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4 Warning Signs That Your Life Needs an Overhaul

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The environment that we put ourselves has a strong influence on the life that we live. Everything from the people we meet, to the books we read, and the programs we watch. It all influences the direction of our life.

But all too often, we don’t take the time to assess the environment we’re living in and make sure that it aligns with our bigger goals in life. Here are a few warning signs that you may need to :shake up your life”, and I’m sharing them with you today because I genuinely hope that if any of these apply to your life, you’ll take the time to fix them.

If you don’t, you’ll be putting a cap on your otherwise limitless potential.

 

 

4 Warning Signs That You Need To Change

 

Warning Sign 1 – There Aren’t Enough People Ahead of You

“If you’re always at the head of your class, then you’re in the wrong class.” You need people around who have been around the proverbial block. It helps to have people who are a little more experienced that you can learn from. You can’t lead yourself; sometimes you need to be a follower so you can learn something worthwhile.

And if you’re always the brightest star in your tight knit circle, you’re personal growth is going start slowing down. But when you can consistently tap into brilliant minds, you can grow two, three, or even five times faster than you ever could on your own.

A quick way to make this change is find a community where people who are better than you congregate. It could be an online forum or maybe a mastermind group. But find that group of people who are doing better than you and connect with them.

 

Warning Sign 2 – You Are Never Pushed Out of Your Comfort Zone

We all know it. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. It couldn’t be truer. Almost every time I’ve made something significant happen in my life, I did so by stepping out of my comfort zone.

If you walk through life every day and you never feel challenged, that’s a problem. If you never feel a little uncomfortable, that’s problem. Growth only happens you stretch beyond what you usually do. You don’t grow by doing the same thing, the same way, every time.

 

Warning Sign 3 – You Don’t Wake Up Excited

I was an engineering major for three years. I had a summer internship with the number three company on the Fortune 500 list and they paid me more money than I’d ever been paid before. I made more money during that 10-week summer internship than I made the other 42 weeks of the year combined working my part time job. But guess what? I didn’t wake up excited. I actually hated going to sleep sometimes because I didn’t want to wake up the next day and have to go back to work.

Red flag right? It was such a red flag that not only did I turn down a full time job offer from company, I also changed my major from engineering entirely! If I was dreading working for this internship, there’s no way I would make it as an actual full time employee.

If you don’t wake up excited for life, you need to make a change right now. Not to sound cliché, but you literally only get one life. There’s no reset button. So every time you wake up, it should be a joyous moment where you realize you can get back to doing work that matters.

Don’t be one of those people who hate Mondays and love Fridays. There’s nothing inherently wrong with Monday, you just need to change what Monday means to you.

 

Warning Sign 4 – The People Around You Aren’t Focused on Growing

This one is a slight variation on the first warning sign.

Everyone around you doesn’t have to be bona fide superstar, but it becomes a problem when every one around you isn’t focused on intentional growth. If the people in your environment are content with where they are in life and have no desire to get better, it’s time to jump ship.

 

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Tony Robinson runs DoReallyGood.com, which is a site that shows you how to utilize willpower, habits, systems and automation so you can create lasting change that leads to the achievement of your most important goals. You can pick up a free copy of his ebook "Goal Domination: The 5 Step Game Plan to Setting and Achieving Your Goals" by clicking here.

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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