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The Easiest Way To Find Your Purpose

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The Easiest Way To Find Your Purpose And Unlimited Motivation

Forget about a general meaning of life. What matters is discovering your personal purpose—which can be the biggest source of motivation you can imagine.

Once you’ve found your purpose, you cannot wait to get out of bed so you can work on your life’s work. Because that is what purpose is—spending every waking minute on your life’s work. You will not need any distractions anymore to stay interested in life—when you’ve found your purpose, you are never bored.

 

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Work and life should be one

Victor Frankl, a Nazi camp survivor and author of Man’s Search For Meaning, believes that the search for meaning is the greatest driver of your life. This gives the journey to finding your meaning the same importance as the discovery. It is not the destination that matters, but it is the journey that is vital in our lives. Research from the Johns Hopkins University also confirmed this. Students were asked what they considered to be central in their lives. 78% mentioned that finding a purpose and meaning in life was most important to them.

One of the biggest reasons of unhappiness is boredom. We get bored too quickly in our modern world—there is too much spare time. These days we have more free time than ever. We get comfortable in our lives and spend our evenings watching TV shows and live for the weekends. People are always looking for ways to kill time. But why? Time is your most precious asset.

“Time is our most valuable asset, yet we tend to waste it, kill it, and spend it rather than invest it.” Jim Rohn

People who are working on their life’s work are never bored. These people often work seven days per week. However, for them, it is not perceived as work so they never get bored. You will see that if you find your meaning, all you want to do is spend time on things that will fulfill your purpose. Life and work merge into one.

What’s your purpose?

Everyone on this planet has a purpose—your job is to find out what that is. Some people are destined to be great mothers or fathers. Some people are destined to be artists. You do not have to be a world leader to make an impact on people’s lives. As a voluntary worker in a third-world country, you will help more people than any individual who sits at home, playing video games.

You can still give meaning to playing video games, as long as you are entertaining the world with your videos on YouTube, for example. It also proves to be a good source of making money as well.

The point is that everyone gives a different meaning to his or her life. Frankl says that one way to discover our personal meaning in life is by creating a “life’s work”.

You can give your life meaning by focusing on a goal. Many people think of names such as Steve Jobs, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, or Stephen Hawking when it comes to life’s work. It is a good thing to look up to these people for inspiration. However, most people see their own life’s work and say, “I am not Steve Jobs or anything.

When it comes to finding your purpose, some people argue that you first need a purpose to make the right decisions in life. That does not have to be true—how we act towards finding our meaning is more important than having a meaning. It is impossible to find a general meaning of life, for the purpose of your life depends on your decisions.

“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how.’“ – Viktor E. Frankl

A simple exercise to discover your purpose

Remember: finding your purpose does not come to you within a day. It takes time to think and understand the concept first. But by answering the following question for yourself, you can make it a lot easier to find your purpose:

Imagine yourself living in a world where you do not need money to survive. What is the one thing that you love to do? How would you spend your days? Taking away the restriction of money makes it easier to think about what you actually love to do. People often take jobs just because they need the money. You can make money in multiple ways, so do not worry about money when answering this question. Be honest to yourself, and then worry about how to make money off the thing you love to do 365 days a year.

Alternatively, you can ask yourself, “what do others say that I am good at?” We often have skills and talents, that we do not see, hidden inside of us. However, other people might recognize particular skills and talents you have. This can be a good way of finding out your strengths so you can develop them. Be careful, however, you do not want to do something just because other people say you are good at it. It should be something that you love to do as well.

So why do you exist? If you do not know, that is great, start giving meaning to finding your purpose. If you do know why you are here, that is also great, spend every waking minute on your life’s work.

Darius is a writer, entrepreneur and coach who is obsessed with doing more in less time. After graduating with a Master’s degree in Marketing from The University of Groningen in The Netherlands, he has worked with, and for companies over the world. He writes about personal effectiveness and leadership for entrepreneurs on his website dariusforoux.com. Also you can check out his book: ‘Massive Life Success’.

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  1. 67 Steps to the Good Life

    Oct 15, 2015 at 10:34 pm

    Thanks so much for this post. I’m definitely bookmarking it. 🙂

    Something that really helped me was the idea that someone will always be 2 steps behind you in your process. So, you may not be a “master” at something (or Steve Jobs), but there are still people out there who can learn from you because you are 2 steps ahead of them. This helps me eliminate any second guessing on whether I should be the one educating people or selling products to people.

  2. Theodore Nwangene

    Oct 4, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    Hello Darius,
    This is really a very motivating post and i enjoyed every bit of it. One of the most important tasks anyone should take very serious in life is to discover his purpose, discover his life work. However, this usually seems to be a very daunting task to many of us but I’m sure that answering the question you asked on this post will make easier to do.

    The point is that, you will never get bored at all once you’re doing that which you love even when you’re not getting anything in return.

    A very wonderful post Darius, thanks for sharing.

  3. Dotchamou Zakari

    Oct 1, 2015 at 5:10 pm

    Hello, thank you for this post, I always ask myself if people really care about their true purpose on this earth. Apart from worrying about how to pay their bills and how to continue with their 9-5 job in order not to be laid off, finding the real joy and fullfillment is something that is for the saints according to them not for them. The truth is that life without purpose is useless and boring even if your external word is good (big car, money, a great job etc) Thank you for your wisdom. I would like to share these citations with readers:
    “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” Ralphe waldo Emmerson
    “You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” Steve Maraboli

  4. Lawrence Berry

    Sep 30, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    It’s an odd thing when it comes to finding your purpose in life because it is much more deep rooted and broad than a lot of people think. We are all passionate about something or have do to do things in a certain way because our brains were hard wired that way from birth.

    Some people are attracted to certain things and do things that other people would deem boring. Why?…because their brains are configured in a way that allows them to enjoy that thing more than others.

    Some people are more naturally curious than other so they may be driven to science, a field where you can let your curiosity run wild. Some people are more organized than other, being passionate about assistant or administrative work.

    Most of us are not driven to a certain thing, but to a thing that allows us to do the things our brains were already hard wired to do.

    Great post!

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

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