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The Only 7 Step Process You Need to Follow to Go After What You Want in Life



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Everything you want in life can be yours. You might not believe this. Most people believe that what they see in their lives today is their current and future reality. The truth is, it doesn’t have to be.

You can envision a magical life for yourself and make it happen. You have the ability to bring your ideal love life, work life, spiritual life and emotionally healthy life into your reality. You can materialize people, experiences and everything your heart desires. Remember, whatever it is your heart desires is also wanting you. All you must do is believe in your vision and follow the steps below.

Follow this 7-step process to go after what you want in life:

1. Ignore the reality of present circumstances

What’s happening today does not dictate your future. No matter how bad things are now, you’ll acknowledge it and ignore it. The present circumstances are temporary and fleeting. Imagine you’re in an elevator and want to get to the top floor. Your present circumstances are on the first floor.

The fact that you’re on the first floor doesn’t mean your elevator isn’t about to shoot up. Your life is about to change very quickly but you must not let the present circumstances trick you into believing your life is in a dismal condition.

2. Get clear on what you want

You won’t know what floor you want the elevator to take you to until you press the floor you want. Similarly, you won’t know how to get there if you don’t know where you want to go in the first place.

Without direction and guidance, it will take you where it wants to take you but life always waits for your direction. You must dream it and see it in your mind and visualize it.  Let life know what you want. Let life know what you want your future to look like.

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” – Helen Keller

3. Imagine you are already there

Regardless of the present circumstances, change your life to start reflecting your future reality. You may not have the love of your life, be living in your dream city or doing the work you love but you can cultivate those feelings you desire. Do you desire love, freedom, adventure, companionship, friendship, personal growth and more?

You can achieve those feelings today! Go out with a friend you haven’t met up with in some time.  Take a day trip to a famous spot around town. Sightsee in your own city. Take a staycation. Visit beauty and nature where you are.

4. Cultivate joyful vibrations

Every day you can choose how you feel and how you view the world. You can actively change the way you feel by focusing on the good things. You can change the way you feel by experiencing gratitude. You can change the way you feel by listening to inspiring music, reading positive books and listening to inspiring podcasts. You can also take proactive actions to kill the negativity in your life.

Stop doing stuff that tears your soul. Reduce the time you spend with intolerable people. Seek a different workplace if you’re not in good energy at work. As far as viewing the world, you must believe you have the power of perception. You can’t change the circumstances of your life but you can change your view of those circumstances.

You can see your life through the lens of negativity or you can see your life through the lens of growth, inspiration, adventure, change, and transformation. However you see your life, your life will respond accordingly.

5. Take steps to get to the place you envision

From knowing your vision and cultivating positive vibrations, and from a place of possibility, take steps every day towards your dreams. Create habits so you have a systematic way to move towards your dream life every day.

If you’re an artist, create art every day. If you’re an entrepreneur, work on your business every day. If you’re a writer, write every day. If you’re an athlete, work out every day. Your dream life doesn’t happen if you simply envision it. It requires inspired action.

Work backwards from your dream life to the one thing you can do today to move towards that life. What one small step can you take each and every day that will move you closer to the life you want? You can create your future life one day at a time, starting today.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

6. Surrender

Work on the parts of your dreams you can but surrender on the results. Don’t fixate on the results themselves or on your dream life. This will happen naturally if you focus on the journey.

Work on creating your dream life every day and before you know it, you’ll materialize it.  Know where you want to go, work on getting there, take inspired action every day but surrender to the universe on the time and place.

Life will get you there in due time. If you do your part, life will do its part. You don’t have to control, force or manipulate the universe.  You don’t have to fear, worry or doubt. If you trust the journey, your destination will appear soon enough.

7. Believe every event is moving you closer to your vision

Every setback, every challenge and every obstacle is preparing you for your dream. Life is simply testing you to see if you believe strongly enough in your vision. Most people give up quickly and think they must live the difficult life they’ve received.

Challenges and obstacles are tests. Will you see them for what they are? Will you see them and find a way to work past them? See, your ability to overcome the challenges in your path will give you the skills to achieve your dreams. You only have to learn and grow from the obstacles in front of you, not taking your eyes away from the prize.

Most people let obstacles discourage them and believe life wants them to choose a different direction. Don’t mistake a test that will strengthen you for a challenge that will doom you. Your vision for your life is divinely inspired and universally supported. You must bring your resilience, persistence and faith.

What part of this process are you having the most trouble with? Leave your thoughts below!


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Vishnu Virtues is the writer behind the popular personal growth and spirituality blog for people starting over in life. You can find his weekly blog posts at and his Amazon books on love and relationships here.

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

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  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
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  • None of your limbs will fall off;

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In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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