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Doing The Right Thing Is Always The Right Thing.

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The headline of this article has been the subject of a lot of my recent success. It’s a phrase made famous of late by Gary Vaynerchuk although I’m pretty sure he didn’t invent it.

The creator of that phrase is unknown to me but feel free to tell me in the comments below.

I started hearing this phrase a lot and its simplicity is profound. Whenever you don’t know what action to take, you can use this phrase to rescue your arse.

Here’s a list of decisions I’ve had to make recently:

–    Do I tell people I’m quitting my job?

–    Do I throw abuse at someone who wrote something nasty about me?

–    Do I leave my used coffee cup in the supermarket trolley?

–    Do I reply to a cold reach out message with some tips in a rude tone?

In each of these scenarios, I had a choice and I used the idea of doing the right thing, as always being the right thing, as my answer to each question.

Doing the right thing made my decision-making process so much easier.

I write a lot about decision making because I believe it sucks away all of the energy that we need to be creative if we let it.

What if making decisions could be a lot easier?

Well, it can be. The answer is always this: “Doing the right thing is always the right thing.”

Deep down you know what the right thing is and you know good from bad. The knowledge you need to make better decisions comes from doing the right thing and seeing the result.

The results that come from doing the right thing are crystal clear and they’ll give you the evidence you need to keep on doing the right thing.

This is not about being a do-gooder; it’s about being human and getting what you want while serving others at the same time.

Doing the right thing is how you become the person you want to be in the future.

We don’t become who we want to be because we do the right thing and the wrong thing. Whatever success looks like for you, doing the right thing will get you there faster.

“The delusion is that cutting a few corners and not always doing the right thing is a must for success”

This is a big fucking lie.

Doing the right thing will bring the right people into your life so you can succeed quicker. The person you want to be doesn’t compromise on who they are and how they can help people. Selfishness is holding you back, not doing the right thing.

I remember having a sleepless night last week because someone published an article about me that I interpreted (and others did too) to be an attack on me.

It was a horrible day.

I felt the good person I thought I was fading into darkness.

I had so much rage that was ready to explode. Then I had an epiphany:

Doing the right thing is always the right thing.

The right thing was to contact the person who said these harmful things and treat them like a human being. This meant listening to them and telling them who I was afterwards. I had to be prepared for the outcome being both positive and negative.

I resisted the temptation to get angry and listened to my opposition. Doing this helped me to learn a hell of a lot about myself.

I did the right thing and told them I would support them either way, even if I didn’t get what I want.

Hearing those words come out of my mouth felt weird and strangely liberating.

Because I did the right thing, my so-called opponent did what I wanted. They realized I was a good person and we ended up joining the same side.

“Doing the right thing brings people closer to you – even your haters, opponents and critics”

Where to from here?

Commit to embracing the idea that doing the right thing is always the right thing. Play with this idea for a week. Do nothing but the right thing even if it means you lose, don’t get what you want or have to be uncomfortable because of the decision.

I’m confident that once you’ve experienced what it’s like to do the right thing, you’ll live that way from now on.

Caveat: sometimes you’ll mess up and do the wrong thing. That’s okay. You weren’t an immaculate conception and neither was I. We’re human after all and we will stuff up.

It gets easier as you go along. Doing the right thing is always the right thing. It feels good, it’s the right thing to do, it brings you closer to others and it will transform your life.

If you want to increase your productivity and learn some more valuable life hacks, then join my private mailing list on timdenning.net

Aussie Blogger with 500M+ views — Writer for CNBC & Business Insider. Inspiring the world through Personal Development and Entrepreneurship You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.com

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A plateau is not a full stop; it’s a comma that allows you to pause, reflect, and shift gears

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In the pursuit of personal and professional growth, plateaus are inevitable. They appear when progress seems to halt, despite your continuous efforts. But remember, a plateau is not a full stop; it’s a comma that allows you to pause, reflect, and shift gears. This article provides six powerful strategies to overcome plateaus and achieve breakthrough success.

1. Find Out the Root Cause

When facing a plateau, there is likely something causing you to sabotage your progress. Identify the root cause. What is sabotaging your progress? Examine your daily routine and how you spend your time. Are you wasting time on unnecessary activities? Or are you taking on too many tasks that you can’t handle?

Often, adding more tasks overloads your already tight routine and distracts you from focusing on the most important tasks. Therefore, often eliminating unnecessary activity will work to overcome plateaus. However, be cautious of not doing things right, such as tasks you have not yet undertaken or missing something. What actions do you need to take or improve to achieve your goal? Are you avoiding them, or have you not started yet?

2. Never Tolerate Problems

Once you’ve identified the root cause, never tolerate problems. If you tolerate them, you’ll end up staying stuck. You get what you tolerate. Once you recognize the problem you’re facing, never tolerate it. Instead, address and improve the situation.

3. Focus on a 100% Solution and 0% Problems

To overcome a challenge, it’s essential to plan how to get through it. Yet, people often find themselves asking, ‘Why is it bad?’ or ‘What is wrong with it?’ Questions of this nature limit our thinking, leading our brains to generate responses like ‘Because you’re not good enough’ or ‘Everything is wrong with you.’ These limited answers tend to resonate with the situation and drag you down further.

Instead, ask empowering questions without limits, such as ‘What is not perfect yet, and how can I turn things around while making a more positive impact?’ By asking unlimited empowering questions, you’ll shift your focus from the problem to the solution. Additionally, you will also notice that asking empowering questions can expand available options and allow you to see from an angle you couldn’t see before.

Focusing on problems rarely yields positive outcomes. The key to positive results lies in concentrating on the solution. The next time you face adversity and notice getting caught by unresourceful thoughts, snap out of it and direct your focus to a 100% solution and 0% problems.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” – Henry Ford

4. Cultivate Success-Driven Traits

Identify the traits you need to have and get rid of to become the person you aspire to be. Consider your specific goals – for instance, attracting positive relationships. To achieve this, note down the traits you need to embrace, such as being open-minded, gentle, healthy, and treating others the way you want to be treated.

Cultivate a positive mindset. Simultaneously, get rid of traits like criticizing others, having a short temper, and engaging in unhealthy habits like taking drugs.

Learn from individuals who have achieved similar goals. Study their traits, both the ones they have and those they’ve consciously avoided. Implement these traits to align with the person you want to become.

Once you have your lists of traits to embrace and eliminate, diligently follow them. Place the list on your desk or the door of your room, ensuring you read it at least once a day to reinforce your commitment to these traits.

5. Track Your Habits

Carry a notepad to track your habits throughout the day, especially those contributing to plateaus, as well as your new habits or traits aligned with achieving your goals. For instance, if your root cause is excessive internet use, record instances of mindless scrolling on social media. Note when you engage, the emotional state prompting it, and the approximate duration.

Calculate the total minutes wasted at the end of the day. This habit tracking makes you aware of the emotions triggering these behaviors (stress, boredom, and frustration) and the time wasted.

Additionally, track positive new habits, like reading good books and exercising. Document what you’ve learned from the book and the time spent exercising. This practice helps you build new positive habits by enabling you to compare today’s results with those from yesterday or a week ago. 

Moreover, consistently sticking to new habits for around 18 months transforms them into lifelong habits. Even if you take breaks, you will find yourself naturally returning to those habits.

6. See Obstacles as Opportunities

Every obstacle can be an opportunity to turn things around. If the economy is in a downturn, it’s time to recognize it as an opportunity to thrive while everyone else is struggling and focused on the problem. If someone makes fun of you or causes you trouble, ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this experience?’

Alternatively, consider that the person underrating you is setting low expectations, which are easier to exceed. If your business receives a bad review from a customer, see it as free feedback that guides you on how to improve and take your business to the next level.

Always try to see different angles that others may overlook. This perspective can reveal aspects you might be missing. When you view a problem as an opportunity, it has the potential to foster growth.

In the journey toward success, plateaus are just temporary pauses, not dead ends. So, keep moving, keep growing, and make your breakthrough.

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