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5 Things To Remember When Your Life Seems To Be Falling Apart

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Life is a long journey, loaded with ecstatic happiness as well as painful moments.

At one phase, you find your life to be falling apart and you realize that there’s nothing left to hold onto.

But wait, this is not the end. Not yet. You have to get up and put those pieces back in place.

Yes, it’s possible!

All it requires is that you remember the five things that will help you bounce back.

 

1. Cry Your Heart Out – Release Your Emotions

Some people choose to put on a brave face and decide to face the storms in life without a tear, while others may resort to shedding tears to relieve the pain within.

Being strong is an admirable trait.

Sometimes, it becomes essential to cry your heart out to give freedom to the bottled up emotions and to release the negativity from your thoughts.

Contrary to popular belief, crying is not a sign of weakness, instead it is a mark of staying strong for too long.

Even though we have come a long way as a society, men are compelled to abide by the social construct of staying strong during troubled times – the off beam stereotype being that crying is a sign of femininity.

Society at large needs to understand that it’s absolutely okay to cry, no matter what gender you belong to, as crying will help to heal your wounds and dull your pain.

Ultimately it will give you the power to attain closure, get over your grief faster, and move forward.

So don’t suppress your feelings.

Remember to cry your heart out when life seems to be falling apart.

5 Things To Remember When Your Life Seems To Be Falling Apart
 

2. All Experiences Are Part Of Your Journey

Life is a journey of ups and downs. It never stays the same.

It doesn’t matter if we accept or reject the changes taking place, as it won’t stop at any cost.

The series of experiences that make up the journey called life are a part of who we really are.

They make us and break us, and we have to live with them. If we look at life from a broader perspective, we will understand that our experiences nurture our soul and slowly transform us into who we are today.

Embracing your experiences as a part of your journey will help you gain insight by looking at life in a different light.

Every experience is valuable and helps you grow in life’s various spheres.

Moments of sorrow, stress, failure, and apprehension may make you believe that your life is falling apart, but you are the one who will ultimately have to hold all the pieces of life together.

Learn from your experiences, and develop a new self-identity to reconcile yourself with the realities of life.

 

3. Look For The Silver Linings

Sometimes, realities that may appear harsh to us carry sweeter endings with them.

You may remember the saying ‘every cloud has a silver lining’.

Similarly, your life experiences also have a silver lining. You might never know, they may have a diamond lining as well.

You just need to pause, step back, take a deep breath, look at the bigger picture, and be patient.

Life never stays the same. After every sunset, there’s a sunrise.

You just have to be awake to witness the glory that the sunrise brings with it. Don’t fret over the mishaps in your life; just wait for things to get better.

It may seem that your life is falling apart and you may feel helpless, but the sour turn of events may be heralding a better life and leading you towards your dreams.

Life is difficult for all of us at different points in time.

The difference is how we deal with it.

You must give up the victim mentality and realize that so many good things happened to you too in the past, and more will make their way towards you in the future.

“Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.” – Rae Smith 

4. Keep Moving

Low tides come in our lives and leave us stunned, broken, and hopeless. But that doesn’t mean that we must stop living our life and become inert.

Even if you stop, life won’t stop for you, it will go on.

You must remember that after every low tide, there’s a high tide as well, you just have to keep moving.

Take one step at a time, follow your routine, set goals for yourself, and steer clear from negativity.

Go out and have some fun, take a break, go for a vacation, and just do something exciting.

Read inspirational articles, spend time with your family, indulge in activities that make you feel happy, just remember to keep moving.

Don’t wrap yourself in your sorrows or you will drown in them. Keep moving with the tide.

Bear in mind, if you keep moving, this phase will pass away, and one day you will realize your life is not falling apart anymore.

Instead, everything that happened, happened for a reason.

 

5. Be Grateful

While things may look bleak right now, not everything might be going wrong.

There will be things that are going right.

When life takes a turn for the worse, we become negative about everything and end up forgetting what we have been blessed with.

This ungratefulness will not take you anywhere. You have to take charge of your life and learn to show gratitude.

Think about it, you’ve been blessed with so much in life. Be grateful for what you have been blessed with, and don’t take those blessings lightly.

Recollect memories of all the happy and blessed moments in your life. Write them down in your diary and feel the joy that those blessings brought you in your life, when you first got them.

This approach will help you focus on the brighter ends in life and give a boost to your self-confidence.

Your blessings will give you the power that is hidden within you, to deal with the hassles in your life.

Gratitude will heal your soul and relieve the pain of life’s wounds.

“Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life.” – Joel Osteen

If you are in pain, if your dreams have been shattered and your heart has been broken, try these five things and observe the change that they will bring in your life. With the help of these tips, the first thing that will change is your outlook on life, and with that, your whole life will take a turn for the better.

Daniel is the founder of Entrepreneur Abroad, father of two amazing children, coach and passionate about motivating and inspiring others to start something that matters . Check out his services at entrepreneurabroad.com or follow him @thinkbiggerr

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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