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6 Life Changing Things You Must Do Before You Die

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There are some magical things that you can experience in life that most never do. Our existence on planet Earth is not forever even though our minds don’t allow us to focus on this guaranteed reality. You can either be the shinning light or the lonely darkness in the way that you choose to live.

There are lots of things we are told to experience in life before we die and I thought today it was worth pointing out a few that are less commonly spoken of. I’ve experienced each point below, and it has changed the way I see reality.

These life-changing experiences will shape who you are for the better, and they’ll make you a kinder, less selfish, inspirational, humble, compassionate, unstoppable, and memorable person. Not a bad list of things to do before you die huh?

Before you die, here are the 6 life-changing things you must do:

1. See the real beauty of who you are

As humans, we are phenomenal beings, and we don’t even realise it. Before you die take some time to sit somewhere out in nature like a beach, and really feel in your body just how much capability we have. We can do absolutely anything we put our mind to, and we have so much power to love almost anything we want to.

You’ve been through so much, yet you’re still here, breathing, and giving it 110% each day because you’re driven by your passion. Once you realise your beauty and everything that it is possible for you to achieve, your life will never be the same again.

You will never waste another minute, and you’ll stop feeling sorry for yourself.

2. Hug a stranger

We have so much compassion that is wasted and never used. Before you die, I want you to hug a stranger at least once and see what it feels like to give even when you’re not being asked for anything. See how you can be the person you always wanted to be just by starting with a small and simple action like a hug.

There doesn’t need to be any special reason for this hug other than you feeling like you’re ready to hug someone you don’t know to try and get the lesson I’m telling you. Go ahead and try this one out, it will forever make you more compassionate.

3. Coach one person

As we get older, we gain so much experience that is valuable to the younger generations. Rather than keep all of these golden nuggets of knowledge for our self, I want you to coach at least one person, for free, before you die.

Take this person aside once a week and hear about everything that they are struggling with. Be there for them at their lowest of lows, and their highest of highs. Help them to understand who they truly are and for them to discover their purpose.

Once you’ve helped them find their purpose, I want you to assist them in casting the biggest vision they can possibly ever think of. Help them to dream big and give them the confidence that anything is possible when we work hard and focus.

Throughout this coaching exercise, you’ll probably grow more than your mentee. This is normal but remember; it’s not about you. We spend so much time trying to change our state through, alcohol, drugs, and sex, that we forget how simple tasks like coaching can be far more powerful.

4. Tell your previous lovers what they meant to you

In our lives, each of us has many lovers that come and go. When we speak of past lovers we all feel something even if we don’t admit it. Just thinking of someone we used to love is enough to make us feel entirely different. In life, nothing is forever and sometimes we are not meant to be with someone long term.

It’s so critical that before we die, we tell our previous lovers how grateful we were for the time we spent with them. These lovers helped us grow as a person, and they loved us, even if it wasn’t everlasting. Through the sadness, we’ve moved onto new horizons but always kept them in our hearts forever.

Nothing can change the past, and all you can do before you die is learn from these ex-lovers. The trouble is that often these former partners have no idea how much we still appreciate them. My challenge to you is to be bold and tell them how special they still are.

Tell them all the things that you appreciated about them, and let them know you’re always there if they ever need to talk. These conversations will make you feel a wave of emotion, and you’ll never be the same person again. It takes a fearless person to do this very difficult task, and that’s how heroes are born. Embrace your former lovers and never forget where you came from.

5. Forgive all the people that wronged you

Many people go to their graves full of hurt and regret. Don’t be one of these lifeless zombies and before you die, forgive the people that wronged you in the past. Forgiving people helps take a massive weight off your shoulders.

“When you’re grown up enough to realise that everyone makes mistakes and that we’re all fearful, you begin to realise that we’re so alike”

This particular point is the most difficult for me as I have practiced forgiveness a lot, but still, have not forgiven some key people.

It’s my goal in life to finally get over what these people did and forgive them for what they’ve done. When you focus deep down inside, you’ll realise that the people who wronged you did it out of a brief moment of selfishness, not out of hatred for you.

We can all be selfish at times and these moments shouldn’t define whether we choose to forgive someone. Forgiveness is a choice, and it’s the hardest thing you will ever do before you die. You can never really be free until you choose forgiveness over hatred.

Think carefully about all your so-called enemies, and try to see them as being just like you. Because guess what? They are identical to you and come from the same place you do. Don’t ever forget that!

6. Inspire the world

Inspiration is what is missing in our lives. No matter how uncomplicated or seemingly boring our stories are, we can all give inspiration to others. Before you die, I want you to try as many times as you can to inspire people to do something that will help them in life.

“If all you do is live out your existence focusing on your own selfish needs, you’ll have this gaping hole of regret begin to form”

You won’t know where this regret comes from until you experiment enough and understand it’s formed through a lack of helping others.

There’s no need to experiment though because I’m revealing the mystery to you right now. Get on a stage somewhere and share a story that can inspire people. Take your boring Facebook page full of selfies of you on holidays or wearing a new outfit, and fill it with messages that can inspire your friends and followers.

Once you live a life where you will stop at nothing to inspire people and squeeze out the juice from everything you’ve ever done, you will start to live a life that is worth remembering. Even when you’re gone, the people life on this planet will remember your name for years to come, and you’ll become one of the greats. Now that’s something worth doing before you die, isn’t it?

What life-changing task are you going to do before you die? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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5 Comments

5 Comments

  1. pospi

    Nov 7, 2016 at 10:44 am

    these was great *Tim* nice article, am also a young entrepreneur trying to build a succesful community like addicted2success.com i think i will read this site consistently.

  2. Sakhile Mogale

    Oct 31, 2016 at 4:00 pm

    I enjoyed reading your article. Always inspiring! I will definitely work at doing all 6 points before I die. I resonate so well with point 1 about being more self-aware.

    • Tim Denning

      Nov 7, 2016 at 2:58 am

      Sakhile thanks for reading and I’m glad you enjoyed this post. Point one is my favorite as well.

  3. Visualize Thy Soul

    Oct 27, 2016 at 9:28 am

    Regarding point no. 1 See the real beauty of who you are, is really awesome feeling by knowing about yourself. It will help to know in-depth about your weakness and strength, which will assist you to anchor small goals.

    • Tim Denning

      Oct 28, 2016 at 5:26 am

      Thanks guys for highlighting your favorite point. This point is also my favorite and that’s why I put it first.

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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
2.    “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?” (more…)

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The Truth About the Law of Attraction

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When we want something, we generally imagine the form it will take when it manifests. If we’re not careful, however, we can find ourselves attached more to the imagined form than the actual desired outcome. This is like placing an online order and expecting it to come in a blue box shipped by UPS. If we then receive a red box delivered by FedEx, we might not realize that it’s what we ordered, and never even open it!

For example, most of us say that we want money, but when money comes in the form of a free coffee or a gift or a discount, we don’t see it for what it is. We overlook it, and maybe we even say “No, thanks” and decline the gift which is, in one way or another, still money. In doing so, we fail to appreciate the value of the discount, the gift, or the freebie. If it isn’t cash being handed to us, we don’t see it as a manifestation of our desire.

The law of attraction is a funny thing.

It is much more complex and much more intricate than what it seems to be and yet, at the same time, it’s so very simple: We always get what we want. We always receive more of the energy at which we vibrate. Always.

However, if we’re acting from the energy of “I don’t deserve it” or “I don’t think I’m worthy,” then whatever it is that we receive will be negated and essentially unseen. On the other hand, if we are open, observant, and maintaining an abundance mindset, we will receive our request on numerous levels and from plentiful sources!

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

This is because we “place our order” not only through our words, but through our actions, our beliefs, and our thoughts.

Last month, I was open to receiving a new client. I didn’t know how it would happen, but I’d set my intention: I was going to get a new client. That night, out of nowhere, I got a message from an old student of mine. She was looking to hire me again as her coach for the upcoming college entrance exams in the U.S. But wait! I didn’t want an entrance exam client.

What I actually wanted was to get life and business coaching clients. This student was my “red box from Fed Ex.” I wanted to decline at first, but as I was about to reply, something made me stop. I asked myself, “Why am I rejecting this?”

This student is an amazing client. She pays on time. She’s not needy. She does her part. Best of all? She doesn’t short-change me. So I said yes, because I realized that the Universe was simply responding to the essence of my desire.

You see, my “Big Why” in everything I do has always been to facilitate an accelerated personal and business growth for my clients, and this student fit the bill in every way. She wanted the personal growth, she was ready to go all in and she reached out to me.

It didn’t look like the package I was expecting so I didn’t recognize it at first—and I nearly turned it away—but she was the perfect answer to my request.

Serving people like her has always been a driving force in my life.

The Universe knows that. It also knew that I wanted a client asap so that I could re-invest the money into my business, so it responded in the most ideal way… but in an unexpected form. And I came so close to missing it!

How many times have I missed other opportunities like this? How many times have I dismissed a “red box” because it wasn’t “blue?” I’ll never know. But I do know that, had I not stopped myself from sending a “No, thanks,” I would have felt as though the Universe wasn’t listening.

That’s the thing: the Universe is always listening.

The more open we are in receiving, the more we thrive. The more open our energy is, the greater the possibilities. Don’t just return that red box to the post office and keep waiting on a blue one. Ask yourself, first and foremost, if what you’re receiving at the moment matches up with your underlying desire.

See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it.” – Rhonda Byrne

The key is to be willing to receive anything and everything. How? Keep on reading1

1. Get clear on your “underlying desire.”

Identify exactly what it is that you really want—in my case, it was an ideal client (underlying) as opposed to a coaching client (surface)—and focus on that. Clear out all the mental noise and static that clouds your awareness.

2. Be flexible

Keep your eyes and mind open for anything that fits the description. When you ask for money, recognize that free coffee for what it is: $3 you were going to spend anyway, that can now remain in your pocket. Every penny on the ground, every coupon, it’s all money.

3. Keep an attitude of gratitude.

The more you appreciate what you have, the more that comes your way. Your grateful mindset opens the energetic door for more to flow your way, because “where attention goes, energy flows.” The more you focus on the things you want, the more you will draw them into your experience.

Remember, that the Universe responds to our requests in whatever way fits best within the big picture.

It’s a picture so big that we couldn’t possibly begin to see how it comes together. Trust it. Know that when you ask, you will receive. It may not come in the form you anticipate, but always in a form that responds to your underlying desire. You just have to be ready to see it.

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7 Simple Ways to Master Your Emotions When Making Decisions

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A lot of people have big regrets when lying on their deathbed. These regrets are often related to bad decisions or decisions not taken. Thus, as it turns out, decision-making is dependent on great self-confidence. A person who has confidence in their decisions has an easier time making them.

Emotions also play a big role in all of this. This is a debate that has confronted two great thinkers. According to Descartes, “decisions are the product of the rational mind.” In other words, decision-making is essentially based on facts and mathematics.

But this thesis was refuted and proven to be wrong by Antonio Damasio in one of his works called “The Error of Descartes”. This was partly based on the story of Elliott, a kid that was very smart, who had above average rational capabilities, but incapable of making a decision, after a surgery to remove a brain tumor on the surface of his frontal lobes. After all his work in that matter, he concludes that a person who is incapable of emotion is incapable of making the most rational decisions.

The management of emotions is therefore completely inherent to good decision making, especially when making the most important decisions. To this end, here are 7 tips to put into practice to really master your emotions thus making the best decisions possible and never regreting them.

1. Take a step back

You must learn to take the time to identify and understand your emotions. Since physical reactions are emotionally related, also take the time to detect the reactions you have to some of your emotions. To be able to take the distance necessary to make decisions, it’s important to refer to your prefrontal cortex. This is the area of ​​the brain responsible for reasoning. To do so you need to put yourself in a stress-free environment for a few minutes.

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins

2. Breathe

The best way to do this is to learn to breathe deeply. This will allow activating your prefrontal cortex again, therefore, to have better control of your emotions so you do not react to them, let alone to the event that causes these emotions. Do this exercise for at least 15 minutes. It’s amazing how you can train yourself never to react, no matter what the situation. Ideally, let at least 24 hours go by before responding to a situation that would normally cause tension.

3. Pay attention

Once you are in the prefrontal cortex, put one hand on your abdomen, at the level of your intestines, and the other hand on your heart, and take the time to listen. These two parts of the body are the two major centers of vibrations and emotions. This is why it’s important to listen and pay attention to them.

The purpose of this exercise is to become aware of your gut and heart. What you need to remember is that the only person you need to trust is yourself. By practicing this exercise, one thing will become very clear: what the emotion you feel seeks to convey to you about the decision you have to make.

Since everything is energy, first make sure that the vibration of the decision you are about to make and that of your heart and gut are in sync. You will then know whether to go ahead with your decision or reject it based on whether you feel serenity or heaviness.

4. Discern untruths

It is important to know whether your nervousness is the result of an untruth you’ve told yourself. These can corrupt the vibrations that should help you make the right decision. You have to throw out all of these untruths and come to the decision-making without any filter. Stop thinking that you’re unlucky, that you’re in a bad situation, that your life is a failure, or that you are a victim.

5. Become aware of your emotions instead of avoiding them

To become aware of your emotions, you must learn to coach yourself. Ask yourself questions: How did you feel the last time you had to ask these types of questions? What did you get in return? Rename what you felt and the result you obtained from what you decided to do. You will thus be much better at assimilating, understanding, and welcoming your emotions.

6. Be as present as possible

There is no point in focusing on the big events surrounding the decision you want to make. Concentrate instead on the present moment, without analyzing the events. Judge based on emotions rather than the event. By being more present, you will be better able to listen to your emotions and feel them.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” – John C. Maxwell

7. Make your emotions your allies

Each of your emotions speaks to you through the physical and physiological reactions that they generate in you. Look to the weight of their impact on you as an indicator. Only by listening to them, using them, and managing them can you manage your emotions.

Habit comes with practice. With time, these 7 points will become much more natural and will become automatic. You will make better decisions for yourself.  This is one of the best ways to not end up with one of the big regrets.

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How to Keep Your Mind Away From Distractions in This Tech-Loaded World

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Social media notifications, push notifications, email notifications, and messages from chatting apps, keep peeping from the notification area of our smartphones and invite us into a world of a never-ending loop. Perhaps, even if it is ending, it is not until we have wasted 15-20 minutes of our productive time in just checking different apps and emails that we realize the need to get back to what’s important. No wonder many organizations insist employees on keeping their mobile phones in lockers prior to proceeding to their desk!

Technology is so enslaving that we don’t realize what an endless loop we are stuck in when we are constantly replying to our friends and relatives on social media or checking that limitless newsfeed on our timelines. If all the time of the day is put together, we can observe that we spend almost 4-5 hours on social media with the total output zero and sometimes negative.

Of course, keeping smart phone on airplane mode or switching it to Do Not Disturb mode, or somewhere away from us is the first line of defense against distractions, there are other steps preceding it to really spend your day productively.

Adopt a Proactive Approach

This implies that prior to beginning the day, you must take-charge of it. Instead of letting the day rule you, it should be vice-versa. You must adopt a zealous approach by planning your day and if possible, hours. You should have the determination to pay no heed to distractions in place of just letting them ruin your day by reacting to your impulses.

Instead of acceding to the fact that distractions are surely going to come your way and take up the major portion of your productive time, think about the ways in which you can tackle them.

You need to ponder on the need to focus and be determined to remain so during the day. You need to take the following steps for it:

  1. Plan how you are going to spend the hours of your day and deadline for completing tasks.
  2. Consider your to-do list as a choice rather than a chore to be completed.
  3. Remind yourself of the consequences of surrendering to distractions instead of completing your work. For instance, getting a reprimand from the manager for consistently low productivity and quality or having to rush to complete the work at the end of the day.
  4. Visualize the benefits of the time you gained by winking at notifications. Perhaps, you can spend more quality time with your kids or researching your new business idea.
  5. Note down hourly productivity – How many tasks did you accomplish in the last one hour?

“An addiction to distraction is the end of your creative production.” – Robin Sharma

Enhance Your Concentration Power

What keeps your mind stick to a task until it is sufficiently completed, is your ability to concentrate. If your concentration power is stronger, distractions will not bother you. You have to sharpen your power to focus by consistent practice. Meditation is a great way to improve your ability to work on a single task for a long time. If possible make meditation a part of your daily routine. It will keep your mind silent and give it the power to resist distractions.

If you cannot find time to meditate at the start of the day, it is advisable to do a one minute meditation every hour or every time you get that urge to check social media or chat with a friend. This will bring back your attention to what you have to do instead of what you want to do.

Here is the best way to improve concentration power: Take Regular, Refreshing Breaks.

One of the major keys to staying charged up for work is to take regular breaks. Continuously working for hours is only going to make you feel more tired. Instead, take planned breaks and do what you like the most during those breaks.

Of course, you should check your phone to be aware of any urgent messages or calls; remember to take refreshing breaks rather than just keep scrolling through that never-ending newsfeed. Rejuvenate your senses by reading some motivational stuff, watching an inspiring video, taking a walk in the lobby or having a non-work related chat with a colleague, to recharge your batteries and get back to work with even more focus and passion.

One technique utilized and propagated by productivity gurus is the Pomodoro Technique. It is the practice of working in chunks of 25 minutes and then taking a break of 5 minutes. After 4 such sessions, you can elongate the break time to 15-20 minutes.

Have an Organized Mindset

Adopt an organized mindset towards all aspects of your life. Keep clearing irrelevant mails, adding e-mail addresses to spam, organizing all your photos and videos on one drive, keeping all your documents accessible from one place, etc. Keeping your life clutter free and organized right from your shoe-rack to your locker, empowers your ability to spend your time in a disciplined way.

Even when it comes to online browsing, keep it limited to certain topics rather than just browsing and then jumping from that topic to all the related topics. Note down the ideas you would like to research on a specific day instead of randomly browsing through a plethora of topics.

Also, jot down the points which you found useful. Set aside an hour or 30 minutes of time for this. If you feel the need to read that lengthy but useful article, then save it under bookmarks, instead of swaying and spending more than the planned  time on it.

These seemingly little, yet practical things, help you adopt the same approach towards your day and work.

“By prevailing over all obstacles and distractions, one may unfailingly arrive at his chosen goal or destination.” – Christopher Columbus

It is a fact that technology has taken up major share of our life, however, it would be a misjudgment to regard it as bad. If maneuvered the right way, it can help us live a more disciplined life. It is a boon but if we let it rule us instead of us ruling on it then it may eat up most of our focus and productive time of our day.

What distractions do you feel take most of your time? What steps you have taken up to put the brakes on them, apart from just whining about them? Ponder over it, take a proactive approach, and share your action plan with us by commenting in the section below.

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