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Are You Tired of Living with Regret? Here are 5 Fixes That Work

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Regret is something everyone experiences at one point or another. It would be impossible to go through life without experiencing any regret at all.

But sometimes, we put ourselves in positions where regret is almost guaranteed. Where we could have avoided the regret, but for whatever reason, we chose not to.

But the good news is that you don’t have to live that way. You can actively work towards removing regret from your life.

The following are a few signs, and accompanying fixes, that you may be setting yourself up for a regretful life.

 

How To Remove Regret From Your Life

 

Fix #1  Stop Making Yourself a Victim

The Problem: You think that you’re at the mercy of the world, that you have no power over the outcome of your life. Any success you find is simply a coincidence and any failure you meet is beyond your control.

But if you’re not in control, who is?

The Fix: Realize you’re not a victim in life. You’re in the driver’s seat. You’re in control. No one has command over your life more than you do. Use that power you have, to create a life that you’re excited about. A life that you love.

You have the ability to make things happen in your life. Once you make this mindset shift, everything else becomes easier.

 

Fix #2 Stop Holding Back Your Best Effort

The Problem: Your hesitant, you’re fearful, and you’re not giving 100% of your effort. Maybe you’re afraid of failing. Or maybe you’re afraid of success.

Whatever the reason, you’re just not giving it all you’ve got. And that’s a problem because giving a lackluster effort could be the difference between you living the life you dream of, and living a nightmare.

The Fix: Don’t be afraid to go all in. You have to believe that your effort won’t go unnoticed and that success and happiness are direct byproducts of you giving it all you’ve got.

You’ll never regret giving something the maximum amount of effort.

 

Fix #3 Start Making Decisions for Yourself, Not for Others

The Problem: Your Father picked your career, your mother picked your spouse, and now your spouse is deciding everything else.

You’re absolutely setting yourself up for a regretful life if you let everyone around you make decisions for you. They can’t get inside your head, so they don’t know what you really want.

And even if they do know, they’re judgment is so clouded by their own wants and desires that your needs end up taking a back seat.

The Fix: Start making your own decisions. Make the decisions that are right for you, not the decisions that other people think are right for you. No one knows you better than you.

You may hurt some feelings, you may even lose some relationships, but neither of those are as important as you living the life you really want to live.

 

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Fix #4 Stop Being Full of Excuses

The Problem: You always have a reason why you couldn’t do something, either because the time wasn’t right, or you had something else to do. But here’s the problem, excuses are probably the number one reason people live with regret.

Excuses suck because they stop you doing what you want to, achieving your goals, and creating a life worth living, even though you’re fully capable.

The Fix: Stop with the excuses. Get really clear about what you want and why you want it. Then the next time an excuse tries to creep it’s way in, ask yourself, “If this excuse more important than my goals in life?” Chances are, it’s not.

 

Fix #5 Start Listening to Your Heart

The Problem: You know exactly what your heart is guiding you towards, but you’re afraid to follow it. You’re afraid that people may criticize you. You’re afraid that you may fail. You’re afraid that you may be judged.

But looking at the bigger picture, what’s more important? Are you willing to ignore your heart, your passions, and your biggest dreams because of what other people might say?

The Fix: Realize that everyone is going to judge you, so you might as well let them judge while you do something you love. Listen to your heart, follow your passions, and let the naysayers talk all they want.

 

Tony Robinson runs DoReallyGood.com, which is a site that shows you how to utilize willpower, habits, systems and automation so you can create lasting change that leads to the achievement of your most important goals. You can pick up a free copy of his ebook "Goal Domination: The 5 Step Game Plan to Setting and Achieving Your Goals" by clicking here.

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

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