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9 Things You Seriously Need To Drop To Be Happy

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Things You Need to drop to be happy

Such a widely searched term nowadays is “How to be happy?”

We all want to be happy right? We fight for it. We live for it. We try to find it.

And that’s the problem: We’re chasing it.

It’s time to stop looking elsewhere and look within instead. As you reflect, you’d probably find a ton of things that you can let go of to be happy.

So here we will highlight 9 things you seriously need to drop to be happy.

 

 

Here are 9 things you seriously need to drop to be happy

 

1) Attachment to results

In other words, you need to stop having high expectations in whatever it is you do.  That’d be only serve to make you feel attached to a supposedly good result.

Let go of the attachment. Whatever happens, will happen. Accept it, learn from it, grow and keep enjoying the process.

 

2) Toxic friends

Sometimes, your lack of happiness could be due to your surroundings. Drop the toxic friends. They’re anchors weighing you down. Find positive friends instead. They’ll inspire you and lift you up all the time.

 

3) The chase for money

I get it. Money is important. We all have our responsibilities after all.

But what can I say except that the decision to chase money is always your choice.

Try to make this shift. You’d realize how deserving you are of money.

 

4) Finding love                                            

Don’t find love. Do what you love, and love will find you.

It’s not that cliché. If you try too hard to find somebody to be with, you end up coming across as needy. That’s not attractive. If you do what you love and enjoy it, you become attractive as you exude confidence and charisma.

 

5) Your clutter

This is kind of like the first point. You may be too attached to a lot of unnecessary things in your life.

Clean up your room and get rid of the clutter. A healthy environment produces a happy mind.

Let go of certain objects of value too, like your first car. You may be holding on too tight. Sometimes you’ve to liberate yourself to move forward.

 

6) Social media

You’re subconsciously boring yourself in the search of entertainment in social media. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that it’s mindless and draining. Also, with mobile apps today, we’re not aware of our surroundings when we head out.

Drop it. Start being aware and appreciate nature. Find better hobbies too, like reading.

 

7) The past and future

Drop the past, for it does not exist anymore. Whatever happened during that time and whoever hurt you don’t matter anymore.

Drop the future for you cannot ever have full control of all events. Embrace uncertainty and let it all take care of itself.

 

8) Ideas of getting back at them

I know how it feels like to want to exact “revenge” or find ways to get back at other people when you’re wronged or hurt.

But you’ve got to drop it. It doesn’t do you any good at all. As they say, resentment is the poison you drink hoping someone else would die.

Focus on yourself and your life instead. Choose to be happy by doing what you love and becoming awesome.

 

9) Over reliance of happiness guides

I’m talking about blogs, courses, seminars, friends and family.

They can all help you, but they’re only dare to guide you. No one except you can choose to be happy.

Make the right choice. Then get out there and start taking action. You’re going to have to create your own experience and memories, things which you can truly call your own.

A truthful life is a happy one. Go for it.

 

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20 Comments

20 Comments

  1. Lidiya K

    Jan 28, 2015 at 11:10 am

    Great tips!

    I also came to the conclusion that these are the main things that affect my happiness and started to work on each of them.

    People tend to put effort into everything – getting rich, finding their soul mate, reaching the results they want. But instead, we need to let go of the need to be in control to do what we’re told (by authorities and other people).

    First we need to fix the relationship we have with ourselves and realize we’re more than enough. And only then will we be able to share that love with others, without feeling needy as you put it.

    And by eliminating negative people, regrets for the past and worries about the future, the clutter both in our home and mind, and if we just go with the flow every now and then, just do what we love and get up each day and work on what we want to achieve, we can have the freedom and contentment we’re looking for.

  2. vilas kumar

    Jul 23, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    thanks for it…i was in need of it as i was much bored…

  3. vickiemaris

    Jul 7, 2014 at 1:33 pm

    Great insights! I had to chuckle a bit on the social media comment though. It was through a scroll through my Twitter feed that I found a tweet about your blog post. I’m going to go tweet it for someone else to see. You share some really great suggestions here on toxic friends and dangers of clutter. Thanks for the post.

  4. Diana Roemer (@writerdianalee)

    Jun 7, 2014 at 7:20 pm

    There are many idioms with which to steer our life. I’ve boiled it down to one word: Simplify.

  5. dotchamou

    May 11, 2014 at 1:35 pm

    Thank you for sharing these wisdoms on happiness. We weave our joy like the Weaver makes clothes.Our happiness will never depend on outside circumstances. It will always depend on our choice to be happy or not.

  6. thaimeup (@thaimenow)

    May 4, 2014 at 7:02 am

    This made my day. Just what I needed to read 🙂 Everything is so spot on. I may have a hard time doing this but I will try, I know happiness will find me 🙂

    • Alden Tan

      May 7, 2014 at 7:07 am

      Don’t try to find happiness. Just do what you love!

      • Thomas

        May 9, 2014 at 1:39 am

        Drop the past and move forward that is what I have to do thanks Alden

  7. Susan Fleming

    May 3, 2014 at 3:44 am

    Awesome……thanks for the real thing, no fluff here.

  8. Wan Muhammad Zulfikri Wan Yusoff

    May 1, 2014 at 6:29 pm

    Social media – a must drop!

  9. Raymona Brown

    May 1, 2014 at 1:29 pm

    Great list! Must admit the one that has been most beneficial in my past and still today, is dropping toxic friends. Toxic people can really be a huge weigh down. And you will be surprised at how productive and efficient you will be once you let those kind of people go.

    • Alden Tan

      May 7, 2014 at 7:05 am

      Nicely said. The sad thing is we are taught to “deal with it” or “ignore’ such people. But as people, it can be hard. Best to just drop them. The real friends will come by.

  10. doreenb8

    May 1, 2014 at 1:12 pm

    Good stuff!

  11. Koko

    May 1, 2014 at 12:09 pm

    These sort of posts are great reminder of how to be happy 🙂 Thank you for posting!

  12. Steve Spring

    May 1, 2014 at 11:26 am

    I don’t think that most of us realize how much clutter holds us back from moving forward. I really liked, “A healthy environment produces a happy mind” Thanks for sharing Alden.

    • Alden Tan

      May 7, 2014 at 7:02 am

      Thanks Steve! Indeed. I don’t think it’s ever “a little mess” here and there. A messy environment can really mess with your motivation.

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