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An In-Depth Guide of the Law of Attraction and How It Can Work for You



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The book and documentary, The Secret, has pushed the Law of Attraction into the spotlight for millions of people. To some, the concept is full of suspicion, but to others—including myself—the value is clearly seen and their lives have been forever changed.

Through its practice, the path to success seems to unfold like a cosmic red carpet. In its violation, the doors to one’s dreams seem to shut tight. So, how does one explain how the Law of Attraction works, and how it helps you on your journey to success?

The Universe and Reality As We Know It

The universe reflects back to us the basic vibrations that we emit. By vibration, I mean the frequency of our thoughts, feelings, and overall mood. The concept is fairly intuitive to understand as we readily pick up on the positive or negative “vibes” of people around us. Thoughts and feelings are things that emit an energy that we can feel.

If my thoughts are generally negative then the universe tends to confirm my version of reality by giving me more circumstances like it. If I dwell on positive and empowering thoughts and maintain an upbeat attitude, the universe will affirm that reality as well.

What we call the universe is, as Deepak Chopra defines it, a place of pure potential. Dr. Wayne Dyer considers it as a field of intention. Making sure that reality is directed and confirmed, in other words—the act of creation—is its paramount purpose.

In this, it is also objective; so much so that it resembles a machine in its operation. All it knows to do is to respond to the energy (the language of the universe) that it is given and shape reality from that input.

“The ‘Law of Attraction’ simply states: ‘What you think about, you bring about.’ Whatever you focus on will expand and attract more of the same. Whatever you are putting out there is usually what you are getting back. So, if you don’t like what you’re getting, you’ve got to change what you are giving.” – Susan C. Young

This tendency can work for us or against us. When we wake up on the wrong side of the bed or sleep in too late, we start the day off on a bad foot. Our thoughts will be inclined to be negative and our mood sour. When we think and feel in this manner, we set a poor vibration for the day and the universe will obediently bring us more of the same to confirm our reality.

Fortunately, it can also work in our favor. If we can deliberately hold positive, empowering, and expectant thoughts—and raise the frequency of our vibration to the upper echelons—we will undoubtedly experience more of the same.

The Actions of Universal Law

When we say that something is universal law we mean that it applies everywhere and at all times. As such, the Law of Attraction, like the law of gravity, is always in effect.

There is never a time that the law of attraction is not in operation. Even in our ignorance of it or even if we wish it would stop altogether, it can’t. It is faithful, through all of eternity and certainly for the duration of our lives, to function in its full effect.

Similarly, it is valid everywhere. Even if we fly to the moons of Jupiter, the law of gravity will be in operation as will the Law of Attraction. Negative thoughts and a poor mood will always draw more of the same no matter where in the universe we are.

As touched on earlier, this universality also means that the law is objective. It doesn’t matter who is involved, whether the vibration is high or low, or even if a person is aware or ignorant of its effects, the law will always operate and reflect back to us more of what we are. It’s the only way the universe knows how to expand.

Implementing The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is based on cause and effect. Because it is a law, it produces a result based on an initiating cause. For instance, with the law of gravity, when we drop an apple (the cause) it rushes to meet the earth (the effect). It will continue to do so unless another force or surface intervenes.

For the Law of Attraction, the initiating cause is the set-point of our vibration. As we move into higher states of frequency based on our thoughts and mood, we will always release into motion a chain of events that seeks equilibrium. The universe must realign with and confirm our vibration just like the earth must draw the apple when our hand releases it.

“Like attracts like. You have to understand: you are a magnet. Whatever you are, that’s what you draw to you. If you’re negative, you’re going to draw negativity. You positive? You draw positive. You’re a kind person? Most people are kind to you…’If you see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand.’ This is so true.” Steve Harvey

The implications for understanding the Law of Attraction are life-changing. At any time, at any place, and under any circumstances, we can deliberately improve our situation with nothing more than our thoughts, attitudes, and empowered beliefs. Any time we raise our energy vibration the universe must respond.


The Law of Attraction is powerful and universal. Even in our ignorance of the law, it operates for or against you. Fortunately, it is possible for anyone to become aware of its operation and gain skill in its application.

Begin to raise your vibration in terms of your thoughts and attitudes and the law must respond to affirm your reality. No matter how bleak your current situation, it can all be turned around by improving your frequency.

This understanding is empowering and puts you in the driver’s seat for creating a more optimistic future. In fact, the empowerment that you feel as you come to understand the law’s effect can kick-start the law in a powerful way.

With practice and improved expertise you will be able to attract into your life, whether for business or personal reasons, the things, resources, and circumstances needed to realize your purpose or bring you greater fulfillment.

If this has helped to explain the Law of Attraction to you or if you have personally experienced the powerful effects of the Law of Attraction please comment below and share that others may also improve their lives and find greater success!

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

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This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
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These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

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