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6 Negative Thoughts That Will Shatter Your Dreams

The road to achieving our dreams can be scary. In fact, the fear in our minds can hold us back from so much that we don’t even take a step toward our dreams. It’s as if the more the dream matters to us, the less likely we are to even pursue the dream.
The dream ends up being talked about and imagined, but never actively chased.
For your dream to become reality you must have a single minded focus and the only way to do that is to shatter these six thoughts.
1. I’m not good enough
If we do not feel worthy of our dreams, we will settle for less than what the world has to offer. We shrink back to a life that is comfortable even when we hate it.
Most people underestimate their skill and knowledge. I am sure that you do as well. You are worthy of your dreams. You do have what it takes inside of you.
2. I don’t know how
This is one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves.
Of course we don’t know how when we have never done it before. There comes a point in life where we start to believe that we need to have the answer. This is not reality. We should build learning into our lives until we are six feet under. If you don’t know how you can find someone that does. If you can’t find someone that knows, there are blogs, YouTube, google, and many other resources to help you learn how.
3. It’s not realistic
Realistic is safe and boring. It is a statement that signals adulthood and a loss of imagination. If you want to achieve your dreams, you must be a little unrealistic.
Every person throughout history that is remembered has been unrealistic. If your dream feels unrealistic you are right on track to greatness. Keep pushing through the doubt of realism to achieve your dream.

4. What will people think?
The fear of what others will think kills dreams. It can cause us to hide behind a mask of our true identity. Others will not understand and that is okay.
To accomplish greatness it requires some people to not get it. There are people that will hate your dream, however, there is a bigger group of people waiting for you. Focus on the people that love your dream and ignore the haters.
5. I don’t have time
It is easy to focus on the lack of time when chasing a dream does not require much. It will require you to be focused and cut the fat out of your life. Many say they are hustling when they aren’t. You have more time than you think you have. A few days in the week, journal and record where you are spending your time. I am sure that you will find some extra minutes or hours.
Your dream may require a little less sleep, but it is worth it.
6. It has already been done
It is easy to think that if it has been done it is not possible. The reality is that this makes your dream easier in a lot of ways. There are a lot of disadvantages to being first to the market. If someone else did it already, it means that there is a proven market.
Your dream may have been done, but not by your unique self. You have certain life experiences and knowledge that applied to life will paint your dream a little differently than everyone else.
Time and focus will fix many shortcomings. Just keep walking it out and you will be amazed at your progress. Your dreams are possible if you continue to be faithful and keep focusing your energy toward your dreams. Over time you will see your dreams come to fruition.
Be blessed on your journey.
How to Crush Your Negative Thoughts – Elliott Hulse
Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
Life
3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning
we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)
Life
Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness
Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)
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