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The Beginners 13 Step Guide To Motivation

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LeBron 13 Steps To Motivation

Quite simply, one of the best ways to be successful is to ensure you are motivated. Forget the cheesy internet sales guys telling you about how they got rich in 30 days. What you really need is the real definition of motivation, which is your motive for action.

Clearly there is some action you want to take and the only way you will make that action a must is if you have a motive to do so. A goal is really just an action you want to take so that you can get to some type of feeling.

No important goal is going to be achieved in a small amount of time so what you require is a motive for action, to regularly work on that goal in the form of a habit. Habits will never last though unless you set them with a successful strategy that is reinforced by your motives / reasons.

The mistake that we all make is that we think motivation will last forever, but it doesn’t. One inspiring article like this will not keep you motivated long term. The only way to achieve long-term results and outcomes towards your goal is to really go deep on why you are doing what you’re doing.

Below are my thirteen beginner steps to stay motivated.

 

1. Pick your biggest goal that has the most fear

The challenge of motivation is that if the goal you are heading towards isn’t big enough or ugly enough, or important enough, there is a good chance you will quit. What keeps me motivated is the thrill of picking stupid, crazy, big goals that I have attached the most amount of fear to and then crushing them.

Let me give you a quick example. I recently took up public speaking through Toastmasters. I tried to do this last year but gave up after three shots because it was way too uncomfortable. My work career has been heavily focused on sales, and I can speak in front of people no problem.

Where the challenge comes for me is when it’s more formal, and there are lots more people; like fifty plus heads in the room. Back to Toastmasters, I didn’t originally cement in my mind clearly enough why I was doing it.

When I rejoined Toastmasters a second time, I linked up in my mind that if I am going to keep doing the entrepreneur / self-development blogging gig, at some point (if I want the message to get bigger) I am going to be asked to speak about the subject publically.

Now if I look at why I do what I do every day – to inspire the world through self-development and entrepreneurship – then my motivate for action becomes much more powerful. Now the fear I experience has true meaning, and so, therefore, I am motivated and much less likely to quit.

 

2. Immerse yourself in the goal to stay motivated

Now there is a further step that kept me moving towards my public speaking goal; it’s quite simply the art of immersion. To make my Toastmasters experience even greater, I decided that instead of attending fortnightly like everyone else, I was going to attend every week to gain full immersion.

By attending every week, it meant that I had to go to an earlier session starting at 7:15 am. This time slot takes real guts, but the benefit it has is that it’s testing my motivation to see if I am legitimate about my goal. The other benefit is that there are fewer people at the earlier session so on one week I have only a small audience, and then on the other week, I have a massive audience.

This change in audience numbers allows me to try riskier thinks with fewer people, and not so risky things with a larger audience to slowly build my confidence.

 

3. Use confidence to keep you motivated

In the previous point, I touched on confidence. The important part about confidence is that most people try and motivate themselves towards a goal too quickly. If you jump straight into the deep end on the first try, you will scare yourself away from your goal.

What I learnt with public speaking was to start small and build some confidence. When I get constructive feedback on each speech, it allows me to feel like I am improving. The better I feel about myself, the more motivated I feel to keep pushing through the fear.

The best example in my life of confidence is my previous fear of flying. The reason I say previous fear is that I have pretty much got rid of all the fear. The way I did this was by taking lots of small flights.

On the every first flight I used self-development tapes to keep my confidence levels high, and then I gradually needed the tapes less and less. Once I was able to fly solo in a calm state, I used the confidence I had built previously as the reason I was going to succeed.

 

4. Without growth, there is no motivation

If there is no growth towards your goal, then there is a good chance that the motivation will die off. The secret to sustained motivation is to constantly strive for some level of growth. As humans, we are obsessed with growing, and if something doesn’t grow then, it dies.

The concept of growth can be best demonstrated by video games. These days, the word gamification has become a popular topic. Gamification is really about thinking about a task as if it were a video game.

bAlmost every video game in history has some form of levels. As you move through the levels, you experience more and more growth.

The makers of video games know that if you can make someone experience growth, then you can get them addicted to spending their time and money playing the video games. Now for me, after doing Tony Robbins “Unleash The Power Within,” I learnt that growth is my highest valued human need.

Surprisingly, this is the case for a lot of us. So next time you lack motivation, ask yourself the question, “is there enough growth in the current way I am executing on this goal?”

 

5. Become obsessed with motivated people

Staying motivated involves having other people around you that are also highly motivated. Even though your goals and their goals may be totally different, sharing stories with each other of how you are getting to your individual goals will keep you motivated.

If you have a week when you are a bit off, and you ask another motivated person who has had a great week about how they feel, you should be able to use their story of success to power your own.

 

6. Just get started

Before I mentioned my fear of flying. One of the other keys to this fear and motivating myself to keep going was just to get started. The way I did this was to put my money on the line and just book a flight. It’s amazing how once you have spent the money and can’t get it back you just follow through.

Just recently, I booked my longest flight yet to Asia. There was a small amount of fear but rather than dwell on it, I just motivated myself by spending the money, and then moving to the next goal in my life.

By just getting started, you force the motivation process to begin, and you virtually guarantee yourself some level of success. The process of flying has now become a bit of a game for me, and I am always trying to one up myself from the previous journey. Not to mention I am getting hooked on the travel bug and getting to visit beautiful places in the world.

 

7. Make sure you keep at it

With any form of goal that requires motivation, there are going to be high’s and lows. My motivation varies all the time. Take blogging as an example; I try and write articles every single week but sometimes I fall into a rut.

Now if I just let the rut continue then I would give up blogging easily. The ruts not caused by my lack of passion for writing, it’s caused by the sometimes repetitive nature of writing. The key for me to be able not to give up is to keep myself motivated.

It’s also important to remember that nothing is permanent and all it takes is a little spark of inspiration to get going again. If you keep yourself open to those sparks of inspiration, then they are much more likely to enter your life at just the right time.

 

8. Make the most of inspiring states of mind

The other trick I use is to make the most of inspiration. This means that if I go and watch an inspiring movie or something really cool happens like I get acknowledged for some work I did and I am feeling on top of the world, I quickly get out my laptop and start writing.

Many of us don’t make the most of our empowering states. When we feel on fire, we need to use this time to follow our passion. The single most useful form of motivation is your state of mind. Now, if your state of mind isn’t great, then you can shift it by getting into a peak state.

 

9. Use public announcements as motivation

For those who have been reading my articles on Addicted2Success carefully, you will notice something that I do a lot; I often announce things I am going to do publically. The reason that I do this is because my network reads my articles, and once I say something publically I am committed.

Just like the stock market, public announcements create leverage and a rare form of motivation that doesn’t exist anywhere else. Once you say you are going to do something publically, it’s hard to back down.

The reason for this is that we don’t want to disappoint people or not deliver on a promise. When you commit something publically you are going to start to get asked how you’re tracking with that commitment.

Since mentioning public speaking, I now regularly have people asking me how I am going. Now I couldn’t be known around the place as the inspiring guy looking to change the world through Addicted2Success if I just gave up without a reason could I?

The previous sentence might sound a bit stupid but since blogging on here, people think I am some super human expert on success. The reality? I am as vulnerable and flawed as anyone else. The difference? I am happy to admit it and spend every day growing and self-motivating myself towards a higher level of success.

 

10. Track your success

I have mentioned growth a few times already, but growth alone is not enough. The reason is that unless you track your success, you won’t know if you are growing and, therefore, you won’t be motivated.

Tracking your success is best done by keeping it “simple stupid” (a saying I picked up). Just write down once a week how you feel you are tracking with your goal. It’s also important to capture the feelings you are experiencing because they form the foundations of your motivation.

Where possible, describe your progress in an uplifting way. This involves still mentioning the negative feelings you are experiencing, but just being consciously aware to put a positive, constructive spin on it. How do you truly know if you are motivated each day?

A simple test you can do is to reflect on how you wake up. If you are tired when you wake up but you still jump out of bed and get your day started then chances are you are motivated. If you take forever to wake up, and it’s a real challenge, then you’re unfortunately not motivated.

 

11. Experiment with a deadline

I am the sort of person that if there is no deadline, then I find it hard to stay motivated. One simple habit I use to overcome this is to implement forced deadlines. For example, right now I have around six articles ready to post up.

To ensure I keep writing more, I make sure that I purposely run out of unpublished articles frequently. This is achieved by posting lingering articles as quick as possible so that my mind starts saying, “you have nothing to post next week!”

I then add another simple form of motivation. This one is a little crazy. It’s the concept of death being a great form of motivation. So how I do this is I tell myself, “Tim if you were to die tomorrow then the articles that haven’t been released could be lost forever.”

So, I tell myself always to post articles that are ready in case something happens to me. The fear of never having my life’s work seen by the world keeps me motivated to write more.

The more I write, the better I get, and the more growth I experience coupled with the ability to give back and inspire others. What a phenomenal reason to live huh?

The other thing I noticed when there is no deadline is that I tend to not put things off, but do things slower than I should. I become more conscious of making the outcome perfect as opposed to just getting things done and learning from the mistakes along the way.

The best deadlines I use regularly are ones that have other people I respect tied to them. For example, if I have an interview booked with an influential person, I feel a sense of urgency to get everything done before the interview because I don’t want to let the person down, and because I care about delivering value to them to some extent.

 

12. Motivate yourself by thinking of the end feeling

If we thought about why many people want to drive Ferrari’s then, we would uncover pretty quickly that it’s not because they love driving a huge chunk of metal around that’s painted red. The reason they are motivated to work hard and buy a Ferrari is because of the feeling they think they will get from owning one.

This concept is a very influential part of motivation because you can skip the step of owning the Ferrari. What you need to do instead is motivate yourself through the feelings you will get by achieving your goal and driving that Ferrari.

The beauty is that you can experience these feelings even before you achieve the goal. So when you spend time on your goal, and you lack motivation, picture yourself having already achieved the goal and then try and create that feeling in the moment.

A quick example for me is holidays. While planning and organising a holiday can be a real drag for me, the way I overcome it is to picture myself lying on the beach at my favourite holiday destination. Then, when I am working through the actions required to make that holiday happen, I just introduced that relaxed, beach holiday feeling, into each of the tasks I need to complete.

This easy life hack may seem overly simplistic, but it really is one of the foundations of motivation that many of the greats use.

 

13. Get someone to push you

The last step to motivation for beginners is to get someone to push you. This person is usually in the form of a coach or mentor. Don’t pick your lover or a friend because there is a good chance that they will allow you to take shortcuts.

Try and get someone who is independent like a coach through Skype. Joel Brown and I do this for many clients, and we both are able to get people to take action because we are independent of the person we are coaching, and often have no prior connection or relationship.

One of the best sessions I have attended on coaching was run by a man named Scott Harris. Scott is best known for his work teaching Tony Robbins’s Business Mastery program, but he is also a brilliant coach. He teaches the importance of having someone push you and how motivation is not enough.

Motivation will only get you so far, and you need to be challenged in order to get the benefits of that magical feeling called growth. A coach or mentor will also ask you tough questions that will uncover your motive for action, and try and push you forward.

It’s easy to tell yourself to do something, but when you have someone else telling you at the same time, it’s a lot easier to fall into the sweet spot of motivation.

What motivates you? How do you stay motivated? Let me know in the comment section below or directly through my Twitter or Facebook Pages.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim’s content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Kevin

    May 15, 2016 at 3:58 am

    Great article! I used to look no further than the next task, the next problem, the next day. I found that I was not only in a rut, I hadn’t moved out of the situation that I was trying to get out of. I have recently adoped a new philosophy; “Do all you can, while you can”. This may cost me a few extra minutes, but I can leave a task in a state where it is easy for me or someone else to pick back up and have everything available and organized. I got to this idea by living a perpetually distracted work life, and whatever tasks I didn’t finish were left as a trail of partly finished projects behind me. It takes discipline to keep things organized, but I reap the rewards whenever I or someone else picks one of these projects back up, and I don’t have to work in a messy (and distracting) environment. Thanks so much for your great work!

  2. sherill

    Mar 4, 2016 at 2:39 am

    Really great. the beginner steps are wonderful and easy to do. Thanks for sharing a very encouraging post. Love it 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 6, 2016 at 1:48 am

      Glad you like the tips Sherill and thanks for reading.

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Motivation

All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

Now it’s action time.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

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From his roles on major blockbusters such as Pacific Rim and The Dark Tower, to some of his smaller roles on shows such as The Wire and Luther; Idris Elba has demonstrated himself to be not only a skilled actor, but a diverse and adaptive one as well. From his rough origins in Northern London, Idris clawed & worked his way to become one of the most recognized actors in Hollywood. At one point he was sleeping in a van working as a doorman. During his journey, Idris Elba has learned a lot about life, success, and sticking to your passion. (more…)

Joe Kleckner has a passion for all things motivation & self-development.  From blogs such as Addicted2Success, to the videos of Eric Thomas and Elliott Hulse, to the lectures of legends such as Tony Robbins.  This passion has landed him an internship with Addicted2Success. Follow him on Twitter & Snapchat as he journeys towards greatness, one day at a time.

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  1. Kevin

    May 15, 2016 at 3:58 am

    Great article! I used to look no further than the next task, the next problem, the next day. I found that I was not only in a rut, I hadn’t moved out of the situation that I was trying to get out of. I have recently adoped a new philosophy; “Do all you can, while you can”. This may cost me a few extra minutes, but I can leave a task in a state where it is easy for me or someone else to pick back up and have everything available and organized. I got to this idea by living a perpetually distracted work life, and whatever tasks I didn’t finish were left as a trail of partly finished projects behind me. It takes discipline to keep things organized, but I reap the rewards whenever I or someone else picks one of these projects back up, and I don’t have to work in a messy (and distracting) environment. Thanks so much for your great work!

  2. sherill

    Mar 4, 2016 at 2:39 am

    Really great. the beginner steps are wonderful and easy to do. Thanks for sharing a very encouraging post. Love it 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 6, 2016 at 1:48 am

      Glad you like the tips Sherill and thanks for reading.

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All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

How do you remain self-motivated? Let us know in the comments below!

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