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3 Ways The Story Of Your Life Can Help You Succeed

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What Is The Story Of Your Life?

A man walked into a movie theater on the night of March 24, 1975 to see a show. He had $40.55 left to his name. He was so poor that he had to sell his dog for $50 just to survive. A few years prior to this he was homeless and had to sleep in the New York Port Authority bus station for 3 weeks.

After he left the movie theater on that March night in 1975 he went home. When he got home he pulled out a spiral notebook, picked up his pen, and for the next 3 days and 20 hours straight began writing. He didn’t stop until he was finished. Little did he know at the time that what he had just written was the cornerstone behind what would eventually bring in over $1 billion in total revenue.

Who was this man? Sylvester Stallone. What did he write? The movie Rocky. On that March night Stallone went to a movie theater to watch the Muhammad Ali vs. Chuck Wepner boxing match (In those days you could watch the fight on closed circuit in movie theaters). This is what gave Stallone the inspiration to write Rocky.

 

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But what Stallone also did, he wrapped the Rocky character and the plot around his own life. Stallone himself at the time was a struggling actor who was broke. He was basically down and out. No one gave him a chance.

This is what the Rocky character centered around, a down and out boxer who was to get his chance at winning the heavyweight title. So why am I telling you this? Because if right now your life isn’t going the way you want, the very thing you need to turn things around just may be staring you in the face.

Here are 3 tips to writing the story of your own life:

 

1. Standing up to life

After Stallone wrote the Rocky script, his next challenge was to get a producer to do the film. He had no problem getting interest from the many producers he approached. They liked the story. What they didn’t like is that Stallone wanted to play the lead role. Every producer wanted a well known actor to play Rocky. Stallone insisted that he play Rocky.

Despite being offered at one point over $400,000 to sell the story and have someone else play Rocky, two producers agreed to film the movie and let Stallone play Rocky. What’s the big takeaway for you here?

When you have something that you believe in that’s true and authentic to you, you’ll do whatever it takes, travel any distance, and pay whatever price (even if that means turning down a high price like Stallone did) to accomplish it.

You’ll also stand up to anyone or anything along the way. Your ability to stand up to the most challenging situations in life will be the driving force behind your success. Had Stallone sold that script for $400,000, not only would he have missed out on the $225 million the first Rocky movie made, but the subsequent combined $1 billion in revenue all of the sequels generated.

My question to you here is, what is that “something” you have which can be turned into a product, service, or idea that can provide tremendous value to others? This is your ticket out of any life challenging situation you have, especially when you can use your unique and amazing story in the process.

“You define your own life. Don’t let other people write your script” – Oprah Winfrey

2. Your two sided story script

Whether you’re aware of it right now or not, you have a unique life story that has a tremendous amount of value. You may be thinking at first that you don’t have a unique story, that your life may have been nothing but “bad luck” and one negative person and situation after another. Or that your story isn’t that important or that it’s boring.

Every situation in your life has two sides. For every challenge you have there is an equal amount of support. For every “failure” you perceive, there’s a hidden success. For every “mean” person you come across, there’s an equal number of “nice” people. For every “sad” moment in your life, there’s an equal number of “happy” moments.

These work the opposite way as well. For every support there’s an equal number of challenges. The same with success and failure, nice and mean people, happy and sad moments, and so on. You and your life story have both sides (and they occur simultaneously) and this is vitally important to understand.

This will help you “connect the dots” in your own life while allowing you to come up with your own unique life story. When you take the time to realize that every situation in your life has both sides. And that in every “down” moment there was an “up” moment, and that in every “up” moment there was actually a “down” moment, you’ll discover new revelations about your life story that you were never aware of before.

 

3. Down and out to in and up

Prior to writing Rocky, Sylvester Stallone was down and out. In the movie, Rocky was down and out. What happened as a result of this? They both went in and up. Always remember, “The more down and out you’ve been the more in and up you’re destined to go.” And this certainly applies to you and your life story.

If right now you see your situation as being down and out, If you feel that you have nowhere to turn, no one to turn to, and not knowing what to do next, then this is your opportunity to go inward so you can skyrocket upwards. And it starts by creating the story of your life.

To do so in a way that you take different moments of your life, see both sides of those moments, and how you can use them in doing what it is that you love most. This is how you go “in” and get those inspiring insights. Quite often the events and moments that you perceive in your life as something you wished didn’t happen, in many cases, are the things you actually need to turn your life completely around in a positive way.

“Those who tell stories rule the world” – Plato

Whether it’s something that’s happening to you today or something that occurred a year, two years, or ten years ago, the fact is that it may be the very thing that will help you go from where you are now to where you want to be.

And it’s all a part of your amazing life’s story. It’s also part of your journey that reveals to you the magnificence and brilliance of who you are. Your life story is special and serves humanity otherwise you wouldn’t exist.

Thank you for reading my article! What does your life story look like?

Chaney Weiner is a sought after authority on human potential and personal development. He is the founder of the Chaney Institute of Human Potential, an organization dedicated to empowering people worldwide in all seven areas of life (Financial, physical, family, mental, spiritual, vocational, and social) by helping them discover their hidden brilliance and uniqueness based on what is most important to them.An acknowledged transformational leader and a leading expert on success and raising human potential, Chaney has inspired people around the world, sharing his breakthrough methods for personal and professional success in the seven different areas of life.His work has been featured on Montel Across America with Montel Williams, Hollywood Confidential with Leeza Gibbons and many more.Visit his website at www.BecauseThisIsYourLife.com

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
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5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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