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5 Ways To Find Your Purpose So You Won’t Miss Your Moment

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5 Ways To Find Your Purpose So You Won't Miss Your Moment

There’s a moment somewhere between planning a dream and putting it into action. Most of us can dream, we can even visualize our success. We attend seminars to build our plan and to be inspired. We pay for strategizing, mentors, cheerleaders, and how-to programs until we’ve spent enough to buy a luxury car.

I’m not saying these coaches and mastermind sessions are wrong; they serve a valuable purpose if you know what you’re looking for. What I am suggesting is that there is a moment, half as long as an inhaled breath that lingers between having a plan and acting on it.

Have you ever planned to get up early in the morning to work out? You set the alarm for 5 a.m. You even determine to have it across the room so you can’t hit the snooze. The alarm goes off. You get up to turn it off. There’s the moment! You face ‘the moment’ choice; work out or go back to bed.

If you go back to bed, some may say you’re lazy, lack discipline, or aren’t serious. I’ve seen the most disciplined person metaphorically go back to bed. What’s in that moment that will make some get up and work the plan?

Focus is part of discipline, motivation can be fickle, and perseverance and determination must have a birthplace. Standing on a cliff, one hundred feet above water there must be a strong enough reason to actually jump. If a loved one, or a child, were drowning, and you had the ability to save them, jumping would be second in thought for almost all of us.

What changed? The Why. The purpose. The moment between planning and doing is the reason behind the plan. What motivates a person to plan and then act? 

 

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For some of us, being held hostage by fear is enough to agree to try and fail rather than wonder later in life what might’ve happened if you’d tried. Maybe you’ll need to start with facing down your fears.

For others, avoiding regrets will be your bridge to cross over. Regrets don’t buy memories, get on with being regret free.  When you’re sitting in that rocker during your golden years, you’ll want a story rather than a ‘what if’?

Spanning that gap between planning and acting may be as simple as defining your purpose. Once you know why you want to do what you want to do, it’s the rope that you can build the bridge to cross over on.

Here are 5 steps you might need to take:

 

1. What do you want?

Dreams are the spice of life that keep us engaged in living. Based on your hopes, passions, skills and current situation, determine your end goal. Once you know where you want to be—what success will look like—then you can begin to work backward to where you are. Setting steps in incremental pieces will set your plan in motion. Ask yourself the hard questions:

  •       Can you do this for long hours every day?
  •       Is there a market to make a living at what you want?
  •       Does this fulfill a purpose in you?
  •       Does this align with who you are and who you want to be?
  •       What’s the first step I need to take?

 

2. What will it take to get it?

Listing the positives and negatives will build a clear plan inspiring confidence to move forward. Ask yourself where will this plan put me? Where will I be if I don’t follow through? Are you a person who prefers being an employee or an entrepreneur? Don’t be fooled, you’ll work much harder at being an entrepreneur than you will at being an employee, but the entrepreneur is limited only by themselves. Perhaps by asking this question, you’ll discover you prefer to let someone else carve the way, and you’re happy charting the path.

 

3. Research the possibilities and your expectations

Know the answers before the questions are asked. It’s your dream, and you should know what it takes to get there so well that you’ll recognize when opportunities arrive. Successful people like to pass on their secrets. Look for people who can help you along the way. Align yourself with their methods, later you can find your own process and techniques.

 

4. Be prepared for opportunities to come your way

Business owners tend to want to see others succeed, use them for knowledge, accountability, quality evaluations and as a resource. They often can see quickly and clearly what you cannot. Every new business owner makes rookie mistakes, use them to invite change. Eliminating a shotgun approach will help you filter opportunities and move you forward quicker. Network with other entrepreneurs to see what they are doing. Write down all the great ideas you hear, and adapt them for your business. Be open to asking other entrepreneurs and customers what they think you’re doing right, wrong and areas you could improve in. You’ll be surprised at the great ideas you can gather. When customers are invested in you, you’ll be amazed how many more opportunities will come your way.

“One day your life will flash before your eyes, make sure it’s worth watching.” – Gerard Way

5. How will you know when you’re ready to jump?

Once you’ve laid out a clear plan, and you have a pretty good idea what the outcome will be, you’ll build the confidence you need to jump. Starting your own business is hard work. At times, the hours are long and tedious. The guarantee of a paycheck isn’t there until you establish yourself and for a while you may wear many hats. Having a plan, like a map, will help to hang on when it gets tough and you’ll be less likely to give up.  Ask yourself again, “Why did you first begin this adventure?” No matter the reason that got you here, the comfortable cliff standers, or the leap before we look swimmers…there comes a time when the reasons for jumping become stronger than staying. There will always be adjustments, but your plan will give you the confidence you’ll need to jump.

 

If you are prepared with your purpose, understanding where you are going, then when opportunity knocks, ANSWER THE DOOR!

What did it take to move you from where you were to where you wanted to be? Why did you jump?

Pam is a freelance writer passionate about family and equipping others to personal success. Her online magazine, The Modern Woman (www.TMWLife.com ) is written for women, but works hard to equip parents and entrepreneurs to be their own boss of: schedules, influence and income levels. You can find her at www.pamalajvincent.com , Facebook and Twitter.

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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