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5 Ways To Find Your Purpose So You Won’t Miss Your Moment

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5 Ways To Find Your Purpose So You Won't Miss Your Moment

There’s a moment somewhere between planning a dream and putting it into action. Most of us can dream, we can even visualize our success. We attend seminars to build our plan and to be inspired. We pay for strategizing, mentors, cheerleaders, and how-to programs until we’ve spent enough to buy a luxury car.

I’m not saying these coaches and mastermind sessions are wrong; they serve a valuable purpose if you know what you’re looking for. What I am suggesting is that there is a moment, half as long as an inhaled breath that lingers between having a plan and acting on it.

Have you ever planned to get up early in the morning to work out? You set the alarm for 5 a.m. You even determine to have it across the room so you can’t hit the snooze. The alarm goes off. You get up to turn it off. There’s the moment! You face ‘the moment’ choice; work out or go back to bed.

If you go back to bed, some may say you’re lazy, lack discipline, or aren’t serious. I’ve seen the most disciplined person metaphorically go back to bed. What’s in that moment that will make some get up and work the plan?

Focus is part of discipline, motivation can be fickle, and perseverance and determination must have a birthplace. Standing on a cliff, one hundred feet above water there must be a strong enough reason to actually jump. If a loved one, or a child, were drowning, and you had the ability to save them, jumping would be second in thought for almost all of us.

What changed? The Why. The purpose. The moment between planning and doing is the reason behind the plan. What motivates a person to plan and then act? 

 

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For some of us, being held hostage by fear is enough to agree to try and fail rather than wonder later in life what might’ve happened if you’d tried. Maybe you’ll need to start with facing down your fears.

For others, avoiding regrets will be your bridge to cross over. Regrets don’t buy memories, get on with being regret free.  When you’re sitting in that rocker during your golden years, you’ll want a story rather than a ‘what if’?

Spanning that gap between planning and acting may be as simple as defining your purpose. Once you know why you want to do what you want to do, it’s the rope that you can build the bridge to cross over on.

Here are 5 steps you might need to take:

 

1. What do you want?

Dreams are the spice of life that keep us engaged in living. Based on your hopes, passions, skills and current situation, determine your end goal. Once you know where you want to be—what success will look like—then you can begin to work backward to where you are. Setting steps in incremental pieces will set your plan in motion. Ask yourself the hard questions:

  •       Can you do this for long hours every day?
  •       Is there a market to make a living at what you want?
  •       Does this fulfill a purpose in you?
  •       Does this align with who you are and who you want to be?
  •       What’s the first step I need to take?

 

2. What will it take to get it?

Listing the positives and negatives will build a clear plan inspiring confidence to move forward. Ask yourself where will this plan put me? Where will I be if I don’t follow through? Are you a person who prefers being an employee or an entrepreneur? Don’t be fooled, you’ll work much harder at being an entrepreneur than you will at being an employee, but the entrepreneur is limited only by themselves. Perhaps by asking this question, you’ll discover you prefer to let someone else carve the way, and you’re happy charting the path.

 

3. Research the possibilities and your expectations

Know the answers before the questions are asked. It’s your dream, and you should know what it takes to get there so well that you’ll recognize when opportunities arrive. Successful people like to pass on their secrets. Look for people who can help you along the way. Align yourself with their methods, later you can find your own process and techniques.

 

4. Be prepared for opportunities to come your way

Business owners tend to want to see others succeed, use them for knowledge, accountability, quality evaluations and as a resource. They often can see quickly and clearly what you cannot. Every new business owner makes rookie mistakes, use them to invite change. Eliminating a shotgun approach will help you filter opportunities and move you forward quicker. Network with other entrepreneurs to see what they are doing. Write down all the great ideas you hear, and adapt them for your business. Be open to asking other entrepreneurs and customers what they think you’re doing right, wrong and areas you could improve in. You’ll be surprised at the great ideas you can gather. When customers are invested in you, you’ll be amazed how many more opportunities will come your way.

“One day your life will flash before your eyes, make sure it’s worth watching.” – Gerard Way

5. How will you know when you’re ready to jump?

Once you’ve laid out a clear plan, and you have a pretty good idea what the outcome will be, you’ll build the confidence you need to jump. Starting your own business is hard work. At times, the hours are long and tedious. The guarantee of a paycheck isn’t there until you establish yourself and for a while you may wear many hats. Having a plan, like a map, will help to hang on when it gets tough and you’ll be less likely to give up.  Ask yourself again, “Why did you first begin this adventure?” No matter the reason that got you here, the comfortable cliff standers, or the leap before we look swimmers…there comes a time when the reasons for jumping become stronger than staying. There will always be adjustments, but your plan will give you the confidence you’ll need to jump.

 

If you are prepared with your purpose, understanding where you are going, then when opportunity knocks, ANSWER THE DOOR!

What did it take to move you from where you were to where you wanted to be? Why did you jump?

Pam is a freelance writer passionate about family and equipping others to personal success. Her online magazine, The Modern Woman (www.TMWLife.com ) is written for women, but works hard to equip parents and entrepreneurs to be their own boss of: schedules, influence and income levels. You can find her at www.pamalajvincent.com , Facebook and Twitter.

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  1. Turenne

    May 16, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    That moment between planning and acting! Really! It seemed like there’s an important relevant key there and I like how the story leads at the beginning with great images and a fine sense of humor. Although, I did not find in the 5 ways the answer that will not let me miss my moment between planning and acting. I wonder if there is such A Moment. In our journey to live our dreams, there’s alternate planning and acting always…

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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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3 Inspiring Lessons We Can Learn From Jim Carrey About the Law of Attraction

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You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

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Meditation for Beginners: How It Works and Where to Start

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Meditation was first developed in India many years ago (around 5000-3500 BCE). It took quite some time to become popular in the western world, but today, it is celebrated as a therapeutic tool to ease stress, anxiety, depression, and addictions. In the past years, it has also become recognized as helping to improve mental performance, and consequently became a multi-billion dollar business. If you’ve never tried it, you may be wondering how something so simple as sitting with your eyes closed could deliver such incredible benefits.

How meditation works

Meditation is about training in awareness and getting a healthy sense of perspective over one’s thoughts. Many think that meditating is about trying to achieve a zen state of mind, but that’s not the point. Observing one’s thoughts, and then letting go of them so that eventually you may start to better understand them, is the real goal of each meditation practice.

There are different techniques to go through this mental process. Some focus on the breath and bodily sensation, others make you visualize an object, and others help you to channel your thoughts towards acts of love and kindness.

A typical meditation session involves you sitting on a chair or cross-legged on the floor with your eyes closed. Once you assume a comfortable position and focus on your breath, you should start noticing your thoughts. At this point, according to what type of technique you’re using, you will try to let those thoughts go away by focusing on something else (this could be your breath or a mental image you created).

With time and practice, you may be able to reach a state of mind where very few thoughts (or none) are present. Despite the simplicity of this process, meditating for more than ten minutes is extremely tough for most. Many people that try meditation get discouraged by the fact that “they can’t stop thinking.” In fact, it has been proven that people spend most of their days being anything but mindful and peaceful.

In a 2010 study, Harvard researchers asked more than 2000 adults about their thoughts and actions at random moments throughout their day via an iPhone app. People’s minds wandered 47% of the time, and mind wandering often triggered unhappiness, the scientists reported.

They also observed that spending time observing our thoughts without getting stuck on them, may help to better understand oneself, and possibly being able to reduce the number of negative thoughts one experiences.

“The mind is definitely something that can be transformed, and meditation is a means to transform it.” – Dalai Lama

What science says about meditation

People have practiced meditation for thousands of years, but scientists have studied its effects for only a dozen. In the past few years, many studies have been published about the neurological benefits of meditation, proving it to improve brain function in many different ways.

Meditation’s benefits range from preserving the aging brain, to improving happiness by reducing the activity of the brain’s “me center” (monkey mind). A more recent study has even proven that meditation is as powerful as antidepressants in treating depression, anxiety, and pain. Many more studies are being conducted every day on meditation, and we can expect to gain a lot more insight in the near future.

Can anyone meditate?

Millions of people are practicing mindfulness meditation every day with great results, but there are also as many people that have tried meditating and didn’t like it or didn’t manage to be consistent with their practice. The most important part of developing a meditation practice is consistency. You don’t have to meditate every single day, but the benefits are tied to regular, consistent practice.

Some studies claim that some benefits of meditation such as improved mood, decreased stress and decreased blood pressure, can be felt after a single session. Some other benefits like increased focus and decreased anxiety may be experienced after a few weeks and others take longer to develop.

Some people claim that as little as five minutes of meditation per day can make miracles, but research shows that a regular practice associated with benefits involves 10-20 minutes of meditation at least three times per week.

“Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.” – Mother Teresa

What’s the best way to begin a meditation practice?

A good place to start for aspiring mediators is Headspace. Andy Puddicombe, a former English student in sport science, dropped his studies to travel to Asia and trained as a Buddhist monk. He created Headspace with the goal of helping millions of people to live a more mindful life. Over 30 million people have downloaded and use headspace. This is due to his simplicity and its beautiful design and animations.

Do you meditate? If so, what’s your favorite aspect of it? Share your thoughts below!

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