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Dare To Be DIFFERENT – 4 Insights To Start Living

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I’m going to be honest with you. This is real talk. Have you ever noticed how miserable people seem to be? How often do people whine and complain about their lives?

It seems like it’s the norm to feel like nothing is ever enough. The reason is simple. It all comes down to following the crowd. Most people are prisoners to the opinions of others. People are too scared to be themselves.

The moment that you stop caring what others think about you will become the moment that you’re free. This realization has led me to accomplish what I thought would never be possible.

And doing whatever it is that makes you happy is badass so I suggest you start working on this.

 

Lesson 1 – Most people are insecure

Insecure traitA big reason why people don’t dare to do something different is because they care what others are going to think. No one cares!

People are way too insecure about their own lives to even pay attention to what you are doing. Do you want proof?

Do you really care what the people around you are doing? If you see someone fall on the ground, you might laugh for a minute but you will forget it completely by the end of the day.

People are too concerned about their own lives. Stop caring about others. They don’t care about you!

 

Lesson 2 – Body Language

body language traitThis one is huge to build confidence. This is a special secret of mine so don’t share it with your entire neighborhood. Listen very carefully.

The mind cannot feel a certain way if the body is feeling another way. When your mind is nervous and you’re feeling anxious, your body WILL tense up.

Next time you’re worried, notice the tension in your muscles. What do I do?

When I feel that my anxiety is increasing, I will start paying attention to every inch of my body. I will close my eyes and consciously start relaxing each part of my body. Carefully controlling your breathing while doing this helps a ton as well.

I will then position my body in the most confident way possible. Shoulders back. Chest up. Chin up. I might even smile.

I do this every time I have a speech or when I’m about to talk to a girl or playing the guitar or even when I’m riding my motorcycle. I do this all day long honestly.

The mind will calm down after you calm your body down. So stop caring about your mind. Just pay attention to your body.

 

Lesson 3 – Become the 5 percent

be-the-5 percent-traitIt is fair to say that the extraordinary people that change the game and do something great are 5% of the population. The reason why these people accomplished their goals is because they dared to do something different.

Remember this simple reality. If you do what 95% of the world is doing, then you WILL end up where 95% of the world is going to end up.

This is a very sad place to end up. Just notice the amount of marriages ending in divorce or the amount of people dealing with depression and anxiety. You don’t want to end up there.

 

Lesson 4 – People will admire you

Admire traitEmbrace being different. You might think that it’s hard because you wonder what people might think about you. People will envy you for having the balls to do something different.

People might mock you and criticize you. I’ve had plenty of that. But the reality is that deep inside they will be jealous about you. They will wish they also dared to be different.

 

So don’t be afraid of standing out of the crowd. It’s so much more fun that way.

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Sebastian is the mastermind behind Shots Of Insight. In his own words: "Dare to be DIFFERENT - It's a lot more fun that way. Life is way too short to settle for a boring life." Head over to his site and take a shot every single Friday morning.

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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