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4 Ways To Stay Motivated When Faced with Rejection

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4 Ways To Stay Motivated When Faced with Rejection

Rejection is simply one of the most hurtful things that can happen to any person. What makes it even more painful is the fact that whether we like it or not, it is bound to happen.

More so, anyone can face rejection in any area of their life. Regardless of where it occurs, the effects of rejection are the same. It hurts, it’s no fun and it happens to be the number one reason people are afraid to try. When faced with rejection, it is super important to have the strength to face rejection head on, accept it, learn from it and simply keep on pushing on.

But of course, this is easier said than done. All things equal, the number one major weapon that one needs when containing and dealing with rejection is motivation. Mind you, it is a difficult weapon to master when dealing with rejection which coincidentally has a devastating effect on one’s personal motivation. However, if you are struggling with staying motivated in the face of dealing with rejection in business or life, take a look below.

Here are 4 ways to help you stay motivated and conquer rejection in its tracks:

 

1. Be coachable

You try, you get knocked down. You keep getting knocked down and can’t seem to figure out why? We have all heard it, it is probably one of the most popular definitions floating around today. What you ask? It’s the definition of insanity; doing the same thing over and over again and getting the same results.  Every cloud has a silver lining and by being coachable, you open yourself up to the opportunity to learn new skills and improve the way you do things. There is no doubt about it, for learning and improvement to occur, one must be coachable. There is no short cut to this! Being coachable is about being open to the feedback and opinions given by others and using that feedback to help improve yourself in all facets of life.

On your journey of defeating rejection in its tracks, do yourself a favor and don’t let arrogance, defensiveness, pride or ego hinder your ability to become better at what you do. These traits must be avoided at all costs. Instead, one must embrace humility, objectivity, approachability, confidence and receptiveness among other things. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to relinquish control to help you stay motivated in overcoming the rejections you’re facing!

 

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2. Keep your eye on the prize

Yes, you have been rejected, that doesn’t necessarily mean that your dreams and goals are invalid or unachievable. If anything, rejection should motivate you to pay even more attention to what you set out for in the first place. After all, it is 20% what happens to us and 80% how we respond to it. Paying attention to distractions and in this case rejection, only serves to take attention away from the main prize.

Instead of focusing on your stumbles and falls, why not take some time off to cool down, re-evaluate yourself and appreciate your achievements? Doing so, is a major step in ensuring that your gaze is not taken off the prize. Learn how to prioritize and focus on the bigger picture.

 

3. Don’t take it personal

This is simply one of the most spoken phrases in the world, but it is also one of the most useful pieces of advice that a person could be given. So what if you have been rejected? It is part of life, everyone gets rejected. Rejection does not mean that something is wrong with you.

When you let yourself believe that you are inadequate and that something is wrong with you, you are simply feeding the low self-esteem monster. When you let low self-esteem take over, then you might as well say goodbye to the successful achievement of your goals. Always remember, that for you to be successful, you must believe in yourself even when others don’t!

 

4. Never give up

Few people have achieved success by trying once. In fact, most people who have achieved success in their various fields is because they have tried multiple times. The more you try, the more chances you give yourself of succeeding. Even Rome itself, wasn’t built in a day. Giving up signifies that you no longer believe in your capabilities and strengths. Giving up means that you are not ready to learn from your mistakes. Giving up means that you have accepted defeat. Instead, carry on with the struggle, put more effort, avoid the wrong turns that you made before and appreciate the fact that no one, absolutely no one, is perfect.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison

Rejection is an unavoidable part of life; it is bound to happen at one point or another whether we like it or not. But by being coachable, keeping your eyes on the prize, not taking it personal and pushing on even when the going is rough, you can ensure that your motivation levels are sky high even in the face of rejection.

Thank you for reading my article! What other tips would you give to stay motivated when facing rejection?

Chris Diaz is a sales coach, serial entrepreneur, speaker and writer. He is on a mission to help entrepreneurs realize that they have the power to earn a full time living doing something they love by mastering the million dollar skill of sales! After becoming an orphan in his early twenties, Chris sought out success in life and set out on his entrepreneurial journey in sales and real estate. It is his goal to share his successes and failures to help inspire other young entrepreneurs to be gritty and to keep on, pushing on. Also, don’t tell anyone, but Chris is secretly an entrepreneurship nerd and loves to talk about it.  To visit Chris stop by and visit at : www.entresuccessproject.com or follow him on Facebook.

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9 Comments

  1. aspecialist

    Nov 11, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    Great post. There are other things that you can do, but these pretty much are the basic that you need. Rejection has always part of the path to success. They say if you have not been rejected it’s either you haven’t made an effort or you’re doing it the wrong way, which by the way may lead to failure. You always have choice and you can turn things around. You may be rejected now, but if you’re willing to learn, you try harder and keep pushing forward, you’re more likely be in a good path to success.

  2. rachelakito

    Oct 11, 2015 at 12:52 am

    Thanks for sharing, Chris! Based on my experience, the most effective is not taking everything personal. This has already been my mantra in life. If I fail, I charge it to experience and Ido not dwell too much on it so I can move on to my next goal.

    More power to you!

    • Chris Diaz

      Oct 22, 2015 at 12:59 am

      @rachelakito Absolutely, it’s a business decision. I have learned so much from the major rejections I have had in life. If I would have taken them personally, I would have not pushed forward with a lot of my current successes.

      Thanks for reading and replying! Keep on pushing on!

      Much Success
      CD

  3. Quentin Green

    Sep 29, 2015 at 4:12 pm

    Great points. I especially like #2, keeping your eye on the prize. Our self worth doesn’t come from what people think of us, but how we value ourselves. Knowing your purpose helps keep your actions focused.

    • Chris Diaz

      Sep 30, 2015 at 1:05 am

      @QuentinGreen absolutely my friend. NEVER let anyone dictate your worth or value. We are capable of acheiving the greatness of our goals if we just keep our eyes on the prize and belive in our efforts! Much Success!

  4. Esther Mellar

    Sep 29, 2015 at 8:16 am

    Hi Chris,

    I love how you write: “When you let yourself believe that you are inadequate and that something is wrong with you, you are simply feeding the low self-esteem monster.”
    What I would add is to find out where the “low self-esteem monster” originates in us, what was the situation, what beliefs or wows did we make at the time, which are not useful or downright toxic at this moment of our life. As it all plays out at subconscious level, it is not easy to do this work alone, you need somebody to guide you through this process. What do you think?
    Thank you for the article, I really liked it and going to share it.

    • Chris Diaz

      Sep 29, 2015 at 2:53 pm

      @EstherMellar; you make a very good point. We all have triggers and I think certain ones trigger certain feelings and emotions on a subconscious level. Thanks for pointing that out and thanks for the share!

  5. Dotchamou Zakari

    Sep 28, 2015 at 4:51 pm

    Great thanks for this powerful information. All the 4 ways are great tips to stay motivated. Motivation is something anyone of us must seek if we want to live well and achieve great things. Here are two quotes that may help: “Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” –Winston Churchill
    “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly.” –Proverb

    • Chris Diaz

      Sep 29, 2015 at 2:52 pm

      Thanks for reading! Those quotes are a great add. It is true, motivations and self discipline are the keys to greatness!

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