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Dilemmas: How to Approach Them and Make the Best Decisions



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We make thousands of decisions daily, and it starts the moment we get out of bed with deciding what to wear that day. While decisions like this only take us a split second to make, there are other decisions which we’ll spend a lot more time thinking about.

Regardless of how long it takes us to make a decision, the same thing drives the process all the time. The simple answer to this is the perception of loss or gain. In other words, we make decisions based on what we believe we’ll get from their outcome. This is why it can be so tricky to make decisions at times: We confuse ourselves by over-analyzing every detail and spending too much time pondering every possible outcome. Unfortunately, this results in a lot of inaction.

Spotting Dilemmas

When you want to be a good decision maker you must spot problems, opportunities, and trends early on. This enables you to stay open to any and all available possibilities instead of shutting them off and making a bad choice. Of course, this doesn’t mean that as soon as you spot a dilemma you should make a decision because you still need to take time to think about what’s going on.

Although all of this probably sounds quite simple, it’s not always as cut and dry as “yes” or “no.” This is because a third alternative also exists: that of making no decision at all. The reason for indecision is simply because we’re faced with a choice but doesn’t mean we have to make one. We can stop and consider whether we really want to make a decision at all or simply let life happen to us.

All of these choices are easily affected by our emotions though. This is something we need to learn to remove from our decision-making process. While being in tune with your emotions is what is best, we can’t afford to let them get the upper hand. Instead, we must take an analytical approach, especially when we feel like they’re getting the best of us.

Motivational speakers say that one of the best ways to get our emotions under control is to make a list of pros and cons based on what the decision is. This will force us to make an analytical decision. It also stops us from dressing a decision up as being “good” or “bad.” Unfortunately, these thoughts truly inhibit our decision-making process.

“Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” – Phil McGraw

Dealing With Dilemmas

Knowing what we’re facing simply serves as a starting point. It’s important to understand we cannot only evaluate one alternative, especially when we’re dealing with a big decision. This is something that is backed by research which states that when you look at three or more alternatives you can reach a better decision. Of course, this will take extra time and effort, but it’s a worthwhile investment.

Instead of only looking at the data that’s quickly available because it’s laid in front of you, it’s important to dig deeper. This way you’re “forced” to look at information other than what’s your “favorite.” The process also stops you from making a poor decision.

Once you determine what the right decision is for you, it’s important you commit to following through with it. Sometimes this will require consistency, time, effort, and regular action. However, you must help yourself here by trusting yourself. To do this you need to stay both positive and energetic.

Acting this way will also help you build your decision-making skills along with allowing you to be nice to yourself. You don’t want to be so cruel that you spend a lot of time beating yourself up every time you make a big decision. There are individuals who spend months wishing they’d made a different decision, the “right” decision. Dwelling on this doesn’t help or accomplish anything as it cripples you the next time when you need to make a decision in the future.

Any motivational speaker will tell you that life is about getting out there, making decisions and leading in the age of disruption. This isn’t about wallowing in self-pity when you make a bad decision. Instead, you have to keep moving forward if you ever want to succeed.

Moving Forward

According to Forbes, being inspired makes a huge difference in moving forward. It can help you succeed in your life with every decision you make along with helping you face times when you’re wrong. In fact, research suggests 70% of all the decisions we make throughout our lives will be wrong.

It’s important to stay flexible enough to be able to admit when we make a mistake. Failure to admit a mistake leaves us plodding down the wrong path, which causes even potentially bigger problems. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that you’re infallible. This actually opens you up to being able to learn from those mistakes that you’ve made.

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” – Bruce Lee

Admitting to your mistakes does require a certain degree of flexibility. However, in life you do need to be able to start new things, stop other things and be ready to make some bad mistakes. Being flexible simply allows you to make adjustments and adapt faster.

None of this is meant to say, or even suggest, that decision-making is easy as it is quite the contrary. Decision-making is actually a really difficult and challenging process. However, now that you understand this process a bit better you’ll be ready when it’s time to make the next decision in your life. Hopefully you’ll also be propelled towards making the right choice, which will make things a bit easier on you as well.

What is your decision-making process look like? Let us know in the comments below!

Madelyn Wilson is an experienced writer with over a decade of practice in the business realm. She has covered a wide range of topics in such industries as Business, Motivation, Lifestyle, and has worked in various B2B and B2C marketing roles. She likes music,Lawn tennis, and cooking.


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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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