“People ask the difference between a leader and a boss…. The leader works in the open, and the boss in covert. The leader leads and the boss drives.”  famously said by Theodore Roosevelt.

The caption of this article probably puts you in a fix whether you have to massage your boss’s ego. Before we conclude, there are various aspects to know such as the difference between a boss and a leader, and the four models of organizational behavior (OB).  

Organizational Behavior Models

There are four models of organizational behavior namely autocratic, custodial, supportive, and collegial.  The autocratic model prevailed initially where employees were under the mercy of employers.  In this model, the employees worked as a labor and obeyed whatever the bosses ordered.  Subsequently surfaced another model named custodial where the employees cannot be fired as they are provided with job security and other financial and non-financial benefits.  

It is further followed by another model named supportive where employees are supported by employers and bosses above them.  It is fairly better than the previous models of autocratic and custodial. Currently, we have a collegial model where there is not much gap between the superiors and subordinates as all are treated with requests equally. Generation Y appreciates this collegial model, and it is mostly followed by American management and top global companies in the world.  In this model, there will not be any bosses but only leaders. However, we still find bosses in the guise of leaders. 

Bosses versus Leaders

There is a difference between bosses and leaders as bosses are mostly arrogant and egotistical and they often come with a workaholic attitude. Russell H. Ewing differentiates between bosses and leaders as follows: “A boss creates fear, leader confidence. A boss fixes blame, and a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all, a leader asks questions. A boss makes work drudgery, a leader makes it interesting.” 

The people who work with bosses find it tough to get along with them as the expectations of the bosses are high and they are mostly task-oriented. In contrast, the leaders are a blend of both task-orientation and people-orientation with a heart to make a difference in the lives of their employees. The leaders adopt a transformational leadership style, treat their subordinates like colleagues, and get the tasks executed successfully.  

The leaders support the subordinates in their training and development and quicken their career advancement.  They empathize and listen to their subordinates and lead their teams successfully. 

If you happen to work under a boss you have to be more careful in your work. As long as you do your work sincerely you don’t have to bother your boss, and you don’t have to massage his or her ego. All that you must do is be assertive in your approach, actions, and communication.  

Tips to Handle Your Boss

• Handle your boss with tact but not at the cost of your integrity and principles. Be in his or her good books to get the tasks executed smoothly. At the same time, learn to draw the line between praise and flattery. 
• Be strong in your domain so that you will have respect in the workplace and the boss will not have any scope to point you out.  
• Avoid arguing with your boss because there is a popular cliché – ‘boss is always right’. Therefore, keep your views within yourself. When the organizational issues are involved express your views assertively. 
• Be professional and avoid interfering in his or her personal life to maintain longevity in relations. 
• Don’t surprise your boss.  Keep your boss informed whenever you do important tasks. The boss should not feel that s/he was bypassed or neglected. 
• Emphasize ideas rather than individuals in organizational aspects to avoid getting into egoistic issues. 
• Keep your boss in good humor to avoid organizational politics and ensure a peaceful workplace ambiance. 

It is often said in the corporate world that people don’t leave organizations but they leave bad bosses. It is mostly correct as organizations are often good but the people who lead are often found to be problematic for the employees. Therefore, instead of blaming the bad bosses, it is better to understand your boss well and mold yourself accordingly to build chemistry and compatibility to get things going smoothly. 

You cannot choose your bosses and just because of bad bosses you cannot shift organizations frequently. Hence, the best thing is to understand the ground realities and personality types; and build chemistry to enable a peaceful workplace ambiance and outcome.