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6 Tips That Will Help You Reach Massive Success

In the book, Mastery by Robert Greene, he talks about how some people are born with higher IQ’s and have a lot more natural talent than others.

They are usually out-shined by someone who has a lower IQ and a lot less natural talent.

Examples of this phenomenon can be Charles Darwin and Sir Francis Galton. Galton had an exceptionally high IQ and was a child prodigy in science, while Darwin admitted to be an ordinary person. Yet, Darwin is now more widely known and accepted as the more prestigious, superior scientist.

We can also see this in other examples with Bill Gates and other people who were not the best in their class, but became more successful. What are their secrets and how can you reach this massive level of success?

Below I am going to share with you 6 things that will help you reach a massive level of success.

 

1. Follow your passion and turn it into a dream

We all have similar brains, but we all have different personalities. This observation lets us realize that our brains may react to certain stimuli in a different way, and that we all think differently. Because our brains react to different stimuli, we are ultimately attracted to different things in life.

Certain things spark up our brain and we become fascinated. Those things we become fascinated by in life are the things we were meant to do. We lose our sense of those fascinations and what we are passionate about because we force ourselves to conform to getting a job we don’t like in order to have financial stability.

This is the wrong path to follow if you want to achieve massive amounts of success,  you must re-find those things that fascinate you and master them. Mastering a subject you are passionate about will take you to new heights because you will find enough determination and persistence to know more than anyone else.

This will make you successful because you will have more to offer than anyone else. Begin to take this and dream of the life you want to live by following your passions and the things that excite you.

“There is no greater thing you can do with your life and your work than follow your passions in a way that serves the world and you.” – Richard Branson

2. Have a sense of realization

Once you start to work on your craft and develop a sense of how you want your life to be, you must come to realize that this process will not happen overnight. Mastering a craft and becoming successful takes a lot of hard work and patience. You have to do something every day that will help you achieve success.

This will require dedication, willpower, and sacrifice. You must have this type of realization because if you constantly believe that you can become an overnight success, you will be disappointed, and this will hinder your journey in achieving success.

 

3. Improve yourself

Not only do you want to master your craft to be successful, but you also want to master yourself. Lao Tzu once said that “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” The most successful people in the world, and the people who rise in the career field, work on themselves more than they work on their craft. You must constantly find ways to improve and stay healthy.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change” – Jim Rohn

4. Take small steps

You cannot leap into success. Take small steps and start from the bottom, building a foundation of knowledge. Start on the smallest projects and do them to the best of your ability. Excellence is a habit, so you must make it a priority to do everything with excellence and work your way up the ladder.

Taking on too much at a time will drain you. Start small and put your 100% focus into that. Remember, massive success is achieved through the sum of small efforts.

 

5. Enjoy the ride

Achieving success is a journey. We all want to reach success rapidly because we believe that the destination will be the best part of our lives. We believe that the best part is the end. Well, not so much. Yes, reaching success will be fantastic, but we must also enjoy the process and develop our character as much as possible.

Enjoy everything you learn and every person you meet along the way. It is critical to build your character on the road to success, because the person you become, will determine if you stay successful. There will be failures on the road, but enjoy them. Know that every failure and mistake has made you stronger.

6 Tips That Will Help You Reach Massive Success

6. Stay focused

There are so many distractions in the world. You have to find a sense of discipline and perseverance. Distractions are the enemy to success and the enemy to opportunities. Organize yourself, your thoughts, and when it is time to work, stay focused. Turn off all electronics and stay away from all social media.

Clear your life of unnecessary clutter. You will feel a lot better about yourself and have clarity in your goals. We must remember that our ability to focus is an evolutionary trait that helped us become one of the most powerful species on the planet. Once we realize this and put it to use, we realize just how powerful we are. You can get so much done in such a short amount of time if you focus.


I hope these tips will help you on your journey. What tips would you add to this list?

Lawrence Berry is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, speaker, and the founder of Dreams Are 4 Real. As a graduate from Michigan State University, for the past 4 years he has dedicated his life to personal development, studying what it takes to become successful, understanding psychology, and how to stay motivated in order to achieve anything in life. He most certainly has a passion for reaching his full potential, and wants to inspire others to do the same. You can email him here: Lawrenceb07@ymail.com

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  1. Steliyan Borisov

    Aug 14, 2015 at 8:10 am

    Great article and tips, I love it. 🙂

  2. sami

    Jun 23, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    What if you find out that you don’t have a dream because you are so much occupied with supporting your family? Or that your dreams will live only when you have opportunity. Because you cannot wait for the opportunity will ultimately lead you to forgetting about your dreams.

  3. Steve Faber

    Jun 14, 2015 at 5:36 am

    Lawrence,

    “Stay Focused” That’s the biggie. There’s a reason why organization and detail oriented are two very common traits of successful individuals. It is so easy to let shiny objects distract you from your goals and mission. The key is balancing your life outside of your venture with the focus needed to ensure its success. I’ll let you know when I manage it!
    Thanks for the post!
    Steve

  4. Hannah

    Jun 10, 2015 at 1:46 am

    Hi there Lawrence! Thanks for sharing your tips, it’s very motivating.. To be successful, patience is a must.

  5. Candice

    Jun 8, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Thanks for this post, I set daily goals and make sure I reward myself at the end of the week for my efforts. Never give up on your dream.

  6. Mandy

    Jun 6, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Thank you Lawrence for your excellent and insightful article. It’s a great guide for anyone on a journey of self improvement and success.

  7. Christian LS

    Jun 6, 2015 at 9:06 am

    Lawrence,

    This goes with staying focused, cutting out distractions, and turning off your cellphone… cut out the negativity in you’re life – your haters.

    As you mentioned before there are some people born with a higher IQ and of course naturally we believe they have a higher aptitude for success.
    For those not fortunate enough to have the smarts,… times are tough…

    As some one was seen as the under dog when I first met my group of friends, I can attest to the fact that once you find you’re passions, move on up, and find out what you really want, what’s you purpose in the world, their true feels about you will start to rise and rear it’s ugly head.

    They’ll despise you for becoming what you we’re meant to become, and then they feel insecure about themselves and try to drag you back down to the initial person they know you as.

    Basically when you go from YOU.1.0 to YOU.2.0, they won’t easily adapt and accept the new YOU, and they’ll try as they can to downgrade you back to the old.

    Cut them out.

    And not even just them,…

    Another lesson I’ve learned in my entrepreneurial journey is to tolerate no BS/negativity.

    Seriously, it goes a long way.

    Christian Lavarias
    NitroSalesTeam

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      Yes, I was recently listening to a motivational piece and the person said that the road to success would be a lonely, less traveled road where your friends won’t be around. Well, you have to find friends who are just as ambitious as you are. If they start to hate on who you have become and the success you have obtained, they were never your friends in the first place. Yes, you correct you cannot tolerate negativity, it will only weigh you down.

  8. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 6, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

  9. Sija Mafu

    Jun 5, 2015 at 9:24 am

    Hey Lawrence

    Thank you for sharing. It does take time and patience, sometimes feels like you may never achieve success. I’ve learned to persevere through all kinds of challenges..

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:47 pm

      Hi,

      Yes, it does take time and patience to reach whatever you want to achieve in life. Nothing worth having will come fast and easy!

  10. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Jun 2, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Wow!!! What an awesome article…Thanks for sharing this Lawrence. Really appreciate it

    Love #1. We must all find our passion and purpose in life. Once we do that, life truly becomes LIFE

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      I am glad that you enjoyed the article. Yes, you must find what truly attracts you in life and pursue it. In this way you will master that in a way no one has or ever will.

  11. David

    Jun 2, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Lawrence, this is a phenomenal article! In fact one of the best that I’ve read on Addicted2Success.com. There are some timeless concepts that you share in here that everyone should read, reread and memorize. I plan to do the same! Thanks for sharing this wealth of information with us!

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      I truly appreciate that you have taken the time to read the article and share your thoughts!

  12. Iggy

    Jun 2, 2015 at 6:23 am

    @ Pat and Lawrence – I read these articles and dream and hope that I become better in many aspects of my life. Without action, reading becomes futile and without productive habits we are doomed for a destiny full of regret. I battle every day with self mastery. And I am conciously unskilled in the area of self mastery. But my realisation that I should be battling with small things rather than big things makes hope brighter for this journey I undertook of self master. And yes, I would like the power that Lao Tzu is referring to.

    Thank you for sharing and let us keep striving for success but above all for self mastery.

    “We shall overcome”

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 12:08 am

      Hi Iggy,

      Self-mastery is something that we all struggle with but the true way to overcome yourself is to build habits through repetition. What you have to do is find a strong purpose for why you want to obtain self-mastery and this purpose has to be bigger than your own self-interests. Do you have kids? Or parents? Or a vision to change the world in some way? Find out what inspires you and wake up to that everyday. Create dream board and look at it and repeat your purpose and dreams every morning. This will help change your thoughts in ways you can’t imagine. I really want you to succeed and reach your full potential. I have a personal coaching service that you can take a look at on my website. I will offer it at a discount because I truly appreciate your comment and want to help take your life to the next level.

  13. Pat

    Jun 2, 2015 at 2:51 am

    A wonderful post Lawrence.

    A real important key to success, as you mentioned, is taking small steps. In today’s modern world, where technology dominates, I think many of us are looking for the quick results but it is important to remember that the best results come with patience, doing the little things well everyday and setting up a strong foundation for long-term success.

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

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The Letter I Wrote To A Broken Man

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Every day I get lots of emails from readers asking me how to solve a major life issue.

I got one last week and realized that my advice is often the same. I thought that it might be easier to write my advice about how to stop being so broken. That way, every time I get one of these emails I can point people to it.

Here’s the advice I gave this broken man that wrote to me:

 

1. Find someone who is going to change your thinking

This man had a whole list of problems that he tried to tell me were impossible to solve. He listed them in such detail and made each one sound beyond impossible to solve. He was hoping that he would bamboozle me and that I’d reply and say “Mate you’re right, those problems are impossible to solve and I can’t help you.”

The first step I always tell these so called “broken people” is that they need to get out of their head. They’ve become obsessed with their challenges and they need to interrupt their thinking. The easiest and quickest way to do this is to find someone to change your thinking.

To make this broken man’s life easy, I gave him the answer of who to start with. He needed a rapid change of thinking and the best person I know to do this is Tony Robbins. Now I could have let him find his own person to assist, but it would have ended up becoming another excuse.

What he needed to hear was something radically different to the story that he’d memorized and become an expert narrator in. Tony sure knows how to change the way you think and slap you in the face when you need it. This is always the beginning.

 

2. Quit your job

This broken man blamed a lot of his problems on his job. This is common in all the letters I get from people who think they’re broken. They all have an issue that stems from what they do for a living.

What’s crazy is that your job or business is your decision. If you don’t like the result, then quit. It’s not rocket science; it’s just the reality.

“Quitting something you hate is the best decision you’ll ever make”

You can always find another source of income. The best thing about quitting is that you’ll be forced to find a new way to make a living pretty quickly so you can pay your bills.

Make it a slow transition if you need to, but just know that you must quit. Don’t let anything piss you off anymore. Stop doing what you don’t love. If your work doesn’t light you up, then quit!

 

3. Failing a lot is good. Stop being afraid.

My friend, the broken man, tried to tell me that he was failing a lot. I stood up in my seat and gave him a metaphorical round of applause (he obviously couldn’t see me do this). If you’re failing a lot, then that’s the best bloody news I’ve ever heard! Don’t be down about it; be excited about it.

This means your giving it a go and taking action. That’s better than 99% of other people who are doing nothing and sitting on the couch hoping to get lucky. You’ll eventually find a way if you keep failing. It’s inevitable.

Being afraid is unnecessary and it’s delusional. You’re not supposed to know exactly what to do and no one who is successful does.

“You’re supposed to take action, and then learn from the outcomes and adjust the sails of your ship as you go”

 

4. Go and volunteer at a homeless shelter

I’ve said this one a lot because I’ve personally found it very effective – In fact, I was just at the homeless shelter again last week. It’s the idea that you need to see problems far bigger than your own. I’ve never seen anyone walk into a homeless shelter and spend a day there, who hasn’t come out the other side with a new way of looking at life.

You’re forced into helping others and you do whatever you can because many of the people you’ll meet are beyond desperate. In reality, your problems are not desperate where as there’s is. Once you’ve seen the worst there is to see, then you’ll be able to break your pattern of misery.

 

5. Your problems are the same

This broken man was so stuck in his circumstances that he couldn’t see the rest of the world. He stopped seeing the hardships that others are going through and he somehow believed the lie that he was the only one facing these problems. I told him something he didn’t expect: “Your problems are the same as every other email I get.”

This was true. Every email I get with these so-called “impossible challenges” is the same. It’s the same issue with a different character playing the lead role of the story. Your problems are not unique or special. Your problems yesterday were vanilla and my problems today are strawberry. They’re all flavors of the same milkshake.

 

6. You’re being selfish

The last very blunt thing I said to this broken man (out of love and respect) was: “You’re being selfish.” I told him that his entire story was about him and his own selfish desires.

Nowhere in the story was there room for anybody else. Nowhere in the story was there a purpose to unite people, or serve people or give something to someone. It was all just about him and how important he was and how he must have all the answers.

“The way you become broken in the first place is when you’re 100% focused on yourself”

Selfishness is at the heart of so many life problems. It’s not all about you, you know. I’d go as far as saying that you should make your life about much more than you.

Once you move away from being entirely selfish, new opportunities start to find their way to you. These opportunities are not luck; these opportunities are the result of you moving beyond just caring about yourself. Until you give a damn about other people, you’re going to continue to be broken.

You started to become broken in the first place when you forgot about everyone else and became obsessed with yourself. Kill the obsession and you’ll find the answer to your dreams.

These are the things I told this young man. These are the same tools you can use if you feel broken.

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Don’t Hurt Your Future Self By Quitting

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“Every decision you make affects someone very special: your future self”

You’ve never met this person, but they are carrying the torch of your dreams. Life is hard for them too except their further along the timeline of life than you. Have you ever wondered what the future you will be like?

It’s something worth contemplating through deep and inward thinking.

When you give up on your dreams and quit, you’re not just hurting you right now, you’re killing the future you as well. That future you is bound by the decisions that you make today. One day you will become that future you and wish you could change that decision to quit. By then, it’s too late to change the past. There ain’t no rewind button on life.

 

Do you really need to quit?

I know you think it’s impossible and your only option is to quit, but that’s because you’ve reached your breaking point. I’ve been there too. I’ve reached a level of failure that has become insurmountable. I too have felt like I couldn’t go on and life had no meaning.

All of your emotional states, at times, can get like this. We’re human after all and don’t you forget that. We live in a flawed body, but that’s why humans are so beautiful in the first place. You don’t need to quit right now; there’s always another way.

 

The best thing to do when you want to quit

This is going to sound cliché: take a break and get out of your head for a few weeks. Go somewhere far, far away and contemplate the meaning of your life and why you’re still here. I say this because your life is a choice. You can decide to end your life at any point, but you haven’t.

You’re not a coward and you’d never do that. You have courage and you’re here for a reason.

 

Quitting may be the best option

Sometimes quitting is a good thing. Sometimes you have too many things on the go and when you quit, you free up time to focus on something that means more to you. My only plea is that you think about your future self when you quit. Think about whether your future self will be affected and whether you’ll be happy with the result.

There are no absolutes in life, only decisions that you make which are guided by your heart. There is no one answer. No one’s right and no one’s wrong. Our circumstances and how we think about them, more importantly, determine the meaning we give to any situation.

 

Who do you want your future self to be?

As you imagine your future self, what is he or she doing? Can you picture where they are? When I asked this question, I got an instant response which reaffirmed what I do today. I instantly saw myself on stage giving speeches to thousands of people.

I saw myself as the person that helps find people’s why and motivates them towards their dreams. I saw myself with a family and writing a best selling book. Strangely enough, I saw my future self as I always have: doing something inspiring to help others. I saw myself unleashing emotion in others to help them push through their limiting beliefs.

 

Now that you know your future self, how can you help them today?

So we’ve done a bit of visualizing in this article already. It’s a powerful way to see what you can become when you don’t quit. It’s a great way to fall in love with the person that you can create in the future by using the power of today’s decisions.

“I think we all need to become dreamers every now and then. If we don’t, we get stuck in today, and in our head full of possibilities”

If I had one tip when it comes to dreaming up the future, it would be this: try and see your future better than it is. Be outrageous and think of possibilities that today would scare you. You’ll be surprised how what you dream up today can become a reality.

I remember suffering from anxiety and trying to dream what it would be like to be rid of it. I remember being scared of flying and always wanting to travel. I remember having never found love and wondering what that would be like. I remember not being able to get in front of lots of people and do any form of public speaking. I remember being too scared to be vulnerable and share the real me.

Now, I’ve completely eliminated my anxiety, I can fly whenever I want with no issues, I have experienced real love, I am on my way to successfully being able to speak in front of larger audiences, and I’m happy to be vulnerable and share my story with everybody. That’s what can happen when you treat your future self with respect.

 

So now what?

Now I want you to do the hard part: take action. Follow the steps above and have some fun. Leave the present for the moment and get to know who you want your future self to be. Your future self is you after all, so you need to treat them like a king or queen.

Write a list of decisions you need to make in order to create the best future you that’s humanly possible. Like I always say, “Don’t be afraid to have big, audacious, crazy dreams.” If you can’t dream it, then you can never achieve it. Remember that next time someone tells you that dreams are BS.

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We All Start With Zero Followers – Comprehenday?

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For the record: followers mean jack, attention is king.

With that said, all of us (including me) started with zero followers. You’re not alone. Whatever your big idea is you are probably going to need people to know about it. The sad truth is that it’s now done via social media.

You’ll need a combination of shares, likes, views, recommends or whatever other form of measurement these crazy social media platforms decide to implement. These metrics equal attention and that’s how people are going to know about what it is that you do.

Let’s not pretend that social media is useless. That would be naïve.

In this bustling, new age world, everyone owns content now. Anyone can go viral and anyone can be heard. Some find this reality a sad fact, but then these same people find something to cry about no matter what so ignore them.

The journey from zero followers to thousands and even millions looks like this:

 

1. We all started somewhere

Quit your complaining we’ve all started at zero followers at some point. Starting with nothing and then building your community up is an amazing feeling. Embrace the journey of creating a following.

The game of comparing follower counts with others will distract you from creating content and force you into consumption mode. Then you’ll over consume and regurgitate all over yourself. Yuck!

 

2. Stop trying to game the system

You can’t buy followers and not have people notice. We can all scan your follower list and see that you cheated. More importantly, the number of followers doesn’t matter.

3. Engagement is everything

Ever seen a social media account with millions of followers and one or two likes/comments per post? That’s because the followers were paid for or tricked into liking the page. I’m going to say it again; the number of followers doesn’t matter.

What matters – if you are creating a community or awareness – is engagement and whether people care about what you’re posting. This can’t be gamed. People will only interact if you are doing and saying stuff that is of value. How do you do that? See the next point.

 

4. It’s not about you and your ego

That’s right. I don’t care, nor does anyone else, about what you had for lunch or who you met at the basketball. What we all care about is what’s in it for me buster?

If you answer that question and do so regularly, people will follow and engage you. That’s how you go from zero followers to millions.

 

5. It takes a while

Zero to a million followers takes times. Like interest on your bank account, your results will compound once you cross the tipping point.

What’s the tipping point?

It’s the point at which you have nailed the following:

– Your message to the world is clear
– It’s consistent (ideally daily)
– It’s unique (not better but different)
– It’s not about you and your ugly ego
– You give more than you ask for (Jab Jab Jab Right Hook)

When you do those things, your follower count and engagement will regularly start to increase.

 

6. You need a breakout moment

The way you do that is my channeling all of your energy and emotion into every piece of content you create. If you do this for long enough, then you’ll eventually have a standout moment. That’s a moment where the world listens and you go viral. It takes time though. You could be waiting five years young Power Ranger.

 

7. Followers like to follow stories

Don’t throw boring stats and pictures at your followers all day, every day. It should come as no surprise that social media works best with stories. The best stories I’ve found are personal stories. Rather than produce content that feeds your ego, put yourself into every story you tell.

 

8. Tell stories that inspire

There are hundreds of types of stories. If I were to encourage you to do one type and one type only it would be to tell inspiring stories. Stories that inspire people to take action, think differently or be emotional about something.

 

9. Say it quickly now!

A story is great but people have a low attention span. This means you’ve got to be able to communicate succinctly. There is a lot of waffle on the Internet. The way to stand out is to plan what you are going to say and cut out the filler. People will love you if they can get value from you and have it delivered in a brief manner. I get this compliment in the form of feedback all the time and I love it.

 

10. There is no one big break

If I look at my online success, there is no one single moment. Going from zero followers and beyond is made up of a whole lot of factors which you’ll never quite work out. What I can tell you though is that all those factors require you to show up.

“Each day you have to show up with something of value to say”

 

11. It doesn’t need to be new necessarily

People think you have to say something new every day. You don’t. Sometimes it’s about saying something in a slightly different way. Sometimes it’s taking a popular idea and saying it in a better way. For me, it’s often about taking something that already exists and saying it in my way, with my story attached.

“Saying something new doesn’t create followers; saying something different does”

12. Find your channel

Everyone’s channel for creating followers is different. Try them all and see which one resonates the best for your niche. Facebook doesn’t really work for me, but Medium and LinkedIn are phenomenal. I would have never known this if I didn’t try them. Experiment like you’re playing with play-doh.

 

13. Quit being romantic

Don’t wait until you have tons of followers to get started. Be the same as you are with zero followers, as you are with a million followers. Being romantic about social media doesn’t work. When I say romantic, it’s kind of the same as saying being precious.

You think you need influence right now. You don’t. You think you need money and lots of it. You don’t. You think you’ll try harder when you’re like Gary Vaynerchuk. You won’t.

So now do you understand that we all start with zero followers and that’s cool bananas?

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5 Empowering Statements That Will Get Rid of Your Fears Once and for All

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In an instant, you go from being nowhere to being -now here- in the land of the living! Ever wondered how that all happens? In the morning when you wake up, isn’t it just another ordinary miracle how we all of a sudden find ourselves lying in bed, on planet earth and all the stored data of our lives just comes pouring in. One minute you were “who knows where” the next you’re back into “planet earth.”

This is all fascinating, but have you ever had one of those days when as soon as you awaken to the new day, you almost wish it was already over? I mean the thought of crawling out of bed and facing your day is just daunting.

That used to be my kind of morning not sometimes,  but every single day. No matter what I told myself, I just abhorred the new day or the thought of getting out of bed. The muscles in my body ached although it didn’t make sense. I wasn’t sore from exercising because back then, I didn’t even know what exercise was.

“Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves.” – Cheryl Strayed

Each morning that same sick feeling in my stomach would show up, yet I wasn’t sick. In my head, being awake was just as awful as being asleep because the nightmare that was tormenting my life seemed to follow me everywhere, like a dark shadow.

That was the theme of my life back when all I knew was survival and painstaking hustle. It wasn’t until I made some very major decisions in my life that I started to experience a life free from pain, depression, constant sadness and anger.

And while today I live an extremely different reality from what once tormented me, I do realize that many people are still struggling with irrational fears. As far as their reality is concerned, there’s nothing irrational or trivial about how they feel and what they have to deal with each day.

The burden of life is weighing on their shoulders. Whether or not they are occupying a leadership position or simply just want to survive the current upheaval our society is facing, there is a great need for humanity to be reminded of what’s real.

“It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.” – Mandy Hale

This is why I want to share with you statements which will work for you if you have been feeling tormented by the burdens of life and false conditioning. Even if you didn’t grow up in the midst of poverty and harsh conditions like I did, there’s so much junk in one’s mind often clouding your path of prosperity and success.

So on those days when you wake up and your morning feels anything other than miraculous, feed your mind with these 5 statements:

1. I overcome my fear of anything and everything and I live life courageously.

2. I need not to fear. Because fear is not of the present but of the past and future, both of which do not exist in the now.

3. I believe this situation/condition will work out for good and all those concerned. Though I may not know how, I still choose to believe this for myself today and I step into my day eager to find opportunities rather than obstacles.

4. I will not be discouraged or let outside forces dictate what I know to be true in my own heart. I will not allow the opinion of another to kill my dream or wound my heart. This is about being myself, expressing my authentic voice and recognizing that no one else can do it for me.

5. I am no longer a victim and I cease blaming my situation and the people around me for how I feel as this only robs me of joy and success. Because I know I was born to win and succeed, I will press on, firmly grounded in my own power to change my life for the better and empower others to do the same.

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  1. Steliyan Borisov

    Aug 14, 2015 at 8:10 am

    Great article and tips, I love it. 🙂

  2. sami

    Jun 23, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    What if you find out that you don’t have a dream because you are so much occupied with supporting your family? Or that your dreams will live only when you have opportunity. Because you cannot wait for the opportunity will ultimately lead you to forgetting about your dreams.

  3. Steve Faber

    Jun 14, 2015 at 5:36 am

    Lawrence,

    “Stay Focused” That’s the biggie. There’s a reason why organization and detail oriented are two very common traits of successful individuals. It is so easy to let shiny objects distract you from your goals and mission. The key is balancing your life outside of your venture with the focus needed to ensure its success. I’ll let you know when I manage it!
    Thanks for the post!
    Steve

  4. Hannah

    Jun 10, 2015 at 1:46 am

    Hi there Lawrence! Thanks for sharing your tips, it’s very motivating.. To be successful, patience is a must.

  5. Candice

    Jun 8, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Thanks for this post, I set daily goals and make sure I reward myself at the end of the week for my efforts. Never give up on your dream.

  6. Mandy

    Jun 6, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Thank you Lawrence for your excellent and insightful article. It’s a great guide for anyone on a journey of self improvement and success.

  7. Christian LS

    Jun 6, 2015 at 9:06 am

    Lawrence,

    This goes with staying focused, cutting out distractions, and turning off your cellphone… cut out the negativity in you’re life – your haters.

    As you mentioned before there are some people born with a higher IQ and of course naturally we believe they have a higher aptitude for success.
    For those not fortunate enough to have the smarts,… times are tough…

    As some one was seen as the under dog when I first met my group of friends, I can attest to the fact that once you find you’re passions, move on up, and find out what you really want, what’s you purpose in the world, their true feels about you will start to rise and rear it’s ugly head.

    They’ll despise you for becoming what you we’re meant to become, and then they feel insecure about themselves and try to drag you back down to the initial person they know you as.

    Basically when you go from YOU.1.0 to YOU.2.0, they won’t easily adapt and accept the new YOU, and they’ll try as they can to downgrade you back to the old.

    Cut them out.

    And not even just them,…

    Another lesson I’ve learned in my entrepreneurial journey is to tolerate no BS/negativity.

    Seriously, it goes a long way.

    Christian Lavarias
    NitroSalesTeam

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      Yes, I was recently listening to a motivational piece and the person said that the road to success would be a lonely, less traveled road where your friends won’t be around. Well, you have to find friends who are just as ambitious as you are. If they start to hate on who you have become and the success you have obtained, they were never your friends in the first place. Yes, you correct you cannot tolerate negativity, it will only weigh you down.

  8. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 6, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

  9. Sija Mafu

    Jun 5, 2015 at 9:24 am

    Hey Lawrence

    Thank you for sharing. It does take time and patience, sometimes feels like you may never achieve success. I’ve learned to persevere through all kinds of challenges..

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:47 pm

      Hi,

      Yes, it does take time and patience to reach whatever you want to achieve in life. Nothing worth having will come fast and easy!

  10. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Jun 2, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Wow!!! What an awesome article…Thanks for sharing this Lawrence. Really appreciate it

    Love #1. We must all find our passion and purpose in life. Once we do that, life truly becomes LIFE

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      I am glad that you enjoyed the article. Yes, you must find what truly attracts you in life and pursue it. In this way you will master that in a way no one has or ever will.

  11. David

    Jun 2, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Lawrence, this is a phenomenal article! In fact one of the best that I’ve read on Addicted2Success.com. There are some timeless concepts that you share in here that everyone should read, reread and memorize. I plan to do the same! Thanks for sharing this wealth of information with us!

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      I truly appreciate that you have taken the time to read the article and share your thoughts!

  12. Iggy

    Jun 2, 2015 at 6:23 am

    @ Pat and Lawrence – I read these articles and dream and hope that I become better in many aspects of my life. Without action, reading becomes futile and without productive habits we are doomed for a destiny full of regret. I battle every day with self mastery. And I am conciously unskilled in the area of self mastery. But my realisation that I should be battling with small things rather than big things makes hope brighter for this journey I undertook of self master. And yes, I would like the power that Lao Tzu is referring to.

    Thank you for sharing and let us keep striving for success but above all for self mastery.

    “We shall overcome”

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 12:08 am

      Hi Iggy,

      Self-mastery is something that we all struggle with but the true way to overcome yourself is to build habits through repetition. What you have to do is find a strong purpose for why you want to obtain self-mastery and this purpose has to be bigger than your own self-interests. Do you have kids? Or parents? Or a vision to change the world in some way? Find out what inspires you and wake up to that everyday. Create dream board and look at it and repeat your purpose and dreams every morning. This will help change your thoughts in ways you can’t imagine. I really want you to succeed and reach your full potential. I have a personal coaching service that you can take a look at on my website. I will offer it at a discount because I truly appreciate your comment and want to help take your life to the next level.

  13. Pat

    Jun 2, 2015 at 2:51 am

    A wonderful post Lawrence.

    A real important key to success, as you mentioned, is taking small steps. In today’s modern world, where technology dominates, I think many of us are looking for the quick results but it is important to remember that the best results come with patience, doing the little things well everyday and setting up a strong foundation for long-term success.

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

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The Letter I Wrote To A Broken Man

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Every day I get lots of emails from readers asking me how to solve a major life issue.

I got one last week and realized that my advice is often the same. I thought that it might be easier to write my advice about how to stop being so broken. That way, every time I get one of these emails I can point people to it.

Here’s the advice I gave this broken man that wrote to me:

 

1. Find someone who is going to change your thinking

This man had a whole list of problems that he tried to tell me were impossible to solve. He listed them in such detail and made each one sound beyond impossible to solve. He was hoping that he would bamboozle me and that I’d reply and say “Mate you’re right, those problems are impossible to solve and I can’t help you.”

The first step I always tell these so called “broken people” is that they need to get out of their head. They’ve become obsessed with their challenges and they need to interrupt their thinking. The easiest and quickest way to do this is to find someone to change your thinking.

To make this broken man’s life easy, I gave him the answer of who to start with. He needed a rapid change of thinking and the best person I know to do this is Tony Robbins. Now I could have let him find his own person to assist, but it would have ended up becoming another excuse.

What he needed to hear was something radically different to the story that he’d memorized and become an expert narrator in. Tony sure knows how to change the way you think and slap you in the face when you need it. This is always the beginning.

 

2. Quit your job

This broken man blamed a lot of his problems on his job. This is common in all the letters I get from people who think they’re broken. They all have an issue that stems from what they do for a living.

What’s crazy is that your job or business is your decision. If you don’t like the result, then quit. It’s not rocket science; it’s just the reality.

“Quitting something you hate is the best decision you’ll ever make”

You can always find another source of income. The best thing about quitting is that you’ll be forced to find a new way to make a living pretty quickly so you can pay your bills.

Make it a slow transition if you need to, but just know that you must quit. Don’t let anything piss you off anymore. Stop doing what you don’t love. If your work doesn’t light you up, then quit!

 

3. Failing a lot is good. Stop being afraid.

My friend, the broken man, tried to tell me that he was failing a lot. I stood up in my seat and gave him a metaphorical round of applause (he obviously couldn’t see me do this). If you’re failing a lot, then that’s the best bloody news I’ve ever heard! Don’t be down about it; be excited about it.

This means your giving it a go and taking action. That’s better than 99% of other people who are doing nothing and sitting on the couch hoping to get lucky. You’ll eventually find a way if you keep failing. It’s inevitable.

Being afraid is unnecessary and it’s delusional. You’re not supposed to know exactly what to do and no one who is successful does.

“You’re supposed to take action, and then learn from the outcomes and adjust the sails of your ship as you go”

 

4. Go and volunteer at a homeless shelter

I’ve said this one a lot because I’ve personally found it very effective – In fact, I was just at the homeless shelter again last week. It’s the idea that you need to see problems far bigger than your own. I’ve never seen anyone walk into a homeless shelter and spend a day there, who hasn’t come out the other side with a new way of looking at life.

You’re forced into helping others and you do whatever you can because many of the people you’ll meet are beyond desperate. In reality, your problems are not desperate where as there’s is. Once you’ve seen the worst there is to see, then you’ll be able to break your pattern of misery.

 

5. Your problems are the same

This broken man was so stuck in his circumstances that he couldn’t see the rest of the world. He stopped seeing the hardships that others are going through and he somehow believed the lie that he was the only one facing these problems. I told him something he didn’t expect: “Your problems are the same as every other email I get.”

This was true. Every email I get with these so-called “impossible challenges” is the same. It’s the same issue with a different character playing the lead role of the story. Your problems are not unique or special. Your problems yesterday were vanilla and my problems today are strawberry. They’re all flavors of the same milkshake.

 

6. You’re being selfish

The last very blunt thing I said to this broken man (out of love and respect) was: “You’re being selfish.” I told him that his entire story was about him and his own selfish desires.

Nowhere in the story was there room for anybody else. Nowhere in the story was there a purpose to unite people, or serve people or give something to someone. It was all just about him and how important he was and how he must have all the answers.

“The way you become broken in the first place is when you’re 100% focused on yourself”

Selfishness is at the heart of so many life problems. It’s not all about you, you know. I’d go as far as saying that you should make your life about much more than you.

Once you move away from being entirely selfish, new opportunities start to find their way to you. These opportunities are not luck; these opportunities are the result of you moving beyond just caring about yourself. Until you give a damn about other people, you’re going to continue to be broken.

You started to become broken in the first place when you forgot about everyone else and became obsessed with yourself. Kill the obsession and you’ll find the answer to your dreams.

These are the things I told this young man. These are the same tools you can use if you feel broken.

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Don’t Hurt Your Future Self By Quitting

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“Every decision you make affects someone very special: your future self”

You’ve never met this person, but they are carrying the torch of your dreams. Life is hard for them too except their further along the timeline of life than you. Have you ever wondered what the future you will be like?

It’s something worth contemplating through deep and inward thinking.

When you give up on your dreams and quit, you’re not just hurting you right now, you’re killing the future you as well. That future you is bound by the decisions that you make today. One day you will become that future you and wish you could change that decision to quit. By then, it’s too late to change the past. There ain’t no rewind button on life.

 

Do you really need to quit?

I know you think it’s impossible and your only option is to quit, but that’s because you’ve reached your breaking point. I’ve been there too. I’ve reached a level of failure that has become insurmountable. I too have felt like I couldn’t go on and life had no meaning.

All of your emotional states, at times, can get like this. We’re human after all and don’t you forget that. We live in a flawed body, but that’s why humans are so beautiful in the first place. You don’t need to quit right now; there’s always another way.

 

The best thing to do when you want to quit

This is going to sound cliché: take a break and get out of your head for a few weeks. Go somewhere far, far away and contemplate the meaning of your life and why you’re still here. I say this because your life is a choice. You can decide to end your life at any point, but you haven’t.

You’re not a coward and you’d never do that. You have courage and you’re here for a reason.

 

Quitting may be the best option

Sometimes quitting is a good thing. Sometimes you have too many things on the go and when you quit, you free up time to focus on something that means more to you. My only plea is that you think about your future self when you quit. Think about whether your future self will be affected and whether you’ll be happy with the result.

There are no absolutes in life, only decisions that you make which are guided by your heart. There is no one answer. No one’s right and no one’s wrong. Our circumstances and how we think about them, more importantly, determine the meaning we give to any situation.

 

Who do you want your future self to be?

As you imagine your future self, what is he or she doing? Can you picture where they are? When I asked this question, I got an instant response which reaffirmed what I do today. I instantly saw myself on stage giving speeches to thousands of people.

I saw myself as the person that helps find people’s why and motivates them towards their dreams. I saw myself with a family and writing a best selling book. Strangely enough, I saw my future self as I always have: doing something inspiring to help others. I saw myself unleashing emotion in others to help them push through their limiting beliefs.

 

Now that you know your future self, how can you help them today?

So we’ve done a bit of visualizing in this article already. It’s a powerful way to see what you can become when you don’t quit. It’s a great way to fall in love with the person that you can create in the future by using the power of today’s decisions.

“I think we all need to become dreamers every now and then. If we don’t, we get stuck in today, and in our head full of possibilities”

If I had one tip when it comes to dreaming up the future, it would be this: try and see your future better than it is. Be outrageous and think of possibilities that today would scare you. You’ll be surprised how what you dream up today can become a reality.

I remember suffering from anxiety and trying to dream what it would be like to be rid of it. I remember being scared of flying and always wanting to travel. I remember having never found love and wondering what that would be like. I remember not being able to get in front of lots of people and do any form of public speaking. I remember being too scared to be vulnerable and share the real me.

Now, I’ve completely eliminated my anxiety, I can fly whenever I want with no issues, I have experienced real love, I am on my way to successfully being able to speak in front of larger audiences, and I’m happy to be vulnerable and share my story with everybody. That’s what can happen when you treat your future self with respect.

 

So now what?

Now I want you to do the hard part: take action. Follow the steps above and have some fun. Leave the present for the moment and get to know who you want your future self to be. Your future self is you after all, so you need to treat them like a king or queen.

Write a list of decisions you need to make in order to create the best future you that’s humanly possible. Like I always say, “Don’t be afraid to have big, audacious, crazy dreams.” If you can’t dream it, then you can never achieve it. Remember that next time someone tells you that dreams are BS.

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We All Start With Zero Followers – Comprehenday?

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For the record: followers mean jack, attention is king.

With that said, all of us (including me) started with zero followers. You’re not alone. Whatever your big idea is you are probably going to need people to know about it. The sad truth is that it’s now done via social media.

You’ll need a combination of shares, likes, views, recommends or whatever other form of measurement these crazy social media platforms decide to implement. These metrics equal attention and that’s how people are going to know about what it is that you do.

Let’s not pretend that social media is useless. That would be naïve.

In this bustling, new age world, everyone owns content now. Anyone can go viral and anyone can be heard. Some find this reality a sad fact, but then these same people find something to cry about no matter what so ignore them.

The journey from zero followers to thousands and even millions looks like this:

 

1. We all started somewhere

Quit your complaining we’ve all started at zero followers at some point. Starting with nothing and then building your community up is an amazing feeling. Embrace the journey of creating a following.

The game of comparing follower counts with others will distract you from creating content and force you into consumption mode. Then you’ll over consume and regurgitate all over yourself. Yuck!

 

2. Stop trying to game the system

You can’t buy followers and not have people notice. We can all scan your follower list and see that you cheated. More importantly, the number of followers doesn’t matter.

3. Engagement is everything

Ever seen a social media account with millions of followers and one or two likes/comments per post? That’s because the followers were paid for or tricked into liking the page. I’m going to say it again; the number of followers doesn’t matter.

What matters – if you are creating a community or awareness – is engagement and whether people care about what you’re posting. This can’t be gamed. People will only interact if you are doing and saying stuff that is of value. How do you do that? See the next point.

 

4. It’s not about you and your ego

That’s right. I don’t care, nor does anyone else, about what you had for lunch or who you met at the basketball. What we all care about is what’s in it for me buster?

If you answer that question and do so regularly, people will follow and engage you. That’s how you go from zero followers to millions.

 

5. It takes a while

Zero to a million followers takes times. Like interest on your bank account, your results will compound once you cross the tipping point.

What’s the tipping point?

It’s the point at which you have nailed the following:

– Your message to the world is clear
– It’s consistent (ideally daily)
– It’s unique (not better but different)
– It’s not about you and your ugly ego
– You give more than you ask for (Jab Jab Jab Right Hook)

When you do those things, your follower count and engagement will regularly start to increase.

 

6. You need a breakout moment

The way you do that is my channeling all of your energy and emotion into every piece of content you create. If you do this for long enough, then you’ll eventually have a standout moment. That’s a moment where the world listens and you go viral. It takes time though. You could be waiting five years young Power Ranger.

 

7. Followers like to follow stories

Don’t throw boring stats and pictures at your followers all day, every day. It should come as no surprise that social media works best with stories. The best stories I’ve found are personal stories. Rather than produce content that feeds your ego, put yourself into every story you tell.

 

8. Tell stories that inspire

There are hundreds of types of stories. If I were to encourage you to do one type and one type only it would be to tell inspiring stories. Stories that inspire people to take action, think differently or be emotional about something.

 

9. Say it quickly now!

A story is great but people have a low attention span. This means you’ve got to be able to communicate succinctly. There is a lot of waffle on the Internet. The way to stand out is to plan what you are going to say and cut out the filler. People will love you if they can get value from you and have it delivered in a brief manner. I get this compliment in the form of feedback all the time and I love it.

 

10. There is no one big break

If I look at my online success, there is no one single moment. Going from zero followers and beyond is made up of a whole lot of factors which you’ll never quite work out. What I can tell you though is that all those factors require you to show up.

“Each day you have to show up with something of value to say”

 

11. It doesn’t need to be new necessarily

People think you have to say something new every day. You don’t. Sometimes it’s about saying something in a slightly different way. Sometimes it’s taking a popular idea and saying it in a better way. For me, it’s often about taking something that already exists and saying it in my way, with my story attached.

“Saying something new doesn’t create followers; saying something different does”

12. Find your channel

Everyone’s channel for creating followers is different. Try them all and see which one resonates the best for your niche. Facebook doesn’t really work for me, but Medium and LinkedIn are phenomenal. I would have never known this if I didn’t try them. Experiment like you’re playing with play-doh.

 

13. Quit being romantic

Don’t wait until you have tons of followers to get started. Be the same as you are with zero followers, as you are with a million followers. Being romantic about social media doesn’t work. When I say romantic, it’s kind of the same as saying being precious.

You think you need influence right now. You don’t. You think you need money and lots of it. You don’t. You think you’ll try harder when you’re like Gary Vaynerchuk. You won’t.

So now do you understand that we all start with zero followers and that’s cool bananas?

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5 Empowering Statements That Will Get Rid of Your Fears Once and for All

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In an instant, you go from being nowhere to being -now here- in the land of the living! Ever wondered how that all happens? In the morning when you wake up, isn’t it just another ordinary miracle how we all of a sudden find ourselves lying in bed, on planet earth and all the stored data of our lives just comes pouring in. One minute you were “who knows where” the next you’re back into “planet earth.”

This is all fascinating, but have you ever had one of those days when as soon as you awaken to the new day, you almost wish it was already over? I mean the thought of crawling out of bed and facing your day is just daunting.

That used to be my kind of morning not sometimes,  but every single day. No matter what I told myself, I just abhorred the new day or the thought of getting out of bed. The muscles in my body ached although it didn’t make sense. I wasn’t sore from exercising because back then, I didn’t even know what exercise was.

“Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves.” – Cheryl Strayed

Each morning that same sick feeling in my stomach would show up, yet I wasn’t sick. In my head, being awake was just as awful as being asleep because the nightmare that was tormenting my life seemed to follow me everywhere, like a dark shadow.

That was the theme of my life back when all I knew was survival and painstaking hustle. It wasn’t until I made some very major decisions in my life that I started to experience a life free from pain, depression, constant sadness and anger.

And while today I live an extremely different reality from what once tormented me, I do realize that many people are still struggling with irrational fears. As far as their reality is concerned, there’s nothing irrational or trivial about how they feel and what they have to deal with each day.

The burden of life is weighing on their shoulders. Whether or not they are occupying a leadership position or simply just want to survive the current upheaval our society is facing, there is a great need for humanity to be reminded of what’s real.

“It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.” – Mandy Hale

This is why I want to share with you statements which will work for you if you have been feeling tormented by the burdens of life and false conditioning. Even if you didn’t grow up in the midst of poverty and harsh conditions like I did, there’s so much junk in one’s mind often clouding your path of prosperity and success.

So on those days when you wake up and your morning feels anything other than miraculous, feed your mind with these 5 statements:

1. I overcome my fear of anything and everything and I live life courageously.

2. I need not to fear. Because fear is not of the present but of the past and future, both of which do not exist in the now.

3. I believe this situation/condition will work out for good and all those concerned. Though I may not know how, I still choose to believe this for myself today and I step into my day eager to find opportunities rather than obstacles.

4. I will not be discouraged or let outside forces dictate what I know to be true in my own heart. I will not allow the opinion of another to kill my dream or wound my heart. This is about being myself, expressing my authentic voice and recognizing that no one else can do it for me.

5. I am no longer a victim and I cease blaming my situation and the people around me for how I feel as this only robs me of joy and success. Because I know I was born to win and succeed, I will press on, firmly grounded in my own power to change my life for the better and empower others to do the same.

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