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5 No Fail Ways To Take Your Life To The Next Level

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5 No Fail Ways

Another day has gone by, you’re cozied up on the couch sipping tea and wondering when things are going to get better. Nothing changed, again.

You dreamed of getting awesome things done today, maybe even slightly contemplated actually doing something about it, but you didn’t.

Go to sleep, wake up, dream, do nothing, repeat.

Tomorrow is another day.

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it “- Robert Anthony

Is it fear that is keeping us from achieving greatness and taking our life up a notch or is it something worse than that, like taking that first step?

How do we do it? When can we do it?  It’s so much easier just to laze on the couch and dream about it than actually do anything about it but how long can you keep that up for?

When are you finally going to make the first move?

For the last two years I have dreamed of visiting Costa Rica with the possibility of volunteering there during the winter months.

I thought about it an awful lot in the dead of winter when the temperatures dipped down to -50 C. This past winter definitely took its toll on me and I knew in my heart it was time to do more than dream and take it to the next level.

Make this dream come to life. It didn’t matter that I knew nothing about planning this, I was determined to do it.

My first step? Write it out on a huge piece of construction paper and tape it to my wall so I can see it every day. “Spend my winters in Costa Rica volunteering”. That was easy. It’s now time to make it happen.

We all have dreams, some bigger than others. I get that my dream is pretty big. It is for a 50 something hairstylist turned writer that lives way up in Northern Ontario Canada. Big? Yes. Impossible? No.

I came to realize that the only thing standing in the way of me and my dream becoming a reality was me. It was time to take action and I did.

Are you ready to take your dream or your life to the next level too? If you are, then these 5 steps will definitely help you get there. They worked for me.

 

1. Take action and spread the word

Sounds simple enough and it really is.

Take the first step.

My first step was writing it out on a piece of paper for me to see every single day. Not only did I write it down but I talked about it a lot to friends and family.

The more I talked about it the more I was determined to do it. The more you talk about it, the more people will believe you and encourage you, hence the more you know it’s definitely going to happen.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

2. Believe

You absolutely have to believe that it can be done, whatever it is that you want to achieve.

You have to feel it deep in your soul that you will, without a doubt, get this done.

When you talk about it, you must believe that it is going to be a reality, come hell or high water.

 

3. Ask questions/ask for help

I don’t get why we do this, but if we don’t know the answer to something, or how to do something, we just put it on the back burner or brush it under the rug and let it be.

We secretly do want to know everything about it but are afraid that we would look dumb if we ask. You’re not dumb! Ask away! Find the answers.

Find out everything you need to know that will catapult your life to the next awesome level.

 

4. Do research

The internet is a beautiful place, isn’t it? Type anything in the search bar and “poof” an answer appears.

Absolutely positively anything you want, or need to know about, is right there at your fingertips. Need I say more?

You have no idea how many hours I spent scouring the net looking for volunteer mission sites that were reputable and weren’t going to cost me an arm, a leg and my first born.

Once I made the decision to kick this dream into high gear, literally nothing stopped me. Not even the funds.

Did you know there is a fundraising site called GoFundMe that can help you raise money for anything you want? Seek and you shall find.

I also found a great book from the great folks at Lonely Planet about Central America. I read it often. Why wouldn’t I?

I need to find out what’s going on down in the country I’ll be spending lots of time in, right?

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5. Have faith

Similar to believing but requires a little more from you. You must let it go to the Universe and know that it is going to happen.

We can believe that something is going to happen but to actually have faith that it will happen takes a lot more work from you.

You have to stay open to signs that you are on the right path and that this dream will become a reality.

Seek out helpful people. Pray, journal, and meditate on itAsk, believe, and receive.

Always know that what you want, wants you too. Costa Rica, here I come.

 

Are you ready? What is your dream?

Iva is a retired hairstylist turned freelancer from Ontario Canada living a life of freedom and joy in Guatemala. Her two main goals in life are to inspire people around the world with her blogs and to feed hungry little bellies in the poor town she now calls home. Head on over to her website for more inspirational articles and sign up for weekly motivation!  Don’t forget to check out her powerful mini self help eBook store You Are Amazing. Her new signature course “The 21 Day Life Changing Challenge” is now available. Use coupon code ADDICTED2SUCCESS for 50% off.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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