Life
Dare To Be DIFFERENT – 4 Insights To Start Living

I’m going to be honest with you. This is real talk. Have you ever noticed how miserable people seem to be? How often do people whine and complain about their lives?
It seems like it’s the norm to feel like nothing is ever enough. The reason is simple. It all comes down to following the crowd. Most people are prisoners to the opinions of others. People are too scared to be themselves.
The moment that you stop caring what others think about you will become the moment that you’re free. This realization has led me to accomplish what I thought would never be possible.
And doing whatever it is that makes you happy is badass so I suggest you start working on this.
Lesson 1 – Most people are insecure
A big reason why people don’t dare to do something different is because they care what others are going to think. No one cares!
People are way too insecure about their own lives to even pay attention to what you are doing. Do you want proof?
Do you really care what the people around you are doing? If you see someone fall on the ground, you might laugh for a minute but you will forget it completely by the end of the day.
People are too concerned about their own lives. Stop caring about others. They don’t care about you!
Lesson 2 – Body Language
This one is huge to build confidence. This is a special secret of mine so don’t share it with your entire neighborhood. Listen very carefully.
The mind cannot feel a certain way if the body is feeling another way. When your mind is nervous and you’re feeling anxious, your body WILL tense up.
Next time you’re worried, notice the tension in your muscles. What do I do?
When I feel that my anxiety is increasing, I will start paying attention to every inch of my body. I will close my eyes and consciously start relaxing each part of my body. Carefully controlling your breathing while doing this helps a ton as well.
I will then position my body in the most confident way possible. Shoulders back. Chest up. Chin up. I might even smile.
I do this every time I have a speech or when I’m about to talk to a girl or playing the guitar or even when I’m riding my motorcycle. I do this all day long honestly.
The mind will calm down after you calm your body down. So stop caring about your mind. Just pay attention to your body.
Lesson 3 – Become the 5 percent
It is fair to say that the extraordinary people that change the game and do something great are 5% of the population. The reason why these people accomplished their goals is because they dared to do something different.
Remember this simple reality. If you do what 95% of the world is doing, then you WILL end up where 95% of the world is going to end up.
This is a very sad place to end up. Just notice the amount of marriages ending in divorce or the amount of people dealing with depression and anxiety. You don’t want to end up there.
Lesson 4 – People will admire you
Embrace being different. You might think that it’s hard because you wonder what people might think about you. People will envy you for having the balls to do something different.
People might mock you and criticize you. I’ve had plenty of that. But the reality is that deep inside they will be jealous about you. They will wish they also dared to be different.
So don’t be afraid of standing out of the crowd. It’s so much more fun that way.
Life
The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance
Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.

Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see? (more…)
Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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