Do you feel stuck in life? Maybe something’s holding you back, but you don’t quite know what it is.
You look at successful people of the world wondering what they did differently. Let’s face it, a lot of us feel held back by our current circumstances and in order to cope we become numb.
But, numb is not the answer. Now is not the time to give up. You’re already going through hell just to get by. Why don’t you channel that pain towards something greater? Once you’re to-the-core hungry, you become an unstoppable force. But first, let’s get real with why you’re still not quite there yet.
Here are 5 reasons you’re still not hungry enough to go all in towards your dreams:
1. You blame everything on others
At times, life will test you beyond your limits. You’ll be left wondering what prompted things to go so far south. And when you’re standing there amidst the ashes, you’ll have the opportunity to either play the victim of your circumstances or rise above.
Whether it be the corruption of a rigged system or the intended evil from others around you, others may in fact be to blame. But, what good does it do to focus all of your attention on the frauds of this world? Instead, decide what’s worth calling out and what’s worth forgetting.
“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.” – J. Michael Straczynski
2. You blame everything on yourself
On the other end of the spectrum, if you fault yourself for everything that’s going wrong, it’ll be slow suicide to your mind. At times, it’s worth it to take a hard look in the mirror and understanding what you could do differently, but give yourself a break.
Sometimes, life is out of your control and you can’t keep beating yourself up. Would you be that cruel to someone else? Why don’t you start treating yourself more like a best friend and less like a punching bag.
3. You ask for permission
So no one gave you permission to do what you really want to do? No one read your mind and decided to hold your hand through the process? Well, so what! If it’s really your dream, you’re not going to sit around waiting for someone to tell you to get started. Once you want it bad enough, you don’t need others’ permission. You’ll just start moving.
“Dream and give yourself permission to envision a You that you choose to be.” – Joy Page
4. You let people get to you
Let’s face it, there will be countless haters, doubters and small-minded individuals that try to deter you from your dreams. When there’s no playbook written out, their opinions might make you think twice. But, they’re often telling you you’re crazy, because they regret not making the sacrifices to work towards something greater themselves.
Nothing hurts more than seeing someone else do what you wish you did. Forget their small minds and focus on becoming the person of your dreams. Trust me, you can laugh at them later.
5. You gave up on what matters most to you
Only you know what really matters to you in this life. Never settle in pursuing just that. You owe it to yourself. Don’t look back knowing that you didn’t listen to your gut when it was telling you to go a different path.
Once you’re truly hungry, you’ll make the sacrifices necessary to pursue your dreams. It won’t matter what others will think, do or say. What will matter is that you’re doing what you were meant to do.
This was a great article at the right time for me. I am so hard on myself for the mistakes that I made and what I should of done. Thanks for the article.
Simply Loved it.! God bless you!
Based on Tip 3 A very good quote someone said to me once…on an entrepreneurial journey It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than what it is for permission. Go make your dreams come true
Great article!
1st and 3rd points are awesome.
Very encouraging!
Thanks George! I’ve definitely had to learn #1 & 3 many times over before they have finally stuck. I swear life will keep trying to teach you things over and over until you get it, whether it takes 3 times or 88. Sometimes, you’ve gotta take a look in the mirror and face your own demons.
How does one improve his own situation when helping others is his passive passion? The harder the help required, the stronger I grow
Thanks for commenting! I want to make sure that I am understanding what you wrote correctly, but I do agree that the more we can help others, the happier and more successful we become. If you look back at the most fulfilling times in your life, they were probably times when you made a lasting impact on others or were focusing on helping someone else. When we achieve success, but it is completely self-serving, there is often unhappiness that follows soon after. This is why adding value to others is so very crucial.
By the second point I burst into tears, love thyself, in the terms you put it, struck home
Yes, it is simply devastating how cruel we can be to ourselves when trying to become successful. But, the most successful people are those who don’t waste time obsessing over their imperfections. I have wasted so much of my life worrying and nitpicking myself, because I care so deeply to improve.
But, It is so worth it to take a step back and realize how incredible you are. If you can love yourself and become confident, your entire life will be so very different. Give yourself permission to be a human with flaws and you won’t be distracted by your shortcomings.
Hi Jessica,
This is just an awesome article. I agree with all your points especially with point no. 1 and 5.
Most of the time, we blame on others for our failure. We never check what went wrong from our own side. And the second most that we gave up n what matters most to us. But we should always remember while giving up that why we started.
Overall an awesome article! Thank you for sharing this with us
Hi Vikash,
Thank you for your kind words! I’ve faced all of these issues myself and thus, I have lived and learned. That is always the best way. But, when we get down to what truly matters, why we started and zero in on our goal, there is nothing that can stop us. Nothing.
Jess