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5 Ways To Transform Your Life In Less Than One Year

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5 Ways To Transform Your Life In Less Than One Year

Everybody wants to transform their lives and achieve all of their biggest dreams, but how many will actually stick to that idea and do everything possible to make it happen?

Below I have listed 5 Ways to do just that:

 

1. Quit your job

This may sound dramatic, but unless you are in a job you 100% want to be in for the next five years, you should quit immediately. There will always be 100 reasons to postpone. But no matter how long you wait, you’ll never feel ready. It will always be a leap of faith. There will always be unknowns.

Leaping before you look involves high risk. The bigger the risks you take, the more likely you’ll enter a state of flow—which is the optimal conscious state where you feel and perform at your highest level. When you take huge risks, you’re required to think in innovative ways because the consequences of failure are high.

Quitting your job will be the best thing you ever did. It will free up mass amounts of energy and time. You’ll be startled by the inflow of insight you’ll get almost immediately. By quitting your job, you’ll be making a personal proclamation that from now on, you’re going to live life on your own terms.

For example, Pat Flynn, a professional blogger on the topic of creating passive income was working a 9-5 job back in 2008. Then he got laid off. Although he loved his old job, he immediately started creating a business online. He was forced to think creatively as the bread-winner for his family. In a very short time, he was making more money in less time doing something he loved even more. Now, he makes millions of dollars online. This money is automated, meaning, he makes money whether he works or not.

What if he would have quit his job a few years earlier?

“We’ll never be ready if we keep waiting for the perfect time to come.” – Mat Kearney

2. Sell everything you don’t need

Most of the possessions you own, you don’t use. Most of the clothes in your closet you don’t wear. Get rid of them. They are sucking energy from your life. Also, they are dormant value waiting to be exchanged for dollars.

Getting rid of unutilized resources is like injecting motivation and clarity into your bloodstream. While all of that untapped energy gets removed, a new wave of positive energy comes into your life. You can use that energy in more useful and productive ways.

 

3. Uproot your current routine and get away

If you need a transformation in your life, it’s because you are not fully congruent. According to identity theory, before a person fully achieves their ideal identity, they need to spend a lot of time exploring. You need to see the world, meet new people, have new experiences, and experience new worldviews and ideologies.

Until you’ve challenged your current paradigm, you’ll never know if you really believe it. Without conviction and passion, you are without identity. Just a reflection of everything around you. There are several cheap ways to travel and experience the world. A primary difference between well-traveled people and non-traveled people is that well-traveled people are willing to go wherever is cheap at the present moment.

There are always incredible deals going on. You just need to be flexible. If you’re willing to go wherever is cheap, rather than an exact location, you’ll be able to see a lot. My wife and I were able to take a 20 day tour of China with airfare, hotels, food, and tours included for less than two grand each. China wasn’t exactly on our radar, but we saw an insane deal getting ready to close and jumped on it.

Another option is wwoof.net. Wwoof is an acronym standing for World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms. It’s a marvelous program that allows you to live and work on farms all over the world. Want to live in Hawaii for free? Work on a Pineapple farm 5 hours a day. Want to live in Greece, or Chili, or New Zealand for free? Work on a farm. Generally with wwoof, you get room and board. Also, depending on the farm, you can get weekends off to go explore.

My wife and I spent the entire summer after graduating college wwoofing in Ireland. We lived on a remote island called Cape Clear Island (officially known by its Irish name: Cléire) at a blind goat farmer’s house. We only worked like 3 hours a day. We milked and fed the goats. Then we led them to their grazing area. Our only other duty was to go get them at the end of the day and put them back in their pens.

So, we had all day to do whatever we wanted. We walked all over the island eating European gummies. Listened to 3 Ender’s Game audiobooks. Laid on the grass looking at the ocean and clouds. Read books, wrote blog posts. Whatever we wanted.

While on this trip, I had so many eye-opening experiences. I broke out of the shell I created during college. I was able to let go of all my prior pursuits and re-examine what I really wanted in life.

Go see the world, explore. It is necessary to eventually reinvent yourself and achieve your ideal identity.

Confucius

4. Write down your one year, five year, and 25 year plan

The 25 year plan is basically your bucket list for life, your vision. The five year plan is far enough out that you can literally do anything you want in that time. The one year plan is right in front of you.

This is how you create your ideal vision for your life. One of Stephen R. Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is “Begin with the end in mind.” It is based on the principle that all things are created twice—there’s a mental creation and a physical creation to all things.

If you’re building a house you plan every detail with architects drawings, builders and landscapers according to what you want to create. Only then does the physical work begin. This is how we must live our lives. You’d be utterly shocked at how much your life can change in one year of intentional creation. You are the architect of your life. You get to design it.

Fill your days only with those things that build toward your ideal vision. Get rid of everything that pulls you away from that.

 

5. Start a blog or write a book

No matter who you are, you have something remarkable to say. There is someone out there who will resonate with your worldview and experiences. Even if no one reads your blog, the process of writing your ideas and experiences will transform you.

You don’t have to write your story if you don’t want. You could dive into a topic you are interested in or passionate about. You could become an expert about what you love.

Brian Tracy, one of the world’s leading experts on success, explains that in today’s world of business, books are now what business cards used to be. Everyone writes books now. We all have our unique stories to tell. The internet allows us to tell those stories, publish and market them.

This is the future of business in general. You need a platform. The internet isn’t going away. It’s only becoming more relevant and fundamental.

“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, and magic and power in it. Begin it now.” – Goethe

Conclusion and a few extra ideas

You absolutely can change your entire life in one year. You could be living in a different part of the world. You could be doing a completely different line of work. You could completely reinvent yourself. You could be a millionaire or a monk. Whatever you want.

A few extra ideas:

  1. Start Writing A Journal Daily
  2. Read One Book Per Week – this will change you
  3. Join New Social Groups
  4. Launch A Small Company Using Crowdfunding
  5. Move To A New Culture And Simultaneously Learn A New Language
  6. Sign Up For An Exercise Event And Get Into Amazing Shape
  7. Do A 20, 30, Or 60 Day Juice Cleanse – if you’re overweight, you won’t be for long
  8. Meet With Missionaries Or Ministers Of Different Faiths To Learn New Worldviews
  9. Get Really Good At Social Media And Learn How To Make Money Using It
  10. Decide Two Or Three Habits Your Really Want And Master Them – don’t do too many
Thank you for reading my article! Everybody will see things in their own way but I hope that everyone understands the main point. Transform your lives!

Benjamin Hardy is the foster parent of 3 children. He’s pursuing his Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology. He’s the author of Slipstream Time Hacking. You can connect with him on Twitter @BenjaminPHardy or visit his website: http://www.benjaminhardy.com/

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However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
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5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
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What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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