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5 Simple Ways To Get Closer To Your Dream Right Now

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Getting Closer To Your Dream

I speak to a lot of people that want to leave their day job to pursue their dream. It seems that so many people find it very hard to make the transition. You should never spend a day of your life doing something for a living that you don’t love.

The days of slavery passed many years ago, and it’s time to stop settling for second best. Whatever your dream is, no matter how big or small it may be, you need to start now. It’s not difficult to achieve your dream, but you need to understand that getting closer to it will involve lots of small steps.

Each of these small steps may seem insignificant but when you add them all up, they become one giant step that will get you closer to your dream.

Below are five ways to get closer to your dream each day and start living your purpose.

 

1. Embrace the proximity effect

Someone close to me said to me a few months back, “I love to travel, but I can’t make money from it.” There are two things that are wrong with this statement. The first one is that you should never do something just because you want it to make you money.

The second point is that you can’t just go from your everyday job that you hate, to your dream overnight. If your dream is to travel the world then, you need to apply the principle of the proximity effect.

In this example, it would require you to consider doing a day job in the travel industry to begin with where you get to talk about your dream every day. Now if this seems impossible then start with a small step and get within proximity of everyone who loves travel.

There are lots of expos about your dream that occur every year. These expos allow you to meet people in every niche that exists in your dream field. This is where you get ideas from, and you can start building relationships with people you share your dream.

 

2. Stop doing something you hate

To be able to get closer to your dream you need to decide today to stop doing the day job or work that you hate. Just stop! You can never move forward or closer to your dream when you’re stuck in the frustration of hating what you do every day.

This doesn’t mean you can be side by side with your dream in a matter of days. If you look at the founder of Addicted2Success, Joel Brown, you will know that he didn’t go from his sales job to running this site full time in a short time. 

What Joel did though was take small steps each day and incorporate his dream in with other tasks like his day job. He started by moving away from a manual labour profession and over to a sales job. This job wasn’t his dream, but it was closer to something he was good at and helped him develop skills relevant to his overall dream.

What are you doing on a daily basis that you hate and why can’t you stop it right now?

 

3. Commit a specific amount of time every day to it

So I mentioned earlier about spending time each day doing something that involves your dream. The crucial part of getting closer to your dream though is that you need to block out time every day for it. Don’t make the mistake of setting a monthly or a weekly allocation of time because it’s not specific or close enough to the present moment to get you closer to your dream.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the noise of your day or distractions from other people, but you need to realise that unless you develop a habit around spending time each day on your dream, it will never happen! It will just become a dream that so many people have, and that so few fulfil.

See, to achieve most dreams you have to achieve tasks that are difficult and require hard work. The chances are that you are not the only person that has this same dream, and you are going to be competing against others to reach your goal.

You will only stand out if you outwork everybody else and be disciplined about taking daily action. Commit yourself to mastery and to being the very best at what it is that your dream involves. After all, if this dream is really something you want then having the motivation to take daily action towards it shouldn’t be that hard.

If you find that taking daily action towards your dream is hard, then it may not be the right dream for you and you may want it for unfulfilling reasons like money or fame.

 

4. Be open-minded to advice from successful people

One of the biggest barriers I see people facing when they try and get closer to their dream is they lack the trait of open-mindedness. It’s pretty obvious that on the road to your dream, you are going to want to speak to people who have successfully achieved something similar to what your dream consists of.

Talking to these successful people though is useless if you are not open minded to what they say. There is a very good chance they are going to tell you things that seem difficult or like hard work, but if you don’t, at least, listen and consider what they have to say, you will never get closer to your dream

This doesn’t mean you need to listen to every bit of advice they give you, but you should, at least, consider some or all of what they have to say. So often I give out what I think are golden nuggets of advice from my own life experience, and people completely dismiss them without even thinking about the idea or, at least, doing their own research.

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5. Get leverage by investing money

A great way to get closer to your dream is to invest some money in it. If you want to be the next Youtube sensation, then go out tomorrow and buy yourself a good camera to record some videos. By investing some money, you will create leverage.

You will have what we call “skin in the game.” What I mean by this is that you will have invested some of your hard earned money that will create a feeling of loss if you don’t take action on your dream using your investment.

You may want to be an online entrepreneur, so go out there tomorrow, buy a domain and commission a website designer to begin. Don’t spend crazy amounts of money too early on, but spend enough that it will create some pain for you if you don’t take advantage of the money you have spent.

Pain and a sense of loss from your investment will move you much closer to your dream than what doing nothing will.

What’s your dream and what small steps have you taken recently to get closer to it? Let me know in the comments section below or on Twitter and Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Pallavi Arora

    Dec 21, 2015 at 7:58 am

    A nice inspirational Article 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 3:18 am

      Thanks Pallavi

  2. Tom Inko Tariah

    Dec 20, 2015 at 7:45 am

    Very cool and meaningful advice.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      Cheers Tom I am glad you like the advice.

  3. Justin Allen Hammonds

    Dec 20, 2015 at 2:39 am

    This was a great article! I believe I have skin in the game. Over the last 10 years I’ve invested somewhere in the neighborhood of about 10 grand. I believe in my own success, and I know God is with me so I just keep moving forward.

    Thank you for such a great article, and may God Richly bless you.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 7:35 am

      Thanks Justin. $10k on your own development will get you much further in life than buying something like a car. Keep at your dream and keep doing what you are doing. Cheers

  4. Charlene Rhinehart

    Dec 19, 2015 at 1:56 am

    Inspirational article! Thanks for sharing your golden nuggets of wisdom!

    There were so many quotes that motivate me to take action immediately. Many people falsely believe that money is the ultimate goal but “you should never do something just because you want it to make you money”. I agree with your statement. Passion is key! This will give you the discipline you need to be consistent and make progress.

    I often hear others say they don’t have enough time or money. But when you really want something, you make it a priority no matter what you don’t have. You learn how to focus on what you do have and are take full advantage of every moment when you can spend time with your dream.

    After reading this article, I’m ecstatic to spend more quality time with my dreams and use the proximity effect in order to get closer to my dreams. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 7:33 am

      Charlene the fact that reading this article has got you into action straight away is the whole point. Congrats for getting the message and for your kind words.

  5. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Dec 18, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    Great Read , committing time is a big take away. Most people claim to have no time but will watch 3 hours of tv each night or sleep for 10 hours each night. If you want to achieve an above average lifestyle or level of success you have to commit the time. If that means 4-5 hours of sleep each night and not catching up on your favorite tv episodes then so be it. You have to make the necessary scarifies to reach greatness.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      You are spot on. Time is relative. The parts of your life that will excel are the parts that you invest time in. Notice how I said invest? That’s because time is a currency and we all have that in common except none of us know how long we have. I certainly have been faced with this very real event recently and it gets you into action.

      Thanks again for taking the time to share your advice.

  6. Toño

    Dec 18, 2015 at 3:52 am

    ‘You should never spend a day of your life doing something for a living that you don’t love.’ – I am going to make these words my mantra, my signature for now and to live and breathe it. I can just feel the inner power coming from inside when I repeatedly reading it.

    This article is right on time for me, it’s like you have been reading my mind or like we had some friendly chat recently, talking ’bout things that matters and you decided to share this advice. Even more, that sounds a bit crazy but, your very first point on proximity effect, the line ‘I love to travel, but I can’t make money from it’. Exact same thing I told myself few months ago and now I see it right here.. Feels like magic. And what a great response, Tim. I can see the perspective now and already stroming my mind with ideas. It is relates to me so much. I really love the idea that money should not be your main motivation and I see you totally support this as well.

    I am on the edge where I have to make a choice how to find a balance to do what I really want to and enjoy and to be able make money of it. Transition period may and will take time and yes, taking the small steps we can achieve big things. Move from radical thinking to radical action.

    Also to be able to listen to people and keep your mind open is quite an important part, it is vital. Change is the only thing that constant in our ever evolving world and we shold learn to adapt and take and use new ideas. Thank you Tim for reminding me that. And again, investing your money/talent/skills is crusial. First you should give in order to recieve. How often we say that but still forget? Simple thing yet powerful.

    I feel like this acrticle was for me, even though I know it’s not. It was very inspiring and I am very grateful, Tim and appreciate your consitency. Your love and passion for quality writing amazes me. Thank you very much!

    Stay well and have a great day!

    ps: Beautiful picture to start the post by the way.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Toño you said you love to travel but can’t make money from it. Can you not work as you travel and make money? Could you not be a travel blogger and instagrammer and make money from your travel? Be careful what you tell yourself because you can make money and add value to any passion.

      Thanks Toño for the detailed comments and your continued compliments of me and others around you. Much respect.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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5 Counterintuitive Ways to Make the Most Out of Your Time

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Do you think you’ll accomplish everything you want to before you die? Do you sometimes worry you won’t reach your goals? Do you have a plan to get what you want? If you’re like most people, you often have trouble squeezing in everything you want to do during the day, week or month, let alone everything you might want to accomplish in a lifetime. Updates from friends on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat come in to your phone at all hours of the day and night. Invites to activities, events, festivals, etc. blow up your phone on a regular basis. (more…)

McVal Osborne is the author of Start Up your Life: Why we don’t know what we want, and how to set goals that really matter. McVal writes about motivation, decision making, and strategic thinking. He graduated from UC Santa Barbara in 2011 with a degree in Spanish, and has since worked as a market researcher and business consultant in Washington D.C., New York City and London. You can reach him on Twitter @mcval or on IG @mcvaliant.

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  1. Pallavi Arora

    Dec 21, 2015 at 7:58 am

    A nice inspirational Article 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 22, 2015 at 3:18 am

      Thanks Pallavi

  2. Tom Inko Tariah

    Dec 20, 2015 at 7:45 am

    Very cool and meaningful advice.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      Cheers Tom I am glad you like the advice.

  3. Justin Allen Hammonds

    Dec 20, 2015 at 2:39 am

    This was a great article! I believe I have skin in the game. Over the last 10 years I’ve invested somewhere in the neighborhood of about 10 grand. I believe in my own success, and I know God is with me so I just keep moving forward.

    Thank you for such a great article, and may God Richly bless you.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 7:35 am

      Thanks Justin. $10k on your own development will get you much further in life than buying something like a car. Keep at your dream and keep doing what you are doing. Cheers

  4. Charlene Rhinehart

    Dec 19, 2015 at 1:56 am

    Inspirational article! Thanks for sharing your golden nuggets of wisdom!

    There were so many quotes that motivate me to take action immediately. Many people falsely believe that money is the ultimate goal but “you should never do something just because you want it to make you money”. I agree with your statement. Passion is key! This will give you the discipline you need to be consistent and make progress.

    I often hear others say they don’t have enough time or money. But when you really want something, you make it a priority no matter what you don’t have. You learn how to focus on what you do have and are take full advantage of every moment when you can spend time with your dream.

    After reading this article, I’m ecstatic to spend more quality time with my dreams and use the proximity effect in order to get closer to my dreams. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 20, 2015 at 7:33 am

      Charlene the fact that reading this article has got you into action straight away is the whole point. Congrats for getting the message and for your kind words.

  5. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Dec 18, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    Great Read , committing time is a big take away. Most people claim to have no time but will watch 3 hours of tv each night or sleep for 10 hours each night. If you want to achieve an above average lifestyle or level of success you have to commit the time. If that means 4-5 hours of sleep each night and not catching up on your favorite tv episodes then so be it. You have to make the necessary scarifies to reach greatness.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      You are spot on. Time is relative. The parts of your life that will excel are the parts that you invest time in. Notice how I said invest? That’s because time is a currency and we all have that in common except none of us know how long we have. I certainly have been faced with this very real event recently and it gets you into action.

      Thanks again for taking the time to share your advice.

  6. Toño

    Dec 18, 2015 at 3:52 am

    ‘You should never spend a day of your life doing something for a living that you don’t love.’ – I am going to make these words my mantra, my signature for now and to live and breathe it. I can just feel the inner power coming from inside when I repeatedly reading it.

    This article is right on time for me, it’s like you have been reading my mind or like we had some friendly chat recently, talking ’bout things that matters and you decided to share this advice. Even more, that sounds a bit crazy but, your very first point on proximity effect, the line ‘I love to travel, but I can’t make money from it’. Exact same thing I told myself few months ago and now I see it right here.. Feels like magic. And what a great response, Tim. I can see the perspective now and already stroming my mind with ideas. It is relates to me so much. I really love the idea that money should not be your main motivation and I see you totally support this as well.

    I am on the edge where I have to make a choice how to find a balance to do what I really want to and enjoy and to be able make money of it. Transition period may and will take time and yes, taking the small steps we can achieve big things. Move from radical thinking to radical action.

    Also to be able to listen to people and keep your mind open is quite an important part, it is vital. Change is the only thing that constant in our ever evolving world and we shold learn to adapt and take and use new ideas. Thank you Tim for reminding me that. And again, investing your money/talent/skills is crusial. First you should give in order to recieve. How often we say that but still forget? Simple thing yet powerful.

    I feel like this acrticle was for me, even though I know it’s not. It was very inspiring and I am very grateful, Tim and appreciate your consitency. Your love and passion for quality writing amazes me. Thank you very much!

    Stay well and have a great day!

    ps: Beautiful picture to start the post by the way.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Toño you said you love to travel but can’t make money from it. Can you not work as you travel and make money? Could you not be a travel blogger and instagrammer and make money from your travel? Be careful what you tell yourself because you can make money and add value to any passion.

      Thanks Toño for the detailed comments and your continued compliments of me and others around you. Much respect.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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