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7 Tips On How To Win Back What Fear Stole From You



7 Tips On How To Win Back What Fear Stole From You

What have you allowed fear to take from you?  Was it your dream?  Was it your happiness?  Did you then just give up everything so easily to fear without even putting up a fight?

We all are guilty of giving in to fear at some point in our lives. We all feel fear, but unfortunately fear is like the boogie man that haunts us if we aren’t mature enough to understand that it is not that creepy.

Fear helps protect us.  You feel fear when you are not in a safe place.  It is that emotion telling you to get away quickly because something isn’t right.  Fear is our guide, but one that if not managed properly can become our greatest stumbling block to achieving our goals.

When you view your goals in terms of what you will lose instead of all that you have to gain if you face those fears, you are in a preventative mode.  You now want to play it safe.  You work hard to avoid making mistakes.  You fight to hold on to what little you think you have.  Your fear of failure exceeds your desire to succeed.

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

On the other hand, if you see yourself gaining more should you face your fears you are in a success driven mode.  You are more focused on getting ahead and willing to take the risk.  You see the risk as worth it.  You are no longer afraid of failing as your need for success exceeds your fear of failing.

I want you to get to the stage where you will be more focused on what you will gain instead of what you will lose.  Today is the day to confront your fears.  Today is the day you will become success focus.  No more will you allow fear to boss you around and rob you of what is rightfully yours.  You are in control of your life and not fear.  Stand up to fear and reclaim your life.

Here are 7 tips to fight back and win:


1. Quit thinking too much about what others think

Many of us spend so much time thinking about what others think of us that we allow the fear of what they think, prevent us from going after our dreams.  The scary thing is that most people do not even think about you and they do not care. Decide what needs to be done and do it.  The moment you refuse to care about what others think of you is the day you will start to succeed.


2. Quit procrastinating

We allow fear to keep us procrastinating.  We will get to it sometime but now is not the right time. There will never be a perfect time to do anything.  You must be willing to make the time. The most difficult thing to do is to get started.  Once you take the first step, you will develop momentum. Keep working even when you do not feel like doing so.


3. Do not allow fear to tell you that you aren’t good enough

Fear has a way of working in the vulnerable areas of our lives.  Fear knows your weaknesses.  It tries to break down your confidence; it feeds on your insecurities.  You are not the only one with issues.  Yes, you do not know everything nor do you have it all together but if you are prepared to work hard, you will get ahead.  You have enough in you to achieve any goal you set for yourself.


4. Quit telling yourself you are going to fail

How do you know you are going to fail if you haven’t even made an attempt?  If you haven’t made an attempt then indeed you have failed.  Do not allow the fear of failing to prevent you from going after your dreams.  Give it your best and never quit until you’ve achieved success.

“Do what you fear and fear disappears.” – David Joseph Schwartz

5. Do not allow fear to convince you that you do not have what it takes

Too many of us will never reach our full potential because we allow fear to secretly convince us that we do not have what it takes.  How sad is that, when whatever you do not know right now you can learn. There are so many resources available to you.  All you need right now is the determination and the willingness to do the work.  The more you practice your skills, the better you become.


6. Do not allow fear to tell you that it’s too late

It is never too late to achieve your dreams. If your dream is to go back to school, and you are 50 years old, then it is your time now.  Fear has a way of trying to convince you that the time has run out on you attaining your goals.  How can it be too late when the dream is yours, and you haven’t achieved it yet?


7. Do not let fear tell you that you can’t change

One of the major requirements for achieving one’s goal is the need for flexibility.  You must be willing to change.  Change is good, and anyone can change at any time.  You only have to desire the need to change.  If you need to get up earlier to study because your goal is to take classes you only need to program your schedule to be able to accommodate your study time.  People are constantly changing, and you are changing whether you want to or not so you might as well change to do what you want.

“To fight fear, act. To increase fear – wait, put off,  postpone.” – David Joseph Schwartz

Fear has a way of trying to be bigger than it is. Once you confront your fears, you will never allow it to scare you that much again.  Fear appears bigger and more powerful than it truly is.  You only have to decide to face those fears, and it loses it power and its hold on you.  It is normal to feel fear, but you should never allow it to stand in your way of reaching your goals.

Which one of these fears holds you back the most?

Rose Costas is a big believer in the power of facing your challenges head on and then boldly wear your scars to show others that they too can be triumphant.  She is an accountant by profession with a new found passion for blogging and a future author and best seller. You can received her amazing free Ebook  “34 Ways to Build Your Confidence Today”.



  1. Stephanie

    Jan 22, 2016 at 6:41 pm

    Great article… I feel like it was written for me and exactly what I needed today ! Thanks!!

  2. Marcie

    Nov 6, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    This is a great article, Rose. I read it to my mother and she loved it!

    • Rose Costas

      Nov 9, 2015 at 4:07 am

      Thanks Marcie. This is a topic we can all relate to and hopefully the tips will help to make your life better. We are all learning and it is important to remember that, there is nothing you cannot do if you truly want to.

  3. Arran Toat

    Oct 30, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    Do not let fear to paralyze and kill you.

    • Rose Costas

      Nov 1, 2015 at 8:47 pm

      Thanks Arran. You only have to decide to forge ahead even when you are scared to death.

  4. BCollins

    Oct 29, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    great article Rose! Fear can destroy us and cause many problems in our life. Even family members and friends can cause doubt in us and can lead to fear. If you believe in yourself, you always can conquer fear. Keep up the good

    • Rose Costas

      Oct 30, 2015 at 6:13 am

      Thanks Bill you are absolutely right on that. We have to be constantly on the look for things and people who sometimes innocently can derail our dreams.

  5. Lance

    Oct 29, 2015 at 11:52 am

    Thanks for this article Rose!

    This is great timing for myself to come across your article. I’ve been working on some big projects that have been pretty intimidating, so I’ve been struggling with procrastination.
    But after reading this I feel more suited to take on each task

    Also, something that has really helped me out when it comes to getting over initial fear is affirmations. Very positive affects on the sub-conscience mind… Thanks again!

    • Rose Costas

      Oct 30, 2015 at 6:17 am

      Thanks Lance. That was the intention. We all go through times when we question our abilities and or procrastinate because deep down we either believe we do not have it within us or isn’t capable. The good news is every day is a new day to start. You just need to decide that you want it and want it badly enough to go out and get it. I trust you will start your projects and a year or two from now reflect on how much you have achieved. Good luck

  6. Isaiah Jackson

    Oct 27, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    Hey Rose,

    Awesome post and a quick read.

    Can I add another tip?

    Convince yourself that fear doesn’t exist, only feedback.

    Isaiah Jackson.

    • Rose Costas

      Oct 28, 2015 at 4:56 am

      Isaiah you are absolutely right. once we take fear out of the equation then things tend to fall into place pretty easily. Fear has attached to it nervousness, anxiety and a host of other feelings that distorts our minds and prevent us from thinking clearly and doing the things that would bring us the results we need.

  7. Dotchamou Zakari

    Oct 27, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    I think that people who really want to succeed shall train themselves to be courageous in face of a great challenge. Your post is helpful , These two quotes are my favorite on “fear”
    “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
    “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.” Dan Brown

    • Rose Costas

      Oct 27, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      Thank you Dotchamou for those two great quotes. You are absolutely right when the desire to succeed out weights your fear you will go after your dream without hesitation. Thanks again

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