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6 Life Changing Things You Must Do Before You Die

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There are some magical things that you can experience in life that most never do. Our existence on planet Earth is not forever even though our minds don’t allow us to focus on this guaranteed reality. You can either be the shinning light or the lonely darkness in the way that you choose to live.

There are lots of things we are told to experience in life before we die and I thought today it was worth pointing out a few that are less commonly spoken of. I’ve experienced each point below, and it has changed the way I see reality.

These life-changing experiences will shape who you are for the better, and they’ll make you a kinder, less selfish, inspirational, humble, compassionate, unstoppable, and memorable person. Not a bad list of things to do before you die huh?

Before you die, here are the 6 life-changing things you must do:

1. See the real beauty of who you are

As humans, we are phenomenal beings, and we don’t even realise it. Before you die take some time to sit somewhere out in nature like a beach, and really feel in your body just how much capability we have. We can do absolutely anything we put our mind to, and we have so much power to love almost anything we want to.

You’ve been through so much, yet you’re still here, breathing, and giving it 110% each day because you’re driven by your passion. Once you realise your beauty and everything that it is possible for you to achieve, your life will never be the same again.

You will never waste another minute, and you’ll stop feeling sorry for yourself.

2. Hug a stranger

We have so much compassion that is wasted and never used. Before you die, I want you to hug a stranger at least once and see what it feels like to give even when you’re not being asked for anything. See how you can be the person you always wanted to be just by starting with a small and simple action like a hug.

There doesn’t need to be any special reason for this hug other than you feeling like you’re ready to hug someone you don’t know to try and get the lesson I’m telling you. Go ahead and try this one out, it will forever make you more compassionate.

3. Coach one person

As we get older, we gain so much experience that is valuable to the younger generations. Rather than keep all of these golden nuggets of knowledge for our self, I want you to coach at least one person, for free, before you die.

Take this person aside once a week and hear about everything that they are struggling with. Be there for them at their lowest of lows, and their highest of highs. Help them to understand who they truly are and for them to discover their purpose.

Once you’ve helped them find their purpose, I want you to assist them in casting the biggest vision they can possibly ever think of. Help them to dream big and give them the confidence that anything is possible when we work hard and focus.

Throughout this coaching exercise, you’ll probably grow more than your mentee. This is normal but remember; it’s not about you. We spend so much time trying to change our state through, alcohol, drugs, and sex, that we forget how simple tasks like coaching can be far more powerful.

4. Tell your previous lovers what they meant to you

In our lives, each of us has many lovers that come and go. When we speak of past lovers we all feel something even if we don’t admit it. Just thinking of someone we used to love is enough to make us feel entirely different. In life, nothing is forever and sometimes we are not meant to be with someone long term.

It’s so critical that before we die, we tell our previous lovers how grateful we were for the time we spent with them. These lovers helped us grow as a person, and they loved us, even if it wasn’t everlasting. Through the sadness, we’ve moved onto new horizons but always kept them in our hearts forever.

Nothing can change the past, and all you can do before you die is learn from these ex-lovers. The trouble is that often these former partners have no idea how much we still appreciate them. My challenge to you is to be bold and tell them how special they still are.

Tell them all the things that you appreciated about them, and let them know you’re always there if they ever need to talk. These conversations will make you feel a wave of emotion, and you’ll never be the same person again. It takes a fearless person to do this very difficult task, and that’s how heroes are born. Embrace your former lovers and never forget where you came from.

5. Forgive all the people that wronged you

Many people go to their graves full of hurt and regret. Don’t be one of these lifeless zombies and before you die, forgive the people that wronged you in the past. Forgiving people helps take a massive weight off your shoulders.

“When you’re grown up enough to realise that everyone makes mistakes and that we’re all fearful, you begin to realise that we’re so alike”

This particular point is the most difficult for me as I have practiced forgiveness a lot, but still, have not forgiven some key people.

It’s my goal in life to finally get over what these people did and forgive them for what they’ve done. When you focus deep down inside, you’ll realise that the people who wronged you did it out of a brief moment of selfishness, not out of hatred for you.

We can all be selfish at times and these moments shouldn’t define whether we choose to forgive someone. Forgiveness is a choice, and it’s the hardest thing you will ever do before you die. You can never really be free until you choose forgiveness over hatred.

Think carefully about all your so-called enemies, and try to see them as being just like you. Because guess what? They are identical to you and come from the same place you do. Don’t ever forget that!

6. Inspire the world

Inspiration is what is missing in our lives. No matter how uncomplicated or seemingly boring our stories are, we can all give inspiration to others. Before you die, I want you to try as many times as you can to inspire people to do something that will help them in life.

“If all you do is live out your existence focusing on your own selfish needs, you’ll have this gaping hole of regret begin to form”

You won’t know where this regret comes from until you experiment enough and understand it’s formed through a lack of helping others.

There’s no need to experiment though because I’m revealing the mystery to you right now. Get on a stage somewhere and share a story that can inspire people. Take your boring Facebook page full of selfies of you on holidays or wearing a new outfit, and fill it with messages that can inspire your friends and followers.

Once you live a life where you will stop at nothing to inspire people and squeeze out the juice from everything you’ve ever done, you will start to live a life that is worth remembering. Even when you’re gone, the people life on this planet will remember your name for years to come, and you’ll become one of the greats. Now that’s something worth doing before you die, isn’t it?

What life-changing task are you going to do before you die? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.
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However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

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5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
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What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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