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7 Steps To Go From Burnout To Unbelievably Motivated

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7 Steps To Go From Burnout To Unbelievably Motivated

One day you are excited about life, your plans and what your future holds. Then slowly but surely, it becomes more difficult to finish a project. Soon you are struggling to complete even minor tasks.

You give vague responses when people ask you how things are going. You promise yourself that tomorrow will be different. You will get up earlier, you will exercise, and you will eat healthier. Tomorrow comes and you struggle out of bed, two hours later than planned and it all goes downhill from there; again. It really does not have to be that way.

Here are 7 steps that you can take to put the colour back into your working life:

 

Step 1: Have a do nothing day

In my book, I wrote a chapter titled “Step Back to Take Control”. Take those words to heart. Stop all the activity, the obsessing and the multi-tasking. For one day, give yourself the freedom to have nothing to do. If you have a job, arrange a day off.

Unless it is life or death, or will mean you lose money or a customer, don’t even attempt to clear your calendar. Just stop everything. On that day, get up when you are ready to get up and do not feel guilty about it. Make yourself a nice breakfast, sit in your favourite spot, and let the feeling of doing nothing wash over you. For an achiever, this is actually very hard to do.  Give it a chance. You will start to gain the physical, emotional and mental space to take the next steps.

 

Step 2: Rearrange your working environment

Go to the place where you spend your working day and just stand there and look around. Does it feel cluttered, messy, disorganised? Are there too many items in the room or on the desk? Is the furniture arranged in a way that makes you feel ready to take on the day, or go back to bed?

Play some uplifting music, something that will make you sing or even dance. As you move around the room; throw out items that you no longer need. Put useful items to one side to give away. Rearrange the room, equipment and paperwork to create a space that you will look forward to entering each day.

“Environment is stronger than willpower.” – Paramahansa Yogananda

Step 3: Have a VIP strategy day for one

Step one and two are designed to help you feel less stressed. Nevertheless, the entrepreneurial mind does not ever really rest. And too much time away from what you need to do can actually cause anxiety. In your new workspace, identify the things that are pulling on your time and energy. Write them all down. Write them on actual paper with one item per line, and a whole line between each item. Take this notepad to a place that is away from your day to day life. I book an overnight stay in a hotel, but you could merely go to a coffee shop for a few hours. The one rule is it must be a place where you feel relaxed. The nicer the location, the better.

While you are there, ask yourself three questions:

  • Why and for whom, am I really doing this?
  • If you do achieve your plans how will your life be? Your health, finances, social life, relationships, lifestyle, mental state.
  • If you do not achieve your plans, what things could go wrong for you? Your health, finances, social life, relationships, lifestyle, mental state.

Take the answers and go through the items on your paper. Discard anything that does not fit in with your plans. Look at the remaining things and decide the one item that you are going to make your priority for the next 30 days.

You have now given yourself permission to put all other projects on hold. You only need to concentrate on whatever you do to continue to bring in income, plus your one project; for the next 30 days.

 

Step 4: Ask for help

The help you need may be in the form of skills or expertise, to help you with your day to day responsibilities. Just because you have your one thing, it does not mean you do not have to think about anything else. The other very important type of help is support for you. Join a group of like-minded people so you do not feel alone. You may even benefit from a mentor or a coach to check up on you. This is one of the best ways to avoid burning yourself out all over again.

 

Step 5: Create a relaxing evening routine

Establish a routine that helps you to wind down and get a good night’s sleep. I have a shower or bath, followed by listening to an audio book (not work related). Some people meditate, others write in a journal. Set an alarm on your phone as a trigger that it is time to start winding down. Follow the same routine each night.

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall” – Nelson Mandela

Step 6: Create an energising morning routine

This is similar to the evening routine. This time, however, you want to do things that wakes you up and gets you moving. Ironically, getting up in the morning often proves to be the hardest step to master for people who are fighting to overcome overwhelm. This is because emotional energy plays a major part in how we start and tackle our day. The trick is to create a routine that will be effective, regardless of how you feel. Your aim is for the routine to become a habit. It will take time, but gradually you will find you are able to get going even on days you are not looking forward to. 

 

Step 7: Celebrate

I teach people to track their money. Tracking your successes are just as important, even the small ones. I keep a list of my little weekly achievements. It is a great tool to remind me how far I have come when things are not going well. If you are part of a group like a mastermind or you have a coach, it is wonderful to be able to share your successes with them. We all need words of encouragement from time to time.

For celebrating to be really powerful, plan your rewards in advance. When I have an article published I announce it to select Facebook friends and then I buy another pretty lipstick. One of my colleagues goes for a test drive in a high-performance car. It could be a fancy dinner, a holiday, a gadget or just time for you. As long as it makes you feel special, go for it.​

Final thought

When a computer slows down, if we keep pressing the mouse or keyboard, it slows down even more. The easiest solution is to shut it down, give it a little while and then turn it back on. We may not be computers, but sometimes all we need is to shut down for a while, so we can start again with much more power.

What tips have you used to keep burnout at a distance? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Georgette nearly lost everything but rebuilt her financial life. She is an author, speaker and host of the Firmer Figures podcast on iTunes. She now helps financially overwhelmed business men and women streamline their day to day business activities with their finances; so that they can reclaim more time and breathing space in their lives. Discover more about Georgette at http://financialgymforbusiness.com.

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  1. Daniel Miller

    Jan 30, 2016 at 2:35 pm

    This was very helpful and insightful. Thanks for sharing

  2. mehru

    Nov 16, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    I am really inspired by all of the super excellent ideas you have given.
    I will try my best to follow them. I want to be energetic and a good decision maker
    and I am sure your brilliant and gorgeous ideas will assist me in doing so.

  3. Nick Scuderi

    Nov 9, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    A do nothing day is actually a great idea. We all tend to be in a rush and cluttered from doing anything we really enjoy. We need to take a step back and breathe. Life is all about balance and stress will overcome us if we don’t give ourselves the breaks we deserve. Thinking is just as or even more powerful than doing.

  4. Georgette Rowland Osborne

    Nov 9, 2015 at 4:13 pm

    So true about it being like recovering from a cold. But just like a cold, burnout can sneak up on you. Your tip about meditation is one that I need to look into gain. Thanks for sharing Joel.

  5. Georgette Rowland Osborne

    Nov 9, 2015 at 2:27 pm

    Meditate works for so many people, I just never really stuck with it long enough to see the benefits. It is something I am going to explore again though.
    I totally take your point about scheduling time before complete burnout; but so often we don’t realise what is happening until it is too late. Thank you for sharing Joel

  6. Jennifer Waddle

    Nov 8, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    Geogette, thank you for a great article! I especially liked the point about decluttering the work space and making it more inviting. I also love the idea of working on only 1 project for 30 days. This is my biggest problem area, as I tend to multitask myself into a tailspin.
    Thanks again,
    Jennifer

    • Georgette Osborne

      Nov 9, 2015 at 7:53 pm

      Thank you Jennifer. The multitasking catches us all. Tailspin is a great way to put it.

  7. Joel Annesley

    Nov 8, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    Great words of wisdom, Georgette!

    Scheduling a ‘do nothing day’ is certainly important. The brain needs the downtime! I’ve tried to force myself, but indeed this has lead to more burnout. So I think it’s important to schedule it before it becomes a necessity!

    The point you make on celebration is key. I believe that burnout happens when we keep pushing and pushing… without seeing any results for our hard work. The more we stop to celebrate those small successes, the less burnout we will face!

    I’ve faced burnout a number of times. Now I find it much easier to control. Things like making time to meditate and exercise every day helps me stay grounded and balanced. The main thing I found was that I had to stop giving myself such a hard time. If I faced burnout, I let myself go through the mental processes. It’s a bit like recovering from a cold. Once you’re feeling better, you’re reminded of how lucky you are to have a healthy body. Now I do the same with my mind.

    Here’s to staying insanely motivated! 🙂

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Who Am I? I Am Extraordinary

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Right now people, it’s my privilege to inspire you to greatness
It’s my pleasure to help you conquer your biggest demons
There is one thing I can do to make your life change forever
And that is to stop you lying to yourself and make you see the truth

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

That’s it, and you must never forget it ever during your life
I will triumph when I feel like giving up
I will believe when there is no reason to believe at all

When anyone tells you that you can’t do it, smile at their ignorance of your glory
I will rise up and bring others with me along the journey
I will serve others for the greater good of this world
I will train my mind for that is where all of my success is hidden

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will understand that haters will always hate and I can’t please everyone
I will love everyone, even my enemies
Love will become the dominant force in my life
I will never let fear overtake me and consume my positivity
Weakness cannot prevail because I will not let it
I will be disciplined and practice the habits that I know are good for me
I will give up on addiction and replace it with a powerful meaning for my life

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will play the game to win and do it with every ounce of passion in my body
I will start saying no and only say yes to that which resonates with my soul
And I will create an empowering meaning from everything that happens to me
And I will love every moment, of every day because it’s a gift to be alive

I will push through every obstacle that get’s thrown at me
And I will find a way through when there seem’s to be none
When rock bottom strikes, I will use it to take myself to the next level
Life is beautiful
Life is a journey
Life is what I make it

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

To the left, I have my faith, to the right I have those that inspire me
And behind me, I have all the people I’ve left behind because of who I’ve become
And in front of me, I have all the people I’m going to meet as a result of my positivity

My mentors have given me everything they have and now it’s time for me to do the same
Never let them down, never let myself down
Keep my head up and my chest out
I will stand up straight and act as if I’ve already conquered my life dreams

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

Dream louder than everybody else
I will wear my dream on my sleeve
I will think about my dream day and night as if it’s the oxygen that keeps me alive
Your dream that’s linked to your life’s purpose will change your life
You have the power within you to change everybody’s lives around you

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

Negativity, purposeless: those are words I don’t understand anymore
I don’t understand selfishness
I don’t understand defeat
I don’t fail, I just learn from everything

What I do understand is this:

I understand my purpose
I understand I must love people
I understand that I can do whatever my mind can conceive
No matter how much mud get’s thrown in my face, I will rise up

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

The time is now
You’ve waited your entire life for this moment
These words were always inside of you, you just needed to be reminded of them
For these are not my words, but now yours to keep
These words are to be given to everyone you help

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will leave a legacy that’s remembered for generations
I will not let anyone or anything stand in the way of my mission
I will write the script that is my life from now on
I will never let anyone write my life’s story for me
I am in control
I am present and prepared to win
No one can get me down or keep me down
I can never be silenced
I’ve waited to feel like this my entire life
I was born to do something special that will be remembered long after I am gone

Because who the heck am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
And who says so? I DO

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!


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The Letter I Wrote To A Broken Man

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Every day I get lots of emails from readers asking me how to solve a major life issue.

I got one last week and realized that my advice is often the same. I thought that it might be easier to write my advice about how to stop being so broken. That way, every time I get one of these emails I can point people to it.

Here’s the advice I gave this broken man that wrote to me:

 

1. Find someone who is going to change your thinking

This man had a whole list of problems that he tried to tell me were impossible to solve. He listed them in such detail and made each one sound beyond impossible to solve. He was hoping that he would bamboozle me and that I’d reply and say “Mate you’re right, those problems are impossible to solve and I can’t help you.”

The first step I always tell these so called “broken people” is that they need to get out of their head. They’ve become obsessed with their challenges and they need to interrupt their thinking. The easiest and quickest way to do this is to find someone to change your thinking.

To make this broken man’s life easy, I gave him the answer of who to start with. He needed a rapid change of thinking and the best person I know to do this is Tony Robbins. Now I could have let him find his own person to assist, but it would have ended up becoming another excuse.

What he needed to hear was something radically different to the story that he’d memorized and become an expert narrator in. Tony sure knows how to change the way you think and slap you in the face when you need it. This is always the beginning.

 

2. Quit your job

This broken man blamed a lot of his problems on his job. This is common in all the letters I get from people who think they’re broken. They all have an issue that stems from what they do for a living.

What’s crazy is that your job or business is your decision. If you don’t like the result, then quit. It’s not rocket science; it’s just the reality.

“Quitting something you hate is the best decision you’ll ever make”

You can always find another source of income. The best thing about quitting is that you’ll be forced to find a new way to make a living pretty quickly so you can pay your bills.

Make it a slow transition if you need to, but just know that you must quit. Don’t let anything piss you off anymore. Stop doing what you don’t love. If your work doesn’t light you up, then quit!

 

3. Failing a lot is good. Stop being afraid.

My friend, the broken man, tried to tell me that he was failing a lot. I stood up in my seat and gave him a metaphorical round of applause (he obviously couldn’t see me do this). If you’re failing a lot, then that’s the best bloody news I’ve ever heard! Don’t be down about it; be excited about it.

This means your giving it a go and taking action. That’s better than 99% of other people who are doing nothing and sitting on the couch hoping to get lucky. You’ll eventually find a way if you keep failing. It’s inevitable.

Being afraid is unnecessary and it’s delusional. You’re not supposed to know exactly what to do and no one who is successful does.

“You’re supposed to take action, and then learn from the outcomes and adjust the sails of your ship as you go”

 

4. Go and volunteer at a homeless shelter

I’ve said this one a lot because I’ve personally found it very effective – In fact, I was just at the homeless shelter again last week. It’s the idea that you need to see problems far bigger than your own. I’ve never seen anyone walk into a homeless shelter and spend a day there, who hasn’t come out the other side with a new way of looking at life.

You’re forced into helping others and you do whatever you can because many of the people you’ll meet are beyond desperate. In reality, your problems are not desperate where as there’s is. Once you’ve seen the worst there is to see, then you’ll be able to break your pattern of misery.

 

5. Your problems are the same

This broken man was so stuck in his circumstances that he couldn’t see the rest of the world. He stopped seeing the hardships that others are going through and he somehow believed the lie that he was the only one facing these problems. I told him something he didn’t expect: “Your problems are the same as every other email I get.”

This was true. Every email I get with these so-called “impossible challenges” is the same. It’s the same issue with a different character playing the lead role of the story. Your problems are not unique or special. Your problems yesterday were vanilla and my problems today are strawberry. They’re all flavors of the same milkshake.

 

6. You’re being selfish

The last very blunt thing I said to this broken man (out of love and respect) was: “You’re being selfish.” I told him that his entire story was about him and his own selfish desires.

Nowhere in the story was there room for anybody else. Nowhere in the story was there a purpose to unite people, or serve people or give something to someone. It was all just about him and how important he was and how he must have all the answers.

“The way you become broken in the first place is when you’re 100% focused on yourself”

Selfishness is at the heart of so many life problems. It’s not all about you, you know. I’d go as far as saying that you should make your life about much more than you.

Once you move away from being entirely selfish, new opportunities start to find their way to you. These opportunities are not luck; these opportunities are the result of you moving beyond just caring about yourself. Until you give a damn about other people, you’re going to continue to be broken.

You started to become broken in the first place when you forgot about everyone else and became obsessed with yourself. Kill the obsession and you’ll find the answer to your dreams.

These are the things I told this young man. These are the same tools you can use if you feel broken.

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Don’t Hurt Your Future Self By Quitting

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“Every decision you make affects someone very special: your future self”

You’ve never met this person, but they are carrying the torch of your dreams. Life is hard for them too except their further along the timeline of life than you. Have you ever wondered what the future you will be like?

It’s something worth contemplating through deep and inward thinking.

When you give up on your dreams and quit, you’re not just hurting you right now, you’re killing the future you as well. That future you is bound by the decisions that you make today. One day you will become that future you and wish you could change that decision to quit. By then, it’s too late to change the past. There ain’t no rewind button on life.

 

Do you really need to quit?

I know you think it’s impossible and your only option is to quit, but that’s because you’ve reached your breaking point. I’ve been there too. I’ve reached a level of failure that has become insurmountable. I too have felt like I couldn’t go on and life had no meaning.

All of your emotional states, at times, can get like this. We’re human after all and don’t you forget that. We live in a flawed body, but that’s why humans are so beautiful in the first place. You don’t need to quit right now; there’s always another way.

 

The best thing to do when you want to quit

This is going to sound cliché: take a break and get out of your head for a few weeks. Go somewhere far, far away and contemplate the meaning of your life and why you’re still here. I say this because your life is a choice. You can decide to end your life at any point, but you haven’t.

You’re not a coward and you’d never do that. You have courage and you’re here for a reason.

 

Quitting may be the best option

Sometimes quitting is a good thing. Sometimes you have too many things on the go and when you quit, you free up time to focus on something that means more to you. My only plea is that you think about your future self when you quit. Think about whether your future self will be affected and whether you’ll be happy with the result.

There are no absolutes in life, only decisions that you make which are guided by your heart. There is no one answer. No one’s right and no one’s wrong. Our circumstances and how we think about them, more importantly, determine the meaning we give to any situation.

 

Who do you want your future self to be?

As you imagine your future self, what is he or she doing? Can you picture where they are? When I asked this question, I got an instant response which reaffirmed what I do today. I instantly saw myself on stage giving speeches to thousands of people.

I saw myself as the person that helps find people’s why and motivates them towards their dreams. I saw myself with a family and writing a best selling book. Strangely enough, I saw my future self as I always have: doing something inspiring to help others. I saw myself unleashing emotion in others to help them push through their limiting beliefs.

 

Now that you know your future self, how can you help them today?

So we’ve done a bit of visualizing in this article already. It’s a powerful way to see what you can become when you don’t quit. It’s a great way to fall in love with the person that you can create in the future by using the power of today’s decisions.

“I think we all need to become dreamers every now and then. If we don’t, we get stuck in today, and in our head full of possibilities”

If I had one tip when it comes to dreaming up the future, it would be this: try and see your future better than it is. Be outrageous and think of possibilities that today would scare you. You’ll be surprised how what you dream up today can become a reality.

I remember suffering from anxiety and trying to dream what it would be like to be rid of it. I remember being scared of flying and always wanting to travel. I remember having never found love and wondering what that would be like. I remember not being able to get in front of lots of people and do any form of public speaking. I remember being too scared to be vulnerable and share the real me.

Now, I’ve completely eliminated my anxiety, I can fly whenever I want with no issues, I have experienced real love, I am on my way to successfully being able to speak in front of larger audiences, and I’m happy to be vulnerable and share my story with everybody. That’s what can happen when you treat your future self with respect.

 

So now what?

Now I want you to do the hard part: take action. Follow the steps above and have some fun. Leave the present for the moment and get to know who you want your future self to be. Your future self is you after all, so you need to treat them like a king or queen.

Write a list of decisions you need to make in order to create the best future you that’s humanly possible. Like I always say, “Don’t be afraid to have big, audacious, crazy dreams.” If you can’t dream it, then you can never achieve it. Remember that next time someone tells you that dreams are BS.

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We All Start With Zero Followers – Comprehenday?

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For the record: followers mean jack, attention is king.

With that said, all of us (including me) started with zero followers. You’re not alone. Whatever your big idea is you are probably going to need people to know about it. The sad truth is that it’s now done via social media.

You’ll need a combination of shares, likes, views, recommends or whatever other form of measurement these crazy social media platforms decide to implement. These metrics equal attention and that’s how people are going to know about what it is that you do.

Let’s not pretend that social media is useless. That would be naïve.

In this bustling, new age world, everyone owns content now. Anyone can go viral and anyone can be heard. Some find this reality a sad fact, but then these same people find something to cry about no matter what so ignore them.

The journey from zero followers to thousands and even millions looks like this:

 

1. We all started somewhere

Quit your complaining we’ve all started at zero followers at some point. Starting with nothing and then building your community up is an amazing feeling. Embrace the journey of creating a following.

The game of comparing follower counts with others will distract you from creating content and force you into consumption mode. Then you’ll over consume and regurgitate all over yourself. Yuck!

 

2. Stop trying to game the system

You can’t buy followers and not have people notice. We can all scan your follower list and see that you cheated. More importantly, the number of followers doesn’t matter.

3. Engagement is everything

Ever seen a social media account with millions of followers and one or two likes/comments per post? That’s because the followers were paid for or tricked into liking the page. I’m going to say it again; the number of followers doesn’t matter.

What matters – if you are creating a community or awareness – is engagement and whether people care about what you’re posting. This can’t be gamed. People will only interact if you are doing and saying stuff that is of value. How do you do that? See the next point.

 

4. It’s not about you and your ego

That’s right. I don’t care, nor does anyone else, about what you had for lunch or who you met at the basketball. What we all care about is what’s in it for me buster?

If you answer that question and do so regularly, people will follow and engage you. That’s how you go from zero followers to millions.

 

5. It takes a while

Zero to a million followers takes times. Like interest on your bank account, your results will compound once you cross the tipping point.

What’s the tipping point?

It’s the point at which you have nailed the following:

– Your message to the world is clear
– It’s consistent (ideally daily)
– It’s unique (not better but different)
– It’s not about you and your ugly ego
– You give more than you ask for (Jab Jab Jab Right Hook)

When you do those things, your follower count and engagement will regularly start to increase.

 

6. You need a breakout moment

The way you do that is my channeling all of your energy and emotion into every piece of content you create. If you do this for long enough, then you’ll eventually have a standout moment. That’s a moment where the world listens and you go viral. It takes time though. You could be waiting five years young Power Ranger.

 

7. Followers like to follow stories

Don’t throw boring stats and pictures at your followers all day, every day. It should come as no surprise that social media works best with stories. The best stories I’ve found are personal stories. Rather than produce content that feeds your ego, put yourself into every story you tell.

 

8. Tell stories that inspire

There are hundreds of types of stories. If I were to encourage you to do one type and one type only it would be to tell inspiring stories. Stories that inspire people to take action, think differently or be emotional about something.

 

9. Say it quickly now!

A story is great but people have a low attention span. This means you’ve got to be able to communicate succinctly. There is a lot of waffle on the Internet. The way to stand out is to plan what you are going to say and cut out the filler. People will love you if they can get value from you and have it delivered in a brief manner. I get this compliment in the form of feedback all the time and I love it.

 

10. There is no one big break

If I look at my online success, there is no one single moment. Going from zero followers and beyond is made up of a whole lot of factors which you’ll never quite work out. What I can tell you though is that all those factors require you to show up.

“Each day you have to show up with something of value to say”

 

11. It doesn’t need to be new necessarily

People think you have to say something new every day. You don’t. Sometimes it’s about saying something in a slightly different way. Sometimes it’s taking a popular idea and saying it in a better way. For me, it’s often about taking something that already exists and saying it in my way, with my story attached.

“Saying something new doesn’t create followers; saying something different does”

12. Find your channel

Everyone’s channel for creating followers is different. Try them all and see which one resonates the best for your niche. Facebook doesn’t really work for me, but Medium and LinkedIn are phenomenal. I would have never known this if I didn’t try them. Experiment like you’re playing with play-doh.

 

13. Quit being romantic

Don’t wait until you have tons of followers to get started. Be the same as you are with zero followers, as you are with a million followers. Being romantic about social media doesn’t work. When I say romantic, it’s kind of the same as saying being precious.

You think you need influence right now. You don’t. You think you need money and lots of it. You don’t. You think you’ll try harder when you’re like Gary Vaynerchuk. You won’t.

So now do you understand that we all start with zero followers and that’s cool bananas?

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15 Myths About Personal Development & How to Leverage Them

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Self-development is a cool trend, and modern culture has even created a cult around personal development. It is so powerful that we accept its doctrines without any analysis because we get soaked into its promises of becoming “better people” that we unconsciously decide to spend our money on those promises. However, many of these tips and suggestions are somehow thrown to us without additional information on how to actually leverage them. (more…)

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  1. Daniel Miller

    Jan 30, 2016 at 2:35 pm

    This was very helpful and insightful. Thanks for sharing

  2. mehru

    Nov 16, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    I am really inspired by all of the super excellent ideas you have given.
    I will try my best to follow them. I want to be energetic and a good decision maker
    and I am sure your brilliant and gorgeous ideas will assist me in doing so.

  3. Nick Scuderi

    Nov 9, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    A do nothing day is actually a great idea. We all tend to be in a rush and cluttered from doing anything we really enjoy. We need to take a step back and breathe. Life is all about balance and stress will overcome us if we don’t give ourselves the breaks we deserve. Thinking is just as or even more powerful than doing.

  4. Georgette Rowland Osborne

    Nov 9, 2015 at 4:13 pm

    So true about it being like recovering from a cold. But just like a cold, burnout can sneak up on you. Your tip about meditation is one that I need to look into gain. Thanks for sharing Joel.

  5. Georgette Rowland Osborne

    Nov 9, 2015 at 2:27 pm

    Meditate works for so many people, I just never really stuck with it long enough to see the benefits. It is something I am going to explore again though.
    I totally take your point about scheduling time before complete burnout; but so often we don’t realise what is happening until it is too late. Thank you for sharing Joel

  6. Jennifer Waddle

    Nov 8, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    Geogette, thank you for a great article! I especially liked the point about decluttering the work space and making it more inviting. I also love the idea of working on only 1 project for 30 days. This is my biggest problem area, as I tend to multitask myself into a tailspin.
    Thanks again,
    Jennifer

    • Georgette Osborne

      Nov 9, 2015 at 7:53 pm

      Thank you Jennifer. The multitasking catches us all. Tailspin is a great way to put it.

  7. Joel Annesley

    Nov 8, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    Great words of wisdom, Georgette!

    Scheduling a ‘do nothing day’ is certainly important. The brain needs the downtime! I’ve tried to force myself, but indeed this has lead to more burnout. So I think it’s important to schedule it before it becomes a necessity!

    The point you make on celebration is key. I believe that burnout happens when we keep pushing and pushing… without seeing any results for our hard work. The more we stop to celebrate those small successes, the less burnout we will face!

    I’ve faced burnout a number of times. Now I find it much easier to control. Things like making time to meditate and exercise every day helps me stay grounded and balanced. The main thing I found was that I had to stop giving myself such a hard time. If I faced burnout, I let myself go through the mental processes. It’s a bit like recovering from a cold. Once you’re feeling better, you’re reminded of how lucky you are to have a healthy body. Now I do the same with my mind.

    Here’s to staying insanely motivated! 🙂

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Who Am I? I Am Extraordinary

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Right now people, it’s my privilege to inspire you to greatness
It’s my pleasure to help you conquer your biggest demons
There is one thing I can do to make your life change forever
And that is to stop you lying to yourself and make you see the truth

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

That’s it, and you must never forget it ever during your life
I will triumph when I feel like giving up
I will believe when there is no reason to believe at all

When anyone tells you that you can’t do it, smile at their ignorance of your glory
I will rise up and bring others with me along the journey
I will serve others for the greater good of this world
I will train my mind for that is where all of my success is hidden

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will understand that haters will always hate and I can’t please everyone
I will love everyone, even my enemies
Love will become the dominant force in my life
I will never let fear overtake me and consume my positivity
Weakness cannot prevail because I will not let it
I will be disciplined and practice the habits that I know are good for me
I will give up on addiction and replace it with a powerful meaning for my life

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will play the game to win and do it with every ounce of passion in my body
I will start saying no and only say yes to that which resonates with my soul
And I will create an empowering meaning from everything that happens to me
And I will love every moment, of every day because it’s a gift to be alive

I will push through every obstacle that get’s thrown at me
And I will find a way through when there seem’s to be none
When rock bottom strikes, I will use it to take myself to the next level
Life is beautiful
Life is a journey
Life is what I make it

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

To the left, I have my faith, to the right I have those that inspire me
And behind me, I have all the people I’ve left behind because of who I’ve become
And in front of me, I have all the people I’m going to meet as a result of my positivity

My mentors have given me everything they have and now it’s time for me to do the same
Never let them down, never let myself down
Keep my head up and my chest out
I will stand up straight and act as if I’ve already conquered my life dreams

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

Dream louder than everybody else
I will wear my dream on my sleeve
I will think about my dream day and night as if it’s the oxygen that keeps me alive
Your dream that’s linked to your life’s purpose will change your life
You have the power within you to change everybody’s lives around you

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

Negativity, purposeless: those are words I don’t understand anymore
I don’t understand selfishness
I don’t understand defeat
I don’t fail, I just learn from everything

What I do understand is this:

I understand my purpose
I understand I must love people
I understand that I can do whatever my mind can conceive
No matter how much mud get’s thrown in my face, I will rise up

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

The time is now
You’ve waited your entire life for this moment
These words were always inside of you, you just needed to be reminded of them
For these are not my words, but now yours to keep
These words are to be given to everyone you help

 

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who says so? I DO

I will leave a legacy that’s remembered for generations
I will not let anyone or anything stand in the way of my mission
I will write the script that is my life from now on
I will never let anyone write my life’s story for me
I am in control
I am present and prepared to win
No one can get me down or keep me down
I can never be silenced
I’ve waited to feel like this my entire life
I was born to do something special that will be remembered long after I am gone

Because who the heck am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
And who says so? I DO

Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!
Who am I? I AM EXTRAORDINARY!


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The Letter I Wrote To A Broken Man

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Every day I get lots of emails from readers asking me how to solve a major life issue.

I got one last week and realized that my advice is often the same. I thought that it might be easier to write my advice about how to stop being so broken. That way, every time I get one of these emails I can point people to it.

Here’s the advice I gave this broken man that wrote to me:

 

1. Find someone who is going to change your thinking

This man had a whole list of problems that he tried to tell me were impossible to solve. He listed them in such detail and made each one sound beyond impossible to solve. He was hoping that he would bamboozle me and that I’d reply and say “Mate you’re right, those problems are impossible to solve and I can’t help you.”

The first step I always tell these so called “broken people” is that they need to get out of their head. They’ve become obsessed with their challenges and they need to interrupt their thinking. The easiest and quickest way to do this is to find someone to change your thinking.

To make this broken man’s life easy, I gave him the answer of who to start with. He needed a rapid change of thinking and the best person I know to do this is Tony Robbins. Now I could have let him find his own person to assist, but it would have ended up becoming another excuse.

What he needed to hear was something radically different to the story that he’d memorized and become an expert narrator in. Tony sure knows how to change the way you think and slap you in the face when you need it. This is always the beginning.

 

2. Quit your job

This broken man blamed a lot of his problems on his job. This is common in all the letters I get from people who think they’re broken. They all have an issue that stems from what they do for a living.

What’s crazy is that your job or business is your decision. If you don’t like the result, then quit. It’s not rocket science; it’s just the reality.

“Quitting something you hate is the best decision you’ll ever make”

You can always find another source of income. The best thing about quitting is that you’ll be forced to find a new way to make a living pretty quickly so you can pay your bills.

Make it a slow transition if you need to, but just know that you must quit. Don’t let anything piss you off anymore. Stop doing what you don’t love. If your work doesn’t light you up, then quit!

 

3. Failing a lot is good. Stop being afraid.

My friend, the broken man, tried to tell me that he was failing a lot. I stood up in my seat and gave him a metaphorical round of applause (he obviously couldn’t see me do this). If you’re failing a lot, then that’s the best bloody news I’ve ever heard! Don’t be down about it; be excited about it.

This means your giving it a go and taking action. That’s better than 99% of other people who are doing nothing and sitting on the couch hoping to get lucky. You’ll eventually find a way if you keep failing. It’s inevitable.

Being afraid is unnecessary and it’s delusional. You’re not supposed to know exactly what to do and no one who is successful does.

“You’re supposed to take action, and then learn from the outcomes and adjust the sails of your ship as you go”

 

4. Go and volunteer at a homeless shelter

I’ve said this one a lot because I’ve personally found it very effective – In fact, I was just at the homeless shelter again last week. It’s the idea that you need to see problems far bigger than your own. I’ve never seen anyone walk into a homeless shelter and spend a day there, who hasn’t come out the other side with a new way of looking at life.

You’re forced into helping others and you do whatever you can because many of the people you’ll meet are beyond desperate. In reality, your problems are not desperate where as there’s is. Once you’ve seen the worst there is to see, then you’ll be able to break your pattern of misery.

 

5. Your problems are the same

This broken man was so stuck in his circumstances that he couldn’t see the rest of the world. He stopped seeing the hardships that others are going through and he somehow believed the lie that he was the only one facing these problems. I told him something he didn’t expect: “Your problems are the same as every other email I get.”

This was true. Every email I get with these so-called “impossible challenges” is the same. It’s the same issue with a different character playing the lead role of the story. Your problems are not unique or special. Your problems yesterday were vanilla and my problems today are strawberry. They’re all flavors of the same milkshake.

 

6. You’re being selfish

The last very blunt thing I said to this broken man (out of love and respect) was: “You’re being selfish.” I told him that his entire story was about him and his own selfish desires.

Nowhere in the story was there room for anybody else. Nowhere in the story was there a purpose to unite people, or serve people or give something to someone. It was all just about him and how important he was and how he must have all the answers.

“The way you become broken in the first place is when you’re 100% focused on yourself”

Selfishness is at the heart of so many life problems. It’s not all about you, you know. I’d go as far as saying that you should make your life about much more than you.

Once you move away from being entirely selfish, new opportunities start to find their way to you. These opportunities are not luck; these opportunities are the result of you moving beyond just caring about yourself. Until you give a damn about other people, you’re going to continue to be broken.

You started to become broken in the first place when you forgot about everyone else and became obsessed with yourself. Kill the obsession and you’ll find the answer to your dreams.

These are the things I told this young man. These are the same tools you can use if you feel broken.

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Don’t Hurt Your Future Self By Quitting

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“Every decision you make affects someone very special: your future self”

You’ve never met this person, but they are carrying the torch of your dreams. Life is hard for them too except their further along the timeline of life than you. Have you ever wondered what the future you will be like?

It’s something worth contemplating through deep and inward thinking.

When you give up on your dreams and quit, you’re not just hurting you right now, you’re killing the future you as well. That future you is bound by the decisions that you make today. One day you will become that future you and wish you could change that decision to quit. By then, it’s too late to change the past. There ain’t no rewind button on life.

 

Do you really need to quit?

I know you think it’s impossible and your only option is to quit, but that’s because you’ve reached your breaking point. I’ve been there too. I’ve reached a level of failure that has become insurmountable. I too have felt like I couldn’t go on and life had no meaning.

All of your emotional states, at times, can get like this. We’re human after all and don’t you forget that. We live in a flawed body, but that’s why humans are so beautiful in the first place. You don’t need to quit right now; there’s always another way.

 

The best thing to do when you want to quit

This is going to sound cliché: take a break and get out of your head for a few weeks. Go somewhere far, far away and contemplate the meaning of your life and why you’re still here. I say this because your life is a choice. You can decide to end your life at any point, but you haven’t.

You’re not a coward and you’d never do that. You have courage and you’re here for a reason.

 

Quitting may be the best option

Sometimes quitting is a good thing. Sometimes you have too many things on the go and when you quit, you free up time to focus on something that means more to you. My only plea is that you think about your future self when you quit. Think about whether your future self will be affected and whether you’ll be happy with the result.

There are no absolutes in life, only decisions that you make which are guided by your heart. There is no one answer. No one’s right and no one’s wrong. Our circumstances and how we think about them, more importantly, determine the meaning we give to any situation.

 

Who do you want your future self to be?

As you imagine your future self, what is he or she doing? Can you picture where they are? When I asked this question, I got an instant response which reaffirmed what I do today. I instantly saw myself on stage giving speeches to thousands of people.

I saw myself as the person that helps find people’s why and motivates them towards their dreams. I saw myself with a family and writing a best selling book. Strangely enough, I saw my future self as I always have: doing something inspiring to help others. I saw myself unleashing emotion in others to help them push through their limiting beliefs.

 

Now that you know your future self, how can you help them today?

So we’ve done a bit of visualizing in this article already. It’s a powerful way to see what you can become when you don’t quit. It’s a great way to fall in love with the person that you can create in the future by using the power of today’s decisions.

“I think we all need to become dreamers every now and then. If we don’t, we get stuck in today, and in our head full of possibilities”

If I had one tip when it comes to dreaming up the future, it would be this: try and see your future better than it is. Be outrageous and think of possibilities that today would scare you. You’ll be surprised how what you dream up today can become a reality.

I remember suffering from anxiety and trying to dream what it would be like to be rid of it. I remember being scared of flying and always wanting to travel. I remember having never found love and wondering what that would be like. I remember not being able to get in front of lots of people and do any form of public speaking. I remember being too scared to be vulnerable and share the real me.

Now, I’ve completely eliminated my anxiety, I can fly whenever I want with no issues, I have experienced real love, I am on my way to successfully being able to speak in front of larger audiences, and I’m happy to be vulnerable and share my story with everybody. That’s what can happen when you treat your future self with respect.

 

So now what?

Now I want you to do the hard part: take action. Follow the steps above and have some fun. Leave the present for the moment and get to know who you want your future self to be. Your future self is you after all, so you need to treat them like a king or queen.

Write a list of decisions you need to make in order to create the best future you that’s humanly possible. Like I always say, “Don’t be afraid to have big, audacious, crazy dreams.” If you can’t dream it, then you can never achieve it. Remember that next time someone tells you that dreams are BS.

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We All Start With Zero Followers – Comprehenday?

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For the record: followers mean jack, attention is king.

With that said, all of us (including me) started with zero followers. You’re not alone. Whatever your big idea is you are probably going to need people to know about it. The sad truth is that it’s now done via social media.

You’ll need a combination of shares, likes, views, recommends or whatever other form of measurement these crazy social media platforms decide to implement. These metrics equal attention and that’s how people are going to know about what it is that you do.

Let’s not pretend that social media is useless. That would be naïve.

In this bustling, new age world, everyone owns content now. Anyone can go viral and anyone can be heard. Some find this reality a sad fact, but then these same people find something to cry about no matter what so ignore them.

The journey from zero followers to thousands and even millions looks like this:

 

1. We all started somewhere

Quit your complaining we’ve all started at zero followers at some point. Starting with nothing and then building your community up is an amazing feeling. Embrace the journey of creating a following.

The game of comparing follower counts with others will distract you from creating content and force you into consumption mode. Then you’ll over consume and regurgitate all over yourself. Yuck!

 

2. Stop trying to game the system

You can’t buy followers and not have people notice. We can all scan your follower list and see that you cheated. More importantly, the number of followers doesn’t matter.

3. Engagement is everything

Ever seen a social media account with millions of followers and one or two likes/comments per post? That’s because the followers were paid for or tricked into liking the page. I’m going to say it again; the number of followers doesn’t matter.

What matters – if you are creating a community or awareness – is engagement and whether people care about what you’re posting. This can’t be gamed. People will only interact if you are doing and saying stuff that is of value. How do you do that? See the next point.

 

4. It’s not about you and your ego

That’s right. I don’t care, nor does anyone else, about what you had for lunch or who you met at the basketball. What we all care about is what’s in it for me buster?

If you answer that question and do so regularly, people will follow and engage you. That’s how you go from zero followers to millions.

 

5. It takes a while

Zero to a million followers takes times. Like interest on your bank account, your results will compound once you cross the tipping point.

What’s the tipping point?

It’s the point at which you have nailed the following:

– Your message to the world is clear
– It’s consistent (ideally daily)
– It’s unique (not better but different)
– It’s not about you and your ugly ego
– You give more than you ask for (Jab Jab Jab Right Hook)

When you do those things, your follower count and engagement will regularly start to increase.

 

6. You need a breakout moment

The way you do that is my channeling all of your energy and emotion into every piece of content you create. If you do this for long enough, then you’ll eventually have a standout moment. That’s a moment where the world listens and you go viral. It takes time though. You could be waiting five years young Power Ranger.

 

7. Followers like to follow stories

Don’t throw boring stats and pictures at your followers all day, every day. It should come as no surprise that social media works best with stories. The best stories I’ve found are personal stories. Rather than produce content that feeds your ego, put yourself into every story you tell.

 

8. Tell stories that inspire

There are hundreds of types of stories. If I were to encourage you to do one type and one type only it would be to tell inspiring stories. Stories that inspire people to take action, think differently or be emotional about something.

 

9. Say it quickly now!

A story is great but people have a low attention span. This means you’ve got to be able to communicate succinctly. There is a lot of waffle on the Internet. The way to stand out is to plan what you are going to say and cut out the filler. People will love you if they can get value from you and have it delivered in a brief manner. I get this compliment in the form of feedback all the time and I love it.

 

10. There is no one big break

If I look at my online success, there is no one single moment. Going from zero followers and beyond is made up of a whole lot of factors which you’ll never quite work out. What I can tell you though is that all those factors require you to show up.

“Each day you have to show up with something of value to say”

 

11. It doesn’t need to be new necessarily

People think you have to say something new every day. You don’t. Sometimes it’s about saying something in a slightly different way. Sometimes it’s taking a popular idea and saying it in a better way. For me, it’s often about taking something that already exists and saying it in my way, with my story attached.

“Saying something new doesn’t create followers; saying something different does”

12. Find your channel

Everyone’s channel for creating followers is different. Try them all and see which one resonates the best for your niche. Facebook doesn’t really work for me, but Medium and LinkedIn are phenomenal. I would have never known this if I didn’t try them. Experiment like you’re playing with play-doh.

 

13. Quit being romantic

Don’t wait until you have tons of followers to get started. Be the same as you are with zero followers, as you are with a million followers. Being romantic about social media doesn’t work. When I say romantic, it’s kind of the same as saying being precious.

You think you need influence right now. You don’t. You think you need money and lots of it. You don’t. You think you’ll try harder when you’re like Gary Vaynerchuk. You won’t.

So now do you understand that we all start with zero followers and that’s cool bananas?

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