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5 Ways To Trick Your Inner Critic

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5 Ways To Trick Your Inner Critic

Let’s talk about the oppression of our minds. How our minds end up screwing everything up, when we don’t want it to.

In my own life, I know that my worst foe is my inner critic. Maybe you’ve dealt with this inner critic. This voice that seems to pop up out of nowhere, all of a sudden you feel like you’re on fire, and BOOM!

You burst, and you don’t know what happened.

What is this inner critic? Well, it’s really just your ego trying to protect you from something that it’s not sure about. Anything that you do that is a little beyond your comfort zone is the perfect opportunity for that inner critic to creep in.

These unconscious tapes are playing over and over again in your mind like a tape recorder.  A lot of people will tell you, “Oh, just ignore it!”  Yeah, well how does that work, right?

How do you just ignore it? It’s not possible. For instance, my inner critic used to come up most when I was auditioning for big musicals in NYC. I’d get in the room and start shaking.  Pretty embarrassing!

Why? I was trying to ignore the inner critic. I was trying to ignore the nerves. Nope. Doesn’t work.  Those nerves are real, it’s how you use them that counts.

The second thing that doesn’t work, is trying to fight it. Trying to beat it out by saying, “Oh, no. I’m not nervous. No, I’m not nervous. I’m not nervous!!!!!

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” – William Shakespeare

Think of a bird trapped in a cage. If it wants to get out, it’s going to rattle that cage more and more and more. Sometimes you just have to open up the cage and let the bird out.

So, how do we do that?

Well, we have to give it a new brain! We have to give this inner critic a new way of thinking. This critic in your brain needs a new pattern.

You have to interrupt the brain, put something else in, and change the way that your inner critic sounds. Instead of drinking the gasoline of negative self talk and lighting yourself on fire, I want you to light your inner critic on fire so you can live your light.

I’m going to give you 5 ways to bust through this inner critic, and they get a little more fun as you go.

 

1. Observe your thoughts

The first one comes from the Buddhists, and they always say to watch your thoughts as if they are clouds passing by.

Now that’s great, but it’s also really hard; especially if you’re in this high pressure cooker situation where you can’t passively watch your thoughts go by, right?  You have big things to accomplish.  And often they have to be done quick and well.

Here’s another way…

 

2. Connect to the present

Come back to the present moment. Say, “I’m here.” Just come back. Come back to the now. These thoughts are taking you out of the present moment so you don’t know where you are anymore.  Once you get untangled from your mind, you’re more free to think clearly.

If that doesn’t work, which sometimes it doesn’t…

5 Ways To Trick Your Inner Critic

3. Slow your phrase down

Normally, there’s a phrase that’s coming up for your inner critic. Mine is normally, “I’m not ready. I’m not ready. I’m not ready.” Eight percent of the time this phrase is really fast.

Think about your phrase right now. Say it in your head. It’s probably really fast, right? That gives your body a certain neurological response- so slowwwwww it down. “I’m (big pause) Not (bigger pause) Ready (biggest pause).”

It sounds kind of funny, right? It will make you laugh.  That’s the point! That starts tripping up the wiring in your brain. It’s like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, wait. Why are we going slow all of a sudden?”

Now if that doesn’t work…

 

4. Give it a funny voice

What’s your favorite cartoon character? Let’s say it’s Mickey Mouse. So put on your best falsetto, “Hey folks! I’m not ready!”  That will really crack you up if you’re a guy!  Again, you’re tripping up the brain.

Finally, if that doesn’t work…

 

5. Break your state

Do something ridiculous! Break your physical pattern, somehow. Maybe you jump up and down and start screaming, “I’m amazing! I’m amazing! I’m amazing! Yeah!”  Something like that!

“Our greatest foes, and whom we must chiefly combat are within.” – Cervantes

So there you have it, 5 ways to bust through your inner critic. This is really important because I want to see you do those things that you’re meant to do. The main thing holding us back is this voice inside of our heads that produces fear.

Anything is achievable if you really put your mind to it, but only if your mind doesn’t put you to it.

 

So, my questions for you are:

1.) How does this inner critic show up in your life?

2.) How is this inner critic holding you back?

3.) Which technique can you try to light fire to that inner critic?

 

Let me know in the comments below.  Live your love and spread your light.

Alex Kip develops mindful high performers so they can grow their business, live their love, and spread their light.  He is a certified Tony Robbins-Cloe Madanes life coach, hypnotherapist, speaker, and cancer survivor.  He’s presented to major clients like UnitedHealthcare, Nationwide Insurance, featured on PBS, NPR Stations, and the Huffington Post.  Creator of KipTV and “New & Noteworthy” podcast SoulFeed. Get free videos transformational videos at http://www.alexkip.com/

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10 Tips to Deal With Negativity While Starting a Business

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There are ups and downs in business but fearing failures can stop you from taking your first step towards excellence. With pandemic on tow, aspiring entrepreneurs feel a little stuck when ideating a business prospect. Here, we give you some actionable tips to deal with negativity while starting a business, even during situations like a pandemic. We also took the liberty to throw in some amazing book recommendations that’ll help you enjoy the process of being positive and achieving your business goals.

10 Tips to deal with negativity while starting a business in a pandemic

1. Get a mentor

The first thing to do as a new business owner is to find the right kind of mentor. That person could be someone in your industry or in general who you look up to. The guidance must be apt for your business, and it should be a mutual responsibility of sharing knowledge. 

2. Two big R’s – Routine and Refresh

Made a mess of something? Try to reboot the situation and make it work. Take a break once in a while and refresh yourself if you feel stuck or your ideas feel mundane. Plan a routine and stick to them – both personal and professional. Having a routine can increase productivity and engage in more activities apart from your pre-planned schedule. 

3. Inculcate problem-solving mentality

Do not panic once you are thrown a problem. Arrange a meeting with the respective party, listen to both sides of the stories, and make a decision that is more realistic and feasible. 

4. Hire half and half

Whenever you hire someone for your business. Make sure that half of the people contradict your ideas, and the other half have the same mindset as yours. The people who contradict can bring in more valuable points and their perspective might take the discussion to a whole new level.  Don’t take too much time finding the perfect one. Hire an apt person who can have the right attitude. 

5. Network, Network, and Network

Find like-minded people and mingle with them. Be more sportive in the learning process. Listen more and talk less – if you are a beginner. You can only be a constructive person who gives input to someone if you have listened to everyone’s point of view. If you feel down, your network might have something to uplift your mood and change your perspective on something. 

“Negativity, in general, is one of the things that holds people back, and you have to see what’s holding you back to get away from it.” – Lucy Dacus

6. Tech-savvy personnel

Learn a thing or two about the latest technology that you implement in your organization. Since the world revolves around technology, make sure your administrative authority knows as well.  

7. Don’t schedule a meeting, that could have been an email

Yes! I said it. Having unnecessary meetings will weaken the purpose of having a constructive discussion. Having back-to-back meetings drains the team members and yourself too. Always have a 10 to 15 minutes break between each meeting to feel refreshed and give your 100%. 

8. Have a pros and cons list

Always, I mean always have a pros and cons list. Let’s say one of your team members pitch an idea to improve the marketing strategies starting next month. Jot down the pros and cons before approving or rejecting it point-blank. It’s a systematic way of making a decision. 

9. Track your finances

Even if you have a team of accountants and auditors, make sure that you are present (both mentally and physically) – learn if you are not aware of it. Trusting your employees is a must, but not overseeing the records is a mistake that should be avoided. 

10. Remember your “why?”

At some point in your hectic schedule or not having ME time can get to you. During those tough times – ask yourself – “Why am I doing this?”. If you can answer this question with a valid explanation, you’ll feel energized. Because “A purpose drives you”. 

5 Best books to read to be more positive as an entrepreneur

Reading always puts me into perspective. Therefore, I took some liberty to give a sample of positivity and determination through words. 

These are the 5 books that’ll guide you to be a more positive and successful entrepreneur. 

  1. Attitude is everything by Jeff Keller – The decisions you make, the routine you set for yourself, and the affirmations you say to yourself every day are going to make a huge difference. If you feel tired, hopeless, and quitting – then this book is for you to boost you up!
  2. Mindset: The new psychology of success by Carol Dweck – You do what you think. In this book, the author talks about two mindsets: The growth mindset and the fixed mindset and what they’ll do to you respectively. She helps you recognize your mindset and change it for the better. 
  3. Innovator’s Dilemma by Clayton Christensen – This book is about technology uprisings all over the world and businesses that adopted and implemented technology in their firm. The author teaches you that just because your competitors and others are adopting something into their businesses doesn’t mean that you have to as well. Make an informed decision. 
  4. As A Man Thinketh by James Allen – This book specifically is about the power of thought and how it shapes your life into a more meaningful and fulfilling one.
  5. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – The author talks about how people always keep thinking about what the future holds but then forget to live and enjoy the present. And also helps us understand how to make decisions more efficiently based on the present. 

Working towards inner balance requires consistency and perseverance. So does hard and smart work. Being negative is a part of our lives. It’s important to channel it appropriately and make things happen despite the roller coaster ride that is our lives. Hope you overcome your fears and negativity to shine bigger and brighter. Cheers! 

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