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7 Signs You Are Unhealthily Addicted to Success




Do you ever feel like you hit a goal or succeed at something major but your satisfaction is only short-lived? No matter how much you achieve, you always feel like you have to do more, push harder and you can’t really enjoy your accomplishments? You might be wondering why you never feel content despite the fact that your life looks good on the outside. If this sounds like you, you might be addicted to success.

But what does that mean? See, every addiction has one thing in common. It has the purpose of getting a person out of a miserable state of mind and making them feel normal. Achievement addiction is no different. It can create fears, tension, stress and burnout. There is a high chance that you are moving away from pain and not towards something you desire. Your drive and decisions are fear based, which ultimately affects your emotional well-being and quality of life.

Here are 7 signs of achievement addiction:

1. You find purpose in achievement

You constantly feel emotionally drained, stressed and burnt out and only find relief when you hit a goal.

2. The expectations you have for yourself are way higher than average

You hit your expectations no matter the cost, even if that means to not value your own needs. You’re very hard on yourself, know how to push through and beat yourself up to succeed. You don’t tolerate mediocrity for yourself.

3. You ask yourself what else there is to life

You’ve already “made it” but it’s not the way you thought it would be. You spent a certain amount of time chasing your biggest goal and making it a reality yet you feel unfulfilled and cannot find a sense of peace which can be extremely stressful and disappointing.

4. You measure your self-worth through your achievements.

In between wins you hate yourself, have anxiety and feel like it’s been awhile since your last accomplishment. Success is like a drug to you. You need another hit of it otherwise it feels like you’re falling behind.

“When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.” – Solange Knowles

5. You’re at the peak of your professional life but don’t feel fulfilled  

You see people admiring you for your life but you feel guilty about not being fulfilled and happy. Maybe, you even doubt if you deserve it.

6. You are very results-driven and accomplished but you don’t feel content

You feel stuck and trapped in a life that doesn’t feel aligned with who you are and becomes exhausting at one point.

7. You’re constantly tense

Perhaps you suffer from chronic conditions, pain or repeating patterns in your life. Stress and the pressure of having to perform is not only reflected in how you feel but can also break out physically.

What can we do instead of chasing our goals that become less satisfying each time, but still keep thriving? There is a huge misconception that we get more stuff done when we push hard, suffer and sacrifice.

The funny thing is that to create sustainable performance and get to the next level we actually need to be in alignment and feel good, take off pressure and change our approach. It’s scientifically proven that when we experience stress, our IQ drops and our ability to make good decisions decreases.

First and most importantly is to find out the hidden reason behind your drive. What are you trying to avoid and why? What is it that terrifies you and what are you trying to prove to either yourself or someone else? Once you’re aware that all the pressure is simply created by yourself you also have the ability to take it off.

Next you start dissolving the emptiness, frustration or anger. Sometimes being aware of the problem is already doing the job but deeply rooted fears might require some more work. To change an old belief pattern you can use tools like journaling, meditation, nlp, hypnosis, therapy and of course coaching. Think about it that way.

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” – Wayne Dyer

Everything you do is the result of an emotion which is connected to a thought or belief you have about life. Therefore changing your beliefs will change your reality and emotional wellbeing which can lead to you achieving everything you want in life without you burning yourself out.

Have you ever felt like you’ve been chasing your goals so you can find contentment, but when you finally achieve them you don’t really feel any different than you’ve felt before? Let us know in the comments how you can relate.

Katy Trost is a coach and advisor to tech CEOs at Series B and beyond. They partner with her to become more effective leaders and implement a system that creates consistency in their scaling organizations.



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There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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