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Self Love – 5 Simple Ways to Love Yourself More

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Growing up, I was always told to love my family and friends and how important this was because of how short life was. I did this for years but always felt empty when it came to loving myself. I was so concerned and focused on everyone else, that I had no clue who I was as a person. If you are reading this, I am sure that many of you can relate.

Throughout your childhood, when did someone ever stop you and say “How much do you love yourself?” Probably never. This is an uncommon question to ask because of our conditioned ways of focusing outwards instead of inwards. I have realized that when I started to make the shift in my own life, everything around me changed.

I suddenly started to attract the right friendships, relationships, and opportunities that would help elevate me as the woman that I wanted to become in the world. It was an amazing transformation. For the first time in my life, I started to love myself. I want to see more people around the world who love themselves unconditionally and fully appreciate who they are as human beings.

You deserve the love that you have been giving everyone else. Below, are five steps on how to start loving yourself today:

1. Take care of your thoughts

There are so many thoughts that filter through our mind each day that It is extremely difficult to regulate each one of them. However, it is easy to become aware of when we are thinking in a negative way and immediately switch it so that we are only thinking nourishing thoughts.

How do we do this? Whenever you catch yourself doubting yourself, having fear, or thinking more of a problem than a solution, stop yourself and take a couple of breaths. Remind yourself how amazing you are and begin to visualize the person you want to become.

Ask yourself: How would I act if I no longer let my thoughts sabotage me? Visualize this for a moment. Once you do, record who you see yourself being and how you feel in this state of being.

2. Tell your dreams and goals to people that are on the same journey

A lot of us immediately share our dreams and goals with family members whenever we are working on something exciting. It makes sense to do so since they have witnessed most of our accomplishments throughout life.

They have been there all along and will always be our biggest supporters, right? This is not entirely the case as there comes a day when the support will become limited when you take a different path than the rest of your family.

I have learned that when you are excited about a huge vision, many will start to doubt your abilities, and may even try to convince you that what you may be doing will never work. Be very careful when hearing any limiting beliefs that someone else may be carrying around. Without even realizing, their limiting beliefs may enter our subconscious mind which will then result in questioning our own abilities.

“Expect while reaching for the stars, people to whirl by with their dark clouds and storm upon you.” – Anthony Liccione

3. Always listen to your Intuition

Have you ever made a decision that completely went against your intuition? I know I have and it was no fun. Plus, when this happens, we spend countless time replaying a situation in our mind that no longer serves us. Our intuition is always speaking to us, whether we are making a business decision, making a new friend, or deciding to move somewhere new, our intuition is guiding us in the right direction.

If for some reason, something doesn’t feel right, and you are feeling knots in your stomach, this is your intuition trying to communicate with you. Pay close attention to what it is saying, and never second guess it! It is there to help you out! The best part about our intuition is that we all have one and have access to it at any moment.

4. Set healthy boundaries

It is important to set healthy boundaries within your relationships and daily interactions, but how? We do this by setting a standard of respect and supporting through our actions the things which make us happy. If you find yourself in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, it is perfectly fine to leave.

It is also okay to let go of toxic relationships with friends, family, and others that are not bringing any value into your life. For me personally, this was extremely difficult. I used to think that because I was related to someone, that I was automatically obligated to let them be a part of my life. Some of these relationships consistently drained my energy, and I always felt so tired.

I still tolerated these individuals and maintained these unhealthy relationships because I felt that I had to. Anytime you feel that you “have to” do something instead of “want to” do something, you will find yourself very unhappy. Life is too short to be unhappy. You deserve all of the happiness that this world has to offer.

“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal and necessary.” – Doreen Virtue

5. Self-Reflect on who you are becoming

Each night before bed, reflect on your day and keep a journal on how you made decisions, carried yourself, and interacted with others. Become aware of your notes and work on anything that needs improvement and celebrate any accomplishments.  Imagine yourself six months from now. Who are you? How do you behave, carry yourself, and interact with others?  Who do you want to be in the next six months?  Write this down and have fun!

How do you practice self love? Please comment below and let us know!

Christina Araujo is from San Francisco, CA and still is residing in the Bay Area. She is a life coach, investor, and influencer. Her passion is helping people love themselves and finding their passion in life. Christina is committed to personal growth and has a strong desire to help as many individuals as she can and start traveling to third world countries to also teach. She believes that life is meant to be lived being truly happy and falling in love with your gift every single day. You can contact Christina through her Facebook page.

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Knowing Your Message vs Delivering Your Message

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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