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6 Lies That Are Keeping You From Your Dream Life

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6 Lies That Are Keeping You From Your Dream Life

The voices in our heads can say some pretty crazy things. Self-limiting beliefs have kept me from so much in life and I am sure they have kept you from the life you imagine.

What lurks inside our heads has kept us from much more than any outside influences ever will, yet we believe so much of the stupidity that we tell ourselves.

If anyone talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would punch that person in the nose.

So if you tell yourself these six things, call out that liar inner voice and replace it with the truth.

 

Lie # 1: I don’t have what it takes

This can take many forms, but basically the thing we tell ourselves is that somehow others are blessed with skill and knowledge that we don’t have.That somehow we missed out on the genetic prize to make us able to live out our dreams. That we have to know it all before we start and be an expert with no inadequacies or shortcomings. Fixated on our weaknesses we freeze in fear.

Truth: With practice, focus, and effort most shortcomings you think you have, can and will be overcome. You have what it takes wrapped up in potential. Just put the potential into action and make it reality. Dreams are realized as you push through and embrace the very things that you thought were holding you back. The very things you are viewing as a weaknesses may be the things that help you see the dreams in your heart.

 “Create the future you want and be on top; you have all it takes.” – Anyaele Chiyson

Lie # 2: I don’t deserve it

We don’t come out and say it, but most of us tell ourselves we don’t deserve it. This is what keeps some in a toxic relationship. This thought keeps others in a job they hate. This unwritten and unrealistic expectation of ourselves to finally be worth it, hinders us to go for our dream lives. That someday we will earn the right to go for it, but until then we must accept our lot. We must pay a price before we can go for our dreams.

Truth: You are worth so much more than you know. You are not used, broken, unfit, less-than, or somehow garbage. You are more than a conqueror. You are more special than you could ever imagine. The uniqueness of you is as unique as the dream in your heart.

 

Lie #3: I don’t have enough time

We tell ourselves that we don’t have enough time to work toward this dream. That we will try when we have more time available. That when we have less responsibilities and less demands we will have those illusive hours. That what little time we do have doesn’t add up to anything. That life is too full and overwhelming now, however, maybe tomorrow I will have more time to work toward my dreams.

Truth: Everyone has twenty-four hours in a day. Life is never going to slow down. It is up to you to dedicate part of your day to what you want. Pay yourself first with your time so that you can move toward your dreams. Even if it is just twenty minutes a day. There is time. It is found in waking up a little earlier, watching less TV, or sacrificing some other things you enjoy in the short-run to achieve your dreams in the long-run. Master your time to achieve your dreams!

  “Those that make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its shortness.” – Jean De La Bruyere

Lie #4: I’m too old/young

We tell ourselves that our age holds us back. That if we are young no one takes us seriously and if we are old we are judged by the gray hair on our head. We play the card of too young until we reach the card of too old. We determine not to go for our dreams until we have more experience and then we gain too much experience. We need to wait until we are more stable and mature to pursue our dreams and then it morphs into if we had just started sooner in life then we could reach our dreams, but now it’s too late.

Truth: Age really is just a number. It determines very little of our dream chasing capacity. Too old and too young only exists in our minds. If we walk with confidence and boldness, no one thinks twice about our age. People are looking for both old and young to gather around. You are capable of your dream no matter how old.

 

Lie #5: My past defines my future

We have all made mistakes. We have fallen short and failed to live up to our own standards. We have all done things we regret doing and somehow we tell ourselves that because of these moments of failure we will do it again in the future. That our past performance dictates our future performance. That we will only be known for and shackled to the past until we die. Our past plays out again and again because we have accepted it for who we are and how we struggle.

Truth: Mistakes, setbacks, and failures have consequences, but they do not define you. If you focus on what you can learn, your past mistakes can catapult you into a bright future. You can move beyond your past and embark on a new journey. Free yourself of the shackles of the past by fixating on the future. You have learned and are more than able to take steps toward your dream.

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Lie #6: I will be happy when I achieve my dreams

We tell ourselves that we will be happy when we achieve our dreams. That someday in the future we can be happy. That there is just this one thing holding me back and when I get that I will be content and happy. That happiness lies in the dream. Our expectations of happiness in objects and dreams is what we are striving to and pushing for. Like touching an elusive rainbow, happiness stays a little beyond our reach.

Truth. The truth is when we accomplish our dreams we will have new ones. This is a good thing and is meant to keep us stretching and growing. Happiness is up to you. You can’t control much of what happens to you, however, you can focus on how you respond to it. Focus on the process of taking steps toward your dreams. In that, there is happiness and excitement!

 

This dream life burning inside of you is only possible for YOU to bring into this world. No one else’s heart sings for the exact picture you have.

So, call out that lying inner monologue and start speaking the truth to yourself. In time, you will see that you are capable and more than enough for your dreams. Be blessed on your journey.

Zechariah Newman builds businesses, runs marathons, and lives life with my wonderful family in southern Oregon. You can see my writing in places like Entrepreneur Magazine, Fast Company, Mind Body Green, and the Good Men Project. My goal is to help you build your business while keeping a balanced and fulfilled life. You can visit his website: zechariahnewman.com and follow him on his Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ZechariahNewman

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Why You’re Failing to Achieve Your Goals and How to Fix It Now

Understanding motivation is crucial because it’s the cornerstone of success

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Feeling stuck? Lost in a sea of goals, but lacking the drive to pursue them? It’s time to shift gears and reignite your motivation! Picture this: From stalled to soaring, your journey awaits.  (more…)

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Here’s How Self Motivation Can Be the Bridge Between Your Dreams and Realities

Self-motivation is the ability to motivate yourself without the influence of others

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8 Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Be More Decisive

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Tackling Procrastination and Indecisiveness

Hi, Joel Brown here. As the person behind Addicted to Success and Mind Strong, I’m often asked about tackling procrastination and making swift, effective decisions. It’s a common struggle in today’s world, where distractions are endless.

Procrastination often creeps in when we’re bombarded with social media notifications, breaking news, and the hustle of daily life. This leads to a fear-driven indecision, where we’re paralyzed by the thought of failure or judgment.

 

Here’s a video breakdown of how to stop procrastinating and be more decisive if you are more of a visual person:

 

Embracing Speed and Momentum to Stop Procrastination

One of the most impactful lessons in my journey is understanding the role of speed in overcoming procrastination. A mentor of mine, a highly successful individual, always emphasized:

“Success loves speed, and money loves momentum.”

This principle is crucial in combating procrastination. It’s about seizing opportunities quickly, not just for financial gain, but for the invaluable experiences and connections they bring.

 

Understanding Analysis Paralysis: A Key to Overcoming Procrastination

A major hurdle in decision-making is what’s commonly known as analysis paralysis, a significant form of procrastination. It happens when our decision-making process, governed by the prefrontal cortex, gets overwhelmed. To break free from this form of procrastination, try calming techniques like deep breathing. It’s surprising how such simple steps can clear a cluttered mind and help you move past procrastination.

 

The Long-Term Effects of Procrastination and Indecision

Procrastination isn’t just about putting off decisions; it can lead to a reduced sense of life satisfaction over time.

In a conversation I had with Tony Robbins, we discussed how the quality of our lives hinges on the quality of our decisions.

Therefore, overcoming procrastination and indecision is vital for a fulfilling life.

 

My Top Strategies for Beating Procrastination

  1. Seek Guidance from the Experienced: To combat procrastination, connect with people who’ve achieved the goals you’re aiming for. Their experience can be a guiding light when you’re stuck in indecision.
  2. Use Deadlines as Anti-Procrastination Tools: Setting deadlines is a powerful way to break the cycle of procrastination. They create a sense of urgency that pushes you into action.
  3. Accept Imperfection to Move Past Procrastination: Understand that no one is perfect, and that includes you. Accepting this can alleviate the pressure that often leads to procrastination.

 

Identify Your Procrastination Type to Find Solutions

Procrastination manifests in various forms. I’ve developed a quiz (find it at mindstrongacademy.com/quiz) to help you identify your specific type of procrastination. Understanding your personal procrastination style is a crucial step in addressing it effectively.

 

Additional Tips on Making Quality Decisions and Beating Procrastination

When it comes to decision-making, it’s important to not get too bogged down in analyzing pros and cons. While analysis is important, excessive scrutiny can lead to procrastination. Trusting your intuition often plays a crucial role in breaking free from procrastination.

 

Handling Major Life Choices Without Procrastination

For significant decisions in life, whether in your career or personal relationships, procrastination can be particularly challenging.

To address this, break down these big decisions into smaller steps. Assess the potential outcomes realistically to understand that often, the fear of a negative outcome is more intimidating than the actual consequences.

 

Conclusion: Your Journey Away from Procrastination Begins Now

To wrap up, remember that overcoming procrastination and indecision is about understanding your own patterns, seeking wise counsel, setting deadlines, and embracing your imperfections. It’s time to start making those impactful decisions and enjoying the journey of life.

Whether it’s through the Mind Strong Academy or my procrastination quiz, I’m here to guide you on your path to decisive action.

I believe in your ability to conquer procrastination and live a life of purposeful decisions.

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Change Your Mindset

Unlocking Success: Subconscious Reprogramming, Mindset, and Transformative Strategies for Improved Wellbeing and Business Performance

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What if I told you that the negative thoughts or self-limiting beliefs that you may have, are not actually yours?

In this article, I will discuss subconscious programming and how it can be reprogrammed in a way that allows you to reach your greatest potential. I will also provide tips on how you can integrate this information as a leader within the workplace.

The subconscious mind is shaped before we begin forming our own conscious thoughts, and these conscious thoughts are influenced by the subconscious mind. This means that even the thoughts that you’re consciously having, are merely an extension of that pre-existing conditioning. 

When something becomes deeply ingrained within your mind through repetition, and there are other supporting thoughts that reinforce it, you will identify this information as your truth. These repeated thoughts become beliefs, and your actions will align to support and validate these beliefs.

The Importance of Observing Your Thoughts

If you continuously tell yourself that you aren’t capable or good enough, how likely are you to put in the effort to challenge this narrative? If you’ve always been a procrastinator and tell yourself that you always will be, you’re going to continue procrastinating. If you run into an obstacle and don’t believe you can overcome it, you’re not going to look for solutions or try your best to resolve it.

It’s extremely important for you to become an observer of your thoughts and understand the impacts of how those thoughts can impact your life, relationships, and overall outlook on life.

Here are some questions to help guide you:

– What are your recurring negative thoughts, and how are they impacting your performance and relationships? 


– How have these thoughts held you back from achieving your goals and living the life that you’ve always dreamed of? 


– What have these thoughts already cost you and what else will they cost you if they don’t change?

Societal conditioning, influenced by a lower level of collective consciousness, has made the experience of debilitating thoughts highly prevalent. It’s not your fault that you have them, but it is your responsibility to change them and choose better ones.

The Subconscious Must Be Reprogrammed 

Reprogramming the subconscious involves positive affirmations, visualization, and consistent repetition to replace negative beliefs with positive ones. You have to become aware of the thoughts that make you feel bad and do not serve your best interest.

What are the growth-oriented thoughts that would you rather have instead? Any time that a debilitating thought crosses your mind, always correct it with new thought that uplifts, encourages and empowers you. Be consistent, be patient and understand that your logical mind will not make this process easy for you at first.

Being Delusional vs. Consciously Creating a Better Reality for Yourself 

By definition, the term delusional means “holding false beliefs or judgments about external reality that are held despite incontrovertible evidence to the contrary”. When you have held onto debilitating beliefs for so long and your previous actions have served as evidence to confirm their truth, it is inevitable that your logical mind will deem your new thoughts as delusional. This is where embracing change tends to become most challenging, as it involves confronting this resistance with unwavering commitment. 

 

What you have to understand is that your former beliefs and former actions do not dictate your future, unless they remain the same. As the old beliefs become obsolete and new beliefs take their place, there will also be new aligned actions that produce different results, and this will serve as evidence to support your new truth. That being said, the most delusional thing that anyone can do is elect to keep an unfavorable mindset that was programmed for them by external factors and willingly relinquish their own personal power as a result of it.

Success is Fundamentally Rooted in the Mindset

How we show up for ourselves and others, communicate with employees, and perform in business are deeply connected to our mindset and everything that has shaped it. Let’s delve into these interconnected aspects and explore five transformative tips that will catalyze positive change in the workplace. 

 

A growth-oriented mindset encourages resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to embrace challenges. On the other hand, a fixed mindset hinders progress and limits potential.

Tip 1: Embrace a Growth Mindset

  • Establish the belief that abilities can be developed.
  • View challenges as opportunities for learning and improvement.
  • Cultivate a positive attitude toward continuous growth and development.

Unpacking Trauma and Navigating the Impact

Unresolved trauma can cast a long shadow over our personal and professional lives. It shapes our reactions, influences decision-making, and impacts our interactions with others. Acknowledging and addressing trauma is essential for creating a healthier, more productive work environment.

 

Tip 2: Prioritize Trauma-Informed Leadership

  • Cultivate empathy and understanding for individual experiences.
  • Provide a safe space for open communication about trauma.
  • Implement support systems and resources for employees dealing with trauma.

 

Elevate Relationships and Sales Performance

To enhance relationships, communication, and sales performance, a holistic approach that intertwines mindset and trauma-informed practices is key.

 

Tip 3: Implement Empathy-Driven Communication

  • Train teams in active listening and empathetic communication.
  • Create an environment where open dialogue is encouraged.
  • Recognize and validate diverse perspectives, creating a culture of inclusivity.

Tip 4: Invest in Professional Development

  • Offer continuous learning opportunities for employees.
  • Develop leadership skills to enhance communication and relationship-building.
  • Prioritize sales training programs that align with evolving market dynamics.

Tip 5: Maintain a Positive Work Culture

  • Create a workplace where employees feel valued and appreciated.
  • Implement recognition programs to celebrate achievements.
  • Encourage a balance between professional and personal well-being.

By embracing a growth mindset, acknowledging and addressing trauma, and implementing empathetic, integrated strategies, individuals and organizations can create a transformative ripple effect. In this interconnected web of personal and professional growth, how we show up truly matters, influencing the outcomes we achieve and the impact we leave on those around us.

 

Enjoy the Journey 

As you embark on the empowering journey of subconscious reprogramming, remember that change takes time, and self-compassion is your greatest ally. Surround yourself with positive influences, whether it be supportive friends, inspirational books, or mindfulness practices. Seek guidance from mentors who have walked a similar path and found success in reshaping their mindset. Embrace the discomfort that may arise during this process, for it signifies the shedding of old layers to make way for the new. Reflect on your progress regularly, celebrating even the smallest victories, and be patient with yourself as you navigate the intricacies of transformation. 

In the spirit of rewriting your narrative, I encourage you to take the first step today. Commit to a daily practice of positive affirmations, visualize your desired reality, and consistently challenge self-limiting beliefs. If you would like support along the way, consider joining like-minded communities, Facebook groups, and curate your social media to reflect these new changes you want to embody.

Remember, thoughts become actions, and actions reinforce beliefs. It’s never too late to embark on an empowering journey to reprogram your mind, and achieve the life you have always dreamed of!

For more tips and strategies on how to improve your mindset, follow me at @bigdivineenergy.

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