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A Tim Ferriss Like Japan Trip Rebuilt Me – Here’s Why

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“Art imitates life so you must experience life to create art” – Unknown (possibly Tim Ferriss)

This quote is the reason why I recently took a holiday to Japan and why from now on I will travel more. All of us have a dream, a vision, a goal, a business which is another word for our own “art.”

Anything worth doing has an element of creativity attached to it which in essence is art. While on the way to Japan listening to the Tim Ferriss podcast, I heard this quote above. I realized that my life’s work had fizzled out somewhat because I needed to experience life more.

This whole blogging thing only works when I experience life – travel is the best way to do that. Second to that, I have been listening to Tim Ferriss’s podcast for years, and he talks a lot about Japan and how the culture can really positively impact your life.

Hearing this advice second hand just wasn’t good enough for me. That’s why, in Timmy style, I booked an unplanned trip to Japan with only two days notice. It was what I called a Tim Ferriss like trip to Japan. I wanted to transcend my current circumstances and boy did I do that!

Things before Japan had become a bit stale. I wasn’t quite me and I needed rebuilding again. It was time to self-disrupt and grow more as a person. I’d stopped growing and that’s why I felt off. Japan changed all of that.

Here’s how this Japan trip rebuilt me:

We’re all the same: we’re all loved.

Sitting at the airport in Australia I saw everyone saying goodbye to their loved ones. I did the same and said goodbye to my family and girlfriend. I sat there for around ten minutes and realized that we’re all loved by someone.

We all have someone who would be sad or miss us if we didn’t return home. All of us want to come home safe and see our loved ones again. While tragedy can strike, these trips to places like Japan are a must – they’re part of our journey in life.

These journeys we take are how we find ourselves. Without travel, we become lost and can’t understand how we fit into this world.

Knowing I’m loved and knowing the importance of these journeys helped rebuild me.

Japan can show you what is wrong too.

So far I’ve made Japan sound like it’s all roses – it’s not. I saw people working ridiculous hours. I saw Japanese people who had become obsessed with meaningless westernized brands. I saw women who still appeared to be second class compared with men.

Japan didn’t show me perfection; it showed me reality and that means that there are always going to be things that need to change. Each of us can form part of that change.

Objectification of women has changed men in a bad way.

For some reason, Japan gave me immense clarity. I noticed that me (and all other men) have become hardwired to look at women’s bodies. Even the nicest most loyal men who treat women well have been affected. I noticed this unconscious behavior in myself while in Australia and began questioning it.

Do we need to look at women in such a physical way? Is it really necessary? Is this addiction taking up so much of our creative genius and potential?

The answer to all of these questions, after Japan, was that a problem exists and this addiction is not serving as well. I’m not proud of this fact and I for one plan on not only being aware of it but also changing it. This idea helped rebuild me.

The Samurai showed the benefits of discipline.

While being an Aussie tourist walking through the grounds of the Imperial Palace, I saw some of the emperors Samurai training. The facility was surrounded by fences but being a tall guy, I could still see over the fence.

I found these Samurai to be cool because they were laser-focused on what they were doing. The Samurai had purpose and precision accuracy. Their discipline taught them patience and you could see the courage in their actions. Everything was thought through and nothing was left to chance.

The Samurai helped me rebuild my life by reminding me of what discipline can do when we embrace it. A disorganized mind combined with actions that are all over the place results in a lot of nothingness. Start with being a master at one thing instead of trying to be mediocre at lots of things.

Concrete Jungle vs. Nature

Before Japan, I was obsessed with visiting places like San Fran and New York to see big concrete cities and skyscrapers. Now that I’ve been to Japan I’ve realized that I’m completely bored of that. Going to My Fuji and some of the mountains in Kyoto is far more impactful.

Concrete jungles are all the same once you’ve seen a few. They all have lots of box’s – some tall, some wide, some full of lights and some full of views. When you see enough of these, you no longer become impressed by them.

Nature is impossible to top though. No matter how many lakes, mountains, beaches or forests I visit, I never get sick of them. That’s because it’s in our human DNA to feel a connection with nature. Nature is a place we can relax and recharge the batteries.

Japan taught me that for the rest of my travel adventures I am going to focus on beautiful places that encompass nature instead of man-made structures and fake tourist attractions like theme parks. Knowing what nature means to me has helped me to rebuild myself.

See as many places as you can.

This trip to Japan made me see that I get bored after around five days in one country. I’ve discovered that it’s ideal to see as many places as you can. The more of this Earth you experience, the more your life changes.

Don’t forget attention to detail.

Japanese people, I learned, are obsessed with attention to detail. Everything from the signage at train stations to the way they present food has been thought of.

“It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being purposeful”

It’s the little things that the Japanese people do that make you fall in love with them by the end of your stay in their country.

Manners feel good.

I quickly saw that Japanese people are very kind and have amazing manners. They say thank you so many times. As you walk out of a restaurant, the whole team say thank you like a giant choir. Being grateful and acknowledging each other is at the heart of their culture.

You can’t help but smile when you witness this way of treating one another. Not every stranger you meet in a foreign country is trying to commit a terrorist attack.

All I can say is manners just feel good and it put’s you in a positive mood. Plus, you walk around with a big fat smile on your face and that feels refreshing.

Connection through transport.

Japanese culture feels very connected and that’s partly to do with their very efficient transport system. There’s a subway station on practically every corner that’s affordable. Trains run every few minutes, so there’s never any need to run to the subway station to catch a train.

The bullet trains allow you to skip between states or regions in a very short amount of time. No need to board a plane or go through the razzle-dazzle of airport bureaucracy gone mad (thanks to perceived terrorism and the news).

While sitting on the Shinkansen (bullet train) to Kyoto, I saw families that were on their way to visit one another. They looked so relaxed and sat there enjoying the countryside of Japan as I did. It was a regular occurrence made possible by a fantastic transport system that is orderly and well thought out.

Technology is exhausting.

The negative side of technology is prominent in Japan. There are cities that are littered with giant LED screens, bright lights and technology on every corner. In these places, I felt unable to think clearly and the bright lights made me feel like I suffered from Attention Deficit Disorder.

There was technology within the toilet seat, on the plane, at restaurants and ugly vending machines selling fat causing sugar water on every corner.

On the flip side, what I loved about Japan was that talking loudly on a not so smart phone was prohibited in most places and there were locations where phones were non-existent. Japanese people seem to know how to balance life between being “ON” and being “OFF” when it comes to their phone.

“Instead of wasting your life away on your phone, Japan teaches you to become present and appreciate the here and now”

You notice things that you normally wouldn’t where I’m from in the Western World. With so much empty space, Japan is a great place to rebuild yourself. The rebuilding process needs thinking time away from phones.

Minimalism and being space conscious is beautiful.

The Japanese people are obsessed with being space conscious. They have double-decker car spaces, cube-shaped cars, cars made for people who must be three-foot tall, hotel rooms where you can barely open the door and space-saving retail shops like you’ve never seen.

Time is money in Japan.

My plane was on time to the second. Every train was on time. The tour guide at Mt Fuji was on time. The hotel cleaning was to the minute and so was the checkout. Time is money and it’s one resource we should take more seriously. Time gives you the opportunity to rebuild and grow.

Low energy states can be healed by travel.

More than a year since my last break, my energy levels in my career were at an all-time low. I had headaches every day and felt uninspired to a degree. It turns out all I needed was a holiday to rebuild.

Your body guides you.
Your heart guides you.
Your mind guides you.

This Japan trip taught me to take time to relax and recharge. Don’t ignore your body ever!

Climbing Japanese mountains is a metaphor for life.

I climbed this mountain in Kyoto. Halfway up I wanted to quit. I thought to myself “I’ve seen enough. Why go to the summit?”

That’s the problem right there. When we’re working on our goals, we give up too soon. We settle for okay instead of amazing. If this mountain were your life, would you give up when it got a bit hard? I’m telling you not to.

All the growth and everything you ever wanted comes from pushing that extra 2% to reach the top of the mountain. The feeling at the top is indescribable. Only those who are prepared to go the extra mile will know what it feels like to look down from the top.

Two more things to remember:

1. Once you reach the top, there’s always another mountain.

2. You must also help someone else climb the mountain to reach your full potential. Living is giving.

This mountain I climbed in Japan taught me so much about rebuilding my life (and yes I love mountain analogies).

There’s no place like a hot spring to contemplate life and rebuild your life.

While lying in a hot spring (Onsen) in Northern Tokyo, I sat there and thought I was going to be enjoying a relaxing time in a hot spring. What no one told me is that my entire life would replay before me. The onsen became a place to contemplate everything that had transpired thus far.

The hot water from the springs has a certain effect on your mind. I often find that my best thinking and ideas come from a shower and I’ve heard other people talk about this same experience.

“The hot spring sent my mind into deep thinking that I’ll never forget”

To enter a Japanese hot spring, you must be fully naked. You can’t bring clothes, material possessions, technology or a corporate mask. There’s nowhere to hide and no phone to look at. You sit there naked and bare your soul. It’s the one time where people can see you for exactly who you are.

Before contemplating my own life, I observed the men around me. Many of them seemed to be contemplating their life. Some looked tired and worn out from years of slaving away and doing hard labor.

Many of them looked like they were wasting away from years of working too hard and not remembering what truly matters. It was as if they had finally discovered what matters but that it was now too late. Then I saw the exact opposite – young men who had their whole lives ahead of them.

They too would sit there and weigh up their options. Should they follow their dream or fall for the Western myth that is collecting useless objects of little value? There were times where I wanted to answer this question for them.

I realized after a lot of thought that these young men had to come to that realization themselves. When you discover these truths of life yourself, everything changes and the principles stick.

I saw these young men by the end of my time in the hot spring for who they were and what they could become (their potential). I finally understood that they too could change the world in some impactful way if they chose too. We all have that choice and it’s ours to make.

“This stark comparison between the older men and the younger men was one of the most profound lessons of my Japan trip”

Both generations of men also looked up at the sky while doing this deep thinking. I found that quite bizarre and all of them did it.

What’s strange is that I also looked up at the sky without consciously being aware. Once I’d finished observing the men in the hot spring, I turned my thinking over to my own life. I had truth bomb after truth bomb as I sat there. I found myself running to the change room every 30 minutes to write stuff down.

What I had achieved so far and what I needed to do next became so clear. I sat in the hot spring proud of who I’ve become. For the first time in my life, I got to sit there and appreciate everything I’d put out into the world. I hadn’t stopped to see how far I’d come before this moment.

I was so focused on the present and trying to gain future success that I didn’t even know how proud I could be of myself. This fact has become the foundation of me going through the rebuilding phase yet again after five years since my last major self-renovation.

In summary….

Everyone reading this blog post has the opportunity to rebuild their life and consistently self-disrupt themselves. Going to places like Japan gives you the opportunity to experience life and see how far you’ve come. You can’t be ON 24/7 like those picture quotes tell you to be.

Once in a while, you need to be proud of who you are and think about who you can become.

Japan is a perfect place to do this and rebuild your life. Stay true to yourself and inspire others.

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Stop Waiting to Become the Person Your Purpose Needs

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I ran a workshop in Bali on living out your purpose, and the same thing kept coming up.

People could talk about impact all day. They could talk about who they wanted to become. Then you asked them what they were actually doing this week, and the room got quiet.

That is usually the whole problem.

We act like the next season of our life is going to arrive once we feel ready. It does not work like that. You become the person first. Then the life has somewhere to go.

I do not mean that in a mystical way. I mean it the way Scripture talks about it. Put off the old self. Put on the new. Renew your mind. Then live like it.

Most of us already know why we are stuck

It is not because the market is full.

It is because last year’s version of you is still making this year’s decisions.

That guy was useful. He got you here. He also has a habit of hiding, delaying, and calling it strategy. You say you want the company, the marriage, the platform, the stronger body. Then you wait for a better week. You wait for confidence. You wait for someone to tap you on the shoulder and tell you it is time.

If you keep that up for another decade, you do not get a new life. You get a longer version of this one.

So the first honest move is pretty simple. That old way of operating does not get to keep running the show. Thank God for what it taught you. Then stop letting it set the standard.

Purpose is more practical than people make it

In that workshop I gave four questions. They sound basic. They are not, if you answer them without performing.

What do you love? Not what sounds impressive. What would you suffer for.

What are you good at right now? You can learn more later. If you aim so high that you never feel any progress, you will quit.

What problem can you actually help with? Teaching counts. Building counts. Leading counts. It does not have to save the whole planet. It does have to serve someone.

How does this make money? People at purpose events hate that question. I still ask it. If nothing is coming in, the thing dies. Sales is not unspiritual. It is how the work stays alive. If you cannot sell, hire someone who can.

Where those four answers overlap, you are getting close to purpose. Not a brand statement. A direction you can walk.

And you probably will not have one purpose for life. You will have seasons. You work with what you know now. That is enough to start.

Write it down like a real week, not a quote

“More freedom” is not a plan.

Write what the next season actually looks like. What you are building. What a normal month feels like. What you will not do anymore. Who you are responsible for. What Tuesday looks like when nobody is watching.

If you want a team, say team. If you want dinner at home, say dinner. If you want to publish, say publish.

Vague goals let the old self hide. Specific ones make it obvious where you are lying to yourself.

This is stewardship. You aim. Then you take the next clear step. Your current bank account does not get to veto the assignment.

You do not need the finished version. You need the one who will start.

This is where years disappear.

People stand outside the thing and try to become impressive enough to deserve it. They watch videos. They design the logo. They wait until they feel like the person who should be doing this.

You need the person who will record the first video. Make the offer. Have the conversation. Lead one person. Send the thing before it is pretty.

Faith without works is dead. A lot of us use that verse on other people and then sit on our own calling until we feel anointed.

Clarity usually shows up after you move. You will not see step four while you are still arguing with step one.

Look at the gap and do not dress it up

There is you today.

Then there is the person for whom this next season is normal. Not famous. Faithful.

What does that person finish? What will they not put up with? How fast do they decide? How do they talk when they are tired? What do they do after a win? What do they do after they blow it?

Now write what you actually do.

That part is uncomfortable. It should be. If you will not tell the truth there, you will keep buying courses so you do not have to.

The issue is usually not talent. It is the lowest standard you still allow when nobody is looking.

Practice the new standard in the life you already have

You do not get a new life and then start acting different.

You act different while the room still looks the same. Same bills. Same calendar. Same unfinished text. Different follow-through.

That stretch is the work. Most people cannot handle being faithful in an unfinished situation, so they go back to matching the old life. Then they say the vision was unrealistic.

Keep one promise. Decide faster. Tell the truth sooner. Publish the imperfect thing. Stop writing essays about why you cannot begin.

If you want to know whether something works, do not spend three months decorating the plan. Ask how you could find out in a week. An offer. Three conversations. One ugly version shipped.

The person polishing the first draft for half a year loses to the person who shipped ten rough ones and learned.

If it takes five minutes, do it now. Sometimes what we call discernment is just stalling with better language.

And if it starts working, do not get soft. Comfort is how good men drift. When it feels easy, raise the standard.

Doubt is not automatically God closing the door

You decide, and then the old habits show up. You want to research instead of send it. You get foggy. You pick a fight. You feel behind.

That does not always mean you missed it. Sometimes it just means the old way is losing its job.

Take the fear to God. Then do the next right thing anyway. You do not have to feel like that man to obey like him.

There will also be seasons where you outgrow something that used to fit. The offer. The role. The way you have been showing up. It still gets applause, and it still feels tight. Staying there because it once worked is how you get successful and restless at the same time.

What to do with this

Answer the four questions on paper.

Write the season in real-life detail.

Write who you would have to be for that season to be normal.

Tell the truth about the gap.

Then do the smallest thing that puts you in the work, even if the evidence still looks like last year.

Six months from now those days are gone either way. I would rather you spend them becoming the person your purpose actually requires than waiting for a feeling that never comes.

This is a LIVE recording from a workshop I held in Bali speaking into living out your purpose

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Books Like Think and Grow Rich: 10 That Actually Earn the Comparison

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Napoleon Hill’s book has outsold almost everything in its category for ninety years. These next ten are the ones worth reading next — starting with the one that answers the question Hill never asked.

Think and Grow Rich came out in 1937, in the middle of the Depression, and it has never really gone away. Thirteen principles. Definiteness of purpose. The Master Mind. A burning desire backed by a plan and a refusal to quit. Whole industries of motivational speaking have been built out of that structure, and most of the success books published since are variations on it.

One thing is worth knowing before you go looking for more of the same. Hill’s authority rests on a story: that Andrew Carnegie commissioned him in 1908 to spend twenty years studying five hundred successful men. Hill started telling that story after Carnegie died in 1919, and Carnegie’s biographer, David Nasaw, has said he found no evidence the two ever met. Hill’s own authorized biographers acknowledged that an earlier Carnegie book of his was “largely fiction.”

The advice is still powerful. Persistence and clarity of aim do not stop working because the pedigree was invented. But it is a useful frame for what follows, because the honest question underneath Think and Grow Rich is not “how do I get more” — it is “what actually produces a life that works.” Several of the books below answer that better than Hill did.

The first one answers a question Hill never got around to asking.

1. GRP The Golden  Rule Paradox — The Real Secret to Success, Happiness, and a Better World

Ross Fischer · Why it’s first

Hill’s book tells you how to get what you want. It is almost entirely silent on what happens once you have it, and on whether the thing you were chasing does what you expected.

GRP The Golden Rule Paradox opens exactly there. Its first pages describe a well known NFL quarterback, who won the biggest game of his career, yet found himself thinking, in the middle of the celebration, is that all there is? GRP shows that this is not an outlier. It is a repeating pattern, based on 3,000 years of human history.

GRP inverts the success genre’s core assumption. Look after yourself first and the returns shrink. Point the same energy outward and they arrive, from directions you were not watching. He calls it a paradox because it is the precise reverse of what modern culture teaches today: “To be happy, you need x”. If that were the case then once we got what we want we would all be content! But as we well know… our minds work the opposite.

However what truly makes us happy, is when we do for others first!

What makes GRP more than an assertion is the range of the evidence — nine years of it, moving through psychology, medicine, history and more; Adam Grant’s data on why generous professionals cluster at both the bottom and the top of performance rankings; how GRP affects our health and longevity. In later chapters, GRP changes the paradigm from personal growth, to the effects on institutions: financial markets, social media, politics and more. Fischer is also a working entrepreneur with more than thirty years building companies and training sales people, and he writes about his own failures with a candor Hill never attempted: a business that collapsed, two houses lost in 2008, a month where he spent unable to get out of bed.  In fact, how he was able to rebound out of that darkest period, is the foundation of GRP.  In the end, the book makes a claim that is powerful—and readers have agreed:

An idea so simple it feels like common sense. Yet so profound, it has the power to change the way you see everything

Read it if: you enjoy the success canon, with two added ingredients: How you achieve that success is more important than the achievement itself , and how that success applies to the world around you is what truly makes us content.

Get GRP The Golden  Rule Paradox on Amazon

2. The Richest Man in Babylon

George S. Clason, 1926 · The one that changed the most behavior

Clason wrote these as pamphlets for banks and insurance companies, and they were later collected into a book. They are parables set in ancient Babylon, and the setting is entirely invented, and none of that matters.

What matters is that the advice is concrete in a way Hill’s rarely is. Pay yourself first: a tenth of everything you earn, before anything else. Control your expenditures. Make your gold work. Guard it against loss by taking advice only from people competent in the matter at hand.

If Think and Grow Rich is about the state of mind, this is about the mechanics, and it is the one on this list most likely to change what you actually do on payday.

Read it if: you want a rule you can follow on Friday rather than a philosophy.

3. How to Win Friends and Influence People

Dale Carnegie, 1936 · The exact contemporary

Published one year before Hill’s book, and still the better one. Carnegie’s material is about the part of success that happens between people: remembering names, arguing less, letting the other person feel the idea was theirs.

The reason it has outlasted almost everything from its era is that Carnegie noticed something Hill did not. Most of what people call ambition is actually a hunger to feel important, and the fastest route to any outcome that involves other human beings is to satisfy that hunger in them rather than demanding it for yourself.

Read closely, it is a book about attention — where you point it and what happens when you do. Which makes it the closest ancestor on this list to the argument at number one.

Read it if: you only read one book from the 1930s, make it this one.

4. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Stephen R. Covey, 1989 · The modern rewrite of the whole genre

Covey’s opening move is the most important thing in the book. He went back through two hundred years of American success literature and found a break: the older material was about character — integrity, humility, industry — and the newer material was about personality, technique and image. He argued the field had gone shallow, and set out to put it back.

The seven habits themselves are well known. Be proactive. Begin with the end in mind. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. What is easy to miss is the sequence: private victory before public victory, and no shortcut through it.

It is the most demanding book on this list and the most rewarding, and its diagnosis — that success writing drifted from character to appearance — has only become more obviously right.

Read it if: you want the version of this material that treats you as an adult.

5. The Science of Getting Rich

Wallace D. Wattles, 1910 · Where Hill’s tradition starts

A hundred pages, written twenty-seven years before Think and Grow Rich, and the direct ancestor of most of it. Wattles claims there is a “certain way” of thinking and acting that produces wealth, available to anyone who applies it.

The surprise for modern readers is how insistent he is on action. Do, today, everything that can be done today, in the place where you already are — the visualization is supposed to point the work, not replace it. It is a much less passive book than its descendants.

Public domain, so it costs nothing.

Read it if: you want to see the headwater of the whole river.

6. As a Man Thinketh

James Allen, 1903 · Thirty pages, no filler

Allen was an English clerk who left his job to write and died four years later. His argument is that a man is literally what he thinks, that character is the sum of thought, and that circumstance grows from thought the way a plant grows from seed.

He offers no technique and makes no promises about money. It is closer to a moral treatise than a manual, and it is the least commercial thing in this entire genre.

Read it if: you want the idea before anyone worked out how to sell it.

7. The Millionaire Next Door

Thomas J. Stanley & William D. Danko, 1996 · The research answer

Stanley and Danko went and looked. They surveyed people with real net worth and found that the American millionaire, in the aggregate, was not the person on the magazine cover. He drove a used vehicle, lived in a house he had been in for years, and had never earned a spectacular income.

The finding that sticks is the distinction between income and wealth. Plenty of high earners are broke, because consumption scales with pay. The accumulators were the ones who kept the gap open.

Two caveats worth keeping. The data is a 1990s snapshot, and the methodology has been criticized for selection effects. The core observation about spending and accumulation has held up anyway.

Read it if: you want the empirical version of Clason’s rule.

8. The Psychology of Money

Morgan Housel, 2020 · The best modern entry

Nineteen short chapters on why intelligent people make terrible financial decisions. Housel’s central claim is that doing well with money has almost nothing to do with what you know and almost everything to do with how you behave, and that behavior is not teachable through spreadsheets.

He is very good on the things the older books ignore entirely: luck and risk as the same thing viewed from different sides, the enormous role of the era you happened to be born into, and the fact that the highest return money buys is control over your own time.

That last idea is the one that quietly dismantles the premise of half this list.

Read it if: you want one book from the last decade and you want it to be the smartest one.

9. Atomic Habits

James Clear, 2018 · What Hill’s “persistence” chapter should have been

Hill devotes a chapter to persistence and essentially tells you to have more of it. Clear’s book is the operational version: how the behavior actually gets installed.

Make it obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying. Change the environment rather than relying on willpower. And the reframe that does the most work — decide who you are trying to become, and let each small action be a vote for that identity, rather than chasing an outcome and hoping the habit follows.

It is the most practically useful book on this list by a distance.

Read it if: you know what to do and cannot get yourself to do it consistently.

10. Rich Dad Poor Dad

Robert Kiyosaki with Sharon Lechter, 1997 · Included with reservations

It belongs here because it is the book most often bought alongside Think and Grow Rich, and because one idea in it genuinely reframes things for a lot of readers: the distinction between assets that put money in your pocket and liabilities that take it out, and the observation that most people acquire the second while believing they are acquiring the first.

Read it with the same skepticism you should bring to Hill. Kiyosaki declined for years to identify the “rich dad” whose advice frames the book, journalists who tried to verify the man’s existence could not, and the specific investment advice has been sharply criticized by financial writers. The conceptual frame is the value. The particulars are not.

Note that Sharon Lechter is the co-author and is routinely left off the cover conversation.

Read it if: you want the asset-versus-liability idea, and you can take the rest with salt.

Where to start

For the mechanics of money, read Clason then Housel. That pairing will do more for your finances than the rest of the list combined.

For the mechanics of behavior, read Clear.

For the part Think and Grow Rich left out entirely — what the pursuit costs, and what happens when you get there — start with GRP The Golden Rule Paradox. Hill wrote a book about how to acquire. Fischer wrote the one about what it actually pays.

Frequently asked questions

Is Think and Grow Rich still worth reading?

Yes, as the foundational text of the genre, provided you know that Hill’s Carnegie story has never been substantiated and that his case studies should be treated as illustrative rather than documentary.

What should I read after Think and Grow Rich?

Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People for the interpersonal half, Clason for the financial mechanics, and GRP for the question of whether the goal itself was the right one.

Which book is most like Think and Grow Rich?

Wattles’s The Science of Getting Rich is the closest in spirit and predates it by twenty-seven years. Hill’s structure and much of his framing come directly out of that tradition.

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The Blueprint to Greatness: 6 Success Lessons from Drake

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When we talk about modern success, it is hard to ignore the astronomical rise of Drake. Beyond the Grammy awards, the record-breaking Billboard hits, and the sold-out stadium tours, there is a masterclass in mindset, manifestation, and relentless work ethic.

For entrepreneurs, creators, and visionaries looking to leave a mark, Drake’s approach to his craft offers invaluable lessons.

Here are six core principles extracted from Drake’s journey that you can apply to your own pursuit of greatness.

1. Cherish the “Who Is This?” Moment

When you are first starting out, it is easy to become impatient. You want the accolades, the recognition, and the massive audience right out of the gate. But skipping the struggle means missing out on the most vital part of the journey.

“Don’t ever not be present in your ‘who is this’ moment, because you’re going to be chasing that moment for the rest of your career—trying to keep people as interested as they were when they felt like they were one of the only people listening to you.”

The Takeaway: If you are a new artist or a budding entrepreneur, embrace the grind of obscurity. The hunger and innovation you possess when you are trying to get noticed are the exact tools that will build your empire. Be present.

2. Aim to Be the “First You”

Society often measures success by comparison. We try to become the “next” Steve Jobs, the “next” Jay-Z, or the “next” big disruptor. True success, however, requires unparalleled authenticity and an unwavering desire to be at the top of your own category.

Drake’s mentality was never about following in someone else’s exact footsteps. He didn’t want to be the next Kanye West or Lil Wayne; he wanted to be the first Drake.

  • Refuse to settle: Never aim for second place.
  • Build your own lane: If you see someone else achieving greatness, use it as proof of concept. If they can do it, you can do it—but do it your way.

3. Obsessive Manifestation

Success is rarely accidental. It is the result of holding a clear, almost obsessive vision of the future in your mind until it becomes reality.

Before the fame, Drake used to drive his uncle’s drop-top Audi through the exact same three streets where he wanted to buy a house, bringing people along to physically show them the life he was going to build.

The Takeaway: You have to see it before you can hold it. Speak your goals into existence, visualize your destination daily, and align your actions with that specific future.

4. Master Your Craft and Take Your Time

In a world that celebrates “hustle culture” and the sheer volume of output, it is easy to forget that quality is the ultimate differentiator. You don’t have to crank out 50 projects a week to prove your worth.

“I can do two verses, not finish the song, and feel proud… It’s an individual creative process. There is no standard.”

Know your strengths. For Drake, it has always been his writing. He takes his time, researches, writes on his phone, and refuses to sacrifice the quality of his work just to meet an arbitrary deadline. Discover what your greatest talent is—whether it’s coding, writing, speaking, or strategizing—and take the time required to make it undeniably great.

5. Disconnect From the End Goal

This might sound counterintuitive to goal-setting, but becoming too attached to a final destination can be self-destructive. If your only focus is hitting a massive financial number or a specific milestone, what happens when you get there? You risk stalling out.

The Strategy for Continuous Growth:

  1. Set the target, but focus on the daily steps. 2. Live in the “right now.” Do the absolute best you can in the present moment.
  2. Celebrate the learning, not just the wins. Mistakes are necessary for growth. If you are always right, you can never learn.

6. Let the Product Speak

Many creators complain about not getting noticed or blame the algorithms for their lack of traction. The hard truth? If your product is potent enough, the world will let you know.

You no longer need to move to New York or Los Angeles to “make it.” You can build an empire from your laptop, in your hometown, using the internet as your stage.

“If you have the music, that’s all it takes. Present it to the world, and the world will tell you if it’s worth their time or not… There are people who scour the internet every day looking for the next big thing, and I promise you if that product you have is potent enough, you will be the next big thing.”

Final Thoughts

Success is an addiction to growth. It requires sacrificing immediate gratification, tuning out the critics, and focusing solely on the quality of what you are putting out into the world. You don’t have to be a loud, loose cannon to make an impact. You just have to be relentless, competitive, and completely dedicated to your craft. Keep your head down, do the work, and let your results make the noise.

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Signs You’re Ready for a More Purposeful Career

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Doing well at something is not the same as wanting it. Plenty of people are steady at their jobs and still feel hollow at the end of the day. Nothing looks wrong from the outside. Colleagues respect you, the pay lands on time, and you handle whatever gets thrown your way. What builds underneath is harder to name.

A dullness sets in, or a restlessness, or the sense that you’re watching your own work from across the room. It doesn’t mean everything needs to be torn down. Often it just means you’ve stopped growing, and once that happens, what counts as worthwhile work quietly changes shape. 

When work shifts

There is usually no announcement. One day the tasks that once demanded your full attention take almost nothing out of you. Some people notice their focus sliding away from the work and toward the people around it. Wanting to mentor, listen, and help someone untangle a problem tells you something real about where your attention wants to go.

This lands hard in teaching. Class sizes and schedules leave little room for one student who needs an hour, and administrative work swallows the time you’d rather give them. Many educators respond by shifting from a teacher to a counselor, a role built around emotional and social support instead of lesson plans. The work runs deeper with each student and puts their wellbeing at the center of the day.

Changes like this rarely announce themselves loudly. They start as a small nudge you can brush off. Ignoring it gets harder as the months go by.

What purpose feels like

Most of the time it arrives quietly. A small exchange leaves you feeling like you were actually needed. You break down something complicated and watch it land. You steady someone who was spiraling. You point a person toward a way forward when they couldn’t see one. The tiredness afterward sits differently from the kind that flattens you.

Notice when you feel most switched on. Some people run best on targets, numbers, and systems that click into place. Others come alive guiding, backing someone up, keeping them going. Neither ranks above the other. They simply pull from different places.

Work that feels worthwhile usually reflects what you already care about. Value connection, trust, and steady growth, and a people-centered job will sit better than one measured purely in output. Perfection isn’t the goal. Honesty is.

Clues in your strengths

Patterns show up long before certainty does. Consider what people bring to you without being asked. Do friends start unloading before they’ve taken their coat off? Do colleagues mention how calmly you explain things? Are you the steady one while everyone else scatters like startled pigeons?

Pay attention to that. Support and guidance roles tend to grow out of qualities like these:

  • Patience when someone needs time
  • Empathy without absorbing everything
  • Clear communication
  • Real listening
  • Steadiness under pressure
  • Encouragement that doesn’t take over

Calling these soft undersells them. They carry weight because they help actual people get through difficult stretches. Technical knowledge can be added later. A steady, caring way with people is harder to teach, and having it already puts you closer to a new path than you might assume.

Why helping can grow

Roles built around helping tend to keep demanding more of you as a person. There’s no clocking in and ticking off a list. You get better at hearing what someone isn’t saying, at answering with more care, at reading people accurately. Growth like that outlasts any promotion.

Your motivation changes shape too. Pay and status stop being the whole scoreboard, and impact starts to matter. Did that person feel understood today? Did something hard get lighter because you were there? Questions like those keep the work from going flat.

None of which makes it effortless. The emotional load is real. Boundaries hold everything together, and so does proper rest. Choose a helping career with clear eyes, because meaning doesn’t cover lunch, sleep, or a life outside the job.

Testing the next step

Nothing has to be decided by next Tuesday. Small, low-stakes experiments beat dramatic leaps almost every time. Walk around in the shoes before entering the marathon.

Try a few of these:

  • Talk to someone doing the job now
  • Ask about ordinary days, not the highlights
  • Volunteer somewhere support is the point
  • Shadow a professional if you can arrange it
  • Sign up for one course
  • Note down what leaves you energized

Each one separates the imagined version from the real one. Occasionally a role loses its shine once you hear what the hours involve. Just as often, seeing it up close confirms what you suspected.

Stay curious rather than urgent. No contract is being signed. You’re collecting evidence, and evidence beats panic when a career decision is on the table.

Making change less scary

Fear arrives even when the change is a good one. Money, timing, family obligations, the thought of being a beginner again. None of that is irrational. Your brain is doing its job, protecting you, just with more theatrics than the situation calls for.

Size is usually the problem. “Should I change my whole life” is an unanswerable question, and holding it in your head produces nothing but dread. Narrow it until it becomes something you can act on this month. Build savings first. Find out what training actually requires. Set a six-month window and see what you learn inside it.

The fear rarely disappears entirely, and it doesn’t need to. It shrinks once the decision stops being one enormous leap and becomes a series of ordinary moves you can reverse if they don’t work.

Choosing a better fit

Borrowed definitions of success cause most of the trouble. Looking impressive while feeling depleted is a trade that stops paying off quickly. Your own version asks harder questions. Does this line up with what you care about? Does it draw on what you’re actually good at? Could you do it without performing a version of yourself all day?

Alignment matters more than ambition here. The goal is work that fits, that spends your energy well, that lets you be useful without straining for it.

That pull toward something more meaningful deserves attention rather than dismissal. Look into it. Give it time. The full map isn’t required. One honest step forward is usually enough to start.

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