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4 Warning Signs That Your Life Needs an Overhaul

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The environment that we put ourselves has a strong influence on the life that we live. Everything from the people we meet, to the books we read, and the programs we watch. It all influences the direction of our life.

But all too often, we don’t take the time to assess the environment we’re living in and make sure that it aligns with our bigger goals in life. Here are a few warning signs that you may need to :shake up your life”, and I’m sharing them with you today because I genuinely hope that if any of these apply to your life, you’ll take the time to fix them.

If you don’t, you’ll be putting a cap on your otherwise limitless potential.

 

 

4 Warning Signs That You Need To Change

 

Warning Sign 1 – There Aren’t Enough People Ahead of You

“If you’re always at the head of your class, then you’re in the wrong class.” You need people around who have been around the proverbial block. It helps to have people who are a little more experienced that you can learn from. You can’t lead yourself; sometimes you need to be a follower so you can learn something worthwhile.

And if you’re always the brightest star in your tight knit circle, you’re personal growth is going start slowing down. But when you can consistently tap into brilliant minds, you can grow two, three, or even five times faster than you ever could on your own.

A quick way to make this change is find a community where people who are better than you congregate. It could be an online forum or maybe a mastermind group. But find that group of people who are doing better than you and connect with them.

 

Warning Sign 2 – You Are Never Pushed Out of Your Comfort Zone

We all know it. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. It couldn’t be truer. Almost every time I’ve made something significant happen in my life, I did so by stepping out of my comfort zone.

If you walk through life every day and you never feel challenged, that’s a problem. If you never feel a little uncomfortable, that’s problem. Growth only happens you stretch beyond what you usually do. You don’t grow by doing the same thing, the same way, every time.

 

Warning Sign 3 – You Don’t Wake Up Excited

I was an engineering major for three years. I had a summer internship with the number three company on the Fortune 500 list and they paid me more money than I’d ever been paid before. I made more money during that 10-week summer internship than I made the other 42 weeks of the year combined working my part time job. But guess what? I didn’t wake up excited. I actually hated going to sleep sometimes because I didn’t want to wake up the next day and have to go back to work.

Red flag right? It was such a red flag that not only did I turn down a full time job offer from company, I also changed my major from engineering entirely! If I was dreading working for this internship, there’s no way I would make it as an actual full time employee.

If you don’t wake up excited for life, you need to make a change right now. Not to sound cliché, but you literally only get one life. There’s no reset button. So every time you wake up, it should be a joyous moment where you realize you can get back to doing work that matters.

Don’t be one of those people who hate Mondays and love Fridays. There’s nothing inherently wrong with Monday, you just need to change what Monday means to you.

 

Warning Sign 4 – The People Around You Aren’t Focused on Growing

This one is a slight variation on the first warning sign.

Everyone around you doesn’t have to be bona fide superstar, but it becomes a problem when every one around you isn’t focused on intentional growth. If the people in your environment are content with where they are in life and have no desire to get better, it’s time to jump ship.

 

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Tony Robinson runs DoReallyGood.com, which is a site that shows you how to utilize willpower, habits, systems and automation so you can create lasting change that leads to the achievement of your most important goals. You can pick up a free copy of his ebook "Goal Domination: The 5 Step Game Plan to Setting and Achieving Your Goals" by clicking here.

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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