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3 Steps To Creating A Clearer Vision For Your Dream Career

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3 Steps To Creating A Clearer Vision For Your Dream Career

When it comes to choosing a career all young people are given the same bland weightless advice of “live out your dream” and  “follow your passion” but what does that truly mean?

How do you know what your passion is, and what if you don’t even know what your dream lifestyle looks like?

Today I want to enlighten you on how to create a clear vision for the professional life ahead, and how to ensure that you’ve made the right decision.

 

1. Deciding what to “Do”

What should I do when I grow up”…The question sweeping across a generation. As the New York Times highlighted, 80% of college bound students are undecided in their field of study. It is accepted to go through school with an undeclared major, and little sense of direction. The cultural tolerance of this idea doesn’t give individuals the urge and desire necessary to start cultivating a goal-based vision.

Deciding what to do with one’s life can be extremely stressful and even scary, but it does not have to be. Most people are under the impression that the successful life they want lies on a specified narrow path, and if they deviate from this path everything they strove to attain will be lost. In reality this kind of thinking paralyzes people and restricts them from venturing out and experimenting.

Ask anyone over the age of 35 and you find that a successful career will almost never resemble a completely straight path. Your road to career progress will be full of bends and turns resembling new opportunities and developing interests.

 

Get Active!

In a past article of mine I touch on how the lack of a clear vision will keep you from fulfilling your potential. Establishing a clear direction is vital to your occupational success. But maybe you fall into the  80% of people unsure of what career to choose, and you are wondering what to do? Well…here is what you do not do; Don’t sit there and do nothing!

As painfully obvious as this seems, more people are held locked in the same place for many years because they didn’t not start getting active when developing a vision.  You can’t act passively until you ultimately decide what field to pursue. Inspiration will not spontaneously hit you. Nobody is going to hand you a life changing opportunity. You can not sit around and do nothing. Life will throw people with this kind of thinking into careers where you are working to make someone else’s dream a reality rather than your own.

“You can’t build a reputation on what you say you are going to do.” – Confucius

2. Develop skill-sets

You must get active. Start doing something, anything. It is common to have many different careers through one’s professional life, so don’t be bashful in developing skills even if your are unsure of the field you want to enter.

Skills are pivotal in determining a passion and creating a dream. Developing a passion toward an occupation is often the result of the amount of time invested in a particular skill-set. Similarly to how personal relationships are strengthened, or how a tv show infatuation is cultivated. Giving a significant amount of time and attention toward a skill-set will begin to develop a natural passion for the corresponding occupation.

Create opportunities by expanding your skill-set and your network. The best way to develop a passion for a career is to get active in that field.

 

3. Develop relationships

A successful career in any field is heavily dependent on relationships and communications, not just technical skills or knowledge. Start growing your network now even if you are still determining what you dream job is. The best way to get what you want out of your career is not through filling out an application or participating in an interview but rather through knowing people who know you and know you can deliver.

The CEO of starbucks Howard schultz himself said “We are not in the business of making coffee we are in the business of people”. This quote applies to every industry and field. No matter what you end up doing with your career people will be involved, and learning how to develop lasting relationships with people who are far more experienced and knowledgeable is vital to your success. Any success that I myself have obtained is merely the product of older and wiser people investing in me, however it was up to me to reach out and initiate a conversation.

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In the pursuit of your dream career don’t be afraid to experiment and the break traditions. Your path to lifestyle success and financial stability may not lie in a conventional four year degree.

However it is dependent on you getting active, developing skills, and cultivating relationships.

 

Thank you for reading my article. I would love to read and respond to your thoughts in the comments section below.

Aaron is a 19 year old passionate entrepreneur, consultant, avid speaker, and full-time student. Associated with several organizations geared toward professional development and youth empowerment, Aaron works to grow his own career and inspire others to achieve their full potential. Visit www.aaronhuie.com to learn more and contact Aaron directly.

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7 Comments

  1. Atit More

    Jul 31, 2015 at 12:55 pm

    Hey Aaron,
    That was really very inspiring lesson you just have thought us. Another thing what I think you should include is focus . Sometimes it happens that people are passionate about what they are doing . But focus help us to turn professional to world class .

    Thank You

  2. Letrell

    Jul 8, 2015 at 9:01 am

    I have been reading your blogs the past few days and I have been rejuvenated. I am very passionate about reading and writing. My next step is to Blog.

  3. Adrian

    Jul 7, 2015 at 5:30 pm

    Thanks man.

    This blog helped me a lot when I was out of balance.

    I chose my dream job few years ago and that’s Online marketing.

    I also started my blog to help other people 🙂

  4. JAMAR DAVIS

    Jul 6, 2015 at 6:19 am

    AWESOME ARTICLE. VERY THOUGHTFUL & INSIGHTFUL.

  5. Cate Scolnik

    Jul 3, 2015 at 12:29 am

    Hey Aaron,
    Great post, but what about doing more of what you love? Sometimes, even if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up, you can kind of follow your nose. Or more specifically, follow your interests. If you continue to learn more about the things you enjoy, it can lead you to the perfect career.

    I think I would have come to my dream career a lot sooner if I’d listened to myself, and kept learning about people. Instead, I listened to others and learned about computers. After years of IT Project Management, I’m finally getting back to what I love – people.

    Just a thought.
    Cate

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      Jul 7, 2015 at 3:28 am

      Great thought Cate, yes doing what you love is I have found can either be a preexisting notion or is later developed after working through what I outlined in this piece. I’m glad you are getting back to your passion! Live well

      -ASH

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Many people are ashamed of failure. If they so much as smell a whiff of failure, they quit instantly because the public notices it quickly. But you shouldn’t be ashamed of failure. A lot of people have failed. I’ve failed over and over again in my career, business, relationships and more. Yet, I keep trying because failure isn’t the final verdict. (more…)

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A few weeks ago, the relationship of my venture with a long-term client turned rocky. Losing them would mean a huge loss for my business, but it appeared like that’s where we were headed. My mind raced with unpleasant thoughts. Maybe the client had figured out that I couldn’t lead my team well. Maybe I was not good enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe I was not good enough to do anything.

Why was the world so unfair?! Within moments, my anxiety had shot through the roof and my heart was racing faster than an F1 car engine. But I know I’m not the only one who feels like this.

Why Problems Overwhelm Us

As human beings, we’re good at solving problems, so they shouldn’t stress us out. Yet, they do just that. Why?

Consider some of these situations in life. When a relationship is headed for troubled waters, we wonder whether our partner loves us anymore. Our mind unearths memories of when we got dumped or rejected. We blame ourselves for falling for the wrong people and tell ourselves that we’re not worth receiving love.

How do you think the relationship will steer after that? If we cannot stick to a diet, we think of other times when we gave up. We remember what people said about things that we couldn’t do and ask ourselves, “were they right?” We tell ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to succeed at anything.

Do you think we’ll find the grit to stick to the diet after this? So here we are… thinking we’re not good enough to be entrepreneurs, to be loved, to get promoted, or to achieve our personal goals. Notice a pattern yet? We move in the wrong direction. The destination is to achieve the goal. And unless we stop giving into emotions and start addressing situations, we’ll keep failing to get there.

Negative emotions (and even extremely positive ones) blur our vision. The more we focus on them, the deeper we go into how we feel. We either get angry because things aren’t the way we want them to be, or get paralyzed by the fear of the worst possible outcome. This means we pull away from the one thing we must do to set things right — take action.

“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.” – Dale Carnegie

How to Take Action in the Face of Problems

Most human beings are good at solving problems. Where we get blindsided is at diagnosing the right problem. To diagnose the right problem, we must address the situation instead of emotions. We must see things for what they are, collect facts on what we’re worrying about, and then ask ourselves, “What should I do next?”

In his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”, Dale Carnegie wrote: “Neither you nor I nor Einstein nor the Supreme Court of the United States is brilliant enough to reach an intelligent decision on any problem without first getting the facts.”

To address the tricky situation with my client, I took the following three steps:

1. First, I acknowledged the feeling

Solving a problem doesn’t mean ignoring emotions. It’s important to acknowledge how you feel because it reveals the path, but domesticating your emotions is more important. I acknowledged how I felt by saying, “I feel anxious because the client might not want to work with us anymore and this will be a financial loss for us.”

Note how I said “I feel anxious” and not “I’m a loser.” If I had given into negative chatter, I wouldn’t have uncovered the direction to move in (the part after “because”). This is why domesticating emotions is crucial.

2. Next, I prepared for the worst

We often run from our worst fears rather than facing them despite knowing that the worst outcome rarely comes true. The result is that we stay stuck in fear instead of pushing beyond it. And we never discover what we’re really capable of, which sucks.

In my case, the worst meant losing the client. It would hurt but it was the truth. However, we could get more clients. Plus we already had other clients who helped us pay the bills. In other words, I wouldn’t have to live on the street.

The moment I accepted this, a huge weight got lifted off my chest. This prepared me for the third and final step.

“Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Lastly, I examined the situation

Examining a situation means setting aside your emotional baggage and focusing on facts. When you trust that you’ll be okay, you become better at diagnosing the real problem. Once I felt lighter, I could see things clearly.

I used the 5 Whys Technique (asking “why” five times) to figure out the real reason for the client’s dissatisfaction. Then I collected data on the issue and on what we had previously delivered.

Finally, I reached out to the CEO of the client and held a detailed and constructive discussion based on my findings. Within four days, the CEO and I were back to the way things were before.

The best way to prepare for tomorrow is to give today your best. I’m not sure whether the issue with the client got resolved for good or whether the client won’t pack up and leave one day. However, I am sure that I’m prepared to handle such cases better today than I was yesterday.

Control your emotions instead of letting them run amok. Accept things for what they are instead of what you want them to be. Be realistic instead of delusional. Address the situation instead of succumbing to emotions.

Don’t preempt what lies ten miles ahead and get paralyzed by fear. Address what lies clearly in front of you and keep moving. One day you’ll be surprised about how close to your destination you are.

How do you move forward when all hope seems to be lost? Share your advice below!

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8 Effective Tips to Improve Your Emotional Wellbeing

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You know what they say, “Health Is Wealth”. But, more often than not, we only mean it in the context of physical health. There’s no question that being fit is the world’s greatest treasure. Unfortunately, not a lot of us take time out to look after our emotional health and wellbeing.

Let’s not forget – it’s ‘Mind Over Matter’. So, if you are able to take control of your emotions, thoughts, how you feel through the day and how you respond to myriad situations; there’s nothing quite like it. When you become the master of your emotions; health, prosperity, and basically all good things are bound to follow you.

With that said, here are 8 surefire ways that will improve your emotional wellbeing:

1. Practice Mindfulness

Half the time, we don’t even know what we’re thinking or how we’re feeling. That’s because we let our minds operate on autopilot. It’s time to take control of your mind. Be aware of what and how you feel throughout the day. The upside to this practice is that you can detect negative emotions right on the onset and quickly change them and their corresponding feeling.

Feelings of anger, jealousy, hatred; they are not good for the mind, soul, or the body. Paying close attention to the spectrum of emotions you experience throughout the day, will help you detect the negative ones and kick them away before they fester deep enough to take away your happiness and emotional health.

2. Stay Physically Active

As you engage in physical activities, your brain produces a whole bunch of feel-good hormones such as endorphins and dopamine. These hormones are what causes the ‘elated’ or ‘euphoric’ feeling. Being physically active uplifts your mood and your outlook towards life. It readies you to take the challenges more head-on instead of becoming overwhelmed by the littlest of inconvenience.

You are better able to analyze tough situations and take a more proactive rather than a reactive approach. It’s no question physical health is in direct proportion with emotional health. A healthy mind resides in a healthy body and vice versa.

“Caring for the mind is as important and crucial as caring for the body. In fact, one cannot be healthy without the other.” – Sid Garza-Hillman

3. Get Sufficient Sleep

Ever noticed how you feel depressed and cranky, and just out of focus the day you fail to get a good night’s sleep? Well, if you fail to get sufficient sleep for a couple of days, you are bound to feel more depressed, cranky and eventually more prone to a host of negative emotions. Research shows that sleep deprivation sends amygdala – our brain’s emotional response center into overdrive.

Amygdala controls our immediate emotional responses. When it becomes overactive, we become more reactive rather than active. We become more irritable, angry and anxious. A good night’s sleep is vital to improving your emotional wellbeing.

4. Develop a New Hobby

Learn to swim. Try arts and crafts. How about painting? Swimming is a ‘happy’ activity. You get to make new friends and stay fit. Arts and crafts, as we all know, tends to have a relaxing effect on the mind and the nerves.

Just the process of creating something from scratch makes you confident and gets those creative juices flowing. Similarly, painting helps you express yourself. All these factors together create a ‘happy you’. The one who likes to engage in new things instead of resisting change or difficult situations.

5. Eat Healthy

Ever heard of the phrase, “You are what you eat”? Well, it’s true to the last syllable. When you eat foods rich in salt, sodium, fat – you are bound to feel lethargic. It takes longer for the body to digest such foods. That means the body is forced to deprive organs of blood and use it for the digestion purpose.

Result? You become lazy, moody, not ready to take any responsibility which leads to feeling cranky and irritable. On the other hand, eating fibrous vegetables, fruits, salads, and complex sugars keeps you upbeat and healthy.

6. Laugh Your Heart Out

Laughter is the best medicine. That is why they have a dedicated ‘laughter session’ in yoga studios. You don’t even have to mean it. The simple act of spreading your cheeks and pretending to laugh sends a signal to your body that you are happy.

And what happens when you are happy? Your brain releases happy hormones like dopamine, serotonin and what not. In fact, many studies have gone so far as to stipulate that laughter alone is capable of treating all kinds of physical ailments. Why should emotional ailments be any different?

7. Try Relaxation Techniques

‘’Visualization technique’’ where you imagine yourself in a happy place is a surefire way to calm your nerves if you find yourself distressed. You may also try praying to elate yourself. Praying is good for the mind and the soul.

Controlled breathing or ‘biofeedback technique’ are some other relaxation techniques that can tame how you feel and even your bodily functions. Try surrounding yourself with aromatherapy or scented candles because the smell is a big factor in governing how we feel.

“Positive emotional energy is the key to health, happiness and wellbeing. The more positive you are, the better your life will be in every area.” – Brian Tracy

8. Count Your Blessings

We all have so much to be thankful for. It could be a friend who stands by you or a happy family. Good health. Financial freedom. Make a list of all the things that you feel grateful for in your life. If it’s a person, be sure to communicate your feelings and express your gratitude.

You will feel so much happier. Happiness is the diet of a healthy mind and an intelligent emotional response mechanism. You could also try writing a poem or simply expressing your gratitude through the power of prayers.

There are so many ways to become emotionally intelligent and not one of them requires any investment or special skills. Practically anyone and everyone can do it. All you need is the will and the desire.

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The word gratitude has been tossed around, but do you know exactly what it means or how to implement it into your life? Someone has probably told you in your life, “Express more gratitude.” Well, that sounds like a great idea, but if you don’t know what gratitude is, how can you fully express it in your life? It’s a concept that once you grasp, it will change your life. (more…)

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