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7 Ways Letting Go Will Create Immediate Success

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Right now you’re like Santa Claus. You have a big bag that you carry around with you every day of your life. But this bag is not full of presents; it’s packed with worries, concerns, past memories, regrets – all sorts of things that keep pulling you back.

All of these things don’t allow you to be the best that you can be.

Letting go of everything is actually what you need to do in order to succeed. “So how do I let go?”, you might ask.

 

Here are 7 ways of letting go and achieving immediate success

 

1. Letting Go of Memories

Many people feel that memories are the most important thing they have.

They place memories in a treasure chest and cherish them or regret them, depending on the memory, whenever they get a chance to.

As the years go by, this treasure chest is getting heavier and heavier.

It’s hard to carry it around – all the mistakes of the past, all the beautiful moments you’ve enjoyed. And although you might feel like all of these memories make you who you are today, they are also keeping you from becoming the person that you can become.

Don’t be afraid to let go of these memories.

You don’t need to forget them, but simply stop thinking about them so that you can create new ones.

 

2. Not Being Complacent

Letting go of that complacency and pushing yourself to grow is the key to success.

By being complacent, you’re just building a fence around yourself and stopping yourself from expanding. You must open your eyes and realize that everything you do, be it something big or small, is something great.

Think about it this way: what would have happened if you hadn’t woken up this morning? You wouldn’t have been reading this now and you would be one step further away from success.

What if you hadn’t learned to read when you were in school? You wouldn’t be able to understand this sequence of letters called words and you wouldn’t be able to comprehend this article.

Realise and understand that everything you do each and every day matters.

 

3. Letting Go of Fears

Fear is what holds you back from doing great things. Don’t be afraid to learn something new. Don’t be afraid to start over. Don’t be afraid of letting go of fears and allow yourself to be happy. Close your eyes and visualize all of your fears. Grab them and throw them in the trash can. And then pick up the trash can and take the garbage out.

You are fearless. You are capable of doing anything you want. You can move on with your life and you can achieve great things.

If you overcome your fears, you can be successful!

 

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4. Letting Go of Pain and Anger

Let go of all of the pain and anger that you are keeping inside. These are negative emotions that just eat you up from the inside out. Free up space to let in new and better emotions.

Love and happiness don’t have room because of all those negative emotions you’re hanging on to. There’s nothing positive or fun about feeling all of these negative feelings. You’ve gone through some things that hurt you and made you feel angry, but these experiences only made you stronger. Because you’ve survived, because you are still here today – living, breathing, feeling.

You are strong and you can let go of anger and pain because these emotions don’t define you.

You are better off without them.

 

5. Embracing the Unknown

What lies ahead can be scary, we never know what tomorrow holds for us. But that is a part of life. Don’t hold back and embrace the unknown. Whether you’re having doubts about that new job, that new school or maybe that new relationship. If you don’t try, you cannot succeed.

By embracing the unknown you can achieve instant success in many parts of your life.

Believe in yourself and have faith in what you can do!

 

6. Letting Go of Stress

Stress is one of the major factors of failure, dissatisfaction and unhappiness. But nowadays, stress is part of our everyday life.

Did you know that people who are truly successful are almost never stressed out? This is actually why they have succeeded in life – because they haven’t permitted the small things in life to influence them or stress them out.

Keep calm and give yourself time to relax and regroup.

 

7. Not Overthinking Success

Thinking too much about succeeding is what might be holding you back. While visualizing that point where you achieve success is a good thing, over thinking it might do more harm than good.

Instead of imagining every day how it will be like when you will have made it, spend that time working towards your goal. This way you will get there a lot faster and youwill be able to enjoy success instead of just thinking about it.

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I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.

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17 Comments

17 Comments

  1. Niels Vandecasteele

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:12 am

    Man, Joel, i really love your posts.
    You are the living proof that consistency works.
    It’s not about the big breaks, it’s about the daily routine that attracts them.
    It’s hard to start, but after a while it’s even harder to stop.

    Greetings from Belgium,
    Niels

    • Joel Brown

      Joel Brown

      Jan 8, 2015 at 2:30 am

      Hey Niels, thank you so much man! I’m glad you noticed that. It’s all about consistency, passion and patience 🙂

  2. wvan626

    May 7, 2014 at 3:36 pm

    Great post. I struggle with number 4 daily. Thanks for the motivation!

  3. sheryn Sali

    Dec 16, 2013 at 6:30 am

    encourageable:)

  4. camii

    Oct 30, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    Great post and details of making it through the slump one may be in. I had to share this post because we all struggle at sometime some more than others, many people will benefit from your seven ways of letting go and getting ahead. Great post, I too hope to read more from you.

  5. lauren

    Oct 16, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Amazing! 🙂

  6. HIMPRESSIVE (@HIMPRESSIVEman)

    Oct 16, 2013 at 1:02 am

    Individuals should never settle for mediocrity. In this day of age, continuous improvement is necessary for success. If you are not evolving, you are falling behind.

    You need to set high expectations for yourself and be able to approach every moment in life as if it is a learning experience. With this approach, you will be able to overcome the obstacles that stand in your way.

  7. Girish

    Oct 15, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    well said joel! Exceptional input on things that matter the most to get people to start over and lot small things hold them back.

  8. Matt

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:36 pm

    Thanks for this post Joel. These are great points and some I had never even thought could be holding me back.

  9. Rhonda Greer (@therhondagreer)

    Oct 14, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    These are great points that we may have heard before. However, you insight reminds us of how we can us that knowledge to succeed

  10. A4304587

    Oct 14, 2013 at 5:06 pm

    It’s very hard to be success, when you can only make enough to live nothing to save..

  11. Lance Hallingford

    Oct 14, 2013 at 11:43 am

    Most instructive article Joel. Fears and anxiety are certainly two big hindrances to success that are afflicting a large percentage of aspiring home business start-ups. I had to learn how to move through these major blocks.
    Like you I could expand on each point from personal experience, and maybe will use these as prompts for some original articles on y website.
    Thanks for sharing and provoking further thought.

  12. John

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:46 am

    many thanks for this post! just the dose of motivation I needed

  13. Gabriel

    Oct 14, 2013 at 2:08 am

    Awesome post !

  14. Paul Rinaldi

    Oct 13, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    amazing article joel, #6 is my favorite and a very big WAKE UP realization for me when it happened to me

  15. Maxwell Ivey

    Oct 13, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    Hello; Thanks for sharing this post with us. However, I hope this was just a beginning and that it will be followed by more expansive posts on each of the seven points. I think one of the hardest questions is how to move on after a disappointment. I recently had a major sale where the seller refused to pay the commission. I decided to find the positives in this and keep going. It lead to me connecting with a manufacturer who wants me to represent them. It lead to a lady wanting my help to locate an item similar to the one i sold. It resulted in a post on the mutual of omaha site about my aha moment that came when i made the big sale. And i have followed this up with sales where the client did pay. But I still have days where it is hard to ignore the hurt. Thanks again and take care, max

    • Katrina Bee

      Oct 15, 2013 at 7:48 am

      Hi Max….if I may…stay falling forward. You don’t drive looking out of the rear view mirror do you? Keep moving forward and continue to be grateful for the blessings coming to you and any lessons learned. Be willing to forgive the person and the situation. If you find if too hard to forgive on your own….ask the Lord to help you to forgive by giving to Him that situation. Prepare yourself; life is going to deal you as it does us all….Challenges lots of them. It is How We get through them and Who We Are being while we go through them that is the measure of the man. Bee Blessed ~
      Katrina ” Bee the Change” You will do great things! I believe in you.

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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