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5 Positive Things That People Forget When They Are Feeling Down And Out

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Stay Positive More Confidence When Youre Down and Out

Losing confidence at some point in life is natural and human. May be you have done something that makes you feel bad about yourself, or you have lost a close partner or friend. There are many things that could be giving you a bad feeling. This is common to all human beings. Nevertheless, what matters most is how you handle those situations and moments when feeling down and out.

Although you may be feeling down at one point in life, it is important to note that this is never meant to last.

When going through tough times, it’s a great idea to consider the following points.

 

 

The 5 Important Positives

 

1. Remember your past successes

When going through the hard knock moments, it is important to remember positive aspects of your life. Consider achievements that you have accomplished in your life. Sometimes when going through a moment of feeling down and out you may forget what you have accomplished in the past.

To regain your confidence, consider things you have done successfully in the past. Instances when you have been commended for good performance or moments when you have felt good about yourself. Consider these achievements as an indication that you can overcome what you are going through.

 

2. Your strengths

Having accomplished some goals in the past is an indication that you have what it takes to be successful. Remember your strengths and what made you successful in these instances.

Consider instances when you have accomplished what others have been unable to achieve. Maybe you have managed to achieve good grades in your college studies while others have not. Everyone has some sort of standout strength, so if you are in doubt, ask someone close to you what they believe to be your strongest points.

 

3. Consider the people you have in your life

When feeling down and out, it is important to consider the amazing people you have in life. These could be your family members, children or friends. Spend more time with these people especially if they know how to encourage you during hard times. By having fun with loved ones, you will realize that your bad feeling will disappear. Remind yourself that there are people out there who are not fortunate enough to have a good support group of friends and family in their life and that this is something you should definitely appreciate more. Some have lost family members through accidents and others are orphans. Consider yourself lucky for having such people in your life and be happy for them.

Also, look around you and be real with yourself, if you have crappy negative friends then they are only going to drag you down.

 

4. Consider things you have overcome in the past

This is not the first time you are experiencing challenges in life. There are times when you have come across even more complicated things in life and overcome. This should give you confidence that you will also overcome even the one you are facing currently. It is always important to have positive thoughts about yourself during these times.View yourself as a winner and bear in mind that your current situation is just a drop in the ocean.

Regain your confidence by convincing yourself that most of the worries you are having do not exist in real sense. You are just creating and making them look bigger in your mind, they are not there in the real world and can only be overcome by having positive thoughts about you and your life.

 

5. Consider your environment

There are people who are living in an environment worse than the one you have. Look around and see the beauty of your home. What you own, the animals and beautiful landscape. Consider what you have and ought to be happy and thankful for. Once you notice this, do not waste any more time being down and out. Be happy, lively and enjoy what life has offered you.

Not everybody has a chance to live in the kind of environment where you are. This should give you a reason to be happy and confident about yourself. Remember that in a good environment where there is peace, you can achieve greater things. Always remember that some people live in worse environments than you. Therefore, make the most from your environment and be happy about yourself.

Feeling down and out is one of the major challenges that can make you lose confidence and even question your abilities. Nevertheless, when you consider positive things you have done in your life you will easily overcome these situations. Also be around people who encourage you when feeling down and out. The most important thing is to avoid negative thoughts about your life. Instead, focus on things that boost your confidence.

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 100 million lives in the last 6 and a half years.

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9 Comments

9 Comments

  1. Jimbo Belisario

    Mar 7, 2014 at 12:18 pm

    Thank you. I read this just right in time when i’m so down that I don’t even know how to stand anymore… Godbless you buddy..

  2. Kyle B

    Mar 2, 2014 at 3:47 am

    Great tips and thanks for sharing!

    What separates people who enjoy success from the majority who end up never getting what they want is how we respond to failure. It is how we respond to failure while overcoming obstacles that plays a huge role in achieving success or continuing down those same paths of failure.

  3. Darren Leong

    Nov 18, 2013 at 9:15 am

    Lately I lost a few deals and felt very down. I had been in bad mood and get angry easily. Today I just go online and want to find something to motivate myself and I found this link. Thanks. It is always easy to say than do. However we understand the meaning and will work towards that direction.

  4. anisam

    Nov 18, 2013 at 5:51 am

    What happens when you do not have any positive people in your life. My friends were really negative and so is my family. They dont support my studying for a degree or the fact that I have achieved alot in life. Being positive by yourself sucks especially when you dont have anyone that can really lift your spirits.

    • JFelix

      Nov 19, 2013 at 4:25 pm

      Find people that are on the same “wavelength” as you. A mentor, people in your field of study with the same motivation, or new friends with a positive outlook on life. Don’t let others hold you back on what you want to achieve out of life.

    • shona

      Nov 22, 2013 at 6:08 pm

      Jst try to find happiness within u… Believe in god… Because whenever we dont hv any positive person around us then god is one of the sources to get positivity frm… Try something innovative… Start enjoying ur life… N always think that you r d bst…. Bt dont make others feel bad n inferior…. Start doing things which you like the most…. Jst live ur life… Forget about ur bad past bt always praise urslf for ur past successes… B happy stay happy… N remember that u r unique n only one of ur kind… I have much more to write… Bt i wish this will help u… Stay blessed….

    • noor

      Dec 28, 2013 at 12:41 pm

      It is common in human nature.to lose ur confidence & to start looking at negativity..u shud belive in ur self.back ur self in tough time.dont think too much.every day is a new day..become passion from ur heart.express ur self.make the best from your life.dont let fear enter in ur mind.

  5. deborahola

    Nov 14, 2013 at 7:10 pm

    We’ve all had times in our lives when things weren’t going our way and we felt like giving up. Its important we stay positive and never give up, remember these points listed above by joel because life is filled with many opportunities.

    Thanks for sharing.

  6. Binyam

    Nov 14, 2013 at 4:59 am

    thanks man. i believe I am a strong man and i was on my down days. so when i was looking something to read i came across this website……once again thank you for putting it together.

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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
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The Truth About the Law of Attraction

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When we want something, we generally imagine the form it will take when it manifests. If we’re not careful, however, we can find ourselves attached more to the imagined form than the actual desired outcome. This is like placing an online order and expecting it to come in a blue box shipped by UPS. If we then receive a red box delivered by FedEx, we might not realize that it’s what we ordered, and never even open it!

For example, most of us say that we want money, but when money comes in the form of a free coffee or a gift or a discount, we don’t see it for what it is. We overlook it, and maybe we even say “No, thanks” and decline the gift which is, in one way or another, still money. In doing so, we fail to appreciate the value of the discount, the gift, or the freebie. If it isn’t cash being handed to us, we don’t see it as a manifestation of our desire.

The law of attraction is a funny thing.

It is much more complex and much more intricate than what it seems to be and yet, at the same time, it’s so very simple: We always get what we want. We always receive more of the energy at which we vibrate. Always.

However, if we’re acting from the energy of “I don’t deserve it” or “I don’t think I’m worthy,” then whatever it is that we receive will be negated and essentially unseen. On the other hand, if we are open, observant, and maintaining an abundance mindset, we will receive our request on numerous levels and from plentiful sources!

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

This is because we “place our order” not only through our words, but through our actions, our beliefs, and our thoughts.

Last month, I was open to receiving a new client. I didn’t know how it would happen, but I’d set my intention: I was going to get a new client. That night, out of nowhere, I got a message from an old student of mine. She was looking to hire me again as her coach for the upcoming college entrance exams in the U.S. But wait! I didn’t want an entrance exam client.

What I actually wanted was to get life and business coaching clients. This student was my “red box from Fed Ex.” I wanted to decline at first, but as I was about to reply, something made me stop. I asked myself, “Why am I rejecting this?”

This student is an amazing client. She pays on time. She’s not needy. She does her part. Best of all? She doesn’t short-change me. So I said yes, because I realized that the Universe was simply responding to the essence of my desire.

You see, my “Big Why” in everything I do has always been to facilitate an accelerated personal and business growth for my clients, and this student fit the bill in every way. She wanted the personal growth, she was ready to go all in and she reached out to me.

It didn’t look like the package I was expecting so I didn’t recognize it at first—and I nearly turned it away—but she was the perfect answer to my request.

Serving people like her has always been a driving force in my life.

The Universe knows that. It also knew that I wanted a client asap so that I could re-invest the money into my business, so it responded in the most ideal way… but in an unexpected form. And I came so close to missing it!

How many times have I missed other opportunities like this? How many times have I dismissed a “red box” because it wasn’t “blue?” I’ll never know. But I do know that, had I not stopped myself from sending a “No, thanks,” I would have felt as though the Universe wasn’t listening.

That’s the thing: the Universe is always listening.

The more open we are in receiving, the more we thrive. The more open our energy is, the greater the possibilities. Don’t just return that red box to the post office and keep waiting on a blue one. Ask yourself, first and foremost, if what you’re receiving at the moment matches up with your underlying desire.

See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it.” – Rhonda Byrne

The key is to be willing to receive anything and everything. How? Keep on reading1

1. Get clear on your “underlying desire.”

Identify exactly what it is that you really want—in my case, it was an ideal client (underlying) as opposed to a coaching client (surface)—and focus on that. Clear out all the mental noise and static that clouds your awareness.

2. Be flexible

Keep your eyes and mind open for anything that fits the description. When you ask for money, recognize that free coffee for what it is: $3 you were going to spend anyway, that can now remain in your pocket. Every penny on the ground, every coupon, it’s all money.

3. Keep an attitude of gratitude.

The more you appreciate what you have, the more that comes your way. Your grateful mindset opens the energetic door for more to flow your way, because “where attention goes, energy flows.” The more you focus on the things you want, the more you will draw them into your experience.

Remember, that the Universe responds to our requests in whatever way fits best within the big picture.

It’s a picture so big that we couldn’t possibly begin to see how it comes together. Trust it. Know that when you ask, you will receive. It may not come in the form you anticipate, but always in a form that responds to your underlying desire. You just have to be ready to see it.

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7 Simple Ways to Master Your Emotions When Making Decisions

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A lot of people have big regrets when lying on their deathbed. These regrets are often related to bad decisions or decisions not taken. Thus, as it turns out, decision-making is dependent on great self-confidence. A person who has confidence in their decisions has an easier time making them.

Emotions also play a big role in all of this. This is a debate that has confronted two great thinkers. According to Descartes, “decisions are the product of the rational mind.” In other words, decision-making is essentially based on facts and mathematics.

But this thesis was refuted and proven to be wrong by Antonio Damasio in one of his works called “The Error of Descartes”. This was partly based on the story of Elliott, a kid that was very smart, who had above average rational capabilities, but incapable of making a decision, after a surgery to remove a brain tumor on the surface of his frontal lobes. After all his work in that matter, he concludes that a person who is incapable of emotion is incapable of making the most rational decisions.

The management of emotions is therefore completely inherent to good decision making, especially when making the most important decisions. To this end, here are 7 tips to put into practice to really master your emotions thus making the best decisions possible and never regreting them.

1. Take a step back

You must learn to take the time to identify and understand your emotions. Since physical reactions are emotionally related, also take the time to detect the reactions you have to some of your emotions. To be able to take the distance necessary to make decisions, it’s important to refer to your prefrontal cortex. This is the area of ​​the brain responsible for reasoning. To do so you need to put yourself in a stress-free environment for a few minutes.

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins

2. Breathe

The best way to do this is to learn to breathe deeply. This will allow activating your prefrontal cortex again, therefore, to have better control of your emotions so you do not react to them, let alone to the event that causes these emotions. Do this exercise for at least 15 minutes. It’s amazing how you can train yourself never to react, no matter what the situation. Ideally, let at least 24 hours go by before responding to a situation that would normally cause tension.

3. Pay attention

Once you are in the prefrontal cortex, put one hand on your abdomen, at the level of your intestines, and the other hand on your heart, and take the time to listen. These two parts of the body are the two major centers of vibrations and emotions. This is why it’s important to listen and pay attention to them.

The purpose of this exercise is to become aware of your gut and heart. What you need to remember is that the only person you need to trust is yourself. By practicing this exercise, one thing will become very clear: what the emotion you feel seeks to convey to you about the decision you have to make.

Since everything is energy, first make sure that the vibration of the decision you are about to make and that of your heart and gut are in sync. You will then know whether to go ahead with your decision or reject it based on whether you feel serenity or heaviness.

4. Discern untruths

It is important to know whether your nervousness is the result of an untruth you’ve told yourself. These can corrupt the vibrations that should help you make the right decision. You have to throw out all of these untruths and come to the decision-making without any filter. Stop thinking that you’re unlucky, that you’re in a bad situation, that your life is a failure, or that you are a victim.

5. Become aware of your emotions instead of avoiding them

To become aware of your emotions, you must learn to coach yourself. Ask yourself questions: How did you feel the last time you had to ask these types of questions? What did you get in return? Rename what you felt and the result you obtained from what you decided to do. You will thus be much better at assimilating, understanding, and welcoming your emotions.

6. Be as present as possible

There is no point in focusing on the big events surrounding the decision you want to make. Concentrate instead on the present moment, without analyzing the events. Judge based on emotions rather than the event. By being more present, you will be better able to listen to your emotions and feel them.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” – John C. Maxwell

7. Make your emotions your allies

Each of your emotions speaks to you through the physical and physiological reactions that they generate in you. Look to the weight of their impact on you as an indicator. Only by listening to them, using them, and managing them can you manage your emotions.

Habit comes with practice. With time, these 7 points will become much more natural and will become automatic. You will make better decisions for yourself.  This is one of the best ways to not end up with one of the big regrets.

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How to Keep Your Mind Away From Distractions in This Tech-Loaded World

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Social media notifications, push notifications, email notifications, and messages from chatting apps, keep peeping from the notification area of our smartphones and invite us into a world of a never-ending loop. Perhaps, even if it is ending, it is not until we have wasted 15-20 minutes of our productive time in just checking different apps and emails that we realize the need to get back to what’s important. No wonder many organizations insist employees on keeping their mobile phones in lockers prior to proceeding to their desk!

Technology is so enslaving that we don’t realize what an endless loop we are stuck in when we are constantly replying to our friends and relatives on social media or checking that limitless newsfeed on our timelines. If all the time of the day is put together, we can observe that we spend almost 4-5 hours on social media with the total output zero and sometimes negative.

Of course, keeping smart phone on airplane mode or switching it to Do Not Disturb mode, or somewhere away from us is the first line of defense against distractions, there are other steps preceding it to really spend your day productively.

Adopt a Proactive Approach

This implies that prior to beginning the day, you must take-charge of it. Instead of letting the day rule you, it should be vice-versa. You must adopt a zealous approach by planning your day and if possible, hours. You should have the determination to pay no heed to distractions in place of just letting them ruin your day by reacting to your impulses.

Instead of acceding to the fact that distractions are surely going to come your way and take up the major portion of your productive time, think about the ways in which you can tackle them.

You need to ponder on the need to focus and be determined to remain so during the day. You need to take the following steps for it:

  1. Plan how you are going to spend the hours of your day and deadline for completing tasks.
  2. Consider your to-do list as a choice rather than a chore to be completed.
  3. Remind yourself of the consequences of surrendering to distractions instead of completing your work. For instance, getting a reprimand from the manager for consistently low productivity and quality or having to rush to complete the work at the end of the day.
  4. Visualize the benefits of the time you gained by winking at notifications. Perhaps, you can spend more quality time with your kids or researching your new business idea.
  5. Note down hourly productivity – How many tasks did you accomplish in the last one hour?

“An addiction to distraction is the end of your creative production.” – Robin Sharma

Enhance Your Concentration Power

What keeps your mind stick to a task until it is sufficiently completed, is your ability to concentrate. If your concentration power is stronger, distractions will not bother you. You have to sharpen your power to focus by consistent practice. Meditation is a great way to improve your ability to work on a single task for a long time. If possible make meditation a part of your daily routine. It will keep your mind silent and give it the power to resist distractions.

If you cannot find time to meditate at the start of the day, it is advisable to do a one minute meditation every hour or every time you get that urge to check social media or chat with a friend. This will bring back your attention to what you have to do instead of what you want to do.

Here is the best way to improve concentration power: Take Regular, Refreshing Breaks.

One of the major keys to staying charged up for work is to take regular breaks. Continuously working for hours is only going to make you feel more tired. Instead, take planned breaks and do what you like the most during those breaks.

Of course, you should check your phone to be aware of any urgent messages or calls; remember to take refreshing breaks rather than just keep scrolling through that never-ending newsfeed. Rejuvenate your senses by reading some motivational stuff, watching an inspiring video, taking a walk in the lobby or having a non-work related chat with a colleague, to recharge your batteries and get back to work with even more focus and passion.

One technique utilized and propagated by productivity gurus is the Pomodoro Technique. It is the practice of working in chunks of 25 minutes and then taking a break of 5 minutes. After 4 such sessions, you can elongate the break time to 15-20 minutes.

Have an Organized Mindset

Adopt an organized mindset towards all aspects of your life. Keep clearing irrelevant mails, adding e-mail addresses to spam, organizing all your photos and videos on one drive, keeping all your documents accessible from one place, etc. Keeping your life clutter free and organized right from your shoe-rack to your locker, empowers your ability to spend your time in a disciplined way.

Even when it comes to online browsing, keep it limited to certain topics rather than just browsing and then jumping from that topic to all the related topics. Note down the ideas you would like to research on a specific day instead of randomly browsing through a plethora of topics.

Also, jot down the points which you found useful. Set aside an hour or 30 minutes of time for this. If you feel the need to read that lengthy but useful article, then save it under bookmarks, instead of swaying and spending more than the planned  time on it.

These seemingly little, yet practical things, help you adopt the same approach towards your day and work.

“By prevailing over all obstacles and distractions, one may unfailingly arrive at his chosen goal or destination.” – Christopher Columbus

It is a fact that technology has taken up major share of our life, however, it would be a misjudgment to regard it as bad. If maneuvered the right way, it can help us live a more disciplined life. It is a boon but if we let it rule us instead of us ruling on it then it may eat up most of our focus and productive time of our day.

What distractions do you feel take most of your time? What steps you have taken up to put the brakes on them, apart from just whining about them? Ponder over it, take a proactive approach, and share your action plan with us by commenting in the section below.

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