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3 Simple Steps To Figuring Out Your Dream

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3 Simple Steps To Figuring Out Your Dream

Chasing your dreams.

The subject of thousands of books, movies and songs. Everybody has one.

They manifest when you’re a child, before the burden of responsibility and worldly problems are cast upon your shoulders. We dream of the stars, of the great big world, of making a difference.

You can tell when someone is talking about their dreams because there is always an unsatisfied fire in their eyes. It’s something you can’t hide.

It’s different now. There is a sickness in the world and it is called mediocrity. I know, because I was sick with it for a very long time.

When I was little, I wrote.

In school, I relished every opportunity to write that came across my desk, and I remember when I told my friends, my teachers, and my parents that I wanted to write, they’d all say the same thing: “Go for it!”

They told me to grow up. They told me writing would never feed my family or pay my bills. When we grew older, they asked us what we wanted to be, then told us what not to be.

We were told that we must become what we are not, sacrifice who we are to embrace the identity that society wants to give us.

“Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

As we grew up, our dreams were lassoed back to Earth and when we said we wanted to explore the stars as astronauts or wrestle alligators, they’d tell us: “Choose something realistic.

When did we give up on our dreams? Don’t fall into the hype.

There are a few simple and effective steps that you can follow that can help you from falling into the same rut that I and many others have fallen into:

 

1. Realize what it is that you were put here to do

What is your dream?

Remove money from the equation and ponder for a moment what it is that you would love to wake up to and go to every morning.

3 Steps To Figuring Out Your Dream

2. Figure out how you can turn that into a career

Whatever it is that you love to do, there is a very good chance that you can make money doing it.

You have to go after your dream like your life depends on it, because it does.

Condemning yourself to security and a nine to five is the easy route.

It’s the route that most people will take, either because they don’t realize how to pursue their dreams or they’re too afraid to go after it.

Do not become one of these people.

 

3. Take the first step

Don’t quit your job. Don’t move across the nation, but make moves that will take you closer to your dream.

Whether it’s reading a new book on how to start a new business, or take a class that will get you closer to the degree that you need.

You need to make every single day an effective day of action.

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” – George Eliot

Write these three steps down. Look at them every day. Remember them, memorize them, and live them. Don’t buy into the hype. Whatever your dream is, you can have it.

To end my article, I am going to tell a short story that gives an example of everything I have discussed.

I have this friend, and he has a position in retail management. He’s climbing, albeit slowly, the corporate ladder to an inevitable six figure income, a 401k, and a house bigger than he’ll ever need in his life. But this isn’t his dream. Not even close.

He’s a fitness freak. He lives in the gym, and he aspires to open his own gym one day and help others reach their own fitness goals. It’s one of those back of the napkin ideas but when he talks about it there is a fire in his eyes.

The part that saddens me is that he will work his way up the corporate chain, most likely get married, have children, and drag that idea to his grave.

How many other unrealized ideas, half-finished inventions, and great works are in the cemetery, given up on before they were fully pursued?

You have one chance. You have one shot here in this world, and I’m here to tell you, no matter what dream you have, you can do it. When you dream big, most people will react negatively because chances are they aren’t chasing their own dreams.

Remember this, if nothing else, if you try and fail, you will live your life knowing that you gave it everything and more. If you never try, it will be a mistake that will hang in the air for the rest of your life

I’m chasing my dreams. Now it’s your turn.

Theo Taylor is a soon to be graduate student of the University of Central Oklahoma with degrees in biochemistry and french language. Once a shoe in for pharmacy school to be a doctor, he realized his place in the world was telling stories and inspiring others with words. His first book, a collection of science fiction short stories MOST WANTED, will be released July, 2015.

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  1. Rose Costas

    May 20, 2015 at 3:32 pm

    Thanks Theo for such an insightful post. It is very sad that as children we believe we could do everything but as adults our dreams fade many times with the years. I have decided to live my dreams in spite of not making as much money and if I fail at least I did try.

  2. Lawrence Berry

    May 13, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    Good post. I am now reading Mastery by Robert Greene and some of the things he was saying is that we all have a certain genetic make-up that makes us attracted to some things more than others. Albert Einstein was attracted to how imaginary forces worked, which attracted him to physics and Freddie Roach was attracted to strategy. We must find what makes us thrive and in the process we will figure out our passions and dreams.

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1. Find someone who was in a similar place and made it to the other side

Whether you’ve been unmotivated to workout, eat healthy, make sales calls or simply do anything, you can find someone who has been there and made it to the other side. Look up some great TED talks, go on YouTube and look up people that motivate you, google them to find their websites. There are short speeches and much longer talks all over the internet, you just need to find someone who you relate to that speaks to you.

2. Do something that you love

When we’re unmotivated, it’s easy to get out of the habit of doing what we love. Sometimes just getting out of bed or away from the tv feels like a chore. Think back to a time in your life when you felt great – what were you doing? What do you absolutely love to do that if you had the time, you would do all day and not realize any time had passed at all? 

Figure out a way to do whatever that is, or a modified version of it if it is something that you aren’t able to do at the present time. Spending time doing what you love will get your mind off of anything that is wrong and allow you to find inspiration.

“If something is important enough, even if the odds are stacked against you, you should still do it.” – Elon Musk

3. Don’t overcomplicate it

Keep it simple. When we’re stuck in a rut, we’ll give ourselves every excuse to not do something. Say you’ve gained some weight; you might tell yourself you need to find the perfect trainer and wait until you have time to cook your meals from scratch each night before you do anything else. Stop trying to overcomplicate it and keep it simple by finding one thing you can do right now, however small that may be. You don’t have to wait until the timing is perfect and the stars align for you to start moving in the direction you want to go.  

4. Get up and get moving

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5. Reset your focus

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