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3 Steps To Creating A Clearer Vision For Your Dream Career



3 Steps To Creating A Clearer Vision For Your Dream Career

When it comes to choosing a career all young people are given the same bland weightless advice of “live out your dream” and  “follow your passion” but what does that truly mean?

How do you know what your passion is, and what if you don’t even know what your dream lifestyle looks like?

Today I want to enlighten you on how to create a clear vision for the professional life ahead, and how to ensure that you’ve made the right decision.


1. Deciding what to “Do”

What should I do when I grow up”…The question sweeping across a generation. As the New York Times highlighted, 80% of college bound students are undecided in their field of study. It is accepted to go through school with an undeclared major, and little sense of direction. The cultural tolerance of this idea doesn’t give individuals the urge and desire necessary to start cultivating a goal-based vision.

Deciding what to do with one’s life can be extremely stressful and even scary, but it does not have to be. Most people are under the impression that the successful life they want lies on a specified narrow path, and if they deviate from this path everything they strove to attain will be lost. In reality this kind of thinking paralyzes people and restricts them from venturing out and experimenting.

Ask anyone over the age of 35 and you find that a successful career will almost never resemble a completely straight path. Your road to career progress will be full of bends and turns resembling new opportunities and developing interests.


Get Active!

In a past article of mine I touch on how the lack of a clear vision will keep you from fulfilling your potential. Establishing a clear direction is vital to your occupational success. But maybe you fall into the  80% of people unsure of what career to choose, and you are wondering what to do? Well…here is what you do not do; Don’t sit there and do nothing!

As painfully obvious as this seems, more people are held locked in the same place for many years because they didn’t not start getting active when developing a vision.  You can’t act passively until you ultimately decide what field to pursue. Inspiration will not spontaneously hit you. Nobody is going to hand you a life changing opportunity. You can not sit around and do nothing. Life will throw people with this kind of thinking into careers where you are working to make someone else’s dream a reality rather than your own.

“You can’t build a reputation on what you say you are going to do.” – Confucius

2. Develop skill-sets

You must get active. Start doing something, anything. It is common to have many different careers through one’s professional life, so don’t be bashful in developing skills even if your are unsure of the field you want to enter.

Skills are pivotal in determining a passion and creating a dream. Developing a passion toward an occupation is often the result of the amount of time invested in a particular skill-set. Similarly to how personal relationships are strengthened, or how a tv show infatuation is cultivated. Giving a significant amount of time and attention toward a skill-set will begin to develop a natural passion for the corresponding occupation.

Create opportunities by expanding your skill-set and your network. The best way to develop a passion for a career is to get active in that field.


3. Develop relationships

A successful career in any field is heavily dependent on relationships and communications, not just technical skills or knowledge. Start growing your network now even if you are still determining what you dream job is. The best way to get what you want out of your career is not through filling out an application or participating in an interview but rather through knowing people who know you and know you can deliver.

The CEO of starbucks Howard schultz himself said “We are not in the business of making coffee we are in the business of people”. This quote applies to every industry and field. No matter what you end up doing with your career people will be involved, and learning how to develop lasting relationships with people who are far more experienced and knowledgeable is vital to your success. Any success that I myself have obtained is merely the product of older and wiser people investing in me, however it was up to me to reach out and initiate a conversation.


In the pursuit of your dream career don’t be afraid to experiment and the break traditions. Your path to lifestyle success and financial stability may not lie in a conventional four year degree.

However it is dependent on you getting active, developing skills, and cultivating relationships.


Thank you for reading my article. I would love to read and respond to your thoughts in the comments section below.

Aaron is a 19 year old passionate entrepreneur, consultant, avid speaker, and full-time student. Associated with several organizations geared toward professional development and youth empowerment, Aaron works to grow his own career and inspire others to achieve their full potential. Visit to learn more and contact Aaron directly.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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