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7 Reasons Why Being A Go-Giver Will Transform Your Life

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We all know those type of people around us calling themselves a go-getter. I have realized that the true success dwells in giving, not getting. I know it sounds corny, but it is true.

Being ambitious and going after your dreams is an important thing but to help others get what they want is more important. It doesn’t help only them, but it moves us forward as well.

Here are seven reasons why being a go-giver will create a better quality of your life and attract what you desire:

1. You will grow

You will grow emotionally, spiritually, mentally. You will understand the real meaning of life, which resides in giving. And you will enjoy it. It will change your perspective on life and success itself. If you want more abundance in your life, the number one rule is to give without expecting getting anything back.

Don’t help others only because you expect them to help you right after. Be real with people and don’t make them feel like they owe you something. You are helping others to grow and live the positive life, not to benefit from them.

 

2. You will help others

Do you remember the time in the past when you were starting something and someone helped you? How did it make you feel? Can you imagine that you make someone else feel the same way? Your support can change someone’s life forever or give them the right start.

We all have been there. We all were trying to accomplish something and struggled at first. Don’t forget how it feels and the next time, be there for others and show your support.  

“Heroes represent the best of ourselves, respecting that we are human beings. A hero can be anyone from Gandhi to your classroom teacher, anyone who can show courage when faced with a problem. A hero is someone who is willing to help others in his or her best capacity.” – Ricky Martin

3. You will attract positive things into your life

Everything good you have ever done will come back to you. There are no exceptions. You will attract more wealth into your life, better people and circumstances. On one hand you will be getting more because you are giving (let’s call it karma).

On another hand, you will be getting more because you feel fulfilled and satisfied with yourself. Positivity will come to you from outside as well as inside.

 

4. You will create compelling relationships

By helping others, you will be changing their lives and become unforgettable to them. Remember that sometimes you are the only hope the person may have. You’ll have the opportunity to create healthy relationships with people who you have helped, or even people who helped you.

Don’t forget that these favorable connections will be useful to you one day, and they can change your life in return. Many people appreciate the help, and they keep you in mind. Creating honest relationships will make your life easier. People will know you as the thoughtful person, and they will always be there for you as well.

 

5. You will attract success

Have you ever heard that the most successful people are the ones who first give and then get? There is a reason behind it. They become successful because of using their inner potential. They are getting more from life because at first, they decided to give. Becoming a go-giver will bring into your life people and events that can change the course of your destiny.

The universe works in a miraculous way. By giving, you will attract the things you desire. Maybe you need the right business partner, or the money, or the right connection. Everything will fall into place once you understand the meaning of being a go-giver.

 

6.You will create a change

It will change you. It will change others and also your community. Making a change in people’s lives is an incredible privilege. You cannot make a difference in the world within one day, but you can change yourself and others around you to live and fulfill life with higher meaning.

 

7. You will help yourself

Whether you like it or not there is always going to be a benefit to you. Even when you genuinely help others and don’t expect anything back, you will feel satisfied and happier. And this is what makes you grow, what attracts better things into your life, what creates the real change around you. This quiet little voice saying, “You just did the right thing, keep doing it, be the change.”

“Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

Commit yourself to do something for others at least once a week. Give others your hand and be there if they need you. Become a go-giver instead of a go-getter. By doing this, you will motivate your surroundings to do the same.

You can create a better environment for yourself and for those who you love. Most of the time, giving doesn’t cost you anything. You have kindness inside, share it with the world.

How will you transform your life? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Silvia committed her life to many things but one of them is helping people in turning their pain into power and teach them how to find benefits in the most difficult events of their lives. She is a motivational speaker and founder of CourageWithinYou platform.  She has written well over 200 articles oriented on personal development, success, and healthy mental growth. You can connect with her on Facebook or on her personal website www.silviaturon.com.

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  1. Manoj Bhatia

    Apr 22, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Hi Silvia, totally agree with go-giving attitude. I myself try to give back as much value I can give back to the world back with writing good content on my website and make this world a happier place to live.

  2. Silvia

    Mar 23, 2016 at 5:47 pm

    Evan, thank you. You just made some great point too.
    “If only many people would understand this concept and dig it out of their self-doubt, worry and fear.”
    Very well said. The good thing is that more and more people are starting to resonate with this concept. They are trying to put the word out there and become better from what I have seen. More people understand the benefit of the pain what gives them the opportunity to build better quality lives. Evan, I am happy you enjoyed this.

  3. Evan

    Mar 23, 2016 at 6:56 am

    Silvia,

    Nice post! You make some great points here, like:

    “Have you ever heard that the most successful people are the ones who first give and then get? ”

    It seems we have lots of similar interests and motivations, for unlocking people’s full potential and there needs to be more of that. If only many people would understand this concept and dig it out of their self-doubt, worry and fear.

    I like what you’ve done with your blog; thanks for the value!

    – Evan

  4. Silvia

    Feb 27, 2016 at 4:38 pm

    Mehdyy, I am very happy that this article helped you. We get caught up in our negativity, but the important thing is that you have the ability to improve your emotional state. It proved that you were strong enough to change and improve a relationship with a person you were talking about and maybe realize what was wrong. I hope things are working out better for you now.

  5. Silvia

    Feb 26, 2016 at 1:34 am

    Maryon, I am sorry for your lost. On the other hand you have found something else to fill the empty space. I believe you are changing people’s lives without even knowing it. Thank you for doing that, some of us don’t think this way.

  6. Maryon Stewart

    Feb 24, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    I love your post Silvia. Giving is one of the most under rated activities. Medical research shows that the act of giving and doing for others releases endorphins which makes the donor feel great. I’ve worked out that it can therefore be addictive! I try to find time each day to do something lovely for someone else and to truly live in the moment without any expectation of a return flow. I’ve been operating like this since I lost my 21 year old daughter in 2009 and can honestly say that it makes my life so much more joyous. My wish is that it becomes contagious as I truly believe that it will make the world a much more wonderful place. I will look out for more of your posts. In the meantime I tip my hat to you.

  7. Silvia

    Feb 22, 2016 at 10:56 pm

    Thank you Bharat. I am glad you’ve enjoyed it and I agree with you. Once we become a Go-Givers, doors start to open for us and we get even more that we ever asked for. There is many people out there who needs help more than you and me. I am a big fan of reading so I will check out the book you mentioned. Thanks again!

  8. mehdyy

    Feb 22, 2016 at 8:35 pm

    ThankYou for posting this Silvia, it really helped me in this moment i just find myself thinking negatively about a person and i was reading your article and i just realized that i can change this and by doing that i will change that person too just by changing myself.

  9. Bharat

    Feb 22, 2016 at 2:58 pm

    Nice post Silvia! I read book with the same title “Go Giver” and I must say it was amazing. Being giver only makes you eligible for receiving. Being giver helps you to open your heart up for others and instil the sense of responsibility within you.

    I enjoyed reading your post and my take away is by being giver you are helping your own self.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

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