Losing confidence at some point in life is natural and human. May be you have done something that makes you feel bad about yourself, or you have lost a close partner or friend. There are many things that could be giving you a bad feeling. This is common to all human beings. Nevertheless, what matters most is how you handle those situations and moments when feeling down and out.
Although you may be feeling down at one point in life, it is important to note that this is never meant to last.
When going through tough times, it’s a great idea to consider the following points.
The 5 Important Positives
1. Remember your past successes
When going through the hard knock moments, it is important to remember positive aspects of your life. Consider achievements that you have accomplished in your life. Sometimes when going through a moment of feeling down and out you may forget what you have accomplished in the past.
To regain your confidence, consider things you have done successfully in the past. Instances when you have been commended for good performance or moments when you have felt good about yourself. Consider these achievements as an indication that you can overcome what you are going through.
2. Your strengths
Having accomplished some goals in the past is an indication that you have what it takes to be successful. Remember your strengths and what made you successful in these instances.
Consider instances when you have accomplished what others have been unable to achieve. Maybe you have managed to achieve good grades in your college studies while others have not. Everyone has some sort of standout strength, so if you are in doubt, ask someone close to you what they believe to be your strongest points.
3. Consider the people you have in your life
When feeling down and out, it is important to consider the amazing people you have in life. These could be your family members, children or friends. Spend more time with these people especially if they know how to encourage you during hard times. By having fun with loved ones, you will realize that your bad feeling will disappear. Remind yourself that there are people out there who are not fortunate enough to have a good support group of friends and family in their life and that this is something you should definitely appreciate more. Some have lost family members through accidents and others are orphans. Consider yourself lucky for having such people in your life and be happy for them.
Also, look around you and be real with yourself, if you have crappy negative friends then they are only going to drag you down.
4. Consider things you have overcome in the past
This is not the first time you are experiencing challenges in life. There are times when you have come across even more complicated things in life and overcome. This should give you confidence that you will also overcome even the one you are facing currently. It is always important to have positive thoughts about yourself during these times.View yourself as a winner and bear in mind that your current situation is just a drop in the ocean.
Regain your confidence by convincing yourself that most of the worries you are having do not exist in real sense. You are just creating and making them look bigger in your mind, they are not there in the real world and can only be overcome by having positive thoughts about you and your life.
5. Consider your environment
There are people who are living in an environment worse than the one you have. Look around and see the beauty of your home. What you own, the animals and beautiful landscape. Consider what you have and ought to be happy and thankful for. Once you notice this, do not waste any more time being down and out. Be happy, lively and enjoy what life has offered you.
Not everybody has a chance to live in the kind of environment where you are. This should give you a reason to be happy and confident about yourself. Remember that in a good environment where there is peace, you can achieve greater things. Always remember that some people live in worse environments than you. Therefore, make the most from your environment and be happy about yourself.
Feeling down and out is one of the major challenges that can make you lose confidence and even question your abilities. Nevertheless, when you consider positive things you have done in your life you will easily overcome these situations. Also be around people who encourage you when feeling down and out. The most important thing is to avoid negative thoughts about your life. Instead, focus on things that boost your confidence.
Thank you. I read this just right in time when i’m so down that I don’t even know how to stand anymore… Godbless you buddy..
Great tips and thanks for sharing!
What separates people who enjoy success from the majority who end up never getting what they want is how we respond to failure. It is how we respond to failure while overcoming obstacles that plays a huge role in achieving success or continuing down those same paths of failure.
Lately I lost a few deals and felt very down. I had been in bad mood and get angry easily. Today I just go online and want to find something to motivate myself and I found this link. Thanks. It is always easy to say than do. However we understand the meaning and will work towards that direction.
What happens when you do not have any positive people in your life. My friends were really negative and so is my family. They dont support my studying for a degree or the fact that I have achieved alot in life. Being positive by yourself sucks especially when you dont have anyone that can really lift your spirits.
Find people that are on the same “wavelength” as you. A mentor, people in your field of study with the same motivation, or new friends with a positive outlook on life. Don’t let others hold you back on what you want to achieve out of life.
Jst try to find happiness within u… Believe in god… Because whenever we dont hv any positive person around us then god is one of the sources to get positivity frm… Try something innovative… Start enjoying ur life… N always think that you r d bst…. Bt dont make others feel bad n inferior…. Start doing things which you like the most…. Jst live ur life… Forget about ur bad past bt always praise urslf for ur past successes… B happy stay happy… N remember that u r unique n only one of ur kind… I have much more to write… Bt i wish this will help u… Stay blessed….
It is common in human nature.to lose ur confidence & to start looking at negativity..u shud belive in ur self.back ur self in tough time.dont think too much.every day is a new day..become passion from ur heart.express ur self.make the best from your life.dont let fear enter in ur mind.
We’ve all had times in our lives when things weren’t going our way and we felt like giving up. Its important we stay positive and never give up, remember these points listed above by joel because life is filled with many opportunities.
Thanks for sharing.
thanks man. i believe I am a strong man and i was on my down days. so when i was looking something to read i came across this website……once again thank you for putting it together.