus on Mindset, Confidence and The Pursuit of Excellence. He has been featured in Thrive Global, The Good Men Project and consulted with universities including University of Alabama and Rutgers. You can find him on instagram @ryromano or website

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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator



Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.


2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.


3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.


4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.


5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.


6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.


7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.


8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.


9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.


10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.


11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.


12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.


13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.


14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.


15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.


16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.


17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.


18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.


19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.


20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.


By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at so you can master your life with more success.

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You’re the manager. You’re the supervisor. You’re the leader. But maybe your people don’t see it that way



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A blueprint for CEOs to draw a disciplined strategy



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Strategic thinking helps CEOs build successful businesses. It helps them establish everlasting enterprises. It is one of the key elements of decision-making. It is different from strategic leadership. It differentiates between leaders from managers.  (more…)

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How to Focus Your Mind on Your Goals in 2023 Constructively

In this world of distractions due to information overload, it has become a big challenge to focus our minds



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