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6 Tips That Will Help You Reach Massive Success

In the book, Mastery by Robert Greene, he talks about how some people are born with higher IQ’s and have a lot more natural talent than others.

They are usually out-shined by someone who has a lower IQ and a lot less natural talent.

Examples of this phenomenon can be Charles Darwin and Sir Francis Galton. Galton had an exceptionally high IQ and was a child prodigy in science, while Darwin admitted to be an ordinary person. Yet, Darwin is now more widely known and accepted as the more prestigious, superior scientist.

We can also see this in other examples with Bill Gates and other people who were not the best in their class, but became more successful. What are their secrets and how can you reach this massive level of success?

Below I am going to share with you 6 things that will help you reach a massive level of success.

 

1. Follow your passion and turn it into a dream

We all have similar brains, but we all have different personalities. This observation lets us realize that our brains may react to certain stimuli in a different way, and that we all think differently. Because our brains react to different stimuli, we are ultimately attracted to different things in life.

Certain things spark up our brain and we become fascinated. Those things we become fascinated by in life are the things we were meant to do. We lose our sense of those fascinations and what we are passionate about because we force ourselves to conform to getting a job we don’t like in order to have financial stability.

This is the wrong path to follow if you want to achieve massive amounts of success,  you must re-find those things that fascinate you and master them. Mastering a subject you are passionate about will take you to new heights because you will find enough determination and persistence to know more than anyone else.

This will make you successful because you will have more to offer than anyone else. Begin to take this and dream of the life you want to live by following your passions and the things that excite you.

“There is no greater thing you can do with your life and your work than follow your passions in a way that serves the world and you.” – Richard Branson

2. Have a sense of realization

Once you start to work on your craft and develop a sense of how you want your life to be, you must come to realize that this process will not happen overnight. Mastering a craft and becoming successful takes a lot of hard work and patience. You have to do something every day that will help you achieve success.

This will require dedication, willpower, and sacrifice. You must have this type of realization because if you constantly believe that you can become an overnight success, you will be disappointed, and this will hinder your journey in achieving success.

 

3. Improve yourself

Not only do you want to master your craft to be successful, but you also want to master yourself. Lao Tzu once said that “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” The most successful people in the world, and the people who rise in the career field, work on themselves more than they work on their craft. You must constantly find ways to improve and stay healthy.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change” – Jim Rohn

4. Take small steps

You cannot leap into success. Take small steps and start from the bottom, building a foundation of knowledge. Start on the smallest projects and do them to the best of your ability. Excellence is a habit, so you must make it a priority to do everything with excellence and work your way up the ladder.

Taking on too much at a time will drain you. Start small and put your 100% focus into that. Remember, massive success is achieved through the sum of small efforts.

 

5. Enjoy the ride

Achieving success is a journey. We all want to reach success rapidly because we believe that the destination will be the best part of our lives. We believe that the best part is the end. Well, not so much. Yes, reaching success will be fantastic, but we must also enjoy the process and develop our character as much as possible.

Enjoy everything you learn and every person you meet along the way. It is critical to build your character on the road to success, because the person you become, will determine if you stay successful. There will be failures on the road, but enjoy them. Know that every failure and mistake has made you stronger.

6 Tips That Will Help You Reach Massive Success

6. Stay focused

There are so many distractions in the world. You have to find a sense of discipline and perseverance. Distractions are the enemy to success and the enemy to opportunities. Organize yourself, your thoughts, and when it is time to work, stay focused. Turn off all electronics and stay away from all social media.

Clear your life of unnecessary clutter. You will feel a lot better about yourself and have clarity in your goals. We must remember that our ability to focus is an evolutionary trait that helped us become one of the most powerful species on the planet. Once we realize this and put it to use, we realize just how powerful we are. You can get so much done in such a short amount of time if you focus.


I hope these tips will help you on your journey. What tips would you add to this list?

Lawrence Berry is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, speaker, and the founder of Dreams Are 4 Real. As a graduate from Michigan State University, for the past 4 years he has dedicated his life to personal development, studying what it takes to become successful, understanding psychology, and how to stay motivated in order to achieve anything in life. He most certainly has a passion for reaching his full potential, and wants to inspire others to do the same. You can email him here: Lawrenceb07@ymail.com

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  1. Steliyan Borisov

    Aug 14, 2015 at 8:10 am

    Great article and tips, I love it. 🙂

  2. sami

    Jun 23, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    What if you find out that you don’t have a dream because you are so much occupied with supporting your family? Or that your dreams will live only when you have opportunity. Because you cannot wait for the opportunity will ultimately lead you to forgetting about your dreams.

  3. Steve Faber

    Jun 14, 2015 at 5:36 am

    Lawrence,

    “Stay Focused” That’s the biggie. There’s a reason why organization and detail oriented are two very common traits of successful individuals. It is so easy to let shiny objects distract you from your goals and mission. The key is balancing your life outside of your venture with the focus needed to ensure its success. I’ll let you know when I manage it!
    Thanks for the post!
    Steve

  4. Hannah

    Jun 10, 2015 at 1:46 am

    Hi there Lawrence! Thanks for sharing your tips, it’s very motivating.. To be successful, patience is a must.

  5. Candice

    Jun 8, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Thanks for this post, I set daily goals and make sure I reward myself at the end of the week for my efforts. Never give up on your dream.

  6. Mandy

    Jun 6, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Thank you Lawrence for your excellent and insightful article. It’s a great guide for anyone on a journey of self improvement and success.

  7. Christian LS

    Jun 6, 2015 at 9:06 am

    Lawrence,

    This goes with staying focused, cutting out distractions, and turning off your cellphone… cut out the negativity in you’re life – your haters.

    As you mentioned before there are some people born with a higher IQ and of course naturally we believe they have a higher aptitude for success.
    For those not fortunate enough to have the smarts,… times are tough…

    As some one was seen as the under dog when I first met my group of friends, I can attest to the fact that once you find you’re passions, move on up, and find out what you really want, what’s you purpose in the world, their true feels about you will start to rise and rear it’s ugly head.

    They’ll despise you for becoming what you we’re meant to become, and then they feel insecure about themselves and try to drag you back down to the initial person they know you as.

    Basically when you go from YOU.1.0 to YOU.2.0, they won’t easily adapt and accept the new YOU, and they’ll try as they can to downgrade you back to the old.

    Cut them out.

    And not even just them,…

    Another lesson I’ve learned in my entrepreneurial journey is to tolerate no BS/negativity.

    Seriously, it goes a long way.

    Christian Lavarias
    NitroSalesTeam

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      Yes, I was recently listening to a motivational piece and the person said that the road to success would be a lonely, less traveled road where your friends won’t be around. Well, you have to find friends who are just as ambitious as you are. If they start to hate on who you have become and the success you have obtained, they were never your friends in the first place. Yes, you correct you cannot tolerate negativity, it will only weigh you down.

  8. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 6, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

  9. Sija Mafu

    Jun 5, 2015 at 9:24 am

    Hey Lawrence

    Thank you for sharing. It does take time and patience, sometimes feels like you may never achieve success. I’ve learned to persevere through all kinds of challenges..

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:47 pm

      Hi,

      Yes, it does take time and patience to reach whatever you want to achieve in life. Nothing worth having will come fast and easy!

  10. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Jun 2, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Wow!!! What an awesome article…Thanks for sharing this Lawrence. Really appreciate it

    Love #1. We must all find our passion and purpose in life. Once we do that, life truly becomes LIFE

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      I am glad that you enjoyed the article. Yes, you must find what truly attracts you in life and pursue it. In this way you will master that in a way no one has or ever will.

  11. David

    Jun 2, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Lawrence, this is a phenomenal article! In fact one of the best that I’ve read on Addicted2Success.com. There are some timeless concepts that you share in here that everyone should read, reread and memorize. I plan to do the same! Thanks for sharing this wealth of information with us!

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      I truly appreciate that you have taken the time to read the article and share your thoughts!

  12. Iggy

    Jun 2, 2015 at 6:23 am

    @ Pat and Lawrence – I read these articles and dream and hope that I become better in many aspects of my life. Without action, reading becomes futile and without productive habits we are doomed for a destiny full of regret. I battle every day with self mastery. And I am conciously unskilled in the area of self mastery. But my realisation that I should be battling with small things rather than big things makes hope brighter for this journey I undertook of self master. And yes, I would like the power that Lao Tzu is referring to.

    Thank you for sharing and let us keep striving for success but above all for self mastery.

    “We shall overcome”

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 12:08 am

      Hi Iggy,

      Self-mastery is something that we all struggle with but the true way to overcome yourself is to build habits through repetition. What you have to do is find a strong purpose for why you want to obtain self-mastery and this purpose has to be bigger than your own self-interests. Do you have kids? Or parents? Or a vision to change the world in some way? Find out what inspires you and wake up to that everyday. Create dream board and look at it and repeat your purpose and dreams every morning. This will help change your thoughts in ways you can’t imagine. I really want you to succeed and reach your full potential. I have a personal coaching service that you can take a look at on my website. I will offer it at a discount because I truly appreciate your comment and want to help take your life to the next level.

  13. Pat

    Jun 2, 2015 at 2:51 am

    A wonderful post Lawrence.

    A real important key to success, as you mentioned, is taking small steps. In today’s modern world, where technology dominates, I think many of us are looking for the quick results but it is important to remember that the best results come with patience, doing the little things well everyday and setting up a strong foundation for long-term success.

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

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Your Fears Suck And That’s Why You Must Rinse And Repeat.

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Waking up at 6 am today to go and have a blood test is my worst nightmare.

I’m so damn fearful of needles and it makes me feel sick.

When my doctor said it was time to have a blood test and 10X my energy, I was pumped and crippled with fear at the same time.

 

This sucks big time.

Every time I have a blood test, there’s this big build-up of fear, tension, sickness and everything else that sucks.

I rolled up at the pathology center to try and have my blood test before everyone else. I always walk in like I’m MacGyver until my name is called. Then as I walk to the room where the nurse is, all the confidence, body language and self-talk turns to crap.

The nurse looks at me strangely. I haven’t had this one before. She’s thinking “Geez this guy looks like he’s about to crap his pants, or vomit, or maybe both.”

Why am I so fearful with these routine tests? Probably because I had a few strange experiences when I was a kid and the adult in me still hasn’t forgotten that innocent kid with blue eyes, white blonde hair and the change the world attitude he’s always had.

Back to my story. So, the nurse begins taking my blood and it takes time as she needs to fill up two tubes. It felt like an eternity although the pain was pretty minor – yay!

We get to the end of the test and I’m celebrating like a drunk who’s just woken up and realized he’d won $10k at the casino the night before.

Then the nurse is like “Houston we have a problem.”

My face turns white. “What’s the problem?”

The nurse says “We can only do these tests between Monday to Thursday. Any other day is prohibited. That’s what head office says.”

I’m thinking to myself lots of nasty thoughts like “Well you tell head office to go F themselves!”

I speak with my doctor and he confirms that this is correct. Basically, I have to go through this fearful experiment all over again in a few days’ time.

 

Rinse and repeat.

I go back to the pathology center a few days later and have the test again. It’s a pain in the backside but it must be done. Here’s what’s awesome: I’ve never done multiple blood tests in a short space of time. Doing the test again made this horrible feeling so much easier.

I walked in, did my thing, and walked out. I remembered how to breathe. I remembered how to relax. And I knew what had to be done.

“Facing the same fear multiple times within a few days began to crush all my negative energy”

 

Fears won’t suck as much after a bit of practice.

This fear of blood tests has now changed. It’s still a bit challenging but nowhere near as bad.

My mind has gotten used to what has to happen because practice has made the situation almost perfect.

We all have fears and overcoming them is about embracing the suck, giving it a go and then repeating the process.

Each time you face a fear like blood tests, it gets a little bit easier each time. Sometimes the gains are enormous and other times the gains are small. None the less, facing your fears creates some momentum towards conquering your fear.

Challenging your fears is how you get up close and personal with them. All it takes is a bit of courage and one question: What’s the worst that can happen?

For me, my arm could have fallen off, she could have caused me great pain or I could have passed out. None of these things will see me end up in the cemetery.

 

The feeling of overcoming fear.

Having significantly lessened my fear of blood tests has given me confidence. If I could conquer this massive mountain of internal pain, what else could I do that makes me fearful?

A better question would be, what fear is holding you back that you could practice getting better at?

We all have fears and we can all look them in the face, respect them for what they are, and then have a go at overcoming them.

The feeling of overcoming fear is so good. It gives you strength and resilience to fight the tougher fights. Doing the things that are uncomfortable is how you build a level of comfort that can put you at the top of your field.

We all have fears and those of us who practice overcoming our fears are the ones who get to taste a feeling of success like no other.

Your fears suck but you can overcome them with practice just like I did.

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Embrace The Suck.

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Embrace the Suck

I suck at spreadsheets.
I suck at maths because numbers do my head in.
I suck at attending meetings because I just want action.

You will suck at your first blog post.
You will suck at your first startup, and the one after that, and so on.
You will suck at giving your first speech.

We all suck 24/7.

None of us are 100% motivated all the time.
None of us get anything right the first time – unless it’s a fluke.

We all have nightmares of our failures.
We all secretly want to be perfect – even me.

 

It’s time to embrace the suck.

A lot about life F*cking sucks hard.

My #EmbraceTheSuck story (thanks Sina Fak for the idea) was failing at high school and dropping out. After a break, I went back and finished high school, and the only subjects I excelled at were music and English.

Even though the headmaster told me I’d always be a no good, punk a$$, drop out, I proved him wrong.

I used my expertise in English to become a blogger and that’s why I’m writing these words to you right now.

I failed in the short-term, but by persevering at school, it eventually led me to right now. I could have done nothing and become a bum. I could have listened to my headmaster and agreed with him.

I knew that I was destined to do something big and I believe the movement I’m creating right now is part of my crazy goal to change the world.

All of us can succeed when we embrace the suck and persevere.

“We can listen to our critics or we can lift the middle finger at them and keep going”

Making it through the suck made me smarter, more courageous and it helped me build a newfound resilience.

 

How do we embrace the suck?

1. Be prepared to fail.
2. Look like an idiot.
3. Be willing to start at the bottom
4. Persevere
5. Challenge the critics

When everything sucks, get back up.
Have a second go even if there’s no reason too.
Back yourself and believe you can push through the suck.

 

Embrace the suck is a call to action.

It’s about being prepared to eat sh*t because the upside makes it worth it. It’s about doing what so many are not prepared to do because you believe in yourself.

It’s about taking action and executing instead of being a daydreamer and being stuck in a foreplay of ideas, dreams, goals that never happen.

Starting at the bottom and sucking harder is how you get to the top.

Once you arrive at the top, make sure you help other people who are embracing the suck.

Let’s all commit to doing more things that suck and being okay with it. Let’s challenge each other to be courageous.

If I can go from being a high school dropout to making something of myself, then why the heck can’t you?

Embrace the suck because that’s what the people you idolize and anyone you’ve ever looked up to did.

Embracing the suck is part of life.

“Hello, adversity. Come at me!”

 

One day you’ll look back on all the sucky moments and be proud.

That’s the cherry on top of the cake right there.

That is all the motivation you need to embrace the suck.

 

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Keep Going – Never Give Up. Good People Are Always Rewarded.

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Last week there was some real lows. This week there have been some major highs.

At one point, it looked like my career was down the toilet. Everything I worked for looked like it was done.

The reality is that when you hit a low point, there’s always an upside. The point where you want to give up is just the beginning of something new and amazing. When you hit that low, it’s so easy to want to give up.

You feel like you can’t go on and the odds are stacked against you.

Everything and everyone feel like they are working against your vision for your life. Most of all, you don’t know why you’ve suddenly hit this giant low point that feels like it’s going to last forever.

Your motivation is non-existent; you get out of bed and feel like crap; you’re not sure what today will mean – or the next for that matter.

All of this is fine. No, I’m not giving you some empty promise or meaningless reason to go on. What I’m telling you is that you must keep going. Even though you feel like you can’t, you must!

“All of these low points mean something. All of these low points turn into one giant moment of triumph if you keep stacking them up like shot glasses after a big night”

 

Good people are rewarded.

As long as you do your absolute best to be a good person, eventually your life will change.

All those small things you did for people will be remembered.
Someone will give you a chance and believe in you.
An opportunity will come from nowhere that you never expected.

Rewards always come for those who have earned it. How do you earn those rewards? By being a kind, humble and good person that serves the greater good. Let’s dumb it down further. You get the rewards by:

1. Helping people who have nothing
2. Smiling at as many people as you can
3. Answering messages on social media and helping people without getting anything in return
4. Staying positive through books and blogs like this
5. Waiting out the winter cold for summer to come into your life again

This list of five things is how you remain a good person through the chaos that we all experience. Many people say “That sounds easy Tim, but it’s harder than you think.”

That’s why I’ve made it practical with these five points.

 

How my luck changed this week.

I followed this formula I’ve laid out, and this week my luck changed. All of a sudden, I got multiple opportunities to do work that I love and get paid well for it so that I can focus on my blogging.

The messages I got with these opportunities all started with something like this:

“Thank you for sharing your story and having the guts to do so. You’ve inspired me and I appreciate it. I’d love to chat to you about opportunity X. Are you free for a few minutes?”

Then I got two more emails from television networks wanting me to spread some inspiration on their respective shows.

Your luck will change and opportunities will be presented to you if you keep going, never give up and continue being a good person.

It’s a long road towards getting up close and personal with your most important goal but if you stay the path, stay focused and be the person that makes you proud, it will happen.

 

Keep going.

So, if you’ve ever felt like I felt when my career went down the toilet last week, or you’re feeling that way right now, you must keep going.

I believe you can get what you seek if you remain focused and don’t let the negative emotions in your head take over. I know it’s tough but that’s no excuse. If you want your goals bad enough, then you’ll keep motivated to push through the rejection and failure.

Use selflessness to change your perspective. Look at yourself in the third person. See who you are now and who you can be. All of us can be leaders and when we look at ourselves without our self-talk and ego’s in the way, we can see who we really are.

Dare to dream a little. Don’t be afraid to think big. If you have crazy, audacious goals, then that’s even better.

Don’t be talked out of your mission.
Let your passion rip through the barriers that stand in your way.

Never give up. Keep going.

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We All Have It Tough – It’s What You Do With The Struggle.

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Lots of my people who read my stuff email me with their struggles. They’re hoping that I will be blown away by how hard they’ve had it. They think it’s some sort of competition to see who has the most battle scars.

By reading so many of these emails of struggle over the last few years, I realized something: we all have it tough. All of us struggle – even me.

– Right now, I have 14 days left until I’ll be out of a job.
– I’ve got some very challenging personal issues to deal with.
– My investments need a major rework and I’m completely lost.

I’ve been offered an opportunity to do public speaking to a large audience and am scared of whether I should say yes. Do I have what it takes? Will I mess it up?

We all have it tough.

What I’ve learned is it’s what you do with the struggle that will define your future.

 

Are you going to sit there and take it?

That’s right I’m asking you right now. What are you going to do with the struggles?

There are only two options:

1. Toughen up and use the struggles as motivation
2. Be a piss weak, sook, and give up.

Your struggles can take you to a new level. When George Lucas tried to make Star Wars, it was a total F*ck up. Everything went wrong. There were natural disasters, lack of money and even the actors thought it was the worse film ever to be made.

Did the creator of the Jedi Knight give up?

Not a chance. He kept going and defied the odds. His reward? One of the most watched movies of all time and plenty of cash to go with it.

You may still be thinking option two is your only hope. Maybe you could be piss weak and just give up. Then you could sit on the couch, watch Netflix, drink wine and pretend that your struggles didn’t stop you from achieving your goals.

 

The good news is giving up works short-term. The bad news?

After the short-term gain of giving up, and getting to Netflix and chill, you’ll be really pissed off at yourself. You’ll have regret and feel even worse than before you began your journey of struggle. Not getting your goals and making next to no progress feels like crap.I spent several years doing this.

“Every night I would get home, watch a Hollywood movie, go to 7-Eleven for some sugar and send useless texts to the toxic people in my life”

These same people were going nowhere and telling me to give up.

Screw that. I did this for a while and felt so empty. Life had no meaning and I was making no impact. The sugar diet made me sick and I ended up becoming bedridden.

 

The struggle is the beginning.

Looking back, without the struggle, I would have never got off my lazy ass and actually taken action. When I say “It’s what you do with the struggle,” what I mean is this:

Having it tough and struggling – like trying to walk up a hill while there’s a mudslide happening at the exact same time – is a big fat signal that you’re onto something.

The motivation and momentum you need to get started is right there in front of your blue eyes.

“You can’t get started on some mammoth task to change your life unless you get pissed off and do it tough”

If you were doing it easy, there’d be no urgent reason to take action.

When you’re like me and you are about to be unemployed, have lots of tough decisions to make and are unsatisfied with your career progression to date, you have to embrace your circumstances.

Now, this sounds like a lot of big words that you’d read in some 2000-page self-help book that repeats the same ideas over and over.

I’m going to dumb it right down:

The struggle is a sign to get started. When you struggle, things can’t really get much worse. What you’re left with is nothing but upside.

 

What action do we take then when we’re struggling?

Let’s use my situation as an example. Here are the action steps I’m using and implementing this week:

1. Accept where you are right now
– This will give you a reality check.

2. Meditate to relax your busy brain
– Stress will force you to make dumb decisions.

3. Get really uncomfortable
– I said yes to a new business venture that involves a lot of public speaking.

4. Resist the temptation to be pissed off
– Getting angry is only going to make things worse. Reserve your energy.

5. Write three things a day you’re grateful for
– This will force you to find the positive.

6. Delete whingers, sooks, liars and complainers from your contact list
– You’ve got enough issues; it’s hard enough to be positive without having toxic people talk nonsense and distract you.

 

Final step: Chill out amigo.

Your world is not going to end tomorrow. You can always start again. You can always fall down and get straight back up. Don’t be so angry with yourself. We all struggle and you’re doing the best that you can. Focus your energy on building your confidence and supporting your growth mindset.

“My future looks like a nuclear apocalypse right now but I’ve learned through the struggles that I always come out the other side on top”

Being impatient and stressing will only bring on more problems for you. It’s not that bad. Things always turn around. This moment of struggle and how you handle it will define who you become.

All of us have unlimited potential and we’re all struggling every day.

Once you learn to accept the struggle, embrace it and see it as a seed to something better, you’ll be well on your way to becoming someone you’re proud of.

Wish me luck with the struggles coming in the next few weeks. We’re in this together don’t forget.

Peace, love, respect.

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You come home, tired from work, and as soon as you open the door, the drama hits you in the face. Either your boyfriend/girlfriend is throwing a tantrum which ends up in a full-out fight for hours or your boss has a love/hate relationship with you and gives you so many responsibilities that you end up working late in the night. Maybe it is simply your parents who keep forcing you to take the job, partner or university you don’t really want. (more…)

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  1. Steliyan Borisov

    Aug 14, 2015 at 8:10 am

    Great article and tips, I love it. 🙂

  2. sami

    Jun 23, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    What if you find out that you don’t have a dream because you are so much occupied with supporting your family? Or that your dreams will live only when you have opportunity. Because you cannot wait for the opportunity will ultimately lead you to forgetting about your dreams.

  3. Steve Faber

    Jun 14, 2015 at 5:36 am

    Lawrence,

    “Stay Focused” That’s the biggie. There’s a reason why organization and detail oriented are two very common traits of successful individuals. It is so easy to let shiny objects distract you from your goals and mission. The key is balancing your life outside of your venture with the focus needed to ensure its success. I’ll let you know when I manage it!
    Thanks for the post!
    Steve

  4. Hannah

    Jun 10, 2015 at 1:46 am

    Hi there Lawrence! Thanks for sharing your tips, it’s very motivating.. To be successful, patience is a must.

  5. Candice

    Jun 8, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Thanks for this post, I set daily goals and make sure I reward myself at the end of the week for my efforts. Never give up on your dream.

  6. Mandy

    Jun 6, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Thank you Lawrence for your excellent and insightful article. It’s a great guide for anyone on a journey of self improvement and success.

  7. Christian LS

    Jun 6, 2015 at 9:06 am

    Lawrence,

    This goes with staying focused, cutting out distractions, and turning off your cellphone… cut out the negativity in you’re life – your haters.

    As you mentioned before there are some people born with a higher IQ and of course naturally we believe they have a higher aptitude for success.
    For those not fortunate enough to have the smarts,… times are tough…

    As some one was seen as the under dog when I first met my group of friends, I can attest to the fact that once you find you’re passions, move on up, and find out what you really want, what’s you purpose in the world, their true feels about you will start to rise and rear it’s ugly head.

    They’ll despise you for becoming what you we’re meant to become, and then they feel insecure about themselves and try to drag you back down to the initial person they know you as.

    Basically when you go from YOU.1.0 to YOU.2.0, they won’t easily adapt and accept the new YOU, and they’ll try as they can to downgrade you back to the old.

    Cut them out.

    And not even just them,…

    Another lesson I’ve learned in my entrepreneurial journey is to tolerate no BS/negativity.

    Seriously, it goes a long way.

    Christian Lavarias
    NitroSalesTeam

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      Yes, I was recently listening to a motivational piece and the person said that the road to success would be a lonely, less traveled road where your friends won’t be around. Well, you have to find friends who are just as ambitious as you are. If they start to hate on who you have become and the success you have obtained, they were never your friends in the first place. Yes, you correct you cannot tolerate negativity, it will only weigh you down.

  8. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 6, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

  9. Sija Mafu

    Jun 5, 2015 at 9:24 am

    Hey Lawrence

    Thank you for sharing. It does take time and patience, sometimes feels like you may never achieve success. I’ve learned to persevere through all kinds of challenges..

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:47 pm

      Hi,

      Yes, it does take time and patience to reach whatever you want to achieve in life. Nothing worth having will come fast and easy!

  10. Gabriel DoCarmo

    Jun 2, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Wow!!! What an awesome article…Thanks for sharing this Lawrence. Really appreciate it

    Love #1. We must all find our passion and purpose in life. Once we do that, life truly becomes LIFE

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      I am glad that you enjoyed the article. Yes, you must find what truly attracts you in life and pursue it. In this way you will master that in a way no one has or ever will.

  11. David

    Jun 2, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Lawrence, this is a phenomenal article! In fact one of the best that I’ve read on Addicted2Success.com. There are some timeless concepts that you share in here that everyone should read, reread and memorize. I plan to do the same! Thanks for sharing this wealth of information with us!

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 5, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      I truly appreciate that you have taken the time to read the article and share your thoughts!

  12. Iggy

    Jun 2, 2015 at 6:23 am

    @ Pat and Lawrence – I read these articles and dream and hope that I become better in many aspects of my life. Without action, reading becomes futile and without productive habits we are doomed for a destiny full of regret. I battle every day with self mastery. And I am conciously unskilled in the area of self mastery. But my realisation that I should be battling with small things rather than big things makes hope brighter for this journey I undertook of self master. And yes, I would like the power that Lao Tzu is referring to.

    Thank you for sharing and let us keep striving for success but above all for self mastery.

    “We shall overcome”

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 12:08 am

      Hi Iggy,

      Self-mastery is something that we all struggle with but the true way to overcome yourself is to build habits through repetition. What you have to do is find a strong purpose for why you want to obtain self-mastery and this purpose has to be bigger than your own self-interests. Do you have kids? Or parents? Or a vision to change the world in some way? Find out what inspires you and wake up to that everyday. Create dream board and look at it and repeat your purpose and dreams every morning. This will help change your thoughts in ways you can’t imagine. I really want you to succeed and reach your full potential. I have a personal coaching service that you can take a look at on my website. I will offer it at a discount because I truly appreciate your comment and want to help take your life to the next level.

  13. Pat

    Jun 2, 2015 at 2:51 am

    A wonderful post Lawrence.

    A real important key to success, as you mentioned, is taking small steps. In today’s modern world, where technology dominates, I think many of us are looking for the quick results but it is important to remember that the best results come with patience, doing the little things well everyday and setting up a strong foundation for long-term success.

    • Lawrence Berry

      Jun 6, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      Yes, take small steps and do the little things with excellence. This is the true key to success and of course, as you said, to have patience. Nothing worth having will come fast, so you must have patience. If your dreams came fast and easy, would it really be considered a dream? Just keep striving, for the greater the challenge, the sweeter the victory.

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Your Fears Suck And That’s Why You Must Rinse And Repeat.

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Waking up at 6 am today to go and have a blood test is my worst nightmare.

I’m so damn fearful of needles and it makes me feel sick.

When my doctor said it was time to have a blood test and 10X my energy, I was pumped and crippled with fear at the same time.

 

This sucks big time.

Every time I have a blood test, there’s this big build-up of fear, tension, sickness and everything else that sucks.

I rolled up at the pathology center to try and have my blood test before everyone else. I always walk in like I’m MacGyver until my name is called. Then as I walk to the room where the nurse is, all the confidence, body language and self-talk turns to crap.

The nurse looks at me strangely. I haven’t had this one before. She’s thinking “Geez this guy looks like he’s about to crap his pants, or vomit, or maybe both.”

Why am I so fearful with these routine tests? Probably because I had a few strange experiences when I was a kid and the adult in me still hasn’t forgotten that innocent kid with blue eyes, white blonde hair and the change the world attitude he’s always had.

Back to my story. So, the nurse begins taking my blood and it takes time as she needs to fill up two tubes. It felt like an eternity although the pain was pretty minor – yay!

We get to the end of the test and I’m celebrating like a drunk who’s just woken up and realized he’d won $10k at the casino the night before.

Then the nurse is like “Houston we have a problem.”

My face turns white. “What’s the problem?”

The nurse says “We can only do these tests between Monday to Thursday. Any other day is prohibited. That’s what head office says.”

I’m thinking to myself lots of nasty thoughts like “Well you tell head office to go F themselves!”

I speak with my doctor and he confirms that this is correct. Basically, I have to go through this fearful experiment all over again in a few days’ time.

 

Rinse and repeat.

I go back to the pathology center a few days later and have the test again. It’s a pain in the backside but it must be done. Here’s what’s awesome: I’ve never done multiple blood tests in a short space of time. Doing the test again made this horrible feeling so much easier.

I walked in, did my thing, and walked out. I remembered how to breathe. I remembered how to relax. And I knew what had to be done.

“Facing the same fear multiple times within a few days began to crush all my negative energy”

 

Fears won’t suck as much after a bit of practice.

This fear of blood tests has now changed. It’s still a bit challenging but nowhere near as bad.

My mind has gotten used to what has to happen because practice has made the situation almost perfect.

We all have fears and overcoming them is about embracing the suck, giving it a go and then repeating the process.

Each time you face a fear like blood tests, it gets a little bit easier each time. Sometimes the gains are enormous and other times the gains are small. None the less, facing your fears creates some momentum towards conquering your fear.

Challenging your fears is how you get up close and personal with them. All it takes is a bit of courage and one question: What’s the worst that can happen?

For me, my arm could have fallen off, she could have caused me great pain or I could have passed out. None of these things will see me end up in the cemetery.

 

The feeling of overcoming fear.

Having significantly lessened my fear of blood tests has given me confidence. If I could conquer this massive mountain of internal pain, what else could I do that makes me fearful?

A better question would be, what fear is holding you back that you could practice getting better at?

We all have fears and we can all look them in the face, respect them for what they are, and then have a go at overcoming them.

The feeling of overcoming fear is so good. It gives you strength and resilience to fight the tougher fights. Doing the things that are uncomfortable is how you build a level of comfort that can put you at the top of your field.

We all have fears and those of us who practice overcoming our fears are the ones who get to taste a feeling of success like no other.

Your fears suck but you can overcome them with practice just like I did.

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Embrace The Suck.

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Embrace the Suck

I suck at spreadsheets.
I suck at maths because numbers do my head in.
I suck at attending meetings because I just want action.

You will suck at your first blog post.
You will suck at your first startup, and the one after that, and so on.
You will suck at giving your first speech.

We all suck 24/7.

None of us are 100% motivated all the time.
None of us get anything right the first time – unless it’s a fluke.

We all have nightmares of our failures.
We all secretly want to be perfect – even me.

 

It’s time to embrace the suck.

A lot about life F*cking sucks hard.

My #EmbraceTheSuck story (thanks Sina Fak for the idea) was failing at high school and dropping out. After a break, I went back and finished high school, and the only subjects I excelled at were music and English.

Even though the headmaster told me I’d always be a no good, punk a$$, drop out, I proved him wrong.

I used my expertise in English to become a blogger and that’s why I’m writing these words to you right now.

I failed in the short-term, but by persevering at school, it eventually led me to right now. I could have done nothing and become a bum. I could have listened to my headmaster and agreed with him.

I knew that I was destined to do something big and I believe the movement I’m creating right now is part of my crazy goal to change the world.

All of us can succeed when we embrace the suck and persevere.

“We can listen to our critics or we can lift the middle finger at them and keep going”

Making it through the suck made me smarter, more courageous and it helped me build a newfound resilience.

 

How do we embrace the suck?

1. Be prepared to fail.
2. Look like an idiot.
3. Be willing to start at the bottom
4. Persevere
5. Challenge the critics

When everything sucks, get back up.
Have a second go even if there’s no reason too.
Back yourself and believe you can push through the suck.

 

Embrace the suck is a call to action.

It’s about being prepared to eat sh*t because the upside makes it worth it. It’s about doing what so many are not prepared to do because you believe in yourself.

It’s about taking action and executing instead of being a daydreamer and being stuck in a foreplay of ideas, dreams, goals that never happen.

Starting at the bottom and sucking harder is how you get to the top.

Once you arrive at the top, make sure you help other people who are embracing the suck.

Let’s all commit to doing more things that suck and being okay with it. Let’s challenge each other to be courageous.

If I can go from being a high school dropout to making something of myself, then why the heck can’t you?

Embrace the suck because that’s what the people you idolize and anyone you’ve ever looked up to did.

Embracing the suck is part of life.

“Hello, adversity. Come at me!”

 

One day you’ll look back on all the sucky moments and be proud.

That’s the cherry on top of the cake right there.

That is all the motivation you need to embrace the suck.

 

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Keep Going – Never Give Up. Good People Are Always Rewarded.

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Last week there was some real lows. This week there have been some major highs.

At one point, it looked like my career was down the toilet. Everything I worked for looked like it was done.

The reality is that when you hit a low point, there’s always an upside. The point where you want to give up is just the beginning of something new and amazing. When you hit that low, it’s so easy to want to give up.

You feel like you can’t go on and the odds are stacked against you.

Everything and everyone feel like they are working against your vision for your life. Most of all, you don’t know why you’ve suddenly hit this giant low point that feels like it’s going to last forever.

Your motivation is non-existent; you get out of bed and feel like crap; you’re not sure what today will mean – or the next for that matter.

All of this is fine. No, I’m not giving you some empty promise or meaningless reason to go on. What I’m telling you is that you must keep going. Even though you feel like you can’t, you must!

“All of these low points mean something. All of these low points turn into one giant moment of triumph if you keep stacking them up like shot glasses after a big night”

 

Good people are rewarded.

As long as you do your absolute best to be a good person, eventually your life will change.

All those small things you did for people will be remembered.
Someone will give you a chance and believe in you.
An opportunity will come from nowhere that you never expected.

Rewards always come for those who have earned it. How do you earn those rewards? By being a kind, humble and good person that serves the greater good. Let’s dumb it down further. You get the rewards by:

1. Helping people who have nothing
2. Smiling at as many people as you can
3. Answering messages on social media and helping people without getting anything in return
4. Staying positive through books and blogs like this
5. Waiting out the winter cold for summer to come into your life again

This list of five things is how you remain a good person through the chaos that we all experience. Many people say “That sounds easy Tim, but it’s harder than you think.”

That’s why I’ve made it practical with these five points.

 

How my luck changed this week.

I followed this formula I’ve laid out, and this week my luck changed. All of a sudden, I got multiple opportunities to do work that I love and get paid well for it so that I can focus on my blogging.

The messages I got with these opportunities all started with something like this:

“Thank you for sharing your story and having the guts to do so. You’ve inspired me and I appreciate it. I’d love to chat to you about opportunity X. Are you free for a few minutes?”

Then I got two more emails from television networks wanting me to spread some inspiration on their respective shows.

Your luck will change and opportunities will be presented to you if you keep going, never give up and continue being a good person.

It’s a long road towards getting up close and personal with your most important goal but if you stay the path, stay focused and be the person that makes you proud, it will happen.

 

Keep going.

So, if you’ve ever felt like I felt when my career went down the toilet last week, or you’re feeling that way right now, you must keep going.

I believe you can get what you seek if you remain focused and don’t let the negative emotions in your head take over. I know it’s tough but that’s no excuse. If you want your goals bad enough, then you’ll keep motivated to push through the rejection and failure.

Use selflessness to change your perspective. Look at yourself in the third person. See who you are now and who you can be. All of us can be leaders and when we look at ourselves without our self-talk and ego’s in the way, we can see who we really are.

Dare to dream a little. Don’t be afraid to think big. If you have crazy, audacious goals, then that’s even better.

Don’t be talked out of your mission.
Let your passion rip through the barriers that stand in your way.

Never give up. Keep going.

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We All Have It Tough – It’s What You Do With The Struggle.

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Lots of my people who read my stuff email me with their struggles. They’re hoping that I will be blown away by how hard they’ve had it. They think it’s some sort of competition to see who has the most battle scars.

By reading so many of these emails of struggle over the last few years, I realized something: we all have it tough. All of us struggle – even me.

– Right now, I have 14 days left until I’ll be out of a job.
– I’ve got some very challenging personal issues to deal with.
– My investments need a major rework and I’m completely lost.

I’ve been offered an opportunity to do public speaking to a large audience and am scared of whether I should say yes. Do I have what it takes? Will I mess it up?

We all have it tough.

What I’ve learned is it’s what you do with the struggle that will define your future.

 

Are you going to sit there and take it?

That’s right I’m asking you right now. What are you going to do with the struggles?

There are only two options:

1. Toughen up and use the struggles as motivation
2. Be a piss weak, sook, and give up.

Your struggles can take you to a new level. When George Lucas tried to make Star Wars, it was a total F*ck up. Everything went wrong. There were natural disasters, lack of money and even the actors thought it was the worse film ever to be made.

Did the creator of the Jedi Knight give up?

Not a chance. He kept going and defied the odds. His reward? One of the most watched movies of all time and plenty of cash to go with it.

You may still be thinking option two is your only hope. Maybe you could be piss weak and just give up. Then you could sit on the couch, watch Netflix, drink wine and pretend that your struggles didn’t stop you from achieving your goals.

 

The good news is giving up works short-term. The bad news?

After the short-term gain of giving up, and getting to Netflix and chill, you’ll be really pissed off at yourself. You’ll have regret and feel even worse than before you began your journey of struggle. Not getting your goals and making next to no progress feels like crap.I spent several years doing this.

“Every night I would get home, watch a Hollywood movie, go to 7-Eleven for some sugar and send useless texts to the toxic people in my life”

These same people were going nowhere and telling me to give up.

Screw that. I did this for a while and felt so empty. Life had no meaning and I was making no impact. The sugar diet made me sick and I ended up becoming bedridden.

 

The struggle is the beginning.

Looking back, without the struggle, I would have never got off my lazy ass and actually taken action. When I say “It’s what you do with the struggle,” what I mean is this:

Having it tough and struggling – like trying to walk up a hill while there’s a mudslide happening at the exact same time – is a big fat signal that you’re onto something.

The motivation and momentum you need to get started is right there in front of your blue eyes.

“You can’t get started on some mammoth task to change your life unless you get pissed off and do it tough”

If you were doing it easy, there’d be no urgent reason to take action.

When you’re like me and you are about to be unemployed, have lots of tough decisions to make and are unsatisfied with your career progression to date, you have to embrace your circumstances.

Now, this sounds like a lot of big words that you’d read in some 2000-page self-help book that repeats the same ideas over and over.

I’m going to dumb it right down:

The struggle is a sign to get started. When you struggle, things can’t really get much worse. What you’re left with is nothing but upside.

 

What action do we take then when we’re struggling?

Let’s use my situation as an example. Here are the action steps I’m using and implementing this week:

1. Accept where you are right now
– This will give you a reality check.

2. Meditate to relax your busy brain
– Stress will force you to make dumb decisions.

3. Get really uncomfortable
– I said yes to a new business venture that involves a lot of public speaking.

4. Resist the temptation to be pissed off
– Getting angry is only going to make things worse. Reserve your energy.

5. Write three things a day you’re grateful for
– This will force you to find the positive.

6. Delete whingers, sooks, liars and complainers from your contact list
– You’ve got enough issues; it’s hard enough to be positive without having toxic people talk nonsense and distract you.

 

Final step: Chill out amigo.

Your world is not going to end tomorrow. You can always start again. You can always fall down and get straight back up. Don’t be so angry with yourself. We all struggle and you’re doing the best that you can. Focus your energy on building your confidence and supporting your growth mindset.

“My future looks like a nuclear apocalypse right now but I’ve learned through the struggles that I always come out the other side on top”

Being impatient and stressing will only bring on more problems for you. It’s not that bad. Things always turn around. This moment of struggle and how you handle it will define who you become.

All of us have unlimited potential and we’re all struggling every day.

Once you learn to accept the struggle, embrace it and see it as a seed to something better, you’ll be well on your way to becoming someone you’re proud of.

Wish me luck with the struggles coming in the next few weeks. We’re in this together don’t forget.

Peace, love, respect.

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