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4 Effective Ways To Master Your Mindset – Jeffery Combs

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World class strategy and mindset coach Jeffery Combs has mentored over 9000 individual clients and has been an entrepreneur for over 30 years. Jeffery’s coaching calls, and podcasts are all online and have been listened to by 10’s of 1000’s around the globe.

Joel Brown interviews Jeffery Combs to talk about what it takes to be truly successful from the inside – out.

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Jeffery Combs Advice for Entrepreneurs

1. How Entrepreneurs can cut through the noise and find the right information for them

Many people practice SHELP-Help. Meaning their shelves are filled with self help books, they have podcast downloads, seminar information and they become “seminar goers” and not “active producers”. They hire a coach for a particular situation and they ring up their credit card debt, living in liability debt thinking it’s actually an asset when it’s not. It’s an asset when it’s applied, it’s a liability when it’s procrastinated on.

How do you know when you have found the right information?

You know, when you know. If you keep getting ready to get ready, waiting for that perfect mythical magical moment you’ll never live your dreams, you’ll live in a wish tip toeing quietly through life arriving at your grave safely having lived the greatest of pain, the pain of regret.

You have to have a business or business model. If you aren’t sytemized, organized, methodical and detailed conscious, there is a high probability you’ll be either be overwhelmed or you’ll procrastinate and be eventually disappointed.

Most people never apply what they learn, they keep looking for more technical know how.

How to create a business, comes from your vision. It comes from your inner know how, it doesn’t come from your technical knowing. It comes from your inner knowing, your being and that’s where so many people miss the mark. They try and learn more “know how” and they never access their own intuitive trust and inner knowing.

 

2. How to train your inner ear to focus more on what is mean and not said

You have to get out of your head, you have to stop living in your left brain analytic egoic mind. You have to learn to do less and be more, and many people try and do and they get overwhelmed before they try and then they procrastinate. You have to live in the moment, in the present. That doesn’t mean you don’t goal set but you have to learn how to goal get, how to achieve, how to produce, how to create results, how to live in the solution. You can’t continue to live in the problem, looking for the answers, looking for the next seminar speaker, the next event, the next rally.

It’s never out in front of you it’s always within you, and the more you look inside, in your inner knowing, in your trust, your innate ability to be grounded, but if you continue to be separate then you will never be “one with”. When you are one with, there’s no separation between you and the outcome or you and the results. But when you get attached to the outcome and you are overwhelmed in anxiety then you are separate from rather than one with.

 

“Be inspired, stay inspired and never quit!” – Jeffery Combs

 

3. How to simplify your overcomplicated life

First of all if you are complicated you are going to be unorganised, if you are unorganised you are going to be overwhelmed, if you are overwhelmed your body is in a constant state of fight or flight. There’s no joy, there’s no peace, there’s no love, and most importantly your energetic vibrational state is going to be in fight or flight or anxiety when you are in that kind of situation.

When you are relaxed and in the moment and what you do is simple, what you can do is duplicate it, through auto suggestion, autonomically, automatically, repetition and experience, you can become who you are.

If you are complicated and overwhelmed, you are not systematic, you are winging it and your brain never really relaxes. It never really creates a brain chemistry or alpha or delta state where it’s a lot longer wave where you are a lot more relaxed, you’re present, you’re here, you’re now. You’re in the solution and you’re not consumed with the problem. When you dwell on the problem you will manifest more of them to fulfil a biochemical craving and you will become addicted to disappointment.

 

4. The most common patterns in performance that are found in successful people

Successful people do the same thing over and over with very little fan fare. They can produce without recognition, they’re not seeking approval.

Here’s where most people miss the mark: If I put the word success on the board that is what most people seek, they want success. But if I put the word skills on the white board, very few people focus on that. They focus on success, not skills.

The most successful people are highly skilled and they have great habits. What most people want is instant gratification because they have entitlement issues. They feel entitled to success but they’re not willing to pay the price. They experience friction or the laws of gravity, take a drop and then they feel panicked and overwhelmed. They look at their credit card statements and then they’re not really happy with where they are, and they say “I’m not where I should be”, not really realising that they haven’t paid the price.

Successful people operate off the skill process, they learn the skills of their vocation.

If you don’t master your emotional state and master the skills of the vocation you’ll always be average and you’ll keep bouncing from situation for situation looking for that perfect magical moment, rather than realising that you are the moment and it’s your skills that are going to lead you to the land of promise.

 

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 60 million lives in the last 4 and a half years.

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  1. Danii Turnbull

    Mar 19, 2015 at 3:49 am

    Never thought of the desire for success as coming from a sense of entitlement. It’s a real thought provoking statement. Creating and maintaining strong habits is definitely paramount to achieving success whatever form it comes in, most people never stick at it long enough to reap the rewards though. Great article and podcast.

  2. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Dec 2, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    Wow!!!
    This podcast was absolutely amazing! I’ve never heard of Jeffery Combs before this but now I’m a huge fan. I love how simple he keeps everything. And I agree 100% with the concept of Simplicity. No need to complicate anything. All universal truths are simple truths.
    Once you’re in peace with yourself or as Jeffery puts it, Simple/Relaxed & present state of mind, then everything in life becomes better! Meditation helps you do that
    Thanks Joel, great podcast

  3. Liz

    Dec 2, 2014 at 6:43 pm

    Hello,

    First of all, I am very appreciative of this website and believe that your team, Mr. Brown, has done excellent work on it. But I find that sometimes it is difficult to read these articles because they are littered with run-on sentences–a lack of commas and too many conjunctions in most of the sentences. I know that these articles are written with an impassioned tone, and I appreciate that. But when a writer tries to pack too much meat into one sentence, it makes for a not-so-easy read for the reader! I want to be able to enjoy clear and concise advice from your articles. Keep writing as passionately as you are writing, but please make your sentences more clear and concise!

    Best,
    Liz

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How To Purify Your Mind With Powerful Beliefs – Marisa Peer

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Marisa Peer, who was named the Best British Therapist by Men’s Health magazine, has spent 25 years working with an extensive client list including royalty, rock stars, Hollywood actors, Olympic athletes, CEOs of multi-billion dollar companies and political leaders.

Marisa Peer‘s tools and techniques aim to bridge the gap between 99% of the population and the top 1% of super-achievers she works with. Marisa has a very unique way to help many individuals worldwide to increase their self belief so they can own the incredible parts within them to live in their full potential.

Click PLAY below to listen to Marisa Peer break down many amazing ways to conquer your limitations  and how you can flood your mind with empowering beliefs.

 

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“Belief without talent will take you further than talent without belief’ – Marisa Peer

 

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The Mindset Of A Multiple 6 Figure Online Entrepreneur – Daniel DiPiazza

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Daniel DiPiazza Rich20Something

Daniel DiPiazza is a millennial business mastermind and the young entrepreneur behind the massively popular career and lifestyle website Rich20Something.com.

In this episode Daniel shares his insights on what it takes to crush it online.

You can listen to our interview on the Addicted2Success podcast where Daniel shares his advice and strategies for online success (just hit play!)

 

STOP wasting your potential and create a Kickass business you love. Click the picture below and grab the BRAND NEW Rich20Something book today!

Daniel-DiPiazza-Rich20Something

What you will discover in this book:

  • Why most people can never think of a profitable business idea, and how to become an idea machine
  • How to completely destroy your fear of failure and pounce on the most important opportunities
  • Hustling 101: How to make your first $100,000 on the side
  • Why you should never network again, and how to befriend powerful influencers who will gladly help you
  • From freelancer to entrepreneur: How to create an online business that prints money while you sleep
  • How to eliminate distractions, get laser focused, and crush your goals
  • The mental tools and daily strategies I use to consistently create world-class work

In total, the book has more than 300 pages of detailed strategies, crazy anecdotes and larger-than-life personalities—including case studies from over a dozen wildly successful entrepreneurs who will tell you exactly how they did it.

Grab it here. Consume it. Start your dream business. Live an incredible life.

 

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How Crime, Drug Abuse, and Heartache Pushed One Man to Change the World – Jeremy Anderson

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the compassionate wisdom and the ambitious advice of speaker and minister Jeremy Anderson!  He has gone from a life of hopelessness to prosperity.  Through his hustle he took himself from the ground floor to working one-on-one with luminaries like the world renowned speaker Eric Thomas.  He has a fascinating story of grind and redemption that we all strive to emulate.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. You are capable of redemption.  You can live a life that makes a difference

It was only a few short years ago that my life looked very different.  My outlook was bleak, to say the least.  I was lost in murky depths of drug abuse and I was nearing 300 pounds on the tiny scale in my bathroom.  I spent my evenings mesmerized by the glow of my television and I wasn’t taking any purposeful steps towards success.  I felt deeply confined by the labels that had been placed on me by teachers, counselors, and middle school bullies.  I was weighed down and shackled by the ideas that had been embedded in me.  Of course I was a “loser”, they had all told me so.  Of course I was destined to always be the fat kid, they had all told me so.  Of course I was doomed to live a life of underwhelming mediocrity, they had all told me so.

My life changed when decided to make it change.  I decided that I would no longer accept feeling sluggish and encumbered by the weight that I had put on.  I bought a pair of tennis shoes and I began to hit the pavement.  I decided that I would no longer spend my nights held hostage by the media on my electronic devices.  I began to put myself out there and attend social events put on in my area.  I decided that I wasn’t going to accept the idea that I was stuck in this job that I despised driving to every day.  I began to apply of other positions and I found a teaching position that allowed me to give of myself to the most vulnerable of student populations.

Your life changes only when you get angry enough with your current situation that change is a NECESSITY, not an option.  So get disgusted with the things in your life that are holding you back.  Get furious at the idea that you are not living up to your physical potential.  Get livid at the fact that you are not in an occupation that allows you to fulfill your purpose.  Get angry with the idea that you are not bringing your best self to your significant other or those in your life that you love.  Use this as fuel to push you to take action.  It is then, and only then, that you can truly start to live the life that you deserve!

“I’m gonna make the rest of my life, the best of my life.” – Eric Thomas

2. You are deserving of health and happiness

For so much of our younger years, the adults in our life that we trust focus on our deficiencies. They often do this with good intentions, in the idea that they will push us to bigger and better things by helping us to rectify our mistakes. However, for many young people, this strategy backfires. This often times convinces them that they don’t deserve to be happy. This often times pushes them to believe that they don’t deserve to be healthy. They might end up feeling that they do not deserve the chance to fight for the version of success that they hold dear and their mind’s eye. However, (and I want you to focus on the sentence because it might be the most vital one that you read today) you are a person of worth that deserves health, happiness, and an extraordinary life.

Yes, you might have had your feelings in the past yes, you might have caused hurt and heartache for others. However, your past does not dictate your destiny. Choose right here and right now to change the way that you have looked at yourself in the past.  Choose right here and right now to move forward in your life with the assumption that your DEFAULT SETTING is happiness and that you can accomplish incredible vitality and health if you put in the work.  Simply by being alive, breathing, and having that heart continuing to pump in your chest…you are worth it.

Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet.  I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. Groucho Marx

3. Being of service to other people brings abundance into your life

Before I entered the transitional period in my life that brought about my own self empowerment, I was so used to having my credit card declined that it just became another frustrating part of my life.  I was so used to feeling like I could never quite get a hold of success and that all good things in my life just seemed to continually slip through my fingers.  However, there was one revolutionary moment, in which all of this changed.

I had just returned home from an evening interview at a high school.  I desperately wanted that job.  I was living paycheck to paycheck and barely scraping by.  Shrugging my backpack off my shoulders onto my kitchen table, I felt compelled to go for a walk.  As I trudged through a nearby park, illuminated only by the pale circles of light that were cast on the path in front of me, I dejectedly slumped over on a dilapidated park bench.  This will be my seventeenth interview, and probably my seventeenth rejection, I thought to myself.  On top of all of this, I had recently put my heart out there for a woman.  I had left her a message on her answering machine while she was out of town telling her how incredible I thought she was and that I would be profoundly grateful if she let me buy her a cup of coffee.  Days had passed and no response from her.  As I surveyed the park and listened to the late night wind rustle through the leaves of the trees above me, I was overwhelmed with a sense of letting go.

I still don’t entirely know what compelled me to do this, but on that park bench I said out loud to nobody in particular, “If I get this job, I will dedicate my life to being of service to these kids.  It will not be about the paycheck for me.  It will be about helping them realize their greatness.”

I sighed deeply, feeling utterly helpless.  It wasn’t even a minute later that my cell phone began to buzz in my pocket.  I had gotten two text messages.  Opening my phone, I was astonished to see that the first was from a teacher at the school I had interviewed at earlier that evening.  It read, “Call me.  We want to offer you the job.”  The second message was, much to my surprise, from the woman that I tried to contact.  Her message said, “I’d love to get coffee with you.  Pick me up this Friday at 8.”

When I chose to let go of my expectations for myself and decide to be of service to others, abundance entered my life.  As I began my journey as a teacher in that institution, and was able to bring those young scholars the kind of compassionate instruction they deserved to have, I started to get opportunities to speak and change the lives of kids outside my classroom.  Oh, and the woman from earlier in the story?  We’ve now been happily married for nearly three years.  While it may seem antithetical to what you have been taught, giving of yourself is truly the quickest and easiest way to bring more love, more wealth, and more hope into your life.  

“The measure of a man’s greatness is not the number of servants he has, but the number of people he serves.” – John Hagee

If you want to find out more about Jeremy Anderson and the work that he does, please visit: https://www.jeremyanderson.org/
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How Persistence, Patience, and Authenticity Helped One Entreprenuer Achieve His Wildest Dreams – Jeremy Slate

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the words and wisdom of entrepreneur Jeremy Slate!  He has a fascinating story of redemption and hustle that we all can learn something valuable from.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. Connect to others with authenticity and genuine compassion

We live in this weird time right now.  We live in a time in which it is seemingly socially acceptable for two young people on a date to be staring at their cell phones as opposed to each other. We live in a time where people automate their social media responses and text back pre-written answers to people that attempting to contact them. This practice of detached communication is slowly eroding our ability to connect with each other.  Over the course of my conversation with Jeremy Slate, we discussed the profound power that lies behind authentic communication.

Want to differentiate yourself from other people? Use heart-centered and compassionate communication. Be the person that tells a potential client the unfettered truth. Be the person that tells your significant other that they are deeply meaningful to you. Be the person that resolves disputes with co-workers peaceably while still recognizing the humanity in them. Be the person that goes out of your way to tell your teacher or professor that you are very grateful for the opportunity to learn under them. There are so many individuals out there right now trying to find that romantic partner, trying to start and sustain their own entrepreneurial venture, trying to get to the top of their class in their respective academic institutions. If you want to stand out from the crowd, do so by communicating in a much more meaningful way. It doesn’t take much more than a few kind words, eye contact, and a willingness to persist in conversation even when you have a deep desire to grab your iPhone from your pocket and start flipping through Instagram once more!

“The way we communicate with others and ourselves, ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” – Tony Robbins

2. Persistence and patience are key components of success

I will admit it. As a former English teacher, I love clichés. The reason I do is that there is a kernel of truth for us to learn from in each of them. One of my favorites is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” I think that this particular platitude is so important for us to keep in mind because of the kind of culture that you and I have gotten used to living in is infatuated with getting things handed to them instantaneously. It feels deeply frustrating to me that so many young people are obsessed with the idea of instant gratification or attaining their goals immediately.

In reality, all good things in our lives have to be fought for.  A business is not built overnight. It takes countless hours and a lot of sweat equity to develop and demonstrate your value in the marketplace. A great relationship does not come immediately. A long term and sustainable relationship is one that you have to work on. Graduating at the top of your class is no easy feat. To be that kind of young scholar, you need to accept the fact that you will have many late nights in study groups, with tutors and with your nose shoved in a book. Be patient and continue to push. When you apply this principle to your life, you will absolutely start to see the success that you want to have!

Your legacy is being written by yourself.  Make the right decisions Gary Vaynerchuk

3. Have an undying faith in your dream and your grind

There is a price for success that most people are unwilling to pay. Unfortunately, while I am a proud educator, I believe that our schools have failed many of you in that regard. For much of your young life you have had your hands held, you have been told that you are special, and anytime that you complain about your challenges, you have been given a copious amount of help. Sadly, as many of you know, this is a far cry from what you will experience in the real world.

There are always going to be that was the doubt you. There are going to be those that see you in the early stages of your journey toward success, and they will take that opportunity to try to tear you down. They will take that opportunity to try and laugh at you. Nevertheless, this is the time that you need to fight the hardest. This is the time that you need to believe the most in that dream that keeps you awake at night. Understand that you don’t need the approval of others to chase your version of success. You don’t need other people to co-sign the thing that you wish for the most. If your teacher doesn’t believe that you have the ability to find real success in the classroom, show them differently. If your significant other doesn’t believe that you can be a better partner to them, show them differently. If your business partner or clientele don’t see you as a leader, show them differently. The universe does not shape you, you shape the universe!

“Every time I wake up, I am thinking that I am alive, this is the day!  This is an opportunity.” – Eric Thomas

I hope you’ve enjoyed the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast!”  If you have some takeaways from the interview I missed, SOUND OFF in the comments below.
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The Ugly Truth About Success and Why You’re Not Achieving It

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As human beings, most of us have this tendency to overcomplicate things. Maybe you’ve had this experience of trying to find success, but for some reason, it keeps eluding you.  In our pursuit to win, hardly anyone tells us the ugly truth about why most of our dreams seem to evade us. (more…)

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  1. Danii Turnbull

    Mar 19, 2015 at 3:49 am

    Never thought of the desire for success as coming from a sense of entitlement. It’s a real thought provoking statement. Creating and maintaining strong habits is definitely paramount to achieving success whatever form it comes in, most people never stick at it long enough to reap the rewards though. Great article and podcast.

  2. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Dec 2, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    Wow!!!
    This podcast was absolutely amazing! I’ve never heard of Jeffery Combs before this but now I’m a huge fan. I love how simple he keeps everything. And I agree 100% with the concept of Simplicity. No need to complicate anything. All universal truths are simple truths.
    Once you’re in peace with yourself or as Jeffery puts it, Simple/Relaxed & present state of mind, then everything in life becomes better! Meditation helps you do that
    Thanks Joel, great podcast

  3. Liz

    Dec 2, 2014 at 6:43 pm

    Hello,

    First of all, I am very appreciative of this website and believe that your team, Mr. Brown, has done excellent work on it. But I find that sometimes it is difficult to read these articles because they are littered with run-on sentences–a lack of commas and too many conjunctions in most of the sentences. I know that these articles are written with an impassioned tone, and I appreciate that. But when a writer tries to pack too much meat into one sentence, it makes for a not-so-easy read for the reader! I want to be able to enjoy clear and concise advice from your articles. Keep writing as passionately as you are writing, but please make your sentences more clear and concise!

    Best,
    Liz

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How To Purify Your Mind With Powerful Beliefs – Marisa Peer

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Marisa Peer, who was named the Best British Therapist by Men’s Health magazine, has spent 25 years working with an extensive client list including royalty, rock stars, Hollywood actors, Olympic athletes, CEOs of multi-billion dollar companies and political leaders.

Marisa Peer‘s tools and techniques aim to bridge the gap between 99% of the population and the top 1% of super-achievers she works with. Marisa has a very unique way to help many individuals worldwide to increase their self belief so they can own the incredible parts within them to live in their full potential.

Click PLAY below to listen to Marisa Peer break down many amazing ways to conquer your limitations  and how you can flood your mind with empowering beliefs.

 

marisa peer quote

 

“Belief without talent will take you further than talent without belief’ – Marisa Peer

 

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The Mindset Of A Multiple 6 Figure Online Entrepreneur – Daniel DiPiazza

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Daniel DiPiazza Rich20Something

Daniel DiPiazza is a millennial business mastermind and the young entrepreneur behind the massively popular career and lifestyle website Rich20Something.com.

In this episode Daniel shares his insights on what it takes to crush it online.

You can listen to our interview on the Addicted2Success podcast where Daniel shares his advice and strategies for online success (just hit play!)

 

STOP wasting your potential and create a Kickass business you love. Click the picture below and grab the BRAND NEW Rich20Something book today!

Daniel-DiPiazza-Rich20Something

What you will discover in this book:

  • Why most people can never think of a profitable business idea, and how to become an idea machine
  • How to completely destroy your fear of failure and pounce on the most important opportunities
  • Hustling 101: How to make your first $100,000 on the side
  • Why you should never network again, and how to befriend powerful influencers who will gladly help you
  • From freelancer to entrepreneur: How to create an online business that prints money while you sleep
  • How to eliminate distractions, get laser focused, and crush your goals
  • The mental tools and daily strategies I use to consistently create world-class work

In total, the book has more than 300 pages of detailed strategies, crazy anecdotes and larger-than-life personalities—including case studies from over a dozen wildly successful entrepreneurs who will tell you exactly how they did it.

Grab it here. Consume it. Start your dream business. Live an incredible life.

 

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How Crime, Drug Abuse, and Heartache Pushed One Man to Change the World – Jeremy Anderson

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the compassionate wisdom and the ambitious advice of speaker and minister Jeremy Anderson!  He has gone from a life of hopelessness to prosperity.  Through his hustle he took himself from the ground floor to working one-on-one with luminaries like the world renowned speaker Eric Thomas.  He has a fascinating story of grind and redemption that we all strive to emulate.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. You are capable of redemption.  You can live a life that makes a difference

It was only a few short years ago that my life looked very different.  My outlook was bleak, to say the least.  I was lost in murky depths of drug abuse and I was nearing 300 pounds on the tiny scale in my bathroom.  I spent my evenings mesmerized by the glow of my television and I wasn’t taking any purposeful steps towards success.  I felt deeply confined by the labels that had been placed on me by teachers, counselors, and middle school bullies.  I was weighed down and shackled by the ideas that had been embedded in me.  Of course I was a “loser”, they had all told me so.  Of course I was destined to always be the fat kid, they had all told me so.  Of course I was doomed to live a life of underwhelming mediocrity, they had all told me so.

My life changed when decided to make it change.  I decided that I would no longer accept feeling sluggish and encumbered by the weight that I had put on.  I bought a pair of tennis shoes and I began to hit the pavement.  I decided that I would no longer spend my nights held hostage by the media on my electronic devices.  I began to put myself out there and attend social events put on in my area.  I decided that I wasn’t going to accept the idea that I was stuck in this job that I despised driving to every day.  I began to apply of other positions and I found a teaching position that allowed me to give of myself to the most vulnerable of student populations.

Your life changes only when you get angry enough with your current situation that change is a NECESSITY, not an option.  So get disgusted with the things in your life that are holding you back.  Get furious at the idea that you are not living up to your physical potential.  Get livid at the fact that you are not in an occupation that allows you to fulfill your purpose.  Get angry with the idea that you are not bringing your best self to your significant other or those in your life that you love.  Use this as fuel to push you to take action.  It is then, and only then, that you can truly start to live the life that you deserve!

“I’m gonna make the rest of my life, the best of my life.” – Eric Thomas

2. You are deserving of health and happiness

For so much of our younger years, the adults in our life that we trust focus on our deficiencies. They often do this with good intentions, in the idea that they will push us to bigger and better things by helping us to rectify our mistakes. However, for many young people, this strategy backfires. This often times convinces them that they don’t deserve to be happy. This often times pushes them to believe that they don’t deserve to be healthy. They might end up feeling that they do not deserve the chance to fight for the version of success that they hold dear and their mind’s eye. However, (and I want you to focus on the sentence because it might be the most vital one that you read today) you are a person of worth that deserves health, happiness, and an extraordinary life.

Yes, you might have had your feelings in the past yes, you might have caused hurt and heartache for others. However, your past does not dictate your destiny. Choose right here and right now to change the way that you have looked at yourself in the past.  Choose right here and right now to move forward in your life with the assumption that your DEFAULT SETTING is happiness and that you can accomplish incredible vitality and health if you put in the work.  Simply by being alive, breathing, and having that heart continuing to pump in your chest…you are worth it.

Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet.  I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. Groucho Marx

3. Being of service to other people brings abundance into your life

Before I entered the transitional period in my life that brought about my own self empowerment, I was so used to having my credit card declined that it just became another frustrating part of my life.  I was so used to feeling like I could never quite get a hold of success and that all good things in my life just seemed to continually slip through my fingers.  However, there was one revolutionary moment, in which all of this changed.

I had just returned home from an evening interview at a high school.  I desperately wanted that job.  I was living paycheck to paycheck and barely scraping by.  Shrugging my backpack off my shoulders onto my kitchen table, I felt compelled to go for a walk.  As I trudged through a nearby park, illuminated only by the pale circles of light that were cast on the path in front of me, I dejectedly slumped over on a dilapidated park bench.  This will be my seventeenth interview, and probably my seventeenth rejection, I thought to myself.  On top of all of this, I had recently put my heart out there for a woman.  I had left her a message on her answering machine while she was out of town telling her how incredible I thought she was and that I would be profoundly grateful if she let me buy her a cup of coffee.  Days had passed and no response from her.  As I surveyed the park and listened to the late night wind rustle through the leaves of the trees above me, I was overwhelmed with a sense of letting go.

I still don’t entirely know what compelled me to do this, but on that park bench I said out loud to nobody in particular, “If I get this job, I will dedicate my life to being of service to these kids.  It will not be about the paycheck for me.  It will be about helping them realize their greatness.”

I sighed deeply, feeling utterly helpless.  It wasn’t even a minute later that my cell phone began to buzz in my pocket.  I had gotten two text messages.  Opening my phone, I was astonished to see that the first was from a teacher at the school I had interviewed at earlier that evening.  It read, “Call me.  We want to offer you the job.”  The second message was, much to my surprise, from the woman that I tried to contact.  Her message said, “I’d love to get coffee with you.  Pick me up this Friday at 8.”

When I chose to let go of my expectations for myself and decide to be of service to others, abundance entered my life.  As I began my journey as a teacher in that institution, and was able to bring those young scholars the kind of compassionate instruction they deserved to have, I started to get opportunities to speak and change the lives of kids outside my classroom.  Oh, and the woman from earlier in the story?  We’ve now been happily married for nearly three years.  While it may seem antithetical to what you have been taught, giving of yourself is truly the quickest and easiest way to bring more love, more wealth, and more hope into your life.  

“The measure of a man’s greatness is not the number of servants he has, but the number of people he serves.” – John Hagee

If you want to find out more about Jeremy Anderson and the work that he does, please visit: https://www.jeremyanderson.org/
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How Persistence, Patience, and Authenticity Helped One Entreprenuer Achieve His Wildest Dreams – Jeremy Slate

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the words and wisdom of entrepreneur Jeremy Slate!  He has a fascinating story of redemption and hustle that we all can learn something valuable from.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. Connect to others with authenticity and genuine compassion

We live in this weird time right now.  We live in a time in which it is seemingly socially acceptable for two young people on a date to be staring at their cell phones as opposed to each other. We live in a time where people automate their social media responses and text back pre-written answers to people that attempting to contact them. This practice of detached communication is slowly eroding our ability to connect with each other.  Over the course of my conversation with Jeremy Slate, we discussed the profound power that lies behind authentic communication.

Want to differentiate yourself from other people? Use heart-centered and compassionate communication. Be the person that tells a potential client the unfettered truth. Be the person that tells your significant other that they are deeply meaningful to you. Be the person that resolves disputes with co-workers peaceably while still recognizing the humanity in them. Be the person that goes out of your way to tell your teacher or professor that you are very grateful for the opportunity to learn under them. There are so many individuals out there right now trying to find that romantic partner, trying to start and sustain their own entrepreneurial venture, trying to get to the top of their class in their respective academic institutions. If you want to stand out from the crowd, do so by communicating in a much more meaningful way. It doesn’t take much more than a few kind words, eye contact, and a willingness to persist in conversation even when you have a deep desire to grab your iPhone from your pocket and start flipping through Instagram once more!

“The way we communicate with others and ourselves, ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” – Tony Robbins

2. Persistence and patience are key components of success

I will admit it. As a former English teacher, I love clichés. The reason I do is that there is a kernel of truth for us to learn from in each of them. One of my favorites is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” I think that this particular platitude is so important for us to keep in mind because of the kind of culture that you and I have gotten used to living in is infatuated with getting things handed to them instantaneously. It feels deeply frustrating to me that so many young people are obsessed with the idea of instant gratification or attaining their goals immediately.

In reality, all good things in our lives have to be fought for.  A business is not built overnight. It takes countless hours and a lot of sweat equity to develop and demonstrate your value in the marketplace. A great relationship does not come immediately. A long term and sustainable relationship is one that you have to work on. Graduating at the top of your class is no easy feat. To be that kind of young scholar, you need to accept the fact that you will have many late nights in study groups, with tutors and with your nose shoved in a book. Be patient and continue to push. When you apply this principle to your life, you will absolutely start to see the success that you want to have!

Your legacy is being written by yourself.  Make the right decisions Gary Vaynerchuk

3. Have an undying faith in your dream and your grind

There is a price for success that most people are unwilling to pay. Unfortunately, while I am a proud educator, I believe that our schools have failed many of you in that regard. For much of your young life you have had your hands held, you have been told that you are special, and anytime that you complain about your challenges, you have been given a copious amount of help. Sadly, as many of you know, this is a far cry from what you will experience in the real world.

There are always going to be that was the doubt you. There are going to be those that see you in the early stages of your journey toward success, and they will take that opportunity to try to tear you down. They will take that opportunity to try and laugh at you. Nevertheless, this is the time that you need to fight the hardest. This is the time that you need to believe the most in that dream that keeps you awake at night. Understand that you don’t need the approval of others to chase your version of success. You don’t need other people to co-sign the thing that you wish for the most. If your teacher doesn’t believe that you have the ability to find real success in the classroom, show them differently. If your significant other doesn’t believe that you can be a better partner to them, show them differently. If your business partner or clientele don’t see you as a leader, show them differently. The universe does not shape you, you shape the universe!

“Every time I wake up, I am thinking that I am alive, this is the day!  This is an opportunity.” – Eric Thomas

I hope you’ve enjoyed the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast!”  If you have some takeaways from the interview I missed, SOUND OFF in the comments below.
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