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7 Easy Ways To Start Moving Towards Your Dreams Today

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You have a picture of what you would like your life to be, and it excites you. The picture of your perfect dream life consumes your every waking moment, and it keeps you up at night wondering “what if?”—but it just seems too far off to ever become a reality.

We all want to live the life of our dreams, but so few of us are at that stage in our life right now. We don’t want to fully take the leap into pursuing our passions because we don’t want to lose the security of a steady paycheck, and we’re scared of the unknown. What frustrates us most is we just don’t know what steps we can take to pursue our dream life now, rather than later.

What if you could start living your dream life now, instead of waiting until a “better” time—would you take the opportunity then?

Here are seven ways to help you start moving towards your dreams today, instead of waiting until a “better” time around the corner:

1. Realize you’re just as talented and capable as others

We’re all humans, and we all have our strong points. Find your strengths and capitalize on them to avoid running into constant brick walls, and above all be persistent—that’s key! Your dream life is possible. Reminding yourself of your inner greatness every day you can feel more confident about pursuing your dreams even when it would be easier to stop.

 “If you can dream it, you can do it.” – Walt Disney 

2. Develop a mantra relevant to your own success

Muhammad Ali’s was “I am the greatest,” and did anyone question him? Every morning I wake up and tell myself “I’m a writer, and writers write,” because if I didn’t do it then who would? My mantra helps affirm my belief in myself, which allows me to step into my power and tackle my goals with a newfound energy every day. Each day you wake up, ask yourself where your strengths are, and how they make you great—and use your answers to fuel your path to success.

 

3. Personalize your life plan

In their book Living Forward, Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy urge their readers to develop a life plan that symbolizes the life they want to live and the steps they need to take to get there. By developing a concrete life plan that’s unique to you and your goals, you’ll prevent yourself from reaching burn-out and losing sight of the end-game you have in mind throughout your day-to-day life. You can also review your plan on a weekly basis to remind yourself of the steps you need to take today towards your dreams, as this will help you visualize your own future success and keep you on track.

 

4. Embrace the power of baby steps

Don’t get consumed by doubt and lose sight of your plan by focusing on the larger scope of your dreams. Instead refine your path and always move forward in whatever ways you can every day, no matter what. Your dreams don’t have to become unwieldy and untouchable, no matter how big they are. Little steps can help you reach your goals even while working a full-time job, regardless of how small they may seem at the time.

 

5. Always show gratitude

Never forget the precious gift of life, and the possibilities that it presents to all of us every day of our lives. You always need to stay positive and remain thankful for yourself and others around you. This will help you keep a positive outlook when the going gets tough and it can prevent you from losing sight of your goal when you’d rather quit.

 

6. Meditate on your successes

Think about your version of your ideal self, and always think about how you can move your current self closer to your dream goals. What have you done that’s worked for you in the past, and what could you do better in the future? Reflecting on your life plan every day can help you keep a laser-focus on your dreams, especially when the going gets tough. This will remind you of the progress you’ve made towards your eventual dream life.

 

7. Embrace the power of your ideas

You always have the power to change the world around you, but first you have to step into the shoes that were made for you to wear all along. Your dreams matter, and you can be your dream self if you only try and never, ever give up—because despite your failures, every single step you take towards your dreams are small wins and they never stop counting towards your bigger dream goals.

I know you have that one thing that keeps you up at night, deep inside of you. But before you can achieve it, you have to believe in the power of your dreams yourself and know that they’re not far-fetched, despite how far away they seem right now.

“I’m open for possibilities. I’m open for choices. I always welcome new ideas. I’m always eager to learn. I’m never going to close my mind from learning.” – Cesar Millan

You can’t allow the candle of your dreams to burn out, because if you do then you’re admitting they don’t matter.Even if they do burn out, it’s never too late to light them back up again—because despite what people may tell you, your dreams aren’t small or insignificant.

How will you start moving towards your dreams today? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

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  1. transformice

    Aug 1, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Valuable info. Lucky me I found your website by accident. I bookmarked it. This article is genuinely good and I have learned lot of things from it concerning blogging. thanks.

  2. maya breeze

    May 16, 2016 at 7:17 am

    hi blake – i love the post … i also think if we will dare to dream (and to bring it) we will discover our way . i think we like to think we dare, but the word is a verb, and it has a few meanings :

    1. to have the necessary courage or boldness for something; be bold enough:
    2. to have the boldness to try; venture; hazard.
    3. to meet defiantly; face courageously.
    4. to challenge or provoke (a person) into a demonstration of courage

    what if we had the courage to actually dare ourselves …

    thoreau said:

    … if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams,
    and endeavors to live the life he has imagined,
    he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.

    ours is to dream it and to bring it … how and when are not up to us. we must make of our own selves the desire of the dream, and then be enough (in ourselves) to dare to live it.

    thanks again – i love the idea that we are told by wayshowers that we can, and that we are able to be in life as we wish …
    maya

    • Blake Powell

      May 20, 2016 at 1:27 am

      Hey Maya, thanks so much for your comment. Sorry for the late reply.

      I think as you say, having the dream in place is important but daring to take action on that impulse is equally as important to that. A lot of what you say is similar to what Napoleon Hill says in his book “Think and Grow Rich”, in that we must put a face to our desires and believe that we can do it before we can take action and later reap the benefits of that action. But dreaming is nothing without doing, so we can’t get tripped up by the daring part – we must “dare to do” and actually do, which is the critical point of turning our dreams into reality.

      Thank you so much for your insights, and the quote by Thoreau. I love seeing what readers come up with, and many times it adds to the post itself ten-fold – so thank you for that. I really appreciate it 🙂

      Cheers,
      Blake

  3. Tim Denning

    May 4, 2016 at 4:12 am

    Blake I think that taking little steps is the most important point in your article. I practice this daily and it has really helped me. Thanks for sharing your advice.

    • Blake Powell

      May 4, 2016 at 1:54 pm

      Tim, little steps are huge! They make more of an impact than you’d think. Thanks for your reply 🙂

  4. Dennis

    May 2, 2016 at 4:22 am

    I’m one of those who really get started well but get frustrated shortly. Was asking myself why and the answer was ‘u are biting too big man.’ Thanx for all the advice. I owe so much to so many people who have made me who I am today, including u. I must make a positive impact in as many lives as I can.

    • Blake Powell

      May 4, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      Hey Dennis, you’re welcome! Glad to help. Maybe the problem isn’t biting off too much but taking it all in too quickly.

      I like the Chinese proverb “be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still.” Baby steps add up to more than we’d think over the long term of things, as long as you cut your big goals into small pieces you should be fine 🙂

  5. Ohita Afeisume

    Apr 28, 2016 at 5:25 am

    Thanks Blake,
    For me, gratitude works marvelously. The more I am thankful to God for my life, family and friends, the more empowered I am to follow my goals and be creative.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 29, 2016 at 1:28 am

      Hey, no problem Ohita! Glad to help 🙂
      Gratitude is a huge one, and I don’t think it can be practiced enough. It is a huge part of happiness, which can fuel us to live out our dreams in many ways. Thanks for your comment.

  6. James Arq

    Apr 25, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    Wonderful post, Blake!

    Your writing is just awesome, straight to the point! You make me (just a tiny bit) jealous. 😉

    I especially liked this line on your last point “…every single step you take towards your dreams are small wins and they never stop counting towards your bigger dream goals.”

    I agree with it. We can very much enjoy life with the small things, and in fact, we should. Let us celebrate mini victories and daily conquers, after all, milestones are as equally important as goals. And most importantly, never stop moving forward, no matter how small the steps. In time, those small steps would reveal to be miles away from where we started.

    Awesome post!

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:31 am

      Hey James,

      Thanks so much for the comment, and I appreciate the feedback. I’m glad to hear that you find my advice practical, useful, and straight to the point. Means a lot to me to hear that from a reader.

      Life is a daily battle, and if we don’t stand up and face the drums every day then we lose a little bit of our passion, and ourselves in the process. We need to fight for our dreams, even if we work a 9-5, even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes a day. Every little bit counts, and a snowball can turn into an avalanche over time (pardon the metaphor). I think we can all surprise with what we could do when we get down to it, rather than just wondering about it.

      Thanks James!

  7. Dan Western

    Apr 25, 2016 at 10:28 am

    Awesome article Blake! Thanks for sharing this.

    P.S. I love the quote at the end! It fits perfectly.

    Dan

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Hey Dan, you’re very welcome man. Thanks for the comment and glad I could help. 🙂

  8. Mike McClement

    Apr 25, 2016 at 9:30 am

    Linked to #1 – never compare yourself to others. Sure, check out what they’re doing / how they’re succeeding. Learn if you can from that but don’t focus on their strengths, focus on your own.

    I try this approach and it seems to work although it does require self-discipline. Silencing the negative voice in your head encouraging you to doubt yourself is always challenging. It’s perfectly possible though if you keep in a positive frame of mind.

    Thanks Blake for a helpful article.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:38 am

      Hey Mike, thanks for the shout-out – really appreciate it. Definitely, comparing ourselves to others can only get us disheartened in the end. While it’s good to work up to where others are and see the value in their ideas, if we focus too much on their progress and their strengths (which highlight our own weaknesses) we lose sight of our own selves, our own strength, and our own potential – which can be poisonous for our own goals and motivation.

      It definitely requires telling that self-doubting voice “no”, as hard as it may be at times. But I don’t think we can ever turn it off completely or ignore it, only acknowledge it and work past it. It may always be there, but that doesn’t mean we have to adhere to it or fuel its fire.

      Thanks for the comment Mike. You’re very welcome, and I’m glad you found it helpful 🙂

  9. Jared

    Apr 24, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    I agree making baby steps is a way to move forward. I also have to stay patient because I want to move faster but at this time in my life it’s difficult. As long as I keep moving forward I know ill achieve my dreams. Thanks Blake.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:44 am

      Hey Jared,

      Patience, like Gary Vee says, is HUGE. Almost even more so than baby steps. Because while we can slowly persist towards our larger goals every day, if we don’t have patience and respect for the whole process then it’s too easy to lose hope and turn to doubting ourselves and stopping our forward progress (we might even forget what progress looks like, too, if we get too wrapped up in the process).

      As cliche as it is, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Great things take time, just like your dreams take time to achieve. But they are most certainly achievable.

      Thanks for engaging, and glad you found it helpful! 🙂

  10. Mark Tong

    Apr 24, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    Hi Blake – love the article especially ‘ Embrace the power of your ideas ‘ – and blow yourself away:)

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:40 am

      Hey Mark,

      Yes, absolutely blow yourself away! You might just be surprised with what you can do and can achieve. I think we all can, but we need to light our fire first.

      Thanks for the comment!

  11. Quinn Eurich

    Apr 24, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    Loved the post Blake. You always have such great and straight-forwards advice.

    I especially love this: “first you have to step into the shoes that were made for you to wear all along.”

    It’s such a wonderful metaphor. The shoes are always there. They may be in a forgotten box in the back of a closet, or in a corner of the attic, or even lying in the shadows under the bed, but they are there.

    Sometimes you’ve tried them on and thought they were too big, but sooner or later you’ll grow into them, and when you do, it’s magic.

    Thanks for sharing!

    Quinn

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 24, 2016 at 11:10 pm

      Hey Quinn, thanks so much. I really appreciate the feedback and I’m glad the post helped you out. I loved your comment on the shoes, and think it’s pretty much perfect so I won’t add anything to it, but yes it’s so easy to put our dreams away and try and hide from them and ignore them when they’re just waiting for us to follow them. And I think the power of little steps towards bigger, more long-term goals are very underrated, as they’ve done wonders for me!

      Thanks for your comment 🙂

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

Share with us one goal you have for 2017, and how you plan on achieving it. Comment below so we can see!

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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If you ask any of the top entrepreneurs, or any entrepreneur for that matter, they’ll tell you that the one quality you need to become successful is mental toughness. Becoming mentally tough is probably something you’ve already heard about before in your life. It’s something that seems easy, yet most people take it granted. They’d rather think about it than become it. (more…)

Trevor Oldham is a 19-year-old entrepreneur who’s had eleutheromania ever since he can remember. When he’s not working or studying, you can catch him by the ocean taking photos of the world in which surrounds us. Trevor is the co-founder of Become The Lion and founder of Trevor James Products.

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  1. transformice

    Aug 1, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Valuable info. Lucky me I found your website by accident. I bookmarked it. This article is genuinely good and I have learned lot of things from it concerning blogging. thanks.

  2. maya breeze

    May 16, 2016 at 7:17 am

    hi blake – i love the post … i also think if we will dare to dream (and to bring it) we will discover our way . i think we like to think we dare, but the word is a verb, and it has a few meanings :

    1. to have the necessary courage or boldness for something; be bold enough:
    2. to have the boldness to try; venture; hazard.
    3. to meet defiantly; face courageously.
    4. to challenge or provoke (a person) into a demonstration of courage

    what if we had the courage to actually dare ourselves …

    thoreau said:

    … if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams,
    and endeavors to live the life he has imagined,
    he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.

    ours is to dream it and to bring it … how and when are not up to us. we must make of our own selves the desire of the dream, and then be enough (in ourselves) to dare to live it.

    thanks again – i love the idea that we are told by wayshowers that we can, and that we are able to be in life as we wish …
    maya

    • Blake Powell

      May 20, 2016 at 1:27 am

      Hey Maya, thanks so much for your comment. Sorry for the late reply.

      I think as you say, having the dream in place is important but daring to take action on that impulse is equally as important to that. A lot of what you say is similar to what Napoleon Hill says in his book “Think and Grow Rich”, in that we must put a face to our desires and believe that we can do it before we can take action and later reap the benefits of that action. But dreaming is nothing without doing, so we can’t get tripped up by the daring part – we must “dare to do” and actually do, which is the critical point of turning our dreams into reality.

      Thank you so much for your insights, and the quote by Thoreau. I love seeing what readers come up with, and many times it adds to the post itself ten-fold – so thank you for that. I really appreciate it 🙂

      Cheers,
      Blake

  3. Tim Denning

    May 4, 2016 at 4:12 am

    Blake I think that taking little steps is the most important point in your article. I practice this daily and it has really helped me. Thanks for sharing your advice.

    • Blake Powell

      May 4, 2016 at 1:54 pm

      Tim, little steps are huge! They make more of an impact than you’d think. Thanks for your reply 🙂

  4. Dennis

    May 2, 2016 at 4:22 am

    I’m one of those who really get started well but get frustrated shortly. Was asking myself why and the answer was ‘u are biting too big man.’ Thanx for all the advice. I owe so much to so many people who have made me who I am today, including u. I must make a positive impact in as many lives as I can.

    • Blake Powell

      May 4, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      Hey Dennis, you’re welcome! Glad to help. Maybe the problem isn’t biting off too much but taking it all in too quickly.

      I like the Chinese proverb “be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still.” Baby steps add up to more than we’d think over the long term of things, as long as you cut your big goals into small pieces you should be fine 🙂

  5. Ohita Afeisume

    Apr 28, 2016 at 5:25 am

    Thanks Blake,
    For me, gratitude works marvelously. The more I am thankful to God for my life, family and friends, the more empowered I am to follow my goals and be creative.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 29, 2016 at 1:28 am

      Hey, no problem Ohita! Glad to help 🙂
      Gratitude is a huge one, and I don’t think it can be practiced enough. It is a huge part of happiness, which can fuel us to live out our dreams in many ways. Thanks for your comment.

  6. James Arq

    Apr 25, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    Wonderful post, Blake!

    Your writing is just awesome, straight to the point! You make me (just a tiny bit) jealous. 😉

    I especially liked this line on your last point “…every single step you take towards your dreams are small wins and they never stop counting towards your bigger dream goals.”

    I agree with it. We can very much enjoy life with the small things, and in fact, we should. Let us celebrate mini victories and daily conquers, after all, milestones are as equally important as goals. And most importantly, never stop moving forward, no matter how small the steps. In time, those small steps would reveal to be miles away from where we started.

    Awesome post!

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:31 am

      Hey James,

      Thanks so much for the comment, and I appreciate the feedback. I’m glad to hear that you find my advice practical, useful, and straight to the point. Means a lot to me to hear that from a reader.

      Life is a daily battle, and if we don’t stand up and face the drums every day then we lose a little bit of our passion, and ourselves in the process. We need to fight for our dreams, even if we work a 9-5, even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes a day. Every little bit counts, and a snowball can turn into an avalanche over time (pardon the metaphor). I think we can all surprise with what we could do when we get down to it, rather than just wondering about it.

      Thanks James!

  7. Dan Western

    Apr 25, 2016 at 10:28 am

    Awesome article Blake! Thanks for sharing this.

    P.S. I love the quote at the end! It fits perfectly.

    Dan

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Hey Dan, you’re very welcome man. Thanks for the comment and glad I could help. 🙂

  8. Mike McClement

    Apr 25, 2016 at 9:30 am

    Linked to #1 – never compare yourself to others. Sure, check out what they’re doing / how they’re succeeding. Learn if you can from that but don’t focus on their strengths, focus on your own.

    I try this approach and it seems to work although it does require self-discipline. Silencing the negative voice in your head encouraging you to doubt yourself is always challenging. It’s perfectly possible though if you keep in a positive frame of mind.

    Thanks Blake for a helpful article.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:38 am

      Hey Mike, thanks for the shout-out – really appreciate it. Definitely, comparing ourselves to others can only get us disheartened in the end. While it’s good to work up to where others are and see the value in their ideas, if we focus too much on their progress and their strengths (which highlight our own weaknesses) we lose sight of our own selves, our own strength, and our own potential – which can be poisonous for our own goals and motivation.

      It definitely requires telling that self-doubting voice “no”, as hard as it may be at times. But I don’t think we can ever turn it off completely or ignore it, only acknowledge it and work past it. It may always be there, but that doesn’t mean we have to adhere to it or fuel its fire.

      Thanks for the comment Mike. You’re very welcome, and I’m glad you found it helpful 🙂

  9. Jared

    Apr 24, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    I agree making baby steps is a way to move forward. I also have to stay patient because I want to move faster but at this time in my life it’s difficult. As long as I keep moving forward I know ill achieve my dreams. Thanks Blake.

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:44 am

      Hey Jared,

      Patience, like Gary Vee says, is HUGE. Almost even more so than baby steps. Because while we can slowly persist towards our larger goals every day, if we don’t have patience and respect for the whole process then it’s too easy to lose hope and turn to doubting ourselves and stopping our forward progress (we might even forget what progress looks like, too, if we get too wrapped up in the process).

      As cliche as it is, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Great things take time, just like your dreams take time to achieve. But they are most certainly achievable.

      Thanks for engaging, and glad you found it helpful! 🙂

  10. Mark Tong

    Apr 24, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    Hi Blake – love the article especially ‘ Embrace the power of your ideas ‘ – and blow yourself away:)

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 26, 2016 at 12:40 am

      Hey Mark,

      Yes, absolutely blow yourself away! You might just be surprised with what you can do and can achieve. I think we all can, but we need to light our fire first.

      Thanks for the comment!

  11. Quinn Eurich

    Apr 24, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    Loved the post Blake. You always have such great and straight-forwards advice.

    I especially love this: “first you have to step into the shoes that were made for you to wear all along.”

    It’s such a wonderful metaphor. The shoes are always there. They may be in a forgotten box in the back of a closet, or in a corner of the attic, or even lying in the shadows under the bed, but they are there.

    Sometimes you’ve tried them on and thought they were too big, but sooner or later you’ll grow into them, and when you do, it’s magic.

    Thanks for sharing!

    Quinn

    • Blake Powell

      Apr 24, 2016 at 11:10 pm

      Hey Quinn, thanks so much. I really appreciate the feedback and I’m glad the post helped you out. I loved your comment on the shoes, and think it’s pretty much perfect so I won’t add anything to it, but yes it’s so easy to put our dreams away and try and hide from them and ignore them when they’re just waiting for us to follow them. And I think the power of little steps towards bigger, more long-term goals are very underrated, as they’ve done wonders for me!

      Thanks for your comment 🙂

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

Share with us one goal you have for 2017, and how you plan on achieving it. Comment below so we can see!

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Ready For Your Next Step?

Success is not out of reach. All it takes is showing up each day and having the courage to take one small step towards the direction of your goals. Your new life of freedom and possibility awaits.

How will you make sure to achieve the success you are looking for? Please comment below and let us know!

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