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7 Things You Must Ignore to Achieve Your Dreams Today



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Following your dreams isn’t easy. You have to be willing to listen to yourself and shut everyone else out. Most people will be obstacles or distractors from your dreams. The dream itself will stretch you – inspire you to quit often. Yet, where there’s a will, there’s a way.

I’ve been following my dreams for the past 5 years. A serious life setback cleared the path for me to quit my job as a lawyer, end my career in the legal field and start chasing my dreams. I started writing 1000 words a day and pursued my dreams of becoming a writer. Today, I can say that I have a growing blog, passionate readers, books on Amazon and the joy of doing something that I enjoy every day.

If you’re pursuing a dream, you must be willing to ignore these 7 things:

1. What appears difficult

Dreams are not easy. If they were, everyone would be following theirs. Dreams take work, require you to sacrifice other aspects of your life and demands you stay true to yourself. It requires you to envision something that isn’t here already and stay diligent to a future day that you’re creating today. You will feel many roadblocks and see many challenges to achieving your dream: time, money, location, and resources. Instead of harping on the difficulty, look for the solutions. Allow your creativity to find solutions that appear impossible. The more committed you are to your dream, the more creative ideas will jump out to inspire you.


2. What your colleagues say

If you look at your peers, colleagues from work or friends from school, all of them have been inculcated by their networks and families to follow the known path. Each will encourage you to stick to the known path of education, jobs and career advancement. They will insist you get married, buy a house and have kids because they are. You don’t have to follow the known path and you’re free to ignore what works for others. Stay true to your heart and your path instead of sharing notes with colleagues who are on society’s well-worn path.


3. What your fears say

You’ll only have fears, and big ones, when your pursue your dreams. If you’re not terrified and scared, you’re likely not fully committed to your dreams. Your dreams will challenge you to face your fears, doubts and uncertainty. Your dreams will challenge you to get out of your comfort zone, do things you haven’t done before and grow as a person. Your fear is a guide to help you navigate your dream but don’t allow it to be a roadblock that derails your dreams. Thank your fears but use it as inspiration to follow your dreams.

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

4. What your elders say

You’ll hear it from everyone who has lived longer than you. You will hear it from grandparents, parents and even more experienced mentors. All will tell you to “be practical” and ignore your dreams. They will prod, question, challenge and discourage you from pursuing your dreams. They will pose roadblocks, challenges and hypotheticals to “help” you succeed. They are not helping you succeed. They don’t want you to pursue your dreams and succeed because they will feel left out if you did succeed. Forget about what others say and only listen to your dreams whispers.


5. What others do

Everyone around you will be living one kind of life. They will be attending the same schools, getting the same jobs, living in the same neighborhoods and doing the same things with their lives. It’s so easy to look around you and compare yourself. You have to learn to ignore what others are doing and live your own life. It may seem like others have it figured out or know what they are doing. They might but it’s for their path and their journey, not yours. Stay true to your path without the undue influence of comparisons.


6. What failures come your way

I’m not telling you to ignore failure. There are gems of knowledge and wisdom from your failures. Listen to your failures and understand what they have in store for you but don’t give up after something doesn’t work. The key to success and life is finding out what doesn’t work so you can figure out what does. Listen to failure but don’t let it get in your way. Don’t allow failure to stop you. Allow it to fuel your next steps.

“Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something”  –Morihei Ueshiba

7. What a comfortable life looks like

This is the most important dream killer because it is so alluring. If you do end up with a college degree, good job and comfortable life, you will have no incentive to follow your dreams. You’ll have passions and dreams but you won’t feel like they are worth pursuing. To stay true to your dreams, you have to choose sacrifice over comfort, action over leisure and persistence over giving up too soon. Let go of the comfortable life so you can pursue a well-lived, fulfilling and meaningful of achieving your heart’s desires.  

What are you ignoring today so you can achieve your dreams? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

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Vishnu Virtues is the writer behind the popular personal growth and spirituality blog for people starting over in life. You can find his weekly blog posts at and his Amazon books on love and relationships here.



  1. Adam Lofquist

    Oct 10, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    I disagree with points 2 and 4, while some may try and stop you and question you, a majority of everyone I have had in my life has actually helped me succeed. They have guided me and given me the best advice. Your post makes it seem that everyone is out to get you. The problem is not people in general, it is the people that you surround yourself with. If everyone around you is bringing you down, humanity does not suck, those people suck. There are tons of people willing to go out and support you and help you become successful.

    In general I do not think when people question your dreams or try to be practical they are trying to stop you from achieving your dream, I think they are trying to help you. They want to see you succeed and do your best, they want to help you check your blind spots so you do not get run over. Assuming that anyone that questions you is out to get you is a sure way to failure.

  2. Sija

    Jul 26, 2016 at 1:21 pm

    Awesome post, Vishnu! Thanks for sharing…

  3. Paul

    Jun 30, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    I focus on my goals and objectives and do not allow the bumps in the road slow me down. In fact expect them. Know what you want and GO FOR IT!

  4. Tim Denning

    Jun 16, 2016 at 9:31 pm

    Vishnu I have spent a lot of time recently thinking about my dream. The roadblocks for dreams can sometimes be hidden. Thanks for pointing them out clearly and giving your advice. Point three about your fears is definitely my biggest barrier and it’s something I am working on every day. Thanks again Vishnu!

  5. Shawn

    Jun 15, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Hi Vishnu, early this year I took the same path just like you did.
    I took a leap of faith and jump into doing internet marketing full time.
    What you mentioned in your post was real. There are many times I got distracted by seeing what others do and I wanted to follow, but I tell myself to press on and follow my dream.
    I will take action until I reach my goals, period.
    Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Sija

      Jul 26, 2016 at 1:23 pm

      Thanks for your comment Shawn. I’m finding myself in a situation where I want to dive in to my dream as well trusting that God will guide and direct my steps.

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