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4 Ways to Elevate Your Thoughts and Break Mindset Barriers

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6 years ago

Sep 24, 2016

Have you ever considered the enormous power thoughts have on your life? Why do we so often forget that building a healthy mindset is stronger than any other attribute of human power? Our mind doesn’t know limits if we don’t create them, and you know what the best part is? We can think the way we choose to.

I bet you’ve heard at least one story about some young man who came from the low-income family with basic education, no money whatsoever, no resources and no influences. How did he make it to the top and become one of the best influencers with a fat bank account and happy family? It was the proper mindset which created this life for him.

Here are 4 ways to enhance your thoughts and break these illusionary barriers in our mind:

1. Choose your thoughts

This is the most fundamental step, yet so many of us don’t do it. It is easy to slip and think in a negative way. Many people choose negative thoughts over positive since it is easier to complain then do something about it. Since you are reading this, I am convinced you aren’t this person.

The best tool to use for controlling your thoughts is conscious awareness. What thoughts dominate your mind? Do you often catch yourself thinking in negative terms? If yes, change it instantly. Simply choose thoughts that you know excite you, make you feel good, something that puts a smile on your face. By everyday practice, it will eventually become a habit.

“In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” – Dalai Lama

2. Take responsibility for your feelings

Feelings are even more important than thoughts since we think based on how we feel. People adopted this misconception that the way they feel depends on people or circumstances. Well, this is just a big lie which isn’t true. You and I are the only ones here in charge of the feelings we have. No one has the power to make you feel a certain way as long as you don’t allow them to.

By taking responsibility for your mood and happiness, you’ll free yourself from the nonsense of having a bad day for no reason. Let people be the way they want to be and mind your business. Focus on the positive things in your life and smile for no reason.

3. Support your mind with motivational and inspirational material

Books and audios are a great way to help motivate yourself or change your perspective and open your mind. Reading and learning about yourself or the area of your expertise gives you valuable knowledge for improvement.

I want to recommend you an app called Scribd. It is an excellent app with thousands of different books and audiobooks which you can read or listen to right from your phone or tablet. There is a little subscription monthly fee, and you are ready to go. I found it very convenient since there are all many incredible books and audios for personal development from the best influencers. You’ll definitely want to check it out.

“Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.” – Joseph Addison

4. Get real with yourself

Do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling powerless? Don’t you get angry even thinking about it? I do, and that’s why we have to refuse to live this way. Get real with who you are and what you demand from yourself. Those dreams and thoughts you have had about a fantastic future will become a reality if you understand that the mindset is everything.

Your past doesn’t define you. You determine who you are based on thoughts circulating in your mind. Whatever you create, will become a reality. Choose the empowering thoughts. Use visualizing your dreams as fuel to keep moving forward and break any limits. I know that this isn’t an overnight job, and it may be challenging but to have success and true happiness in life, you have to break barriers, not build them up.

What is your secret in building healthy mindset full of empowering thoughts? Share it with us and leave a comment below.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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1 week ago

Jan 25, 2023

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

1. Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.

Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.

Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.

Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.

These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.

This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.

It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.

These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.

If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.