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How To Think, To Get What You Want

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Joel Brown

You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. 😉

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

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Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

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The Psychology of Power: How to Win the Mind Games of Business

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You might think that your business is driven by data, analytics, and perfectly optimized algorithms. But beneath the spreadsheets and KPIs, the business world is driven by something far more primitive: human psychology.

Robert Greene, the mastermind behind The 48 Laws of Power, has spent decades studying how top executives, historical figures, and entrepreneurs navigate strategy. His conclusion? Human behavior is compulsive, obsessive, and entirely predictable if you know what to look for.

Whether you are scaling a startup, navigating corporate politics, or trying to understand why a competitor is outmaneuvering you, success rarely comes down to who works the hardest. It comes down to who understands the social game. Here is a breakdown of Greene’s most potent strategies for mastering the psychology of business.

1. The Art of Concealing Intentions

Is honesty really the best policy in business? According to Greene, the answer is a resounding no—at least, not with everyone.

When dealing with your internal team, transparency is essential. A leader must have a clear vision and communicate it directly so the organization can execute without chaos. However, when it comes to your competitors, complete transparency is a fatal flaw.

If your rivals know exactly where you are headed, what your next product launch looks like, or what your strategy will be in six months, they will mirror you and counter your moves. The game of power is subtle. To win, you must keep your competitors—and sometimes even your clients—on their heels. By concealing your true intentions, you force your rivals into a defensive posture, leaving you in control of the offensive.

2. Why Silence is Your Greatest Leverage

In the corporate world, there is a misconception that the loudest person in the room is the most powerful. Greene argues the exact opposite: talking less creates an aura of power.

When writing The 50th Law with 50 Cent, Greene observed the rapper in high-stakes business meetings. 50 Cent would sit in absolute silence while others talked, causing everyone else in the room to over-explain, backtrack, and ultimately reveal their insecurities.

  • The psychology behind it: When you talk constantly, you signal insecurity and a lack of self-control.

  • The power of silence: When you remain quiet, people project their own anxieties onto you. They wonder what you are thinking. It makes you appear larger, more mysterious, and more authoritative than you actually are.

Every word you say should be strategic. If you cannot control your own mouth, you cannot control your environment.

3. Formlessness: Adapt or Die

Many leaders rise to the top based on a specific strength—maybe it is ruthless aggression, brilliant public speaking, or a populist touch. But holding onto the trait that made you successful is the fastest way to become obsolete.

Borrowing from Machiavelli and Sun Tzu, Greene emphasizes the law of formlessness. The business landscape is shifting constantly; what worked three years ago is likely irrelevant today. If you are rigid in your brand, your personality, or your strategy, the world will pass you by.

Consider a brand like American Apparel, which thrived in the early 2000s on a very specific, nostalgic, 1980s aesthetic. When consumer tastes shifted in 2009, leadership refused to adapt. They clung to the form that brought them initial success, and it ultimately led to their downfall. True power belongs to the leader who can reinvent themselves and change shape to fit the times.

4. Never Outshine the Master (Navigating Ego)

This is arguably the most critical workplace law to engrave into your brain: everyone has an ego, and everyone has insecurities.

If you are an employee working under a boss, your natural instinct is to work incredibly hard, do a brilliant job, and take all the credit to prove your worth. But if you try too eagerly to impress and you end up soaking up all the attention, you will trigger your boss’s insecurities. Unconsciously, they will start viewing you as a threat.

To survive and advance, you must master the nuanced art of letting the person above you take some of the glory.

  • Do the heavy lifting.

  • Present the wins.

  • Let your superior feel as though it was their visionary leadership that made it possible.

It might feel unfair, but reacting emotionally to this dynamic drains your energy. Accept that taking a strategic backseat is simply part of the power game. By stroking the ego of the person above you, you secure your position and quietly build your own leverage.

5. Despise the Free Lunch (and Appeal to Self-Interest)

In business, free is the most expensive mistake you can make. When someone offers you something for free, they almost always want something far more valuable in return. On the flip side, being cheap with your money—refusing to pay your employees well or constantly seeking a bargain—signals weakness and a lack of abundance.

When you need something from a powerful person, do not appeal to their mercy. Do not remind them of a past favor or ask for help out of the goodness of their heart. Instead, appeal strictly to their self-interest.

Powerful people lack two things: time and attention. If your proposal can save them time, organize their chaos, or solve a specific insecurity they have, they will be eating out of the palm of your hand.

The Ultimate Shift: Outward Focus

The single most important skill you can master in business is shifting your focus outward. Stop obsessing over your own needs, your own emotions, and whether people like you. Instead, become a master observer of the social game. Watch the trends, study your competitors, and fiercely analyze the unspoken needs of your clients. When you stop acting out of emotion and start acting out of strategy, the entire game changes.

Here is a powerful breakdown with Mark Brazil and Robert Greene

 

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Why Hustle Culture is Burning Founders Out (And What to Do Instead)

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An entire generation of founders has been conditioned to idolize the “grind.” The dominant philosophy in today’s founder culture centers heavily on sacrifice, pushing to your limits, out-working everyone else, and sheer, ruthless execution.

While building something great absolutely requires push and sacrifice, relying solely on the hustle method often leads to severe long-term consequences. Founders who only know how to grind frequently find themselves financially successful but spiritually and mentally bankrupt. They end up losing the most important things in their lives because they were entirely consumed by a singular goal.

Ultimately, many entrepreneurs accidentally build a prison and call it a business. They find themselves stuck on a hamster wheel, constantly chasing the next milestone without ever feeling like they have achieved enough.

If you have already figured out the basics of business but feel a deep lack of joy—if you are holding on too tight, lacking presence, and feeling like something is “off”—it is time to rethink your operating system. Shifting from a mindset of force to a mindset of alignment can counterintuitively make you happier and more present, while simultaneously causing your business to grow even faster.

The Shift: From Ruthless Execution to Work as Play

What is the fundamental difference between the traditional hustle mindset and the alignment mindset?

  • Execution vs. Play: Hustle culture advocates for ruthless execution, advising founders to just do the work whether they feel like it or not. The alignment philosophy argues that you must find work that feels like play to you, but looks like work to others. Sheer force and ambition are not enough to make a meaningful contribution; you must actually enjoy the act of what you are doing.

  • Time Horizons: The grind mindset focuses heavily on short-term actions, placing extreme importance on what you can force to happen today. Alignment looks at a much longer time horizon, focusing on your life’s work and your unique, long-term contribution to the world.

  • Escaping Competition: Hustle culture teaches that you beat the competition through a massive volume of work. Alignment argues that you escape competition by finding a path so uniquely yours that nobody else can possibly compete with you. You stop playing a game where someone else made the rules, and you start leaning entirely into your authentic self.

The Danger of Force and Fear

Applying constant force to your business ultimately creates a counterforce. When you force things constantly, it often manifests negatively in your daily life. You may find yourself getting easily annoyed in traffic, dealing poorly with strangers, or resenting your partner.

Habits and emotions compound over time. If you compound negative emotions and counterforce daily—constantly swimming against the current instead of finding it and riding it—it leads to a miserable existence. Conversely, compounding joy and inspiration leads to unimaginably great outcomes.

Furthermore, the constant push to outwork others usually stems from fear. Whether it is the fear of losing a client, feeling unworthy, or worrying about not being accepted, pushing out of fear often causes founders to subconsciously attract the exact negative outcomes they are trying to avoid.

Understanding Life Cycles and Alignment

Alignment with your work is not permanent; humans live in cycles that typically last between four to eight years. During each cycle, a core theme—such as a specific work project, a family focus, or a personal struggle—rules your life.

What feels incredibly aligned today might fall completely out of alignment tomorrow as you reach the end of a specific cycle. It takes incredible presence, awareness, and humility to walk away from something you spent eight years building once it is time to discover your next step. But that evolution is a mandatory part of a fulfilling life.

When You Actually Need the Hustle

This isn’t to say that grinding is useless. The advice to take relentless action regardless of how you feel is excellent entry-level advice for young entrepreneurs. In the beginning of your career, you need to put in the reps, gather data, and gain experience just to discover what you actually like, what you are good at, and what the market responds to.

However, once a founder has gathered enough feedback, figured out the basics of business, and gained self-awareness, the raw hustle philosophy becomes a liability. At that stage, you must prioritize fulfillment and lean into what feels aligned. You have the data; now it is time to build something that doesn’t just make money, but actually makes you feel alive.

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Hotel, Apartment or Resort: How to Choose the Most Affordable Stay on Hotels.com

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When searching for accommodation on Hotels.com, many travelers naturally focus on finding the lowest nightly rate. However, the cheapest option is not always the best value. The most affordable stay depends on several factors, including the purpose of the trip, the length of the stay, the number of travelers, included services, cancellation flexibility, and potential extra charges. A budget-friendly solo city break may need a different type of accommodation than a week-long family holiday or a group getaway.

Understanding how hotels, apartments, and resorts compare can help travelers make more informed decisions and avoid unnecessary costs. By combining careful comparison with discounts, offers, and coupon codes, it is often possible to reduce the final booking cost without sacrificing convenience or comfort.

Comparing Hotels, Apartments, and Resorts

From a savings perspective, each accommodation type offers different advantages.

Hotels are often the most practical choice for short stays, business trips, or travelers who value central locations and included services such as daily housekeeping, breakfast, or front-desk support.

Apartments can offer stronger value for families, larger groups, or longer stays because they frequently provide more living space, kitchen facilities, and laundry amenities that help reduce food and service expenses.

Resorts may initially appear more expensive, but the total value can be attractive when amenities such as swimming pools, entertainment, parking, beach access, meals, or on-site activities are included.

Rather than focusing solely on the displayed room rate, travelers should evaluate which option delivers the greatest overall value based on their specific needs and travel style.

Why Checking Promo Codes Matters

Once travelers have narrowed down the most suitable accommodation type on Hotels.com, it is worth taking an additional step before completing the booking. This means checking for active promo codes and special offers.

Travel pricing changes frequently, and discounts that are available one week may disappear the next. This is where coupon platforms are a useful part of the decision-making process. Discoup is one resource for finding updated Hotels.com discount codes and promotions. Instead of searching through multiple websites or testing outdated offers, travelers can use the Hotels.com page on Discoup to review current promotions in one place. Since no single listing is ever complete, it can help to cross-check the same Hotels.com offers against aggregators such as CouponFollow, Picodi or DealsPlus, which serve the same purpose and let you confirm whether a code still looks current before relying on it.

Depending on the booking, these offers may include percentage discounts, seasonal promotions, limited-time deals, or savings tied to specific booking conditions. Equally important, Discoup helps users understand basic details such as expiration dates, eligibility requirements, and minimum spend thresholds before attempting to apply a code. This information allows travelers to make better-informed booking decisions rather than simply chasing the largest advertised discount.

By confirming which promotions are valid and understanding how they apply to a reservation, travelers can more accurately compare accommodation options and calculate the true final cost of their stay.

Evaluate the Total Cost Before Booking

Before confirming a reservation, it is important to evaluate the full price rather than focusing only on the nightly rate.

Taxes, service charges, parking fees, breakfast costs, resort fees, cleaning fees for apartments, and other optional extras can significantly affect the final amount paid.

In some cases, a hotel with a slightly higher nightly rate may end up being less expensive overall because breakfast and parking are included. Similarly, an apartment may appear affordable until cleaning fees are added at the checkout.

Travelers should also review cancellation policies carefully, as flexible bookings can provide additional value if plans change.

If using a Hotels.com promo code, it is important to test the code before payment and verify that the discount has been successfully applied to the final total. Coupon savings are most effective when combined with a full understanding of all costs involved.

A Simple Framework for Smarter Bookings

A practical approach to booking accommodation starts with defining the needs of the trip, then comparing hotels, apartments, and resorts based on total value rather than headline pricing alone.

Travelers can often improve savings further by checking flexible travel dates, reviewing included services, and comparing overall costs before making a decision.

Finally, it is worth verifying whether any Hotels.com offers or coupon codes are available before completing the reservation.

Smart travel savings rarely come from a single tactic. Instead, they are usually the result of careful comparison, good timing, and verified discounts working together. Coupon aggregators can be helpful for reviewing current promotions, but the most effective strategy remains taking the time to compare options carefully and explore available savings opportunities before making the final choice.

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Success Doesn’t Start With a Great Idea. It Starts With Taking Responsibility.

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We Celebrate Success. We Rarely Study the Habits Behind It.

Scroll through social media and you’ll see billion-dollar valuations, inspirational quotes and stories of overnight success. What you rarely see are the thousands of ordinary decisions that made those outcomes possible.

Successful entrepreneurs don’t wake up one morning transformed. They build momentum through consistent action, personal accountability and a willingness to solve difficult problems long before anyone notices.

That may sound simple, but it remains one of the least discussed principles of long-term success.

Motivation Gets You Started. Responsibility Keeps You Going.

Motivation is valuable. It helps people take the first step.

But motivation is temporary. It changes with circumstances, confidence and emotion.

Responsibility is different. Responsibility creates consistency.

The entrepreneurs who continue building businesses during economic uncertainty, market disruption and personal setbacks are rarely those who feel motivated every day. They are the people who continue showing up regardless.

Research into entrepreneurial success consistently suggests that founder characteristics, including resilience, adaptability and long-term behavioural patterns, play a significant role in business outcomes alongside market conditions and access to capital.

The AI Era Has Changed the Rules

Artificial intelligence has dramatically lowered the barriers to entrepreneurship. Today, almost anyone can:

  • build a website;
  • write software;
  • create marketing campaigns;
  • automate administration;
  • analyse competitors.

Technology has become easier. Execution has not. In fact, the widespread availability of AI has made one quality more valuable than ever:

Consistency.

When everyone has access to similar tools, sustainable success increasingly depends upon how effectively individuals apply them over time. 

Technology amplifies discipline. It does not replace it.

Building a Business Means Becoming Someone Different

Many people think entrepreneurship is about creating a company. In reality, it is often about developing the person capable of leading one.

That transformation usually involves learning how to:

  • make decisions with incomplete information;
  • accept responsibility for mistakes;
  • communicate clearly;
  • earn trust;
  • think long term;
  • remain calm during uncertainty.

These qualities cannot be downloaded. They are developed through experience. Business growth and personal growth often happen simultaneously.

Trust Is Earned Long Before Success Is Visible

Customers rarely buy products alone. They buy confidence.

Employees join organisations they believe in.

Investors back founders they trust.

Banks lend to businesses they understand.

Professional company formation, transparent governance and reliable leadership all contribute to that confidence.

According to Companies House, 801,871 companies were incorporated during the financial year ending 31 March 2025, bringing the UK register to approximately 5.43 million companies.

Starting a company has become relatively straightforward. Building one that earns lasting trust remains one of entrepreneurship’s greatest challenges.

Expert Perspective

The relationship between personal responsibility and business success becomes increasingly apparent as organisations grow.

According to UK entrepreneurial leadership expert Robert Engeham, CEO of Your Company Formations Ltd:

“One of the biggest misconceptions about entrepreneurship is that success begins with the perfect business idea. In my experience, it begins when individuals accept complete responsibility for their outcomes. Business growth usually follows personal growth, not the other way around.”

Engeham believes this lesson has become even more important in the age of artificial intelligence.

“AI can accelerate productivity, automate repetitive tasks and generate extraordinary ideas. It cannot replace integrity, resilience or leadership. Those qualities remain the real competitive advantage behind every successful business.”

Success Is Built Quietly

Most successful businesses are not built through dramatic moments. They are built through thousands of small decisions.

Answering one more email.

Improving one more process.

Speaking to one more customer.

Learning one more skill.

These actions rarely attract attention individually. Over time, they become extraordinary.

As James Clear wrote in Atomic Habits, remarkable results are often the product of consistent incremental improvement rather than dramatic change.

Final Thoughts

There has never been a better time to start a business.

Technology is more accessible.

Knowledge is freely available.

Artificial intelligence is creating opportunities that previous generations could scarcely imagine.

Yet the qualities most closely associated with long-term success remain remarkably unchanged.

Discipline.

Responsibility.

Integrity.

Resilience.

Ideas may start businesses. Character builds them.

References

Research examining startup success found that founder personality traits and diverse founding teams are significant predictors of long-term outcomes.

Companies House – Annual Report and Accounts 2024–25 (801,871 incorporations; approximately 5.43 million registered companies).

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