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7 Reasons Why Being A Go-Giver Will Transform Your Life

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We all know those type of people around us calling themselves a go-getter. I have realized that the true success dwells in giving, not getting. I know it sounds corny, but it is true.

Being ambitious and going after your dreams is an important thing but to help others get what they want is more important. It doesn’t help only them, but it moves us forward as well.

Here are seven reasons why being a go-giver will create a better quality of your life and attract what you desire:

1. You will grow

You will grow emotionally, spiritually, mentally. You will understand the real meaning of life, which resides in giving. And you will enjoy it. It will change your perspective on life and success itself. If you want more abundance in your life, the number one rule is to give without expecting getting anything back.

Don’t help others only because you expect them to help you right after. Be real with people and don’t make them feel like they owe you something. You are helping others to grow and live the positive life, not to benefit from them.

 

2. You will help others

Do you remember the time in the past when you were starting something and someone helped you? How did it make you feel? Can you imagine that you make someone else feel the same way? Your support can change someone’s life forever or give them the right start.

We all have been there. We all were trying to accomplish something and struggled at first. Don’t forget how it feels and the next time, be there for others and show your support.  

“Heroes represent the best of ourselves, respecting that we are human beings. A hero can be anyone from Gandhi to your classroom teacher, anyone who can show courage when faced with a problem. A hero is someone who is willing to help others in his or her best capacity.” – Ricky Martin

3. You will attract positive things into your life

Everything good you have ever done will come back to you. There are no exceptions. You will attract more wealth into your life, better people and circumstances. On one hand you will be getting more because you are giving (let’s call it karma).

On another hand, you will be getting more because you feel fulfilled and satisfied with yourself. Positivity will come to you from outside as well as inside.

 

4. You will create compelling relationships

By helping others, you will be changing their lives and become unforgettable to them. Remember that sometimes you are the only hope the person may have. You’ll have the opportunity to create healthy relationships with people who you have helped, or even people who helped you.

Don’t forget that these favorable connections will be useful to you one day, and they can change your life in return. Many people appreciate the help, and they keep you in mind. Creating honest relationships will make your life easier. People will know you as the thoughtful person, and they will always be there for you as well.

 

5. You will attract success

Have you ever heard that the most successful people are the ones who first give and then get? There is a reason behind it. They become successful because of using their inner potential. They are getting more from life because at first, they decided to give. Becoming a go-giver will bring into your life people and events that can change the course of your destiny.

The universe works in a miraculous way. By giving, you will attract the things you desire. Maybe you need the right business partner, or the money, or the right connection. Everything will fall into place once you understand the meaning of being a go-giver.

 

6.You will create a change

It will change you. It will change others and also your community. Making a change in people’s lives is an incredible privilege. You cannot make a difference in the world within one day, but you can change yourself and others around you to live and fulfill life with higher meaning.

 

7. You will help yourself

Whether you like it or not there is always going to be a benefit to you. Even when you genuinely help others and don’t expect anything back, you will feel satisfied and happier. And this is what makes you grow, what attracts better things into your life, what creates the real change around you. This quiet little voice saying, “You just did the right thing, keep doing it, be the change.”

“Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

Commit yourself to do something for others at least once a week. Give others your hand and be there if they need you. Become a go-giver instead of a go-getter. By doing this, you will motivate your surroundings to do the same.

You can create a better environment for yourself and for those who you love. Most of the time, giving doesn’t cost you anything. You have kindness inside, share it with the world.

How will you transform your life? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Silvia Turonova is a mindset coach who teaches women how to develop more self-trust and inner confidence while learning how to bet on themselves. She hosts a podcast Courage Within You and is passionate about teaching others how to coach themselves. Get her free self-coaching worksheet here.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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