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7 Ways To Stay Motivated When People Criticize You

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When I started my business, I was met with skepticism and criticism from those closest to me.  

“How are you going to save for retirement? I heard that 8 out of 10 businesses fail. This is temporary, right? Until you get a real job?”

Every comment from those well-meaning people eroded the confidence and motivation I had amassed after countless hours of research and preparation. I felt as though I was paddling upstream in a raging river—and no one was there to lend a hand.

But even though I was scared, I didn’t quit. Instead, I applied the 7 tactics below to stay motivated despite the critics:

1. Know your mission

I knew I wanted to be a marketing coach because I’m passionate about teaching and I’m fascinated by marketing. Every time the critics made me want to question my decision, I would think of my mission and remind myself that I was doing what I knew was right for me.

Clearly state what you want to accomplish and why. To stay motivated, your reasons must match your core values and passion. Then, write down your mission and post it near your computer where you will be able to see it during the tough times.

“A small body of determined spirits fired by an unquenchable faith in their mission can alter the course of history.” – Mahatma Gandhi

2. Don’t justify your goal

I realized that the more I tried to explain why I was pursuing my goal, the less confident I felt about my ability to succeed, and the more my motivation suffered.

You’re not obligated to explain or justify your goal. Focus on how to achieve what you desire rather than on how to get external approval to pursue your mission.

 

3. Don’t reveal too much too soon

I was so excited about my new venture that I couldn’t resist sharing the good news with those around me. I quickly learned that I had made a mistake, because instead of receiving encouragement, I often received criticism.

The reality is that many people in your life will find fault with your goal, will warn you to “be careful,” or will share a story of someone who failed when trying to achieve a similar goal.

That’s a sure way to kill your motivation, especially when it hasn’t gathered enough positive momentum to withstand criticism.

In the beginning stages of your project, it’s best to write your ultimate goal in a private journal and keep your ideas to yourself. Let your confidence and motivation build up before you share the news.

 

4. Expand your social circle

I noticed that many of my friends and loved ones were being critical because their interests and backgrounds were opposite to mine. I decided to meet new people who would be more likely to relate to me, offer encouragement, and provide useful insights.

Seek the company of those who are most likely to support you. Attend networking meetings, join a mastermind group or connect with a mentor. Create a strong support network to tap into during your journey.

 

5. Spend time in solitude

As important as it was for me to meet new people, I found the answers to my biggest questions when I removed myself from the noise and spent time alone.

You don’t need to escape to a deserted island for a week. Even an hour away from technology and other people will allow you to achieve the peaceful state of mind you need to create a winning strategy. You’ll feel more motivated to go on when you become confident about your plan of action.

“The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.” – Albert Einstein

6. Find those who have succeeded achieving a similar goal to yours

The best antidote for the doomsday scenarios the critics describe to you is a story of triumph.

I found the top five players in my industry and followed their footsteps. I signed up for their training programs and modeled what they had done in their business. I placed my attention on the amazing results they had achieved. They became one of my main sources of motivation.

Today, make a list of 5 to 10 people who have achieved a similar goal to yours, and learn from them. Just like you, they were probably bombarded with criticism. But they made it, and so can you!

 

7. Celebrate small successes

I created a log of small wins, which I updated at the end of every week. I kept track of new software applications I had learned, people I had connected with, and training modules I had completed. Even cleaning my inbox made it to the list!

When my confidence and motivation wavered, I read the log, and realized how much I had already accomplished. This log became an instant motivation booster.

Keep track of your accomplishments—even those that seem insignificant. A small win might end up having a big impact on your success.

Criticism is one of the major motivation killers, but if you’re prepared, you won’t be a victim of the critics. Stay focused on the end goal and find joy in every step of the journey!

How do you stay motivated when people criticize you? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Cloris Kylie, Marketing MBA, helps coaches, consultants, and service-based professionals to attract the right clients so that they skyrocket their impact and revenue. A sought-after speaker, trainer, and author, Cloris has been featured on various television and radio shows, including the #1 podcast for entrepreneurs, "Entrepreneur On Fire." Cloris's articles have been published on websites with millions of followers. Visit her website here https://www.cloriskylie.com and get her free eBook to build authority and grow your audience here: https://myplatform.info/free-pdf-ebook.

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11 Comments

11 Comments

  1. Ram

    Apr 26, 2018 at 4:44 am

    Don’t reveal too much too soon has esp worked brilliant in my case. When you deal with people who have natural tendency to block new ideas, unproven ideas are more prone to be criticized and crushed. On the other hand, armed with validation, one can deflect criticism effectively.

  2. Zebbie

    Aug 23, 2016 at 3:40 pm

    Thank you for the story! Could have been me. Love the advice! Especially like #2. No one should have to justify their passions.

  3. Pansy

    Aug 16, 2016 at 1:50 am

    Whenever I am criticized, there is a feeling that I cannot describe. To say the least, I do experience a feeling of sadness. There is also a mixed feeling that I may be wrong about what I am doing. Nevertheless, I would always remember my childhood days when I was always praised by my mother. I always remember hearing my mother saying to me: ‘If you are criticized and told negative things, show them that they are wrong and you were right. Take the negatives and turn them into positives. Show them that they are wrong. Do not give up. Believe in yourself and what you know you can do”

    I am still thanking my mother and a particular teacher who saw the good in me. Let me tell you, I do teach my children the same thing.

  4. Simone

    Jun 25, 2016 at 5:23 pm

    Highly motivational article. Number seven ‘celebrate you small success’ is my favorite point here. I make it a point to celebrate small success often. It gives me confidence to move forward. Thank you Cloris for sharing such a wonderful article with us.

  5. Barbara Buggs

    Jun 24, 2016 at 3:00 am

    Great read and very motivational!

  6. nisa

    Jun 9, 2016 at 4:45 am

    This is great! just when I was about to quit this business I started 3 months ago I came across this article and I am now motivated. Thanks!

  7. kapil jain

    May 17, 2016 at 2:18 am

    beautifully written n thanks

  8. Chris

    Mar 10, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    May I ask what was your mission that you wrote next to your computer?

    Great article, I’m going to make a list of people that are doing the same thing I am doing to show myself it can be done.

    I also feel it is imperative to surround yourself with successful people, these are the ones that will drive you.

  9. Thea Dunlap

    Mar 4, 2016 at 2:00 am

    I love the 7 ways you’ve written here. I lot of people always criticize me especially my family. This post will hopefully motivate me more. Love the advice, keep it up.

  10. Nick Scuderi

    Feb 28, 2016 at 3:19 am

    I like these ways! Stay motivated through the thick and the thin. Even when it seems unlikely, change your mindset and aim for your dreams.

  11. Ramtin

    Feb 27, 2016 at 9:27 pm

    It could be my story, different goal and business but the same challenge! Great advice.

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